Advice for inviting my Taurus man over to my house

I am inviting my Taurus man over my house for the first time and I am planning on making dinner, not sure what yet. He knows I am a single mom and is okay with it, has even told me they are reflections of me. I am definitely falling for him, and the other night our conversation was great. I am ready for him to see where I live, not meet my kids yet. But during our talk he asked me things and eventually told me he is insecure about his looks. This man is from my past and for the past 4 months I have become head over heels. I have always thought about him and felt when I first met him like 17 years ago that he was the one. No guy will ever make me feel what I have always felt for him. How can I make him feel more secure? And also anything special for when he comes over? He offered to show me how to use a grill, so should we cook together or do I make him dinner? Any advice is appreciated, I really want this to work out. Thanks!

Just because a few good talks were had doesn't mean shit really.

How old are you guys now?

How long have you been together? And who asked who out officially?

So why now are you trying to be together?

If you want to cook makes sure it's healthy... a meat dish, side order, veggies with dessert and good beverage but don't drink and not handle your alcoholic tolerance either though. Casually take it slow with each other. And then discuss what direction you both are in or headed in?

sit on his face

I guess, you could actively cook together if he wants to show you how to grill. It will be a good way to see how you two work together and communicate for a project, plus you get a learning experience out of it.

As a single mom myself, I wish you luck. It's hard out there for us. *hugs*

It is definitely harder for single parents to date a non parent at all. So find a good guy and have a kid together then hopefully they get adopted by the step parent.

Or date someone who has older kids and then if you guys fall in love and get pregnant it would be different experiences for both parties, older kids are older too.. Because one knows how to be a parent and one is just figuring it out.

I am 35 he is 41, I wrote him a letter in January and we have been in contact ever since. He asked me if he was attractive, and I have always been drawn to him since day one, so I said "when have I not been attracted to you." He responded that he is insecure, but obviously I think he is hot, but isn't everyone insecure at times. I don't want to mess this up, and I am just curious if there is anything special a Taurus man would notice when coming to my house. I keep a nice house, I do have kids so I mean their toys are around, but I will clean them before he comes. He is such a special man to me, I really want this to work, but I am ready for whatever happens you know. I get he doesn't have kids and may decide he doesn't want a part of it or can't handle it. So I feel I am ready for the next step whatever that may be.

Then that's the only issue between you two then talk about lightly when he comes over? Still ask him what direction he is headed in in his life.

Or not even talk about this yet and more about happy things one day. FOR now then probably mention it on a second or third date to follow. Since you know all about him already and both of you are ready for more than friends it will.

Hello IrishLibra,

If he's insecure, avoid excess compliments (unless he has some strong Leo placements, then I would suggest otherwise,lol.). I am 39 years of age, and til this day, I still have trouble accepting compliments. Compliment me and I will probably look at you as if you had 5 heads. I enjoyed reading the narratives about how he makes you feel. Instead of telling him, SHOW him. Be affectionate, genuine and sweet. Don't overdo it. In his eyes, a lady always conducts herself as a lady.

Wear a nice subtle perfume, with a soft feminine scent.
Buy some fresh flowers at a local florist or market, this will freshen up the area that you plan to occupy.
Crack a few jokes, this will put him at ease. every Bull loves a good laugh.

Cooking him dinner is a wonderful idea. He may want to cook dinner with you. Some Taurus men I know are excellent cooks.

Flirt a little & Have Fun 😛

I agree with @TaurusBull1977 to not shower him with compliments but to be consistent, constant and show him through actions - a few words are good but don't "rain" ... a nice slow drizzle ... cause it may take awhile until he loosens up and feels more relaxed around you

@TaurusBUll1977 - I too have had trouble with compliments but I learned to just immediately say thank you and drop it - people don't get it but for me and I think maybe you - we KNOW when we look good and it is usually the time when we don't feel up to our best when the compliments come and so we in essence are sort of not in agreement that we look good lol - how strange is this right ? so one of the things I did was to stop thinking about whether I looked good or not cause I always do look better than most - not sure why - and I'm not being conceited but I work in a hospital and there are so many woman my age who look 90. I'm 58 and I look 45 and I act it too for the most part ... it's just how we take good care of ourselves and we are confident in that ...

