Cancer woman suddenly crushed by Taurus mans

I'm a Cancer woman who fell for a Taurus man. We met online almost eight months ago. We would text all the time and talked a couple times. I found him to be elusive about his feelings for me or what he wanted from a relationship from me. We would not talk for at the most a couple weeks at a time because I would demand more than text. I was always the one who would go back to him but after I did I could see changes in how and when he communicated with me....Doing more of what I asked of him. We have been on only 3 dates all of which I have initiated, there where other times when he would cancel. He is prepping for a physic competition plus works and travels for work.The last time we had an open text conversation I asked if he was talking to anyone else or if he was having sex with anyone being we have not. He denied both. Well last night I was trying to communicate with him thew text and again he was busy prepping meals and such. Something told me to google his name. When I did a few pics of him and a woman came up. Well it looks like they have been dating and training together for just about the same amount of time we have been communicating. I guess my question is why in heavens name would he lead me on and make me think we would be an item if he is in what appears to be a happy relationship. Once I saw the pics I text him with questions and as usual he ignored me. The crazy thing is even though he is unaware I can see his facebook page, he will put songs up related to our situation which are very heart felt. I am soo confused and crushed...please help me work thru this!

Seems like you fell in love faster than you should have. Some red flags; txting only, you always being the initiator, him canceling ... seems like a typical man whore, not just a Taurus trait. Best thing you can do is block him out of your life. Delete all messages and his number. Go through the grieving process, spend time with friends as much as you can.

Through my tears I say thank you to all of your responses! I really thought I was just giving him his needed space and one day he would come around since he continued to entertain my desires for a relationship. I feel like such a fool and want so badly to send him one last F&*ck you sir for hurting me kind of message. At 50 years old I believed a man would be done with the games....I see I was wrong and age is truly nothing but a number!

@ohsohurt,l... do not take blame, it takes two to tango and he was not truthful. I'm very sure Karma will get to him. The best thing you learned is that he's someone's else's problem, not yours. Dry your tears, have some wine, and visit your friends, maybe some shopping but that's the libra in me. Feel free to message me if you need to talk **hugs**

Will do @SophiaEva! Thanks a bunch!!

Posted by ohsohurt
Something told me to google his name. When I did a few pics of him and a woman came up. Well it looks like they have been dating and training together for just about the same amount of time we have been communicating.

Something tells me this aspect of your story is fiction or grossly embellished. Unless he's a celebrity, or made the cover of New York Times, why would an entire article via internet be fixated on this man's dating profile....unless you accessed another social media website (via instagram), if he's private on FaceBook, chances are, any other social media outlets would also be kept private. If Bulls are anything...they're very consistent. I believe you googled his name , under 'photos.' and made a false assumption.

What you saw was a woman he was training with.

I believe your need for constant attention provoked your own insecurities. This appears as a Long Distance Courtship with no tangible proof of exclusivity. ( 8 months of courtship and only 3 dates?). He doesn't know you, and you don't know him. Why would he profess his feelings for you? The two of you are practical strangers.

I believe that he's single....

...And he was telling you the truth.

His alleged relationship with this other female is probably as non-existent as his is with yours.

@Taurusbull1977 .... bit harsh on your words

@SophiaEva,

It wasn't my intentions to be harsh. I'm normally candid and less disapproving when offering advice.
I get the entire facts, and express my opinions and thoughts on the matter....
Free from judgement.

However, when an individual creates a post to twist the chain of events to play the role of a victim, I'm less inclined to empathize with their story.

There were previous posters on this board who offered less than a flattering depiction of their union with Taurus males, and I never judged them.

I always respected their ability to be honest.

Re-read the OP's post, absorb it, dissect it, and ask yourself, does any of it make any sense?

The man is 50 years of age.
The OP asserts that this man has told her he wanted to be in a relationship with her.
Why hasn't it happened? She clearly indicated that they were not in a relationship.
Which means either two things...He never told her this...or he asked, and the OP told him "No."

And then she "googles" his name, and then POW, a woman he's training with pops up!

If I were to google your name, would pictures of you and your 'running' buddy surface on the internet?

Think about it, does this make sense?

@TaurusBull1977,... that's my point, we don't need to know/understand if it makes sense because it doesn't affect us. People do dumb sh*t all the time. I don't judge because I do dumb sh*t as much as the next person .

So what her actions are questionable. She felt the NEED to pursue, that's what humans do. Pursue what they want/need. This forum is meant to help people, not make them feel worse. Just my point of view.

@SophiaEva....

You missed my entire point.
The amount of times she pursued him has nothing to do with the validity of her story.
In order to help an individual, you will have to trust in the facts that's being presented.

I have never judged anyone, I have always provided an abstract way of resolving a subject matter without pointing fingers.....

At least the other posters were being honest in regards to their setup with the Bull (eg, FWB, one-night-stand, interest, courtship, etc)

It is what is it is. I can respect that.

But I'm not going to coddle someone who is on this board with an obvious fictitious story.

I mean, if its a Cancer, you can pretty much assume from the outset, they are playing the victim to a degree...lol

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
I mean, if its a Cancer, you can pretty much assume from the outset, they are playing the victim to a degree...lol

1. They're not friends on Facebook.
2. They were never in a relationship.
3. He never initiated contact during the 8 months.
4. She has to stalk him or to find out what he's posting on a social site, although she claimed she was able to view incriminating pictures of him surfaced on the internet with him and a female.
5. The Taurus' page is private.
6. He never took measures to see her.

His intentions were misleading?

How?

I would have respected her more if she admitted she was stalking him.

I would have respected her more if she admitted to stalking him and having a crush on him.

I always respect the TRUTH!

Seems alittle insecure too...

Stalking whatever happened to communication and trust .. Yeah we all have problems but alot of threads are just so empty that most advice that is given has alot of misinformed information that people omit and yeah can judge that, so we Taurus need a full page idea.. Just spread it all out so we can help out with correct advice. Lol and most people like TB77 can read between the lines.

Just if you don't trust what a person is saying most likely they are liars and we are able to spot the bullshit.. IF I had someone snoop I would be heated and hurt.

Nothing wrong with a bit of stalking! Ž

OP is crazier than me with her assumptions.

The problem with Internet research, and I can say this with some degree of professionalism and experience, is that you interpret what you want to interpret and photos, comments, songs etc are not always in context. You must interpret with a balanced view.

I don't think TB has been harsh at all. She's hardly P-Angel! I think she makes wise observations.

@Agent P,

I have friends who stalked guys they were interested in, but they always informed us that "Stalking" is what they were doing. They owned it. No apologies there. I can respect that.

My problem with the OP's story was she introduced a topic painting herself off as a victim for a relationship that never existed....or a relationship allegedly on its way to existence.

...And then proceeded to tell a story of an assumed girlfriend that she claimed she pulled up from just googling his name on the internet...(LOL).

When in fact, the truth is... this man's page is private, they're not friends on FB, and chances are she pulled the photos (perhaps, maybe from a mutual acquaintance of theirs)...

Which probably means he either 'deleted' her....or they were never friends on FB.

There is no supporting evidence to indicate that this man's actions were misleading.

1. He never expressed his feelings for her (her words)
2. He never initiated contact (her words).
3. He never initiated sex, obviously, if he never initiated contact.
4. They're not friends on any social media.

Totally agree with you TB.

I own my stalking!!