A question about the Taurus ladies.

Hello, Leo male here, about a decade ago I dated a Taurus girl. I was pretty smitten with her. She was very intelligent and often elegant. A bit of a feisty attitude and my leo heart melted. I loved most things about her, but she had a tendency to get riled up over a whole lot of nothing or get jealous of things that never actually happened. She was a bit of a drama queen. And when upset could be downright cruel with her words. It lasted about a year and all was well until I had to move to the city about 45 mins away. We pretty much just saw each other on week ends at that point. Well she started getting more and more reserved, and my friends back at the old place started to whisper to me that they'd caught her around with another man. I tried to ignore this at first but this kept coming up and finally I confronted her about it. And of course she reacted with clamming up. Add in a dash of trying to spice things up in the bed room(my idea) and having it fail absolutely horribly... and she broke up with me and a week later she dated the guy she supposedly cheated on me with. I got no proof but tons of suspicion. That was a decade ago. Ever since it's been pretty much war.

At first I was a total egotistical jerk, my leo pride was devastated(was my first love), I sulked, moaned, I got angry(bad idea), to put it simply, the lion roared. A lot. It bit me in the tail.
And she grew to absolutely hate my guts, and she'd be quite vocal about it. Still won't admit to cheating. But after 10 years, I admit I don't really care anymore. But I do miss the friendship.

But unto you ladies, my question is thus; Knowing Taureans tend to be bull headed and stubborn and have no qualms just disappearing and ignoring the fact that you even exist when they feel you've wronged them... why would she suddenly exhibit the following behavior?

We each have our own online blogs that are for the most part kept personal and private. To this day she still periodically shows up on my guest counter. She never talks to me. But on the occasion that I walk by her on the street she stares. And this makes me very uncomfortable. Her arms are always crossed. I'm told by mutual friends my name still comes up. After a decade. One friend has told me that on a recent occasion that my ex Taurean has just randomly blurted out "Would I ever date (my name here)again? n-no because he's a hypocrite." and that had nothing to do with their conversation.

All I really want to know is

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Why does she keep tabs on me? I expect the silent treatment from taureans, I'm told that's pretty normal for them when they don't like you. Does she not hate me as much as she says she does? is she just avoiding conflict? I just don't get it. I'm more of the type that if there's a problem I want to work towards a peaceful solution. I don't want to be enemies with her and at this point in time I feel I should at least be able to smile and say hello with out the world exploding.

Should I approach the subject with my angry bull or should I simply bow my lion's head and get out of the way of her charge?(IE. Just leave her be)?

It doesn't sound like she hates you. We boil down quickly. You do seem to push her buttons though. My Leo ex did too. He always made me see red.

It seems like she's avoiding the conflict. If she still tenses up and gives you the cold shoulder when she sees you, I'd say back off. She's not ready to talk to you or over the past yet.

We tend to relive our past. We have a hard time letting go. Especially with our relationships. Whether it was good or bad we go back there. It doesn't mean we want to talk or reopen the doors but we do like to silently check up on our past loves and see what's going on in their lives.

I can understand that. Thanks for the input. And I'll admit as a Leo, I can be a bit TOO in your face at times. I'll let the bull be and see where it takes me.

Posted by LeonianGuitar


At first I was a total egotistical jerk, my leo pride was devastated(was my first love), I sulked, moaned, I got angry(bad idea), to put it simply, the lion roared. A lot. It bit me in the tail.
And she grew to absolutely hate my guts, and she'd be quite vocal about it. Still won't admit to cheating. But after 10 years, I admit I don't really care anymore. But I do miss the friendship.

At eighteen, she handled the relationship the way an un-evolved Bullette would, resorting to childish tantrums, games, infidelity and etc.

It seems at the present time (ten years later) she hasn't evolved at all. Inability to accept the role she played in the break-up. I'm certain that you played a part, too. However, addressing you side-ways while holding onto that grudge simply means that she hasn't found closure with you. She wants it. But wants you to address it. To apologize, bending on all fours, defeated, and admitting that you're wrong.

The fact that she's un-evolved...and a Stubborn Bull too, she will be wrong and strong until the fat lady sings.

It looks like the ball is in your court LeoGuitar.

You will have to be the first one to reach out....

Or you can always ignore her...the situation..and find closure for yourself.

Hmm, well I've reached out a few times over the years, The concept of UN-evolved Taurus intrigues me, what does that mean? I've tried to be nice once in a while, even offered her some donuts once. A few months back during the summer she came in where I worked with her co-worker, and keep looking at me but wouldn't talk. I even stopped in my stride and looked her in the eyes, and when i do that she always turns her head quickly but give it a second and she will look back to see if I'm paying attention.

It's almost like its just a big act. she will raise her voice, and even give you the angry face but if you keep looking the snarled facial expression softens and you get that " do they believe me?" face.

I let go myself years ago to save myself the heart ache. I've got nothing against the girl, and even if she did cheat, we were kids. What exactly did we really know about life in grade 10? Water under the bridge for me. Something prevents her from getting near me. And I just plain do not like the idea someone is afraid of me. That makes me feel uncomfortable and even a bit sad.