Posted by ed_nor
Hey @PurtyWingzFly2! Sounds like your BD Taurus is feeling insecure. All you need to do is spend some quality time with him, maybe get him his favourite food (the best is to cook), and reassure him. After that, sit down and have a nice heart to heart talk together. I know this may sound crazy. All you need to do is to lower a bit of your pride and say "Hey, I'm sorry (even though it's not your fault) if I haven't been taking care of your needs. I am pregnant now and it might be the hormones kicking in and I slipped you off my mind and I didn't do it this on purpose. As you can see, the priority here is our baby. If you were the one physically carrying the baby yourself, don't you think you'll be focusing on our baby too?" He probably will give in to you after this but once a while you have to pamper him again with other ways. Sorry to say that whatever horoscope your man is, in general, all men do want to get pampered too.
Posted by ed_nor
Thank you for your reply to my post! I think all Taurus get a little upset when they ask you something serious but you ended up trying to poke fun (playful) or being sarcastic about it. We do feel unappreciated. I, myself too but I don't take it too personally because I do want to protect my heart too, just in case if my gf do really mean it. About him being aloof, I'm too sure about it. I do have some "pure" Taurus friends myself, they often act mysterious. Most of the time they get too emotional or they seem to have this habit of victimising themselves. This gets super turn off and I often get super annoyed with them. Just to let you know, I am the first day of Taurus, so I am mixed with Aries's traits as well. Often people thinks that I behave more like Aries than a Taurus.
Anyway, I read some other of your messages about your Taurus BD, I think he sounds like an asshole and my take is he doesn’t know what he wants. All these behaviours are his insecurities acting up and that is why he is ending up charging towards you. This is not right. I often tell my gf, yes I do have my insecurities once a while but it's my job to fix it, not her responsibility. She will care to listen to me and talk me thru which I am grateful for it. This make me feel very safe with her.
Ask him if he does know what he wants? Tell him to open up, speak up and grow up; be mature about things. Tell him that I want my baby to have an awesome daddy, not someone who is not emotionally unstable and unavailable. That should hit Taurus hard enough. Not too sure for him but that would to me. I don’t know what shit he been thru. But I personally have not been in a relationship for the past 10 years because I got emotionally and physically cheated on twice by my ex-gf. It took me long enough to move on and really open up. So now that I have my Leo woman, I really cherish her. Yes, we have our flaws. We are working on it. For these 10 years, I have been working on being a better person and learned how to love others flaws and see their beautiful side. I will personally always thank them for it. I always tell myself to be sure to open up; expressed myself to my loved ones in this way. Even my Leo woman thanked me for it. :’)
Posted by ed_norPosted by PurtyWingzFly2Posted by ed_nor
Thank you for your reply to my post! I think all Taurus get a little upset when they ask you something serious but you ended up trying to poke fun (playful) or being sarcastic about it. We do feel unappreciated. I, myself too but I don't take it too personally because I do want to protect my heart too, just in case if my gf do really mean it. About him being aloof, I'm too sure about it. I do have some "pure" Taurus friends myself, they often act mysterious. Most of the time they get too emotional or they seem to have this habit of victimising themselves. This gets super turn off and I often get super annoyed with them. Just to let you know, I am the first day of Taurus, so I am mixed with Aries's traits as well. Often people thinks that I behave more like Aries than a Taurus.
Anyway, I read some other of your messages about your Taurus BD, I think he sounds like an asshole and my take is he doesn’t know what he wants. All these behaviours are his insecurities acting up and that is why he is ending up charging towards you. This is not right. I often tell my gf, yes I do have my insecurities once a while but it's my job to fix it, not her responsibility. She will care to listen to me and talk me thru which I am grateful for it. This make me feel very safe with her.
