Confused Taurean

So, its been two months since our breakup, me and my taurean boy were together for over a year. He pursued me for over 6 months before we got together. But last year things got so difficult, in terms of situations, we were from the same friend circle, things fell out and that got challenging for us and all that. There were times we would take a break because of the taxing situation or fights. But we always got back because we felt so forcibly torn apart it didnt feel right.

Now he called it off two months ago, saying the way our relationship is fuunctioning is frustrating ( either fighting or no fights at all, but challenges), and that it was nothing on me ( i know it was nothing on me, because i was calm and supportive at that point and wasnt being pushy and could sense he was stressed out so i would do what i could to have the happier times with him). He said hes having to make big career decisions and stuff and with things like this going on its just stressing him out further so he wants out. We broke up, but we study and work together, we are practically around everyday. Initially I tried to be normal then he'd ask me for hugs and say I miss you often. then it reduced slowly when i drew boundaries and began to talk less.This had effected him and he also withdrew and later said that he wished I saw where he was, he wst hating on me, its just hes soooo confused.
After a few days we sat together and had a talk when he said that hes very confused about us, he still likes me and wants me but doesnt want to go back to the previous relationship dynamics. I told him that im surely suffering because of the breakup, but his pain is two folds worse where he has had to deal with the breakup pai and the confusion.

I heard him out and said I understand, and that Whether it is love, crush , like I dont know what it is, but I know I still feel it for him. he said I dont want you to be a tshirt, i want you but I cant just wear you and remove you when I want. I told him that he's killing himself with all stress, and he's doing this to himself, i didnt push him around about our situation I just heard him out.


then 2 weeks back again we met and he told me he still loves me a lotand hes afriad that masters will end soon and what if thats when he realises im the one for him. He said but what if i move on and you are still around. I just said explore yourself, take time out for yourself And he goes but what if you are gone. And I said We'll see okay, don't wor

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And I said We'll see okay, don't worry. Do what you need right now.

Now i continue to be normal at internship and more. And its really nice to be around him. Some days I walk away and sit on my own and he comes around for me.

This guy is the only guy i can have a conversation with, and not have to talk about movies and dresses and people. Its more meaningful. This is something i realised yesterday. We only meet at class or internship ( no texting or calling).

I truly love this guy but i dont want to convince him and push him around to get him back. I dont want to get him back on my terms. I know theres little i can do. Wait and watch or move on, both have it's own consequences.

But any insight on his thought process will be good 🙂 Thankyou 🙂

Thankyou 🙂 I really needed that.

First of Kitty Knitter, Thnkyou for such an insightful response.

I cannot explain to the extent I relate to your words. one, because Im a leo and my man a Taurean, but honestly Im more on the cancerian side. im the more quiet calm non attention seeking kind, so it works well with my very driven taurean.

the other thing is, we never fought we never had an argument, the last time we fought was 3 months before the breakup. Even the breakup and after was never nasty. When i disagree, even now, I make this face while he talks, and when he is done he knows what to say next and goes " you dont feel the same way ?" and i just say, what i feel in a amicable manner, where I am open to his views but I respect my own 🙂

These are things we have learnt in the relationship.

We dont have too much time together. We have only 3 months together. And its been 3 days since we've seen each other. Im about to meet him for work in an hour and i know things will be the normal but you know that long after having been normal and having a good time, you dont hear or see from the person for 3 full dys, i really begin to miss him and desperation kicks in .


I am reallly clear on my side. Not because I am desperate, but because i have evaluated myself and the relationship and what I see. In a very non-mechanical sense. I know the only thing to be said here is if he loves me enough it will bring him back, but thats such a "leave to fate" kind of response.


Thankyou so much though Kitty knitter, on your thoughts. I will keep them in mind 🙂

Beautiful disaster, I can't speak for him. But the past 2 months, I have matured faster than I have over 20 years 😛 After having taken a ouple of breaks last year, with mind games, changing of emotional whatsapp status, buoycotting. I figued its not my cup of tea 😛

It's a take or leave it, No more power games.

Thankyou, for your kind words 🙂

Hey I'm bck again. So i was doing super.

I was really down day before and was bawling in my room and decided against going to college yesterday. So he texted and asked me why and asked if i was fine, i said i was low and he said it will get better, dont worry. Then he suddenly said something my dad said ( the night before my dad kept telling me to ask my ex to ride me to internship thrugh a different more safe route and i said we will maage, my father goes if you dont tell him I will speak to him, so while my ex was asking about why i hadnt come he mentioned tomorrow we will take this new route) and suddenly i was like did my dad speak to you, i kept asking and he kept joking around and saying maybe maybe not. And im like can you please just tell me ( because I was looking at it from the point of view that " WHY DID MY DAD INTERFERE" and like call up my friends and stuff ) and this taurus man of mine kept joking around when i was asking him upfront. So i said wow my father did speak to you. An he goes woman stop assuming you have made your life hell by assuming before blah blah... and i lost it and said im asking you one question. My father threated to call you last night and now when i ask you , you dont answer ho else do i get answers? and he just said cam down you are safe. After that I called my dad and he said "yes, i spoke to him." I lost it and told my dad why, and he goes if you dont, go by cab for work. So i replied Okay i will. And told my guy Im taking other means of transport.


And he goes OVER reaction. anyway I am no one to say. So i replied saying YEAH to the over reaction. and he goes listen I dont care okay... and i said wow you dont care ? And he goes yeah, because you just said Im no one in your life.

I said i havent said a thing apart from the fact that my father was interfering and maybe taking a different route to travel. You said the whole assuming thing, overreaction thing and that you mean nothing and you dont care.

This guy then says " i said it with 15 mins interval" i said so ? and he goes listen i have made a grievous mistake. I shouldnt have initated a conversation asking you how you are, but I am stupid I care for you. Even in the relationship I do anything sweet and it alway led to something. I hate miscommunicating with you. WHy does it always happen with you that there is a miscommunication. ( he meant about the "yeah" to the meaning nothing part) so I called him up and said listen Im sorry, i dont want my

...... dad to interfere thats all. he said your dad has said something and i want to respect that. I said okay can we make no other arrangements because in the different route we wont be able to have fun and talk as much ( i was crying a little by then) and he just didnt speak. So i said okay nevermind. Leave it.


Then I message a quick short apology for the misunderstanding.

He said, i stand by what I said I dont care and Im glad i dont. I dont want to come in between you and yur dads fights. So i said thanks.

And he asks are you coming with me tomorrow then ? I said just give me time to think please. And he goes yea yea not a problem.

Have I pushed him over ? I was doing so well, no fights all calm so far.


But have i proved it to him that our relationship will continue to suck if he comes back —

I felt terrible, he is wrong for things he brought in during the course, but i felt responsible for starting it.


So i went and got him this how i met your mother cartoonised poster as an apology gift and nothing more.

Im thinking of apologising and saying" im sorry i hurt you and neglect the care you had for me, I was only mad about my dad's interference nothing more. I hope you take the apology gift and like it 🙂"


How does it sound to a taurean?