confused and need advice

Hello everyone, this is my first time writing on here but I have been reading a few topics and I just need some advice. I have been dating a taurus guy for 3 months. We are both 41. Everything has been going well. I pursued him and we hit it off right away. We started spending weekend together because we live in different areas. I have met his kids and I have met his two best friends and his cousin. We have gone out to class friends functions together. Lately we have been arguing because he said that I do not listen. Well we ended up having a big dispute because I feel like he's always on the defensive with me. I feel like he's very argumentative so I blow a lot of things off. Last week Sunday he flipped out because I told him to shut up but I was joking and he took it seriously. He told me to leave his house if I wanted him to shut up and I left when he went to take a shower. We spoke about things and he didn't say nice things and neither did I. I finally realized two days later what got him upset. I apologized and expressed that I didn't know he felt the way he did. We decided to meet up and talk. I went to his house on Friday and we spoke and he stated that he cared and if he didn't he wouldn't want to talk about it. We both apologized and went out to eat. I stayed the night and left in the morning. I noticed he was distant so I reached out and he want nice.I called him on the Sunday after talking and he told me that I won't allow him to work through his feelings. I said okay and he has had no contact with me since. He deleted me from Facebook before we spoke and that's okay. I am just confused. I am assuming that he is done with me even though we spoke and he said he didn't want to lose me and he did want to work on our relationship. His actions say something different to me. Can someone give me some advice on this Taurus male. I hate feeling like this. Thanks.

He's done. Or just sadly immature.

Thank you for the feedback its really appreciated. I think he's immature and doesn't have any balls @ greenlight and busyeyes88.

Ughh another immature man without any balls... There needs to be a cull of these...

I cant stand ppl who don't listen

Posted by INTJBull
Do you know his moon sign? That might help you to better understand his reactions. Moon = emotions. I'm a Taurus, my child is a Taurus/Gemini cusper & my childs father is a Taurus.

So first let me say this: "he stated that he cared and if he didn't he wouldn't want to talk about it." & " he said he didn't want to lose me and he did want to work on our relationship." I don't say things I don't mean, unless I'm angry & they aren't going to be nice things. I try to avoid that. So if someone tells me to shut up, I feel disrespected or misunderstood which makes me frustrated I will try to remove myself or the other person from the situation so I don't say things out of frustration & anger that I will later regret.

This is also telling: "he told me that I won't allow him to work through his feelings." I hate feeling suffocated. I need a lot of time to work through my thoughts & feelings by myself without being questioned. I'm not someone who will just pour my heart out at the drop of a dime. I want to understand why I'm feeling like I do & what effect that is going to have on the other person. I'm not being distant to hurt anyone, I don't want to hurt anyone in fact. Which is why I will say I need to think, be alone, have space..... etc.

I know the space, lack of communication, getting deleted off of facebook seems bad but if I've asked for space & someone is not giving it, once again I will remove myself from the situation or remove them until I've worked through my thoughts & feelings. I think he will come back around. The question is if you even want to deal with him at this point? 🙂

This is a good post. Makes sense to me. I've had times when I've needed space, one was years back and I felt very suffocated and the person was miles away in another country but the constant calls, texts, contact, was very suffercating. I cut him off in the end. I've had boot on other foot where I've struggled to listen to the other person and really hear what they mean. It's hard. Give him some time and back off. You'll have your answer.

@ INTJBull he is a Virgo moon. I am also a taurus with a Capricorn moon. Thanks for the advice. I have decided been asking myself the same question will I want him after all of this. I need to work through my own feelings at this point.

Thanks everyone your advice has been helpful.