1) don't fuck him!

2) cooking together would be nice. My fella likes doing things together and he always washes the dishes and stuff which is nice and contentious. He can show you his grill ‰ And feel like a man, might give him more confidence.

3) my fella has Leo placements (moon and rising) and he does like a lot of attention. Not necessarily compliments but genuine affection. As others have said, go easy on them. He needs to sort his own insecurity out.

4) don't stress. If the food is going shit then don't stress. I tend to like things perfect which means if it's less than perfect then it's not good enough but I've learnt to not stress over unimportant things like that. Stressing on the night will make you enjoy the night less. He's there to see you (and eat, he's a bull!) if you're doing cooking together then it spreads the pressure and gives you both something to focus on.

5) still don't fuck him!

6) just be you. If it goes ok then great, let it flow.

7) did I mention not to fuck him? Enjoy a kiss if he goes in.

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I agree with @TaurusBull1977 to not shower him with compliments but to be consistent, constant and show him through actions - a few words are good but don't "rain" ... a nice slow drizzle ... cause it may take awhile until he loosens up and feels more relaxed around you

@TaurusBUll1977 - I too have had trouble with compliments but I learned to just immediately say thank you and drop it - people don't get it but for me and I think maybe you - we KNOW when we look good and it is usually the time when we don't feel up to our best when the compliments come and so we in essence are sort of not in agreement that we look good lol - how strange is this right ? so one of the things I did was to stop thinking about whether I looked good or not cause I always do look better than most - not sure why - and I'm not being conceited but I work in a hospital and there are so many woman my age who look 90. I'm 58 and I look 45 and I act it too for the most part ... it's just how we take good care of ourselves and we are confident in that ...

Maybe you have good confidence? I don't think it's a bull thing specifically but perhaps it's because you know who you are and what you're about which helps you to be steadfast.

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Posted by tcta
I agree with @TaurusBull1977 to not shower him with compliments but to be consistent, constant and show him through actions - a few words are good but don't "rain" ... a nice slow drizzle ... cause it may take awhile until he loosens up and feels more relaxed around you

@TaurusBUll1977 - I too have had trouble with compliments but I learned to just immediately say thank you and drop it - people don't get it but for me and I think maybe you - we KNOW when we look good and it is usually the time when we don't feel up to our best when the compliments come and so we in essence are sort of not in agreement that we look good lol - how strange is this right ? so one of the things I did was to stop thinking about whether I looked good or not cause I always do look better than most - not sure why - and I'm not being conceited but I work in a hospital and there are so many woman my age who look 90. I'm 58 and I look 45 and I act it too for the most part ... it's just how we take good care of ourselves and we are confident in that ...

Maybe you have good confidence? I don't think it's a bull thing specifically but perhaps it's because you know who you are and what you're about which helps you to be steadfast.

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that is a bull thing - especially the female - the inner confidence - it shows naturally - it's not something we think about ... see if we don't take the next step before we know where we are stepping, then we know where we are going because that has already been decided - so that step and the next and so on are us moving toward our goals which is the only thing we have in sight - everything else and anyone else most likely falls by the wayside at least until our goal is accomplished ...

Definitely I am not a canned vegetable person....and I would make steak but again, no clue how to grill, which is why he said he would show me...lol...I was thinking chicken. I am so excited for this! Thanks everyone!

If he wants to help you cook via the grill let him. It's an icebreaker and will make him feel he's doing something for you and it will give you something to talk about.

Why is he insecure about his looks?? Has he aged badly, did he have an accident. Maybe by mentioning it it's a subtle way of asking for understanding and perhaps even help. Women are smarter about fixing appearances than men and know all the latest tricks and tools to help in that regard.I think you two are probably going to do great. Best luck.