Ask him if he does know what he wants? Tell him to open up, speak up and grow up; be mature about things. Tell him that I want my baby to have an awesome daddy, not someone who is not emotionally unstable and unavailable. That should hit Taurus hard enough. Not too sure for him but that would to me. I don’t know what shit he been thru. But I personally have not been in a relationship for the past 10 years because I got emotionally and physically cheated on twice by my ex-gf. It took me long enough to move on and really open up. So now that I have my Leo woman, I really cherish her. Yes, we have our flaws. We are working on it. For these 10 years, I have been working on being a better person and learned how to love others flaws and see their beautiful side. I will personally always thank them for it. I always tell myself to be sure to open up; expressed myself to my loved ones in this way. Even my Leo woman thanked me for it. :’)
You right. I do appreciate your reply as well. I did ask him. He told me he doesn’t know what I want but one day he wants to be happy. The way he explained it his first baby momma did him dirty. So I get that. His words and actions are two different things. He acts like he cares with his emotions but he says he doesn’t want a relationship. He told me that I’m his I’m not going anywhere whatever that means I asked him why he putting claims on me he said he’s not. Plus he told me he would prob be in a relationship with one of us baby mommas I told him it won’t be me. I just want my daughter to have a relationship with him not so much me because it’s not bout us. I think he’s going back and forth on who he wants. Tbh I don’t compete with anyone so If he choose one of them I wouldn’t be mad. I want him to be happy. He told me he will get a dna to determine if our baby is ours. He said he already been thru that someone said a baby was his and it wasn’t. I think he’s using his past against me on what happened to him and it has nothing to do with me. He basically told me he got me pregnant on purpose. I don’t know why. He told me he loved me twice but I don’t know what to believe with him. He’s acting passive aggressive with me like he was few months ago when he seen me out with a guy friend. What do you think @ed_nor
He just such an asshole. He doesn't have to take DNA test to see if the baby is his or not. If he loves you, even if is not his baby, he will go all means to take care like as if his own because I would. I understand we all make mistakes but what was in the past, has gone. If I want a girl this much, no further question ask because "true love" is hard to come by. I waited for 10 years for a good reason because I want to be a better person for my another half. The passed 10 years, I was hoping and telling god pls let my another half will be like me too. My gf had a nasty past but I never mind those. I still love her for who she is and that is what makes her beautiful.
But as for your BD Taurus... What pisses me off is that he can actually tell you that he got you pregnant on purpose? Who is he trying to prove to? So is he telling the world that he is capable of making girls pregnant but yet can't fucking deal with responsibility? Tell him that this is a behaviour of what a coward would do! Congrats! Well, can't he just admit that his dick was just being itchy? It's way easier to explain this way than making such a comment. He just doesn't want you as much as a real man would because he is still a little boy, needing his pacifier to soothe himself. You're very strong. For sure, you don't really need him. You remind me of my gf, of her past relationship (almost similar but different situation). You think almost like her. Let's make this clear to him. You can't have me but you can have a relationship with our baby we have together but please man up, you asshole! Want it or not, you choose, if not, goodbye! Thks for the memories!
It might be the bad childhood he had been or whatever shitty past he had. This not the way to make excuses. My dad had a terrible dad (grandpa) but his dad was never around, make his wife (grandma) work but he would stay home, does nothing about it and spent his wife's money and gave birth to 5 other kids and he doesn't want to do anything with them. But yet my dad decided to man up at a very young age. He took responsibility is his own hands, he went to work, got married his wife (my mom), and he never once regretted a single bit of it. Yes, he said it was tough but he enjoyed every bit of his journey. Why? Because he chose to commit. Till today, he would wake up every morning, give my mom kisses before he goes off to work and when he goes to bed at night he would kiss my mom again and tells her how much he loves her. He makes no excuses and I am grateful for a dad like him. I look up to my dad a lot when come to love now but that is true love. So I make no excuses too.
PS So sorry that I got so agitated, which involved vulgarities but he deserve it. I may not have the right to be judging him and I apologise in advance if I offended you in any way. And so sorry for some typo in the previous message. I didn't check it before I send out. 🙂
Posted by PurtyWingzFly2Posted by ed_nor
Thank you for your reply to my post! I think all Taurus get a little upset when they ask you something serious but you ended up trying to poke fun (playful) or being sarcastic about it. We do feel unappreciated. I, myself too but I don't take it too personally because I do want to protect my heart too, just in case if my gf do really mean it. About him being aloof, I'm too sure about it. I do have some "pure" Taurus friends myself, they often act mysterious. Most of the time they get too emotional or they seem to have this habit of victimising themselves. This gets super turn off and I often get super annoyed with them. Just to let you know, I am the first day of Taurus, so I am mixed with Aries's traits as well. Often people thinks that I behave more like Aries than a Taurus.
Anyway, I read some other of your messages about your Taurus BD, I think he sounds like an asshole and my take is he doesn’t know what he wants. All these behaviours are his insecurities acting up and that is why he is ending up charging towards you. This is not right. I often tell my gf, yes I do have my insecurities once a while but it's my job to fix it, not her responsibility. She will care to listen to me and talk me thru which I am grateful for it. This make me feel very safe with her.
