Dating Again...

So after finishing things with my Saggy ex a few months ago, I thought I'd venture forth into the dating world again...

Gave my number to a Saggy/Cap guy who works in a bar I go to sometimes, he text me the next day and we arranged a date for last week. To me, it went great; good conversation, lots of things in common, we had a fun time, he even introduced me to a few people he knew (we were in his local area)and his brother, and he was a total gentleman. At the end of the date, we kissed and it was all very nice. For the next 3 days, he sent me quite a few texts, telling me he liked me, talking about what we could do on our next date and how he couldn't wait to see me. It was really sweet, he wasn't too pushy or anything and I was looking forward to seeing him again.

But the last time I heard from him was Saturday. Saturday?!! WTF??!! This is the first time this has happened to me and I understand now how annoying being totally left in the dark by a guy actually is! Why say he wanted to see me again, it was a first date, he could have just left it at that!. I text him last night, as I knew from when we went out he had something important going on that day, so I text and said I hoped it had gone ok etc. And no reply!!

I just thought I'd share this annoying episode with you all 🙂 and a big booooooooo! to all men that do this!!!!

Also, I have a Scorpio on my trail. And I'm scared, he makes me feel like he could destroy me...never dated a Scorp.

You are getting way ahead of yourself. Just take it easy because you have only been out on one date. This guy is not your man. So keep your options open. Scorpios are big softies on the inside, dont be intimidated.

Oh, I'm aware that he's not 'my man', I just find it rather rude to say to someone that you'll speak to them the next day and then not bother to contact them. This is not how I'm used to dating. Normally, if after a first date, one or the other isn't feeling it, they say so...I have, and I've had guys say to me that they don't think it would work out or they're not ready to date....it's just good manners to at least acknowledge the other person. Especially when you were texting them and saying how much you were looking forward to seeing them again.

I don't know. I'm not going to waste any more energy on it though 🙂

And the Scorp does scare me!!! He pretty much keeps himself to himself, so I need to find out a little more about him I think...

Not at all...

This is just something that has not happened to me before. And I found it annoying. I think I amplified why I was annoyed in my other posts, but I appreciate that other people wouldn't feel this way.

To me and my friends though, after a date, if you have been in contact and said you want to do it again, to then never text again, is just plain rude. Oh well, just one of those things I suppose

I liken a good date to that of a good interview. You go in prepared; dressed to impress, looking and smelling like a million bucks. You wow them by answering all of their questions without hesitation; you're on the ball and know what is going on and can sense they are thinking the same thing. They tell you that they will be making their final decision within the next few days, but they pump your hand as they shake it vigourously and one of the interviewees even leans over and says, "It's in the bag." You follow up with a nice letter thanking all of the interviewees for their time, and you elaborate on all of the wonderfulness you can bring to their company and the bottom line, and then drop that in the mailbox.

The next week you still haven't heard anything, but you figure they are just doing there last minute interviews. No sweat, you were all of that and then some. It's the end of that week and it's been seven business days. You contact their HR department to enquire if the position has been filled and that you are awaiting a status update. The HR personnel; while polite, does not give any additional information, but advises you that if you are selected for the next step, they will "be in contact."

Frustration sets in as you go over ever small detail (no matter how insignificant) and try to figure out where you messed up; what you could have said differently; what you could have worn that would have been more/less provactive.

Three weeks have passed and you've heard nothing. Sometimes it's like that, you could have been the best candidate but sometimes they decide to go with someone else, don't fill the position, or promote from within. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong, sometimes it "is what it is."

I said all of that to say, go out and don't worry about it. If he calls you - fantastic, if not, you are LIVING your life and moving on to the next person that may want you to be in it, and won't be to shy/proud/scared to tell you.

Good luck!

should have been "provocative". (EDIT KEY DXP GODS)