Ask him if he does know what he wants? Tell him to open up, speak up and grow up; be mature about things. Tell him that I want my baby to have an awesome daddy, not someone who is not emotionally unstable and unavailable. That should hit Taurus hard enough. Not too sure for him but that would to me. I don’t know what shit he been thru. But I personally have not been in a relationship for the past 10 years because I got emotionally and physically cheated on twice by my ex-gf. It took me long enough to move on and really open up. So now that I have my Leo woman, I really cherish her. Yes, we have our flaws. We are working on it. For these 10 years, I have been working on being a better person and learned how to love others flaws and see their beautiful side. I will personally always thank them for it. I always tell myself to be sure to open up; expressed myself to my loved ones in this way. Even my Leo woman thanked me for it. :’)
You right. I do appreciate your reply as well. I did ask him. He told me he doesn’t know what I want but one day he wants to be happy. The way he explained it his first baby momma did him dirty. So I get that. His words and actions are two different things. He acts like he cares with his emotions but he says he doesn’t want a relationship. He told me that I’m his I’m not going anywhere whatever that means I asked him why he putting claims on me he said he’s not. Plus he told me he would prob be in a relationship with one of us baby mommas I told him it won’t be me. I just want my daughter to have a relationship with him not so much me because it’s not bout us. I think he’s going back and forth on who he wants. Tbh I don’t compete with anyone so If he choose one of them I wouldn’t be mad. I want him to be happy. He told me he will get a dna to determine if our baby is ours. He said he already been thru that someone said a baby was his and it wasn’t. I think he’s using his past against me on what happened to him and it has nothing to do with me. He basically told me he got me pregnant on purpose. I don’t know why. He told me he loved me twice but I don’t know what to believe with him. He’s acting passive aggressive with me like he was few months ago when he seen me out with a guy friend. What do you think @ed_norclick to expand
Posted by jeane
you know who you should talk to?
@diamondnurse.
really similar situation to you.
like you she is also a leo with a taurus moon.
she fell pregnant to a taurus too i guess about 7-8 months ago now? like you she had been with him on and off for about 3 years. he wanted to her to have an abortion too. things were an fwb with them just like yours was. . apparently they broke up after she found out she was pregnant.then he kept being in an out of her life and giving her mixed signals. i know you guys stopped hooking up after you found out you were pregnant and like you said he was going to go to appointments and would rub her belly which was the same for her too. also like your guy, he accused her of getting pregnant on purpose.
it's crazy how similar your stories are. i hope she is still visiting the site and can see her tag because i think you guys would be able to find a lot of common ground.
Posted by PurtyWingzFly2
@ed_nor it’s okay. I totally get it I realized I never need him I was never afraid to lose him he was afraid to lose me. I see him doing the exact same behavior he was doing a year ago. His issues has nothing to do with me I told him that. I told him whatever hurt you you got to let it go or you will never be happy. He doesn’t love himself but wants someone to love him. I was there with all the pain and suffering that I witnessed I could’ve walked away I choose not too. But I’m fed up for his toxic bs it’s draining me and no I didn’t cheat I told him I find someone else. I was woman enough to tell him. I thought he loved me as much I loved him but I was wrong. I seen his true colors that’s why I’m keeping my distance. I don’t know why he thinks he can talk to me crazy and think I’m dumb. I’m not dumb I don’t have the energy to argue so I slowly keep my distance I don’t contact him. Only thing I do want is my daughter to know her dad nothing else matters. That’s what type of relationship I want with him it’s bout our daughter. He got his own insecurities he needs to figure out but cut me out of it. Putting his frustration out on me is pushing me way he doesn’t see him being selfish and ungrateful for a person that actually cares.
Posted by PurtyWingzFly2
@ed_nor I told him bout himself. He told me has demons that haunt him. I told him he gonna have to figure that out on his own because I can’t help him. He self destructing himself and now he’s going back to those old ways. He told me I got him going back to his old ways wtf ever that means. He thinks I cheated on him this whole time but how if I was never with you. So in his mind I’m with him but in reality he knows I’m not. It’s weird behavior I can’t explain it.
Posted by ed_norPosted by PurtyWingzFly2
@ed_nor I told him bout himself. He told me has demons that haunt him. I told him he gonna have to figure that out on his own because I can’t help him. He self destructing himself and now he’s going back to those old ways. He told me I got him going back to his old ways wtf ever that means. He thinks I cheated on him this whole time but how if I was never with you. So in his mind I’m with him but in reality he knows I’m not. It’s weird behavior I can’t explain it.
He is way too insecure. Yes, nobody can help him. Only himself. It's insane! He probably need professional help.click to expand
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