Disappearing acts....

Hi everyone. Hope all is well. :-)

What makes Taureans suddenly disappear? and sometimes reappear? Is it external (someone else) or internal(something they are dealing with)? Is it something that they don't want to admit or something that makes them uncomfortable? Or is is just plain disinterest?

Thanks for the wisdom, as always. :-)

Howdy again... Short answer Shortii... Yes!!! Any one of out of your list could bring on that reaction..



On a side note, Hows the Scorp hubby??


And hows not talking to that Taurus guy and being alone going for ya too btw??

Posted by shortii
Yes, jumping from one to another isn't healthy at all. So I'm not jumping into anything.. I'm being.. alone..

* My ninja is faster then your ninja... hehe.. 😉 *




Hope your doing well Pisces...

Ah, the anti-answer. Hope things are well with you Mermaid.

Posted by TaurGuy
Howdy again... Short answer Shortii... Yes!!! Any one of out of your list could bring on that reaction..



On a side note, Hows the Scorp hubby??


And hows not talking to that Taurus guy and being alone going for ya too btw??

Posted by shortii
Yes, jumping from one to another isn't healthy at all. So I'm not jumping into anything.. I'm being.. alone..

* My ninja is faster then your ninja... hehe.. 😉 *




Hope your doing well Pisces...

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Hi Taurguy!
I'm well. Scorp hubby and I talked things out. He apologized and said he refuses to lose me over his stupidity...esp to another guy, Taking it day by day.

Taled things out with Taurus guy. He is back w/ ex-gf. Shes expecting. He says hes not 100% happy and feels shes wrong for him, but trying to make it work for the baby. Still loves and in love with me and loves her, but just not possible right now. He wanted to visit, told him we could go dutch (him airfare, me hotel). He said maybe (due to finances) and disappeared. I believe actions speak louder than words.

I didnt jump, but stayed put.

Posted by venusianbull
Ah, the anti-answer. Hope things are well with you Mermaid.

Nice way of putting it..lol! Vauge yet attentive..

LOL *smh* Sorry, I meant TaurGuys response. Well it could be all of it, could be none of it. Only the Shadow knows.

I'm glad you stuck it through, I really am. 🙂

Posted by venusianbull
LOL *smh* Sorry, I meant TaurGuys response. Well it could be all of it, could be none of it. Only the Shadow knows.

I'm glad you stuck it through, I really am. 🙂

Thank you... we are trying.
Even though Taurus and I are friends, I'm trying to be a friend. Like i said, we talked EVERYTHING out. I asked him if he trusted me. he said yes, otherwise he wouldn't tell me all of his secrets and feelings. Then.. when i spoke about visiting, he literally dropped off of the face of the earth. The last thing he said is that money is tight and he's like to possibly visit. I wished him a happy father's day, said I hope things are well with you..hope you are ok. NOTHING!

I'm one for, if we are friends, be straight honest with me. I wanted to know where we stand, but I feel like I'm getting the answer LOUD and CLEAR. He did this once before and when he came back from disppearing, he was apologetic to the utmost degree saying that he needed to work things out over there with her. His words exactly "No love lost at all on my part, beautiful. Not an ounce."

Im about to tell him crap or get off the pot. Either be honest/open or I'm padlocking the doors.

Ask yourself this: Do you want a satellite or someone REAL in your life? Look at your husband and smile. He's not orbiting you, he's right there. I understand the friend bit too though. Friends stick. They don't go careening off to parts unknown without so much as a by your leave. They occasionally let you know they're still breathing, a 'hey..how have you been?', but the great vanishing act with a sleight of hand and a puff of smoke? That just stinks. Sheesh, even people I've known since girlhood who could read me like a book verbatim are still interested in what's going on with me, what I think, what'sa'hoppening at Le Maison Taureaux. Perhaps a part of him really doesn't want to be your friend at all. "More than", but life as we know is not the movies and extenuating circumstances reduce that one to a hearty tough shit. You? You've got a family to keep and a life to live. If he wants to be Houdini, clap his hands thrice and disappear, let him. He wants to watch from a comfortable distance? Let him. Just if he shows back up to poke at you with a stick like a boy does with roadkill to see if it's still kicking or not..well. That one is up to you. And if he tries pulling the "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else having you either" crap ( not saying he will, but some men do..and let's face it, you're married..you done been took to the nth degree.. ) tell him to place that cheery little nugget where the sun don't shine. Maybe he's just thinking his thinks, maybe he's got an ingrown toenail or it burns when he pees. Point is, only he knows all this, and since it's not forthcoming that leaves you to puzzle over the behavior. I say scrap the wondering. Give a big old shruggedy shrug to it and just chalk it up to him having something extra rolling around in his BVD's. Always did wonder how that doesn't make a man insane...anyways! Yes, you know implicitly what you need emotionally in someone to keep things on the status quo. If he's not providing it then indeed tell him to shit or get off the proverbial pot. And no more of that poetic nonsense from him. You're IN a relationship, and he needs to quit acting like he's in one with you. He needs to get his head out of his ass. For really real.
Pride too, that he can't pony up and pay for a visit himself, even kindly meant on your part that might have made him go "eep". If he's really old school, huge 'eep'.

Taled things out with Taurus guy. He is back w/ ex-gf. Shes expecting. He says hes not 100% happy and feels shes wrong for him, but trying to make it work for the baby. Still loves and in love with me and loves her, but just not possible right now. He wanted to visit, told him we could go dutch (him airfare, me hotel). He said maybe (due to finances) and disappeared. I believe actions speak louder than words.

errrr - so is this guy going to end up in the "Dead Relationship" thread—??

I hope not, I don't think so. But it bugs me that Bull keeps giving juuuuust enough to keep that hook nice and sharp.

Posted by venusianbull
I hope not, I don't think so. But it bugs me that Bull keeps giving juuuuust enough to keep that hook nice and sharp.

This is what *I* can't figure out. I know that Bulls are known to disappear and reappear. It's how they keep control. In my thoughts, it's how he keeps control of his emotions.

Things were different between us once he found out that g/f is pregnant. Which is good. I'm not faulting him at all and just the opposite, respect him greatly for it. HOWEVER, when we had the "lay it all out in the open" moment, I thought we were on the same page. He got frustrated with me asking him the same questions. I told him that if we were to remain in each other's lives, I needed reassurance of where I stood, ESPECIALLY given our "hanging chad" history back when we dated 14 years ago. He concurred that if that's what I needed then that's what he needed to give.

We spoke about my husband going to work far away for a while. He was surpised and said "WOW! I believe that the biggest gift that you can give anyone is your time. SO for him to not be there, I understand why- for work, but that's a HUGE deal to me. That's ... that's just WOW!"

As I sated before, I said, why don't you visit me (all for it BEFORE the pregnancy). Now.. hesitation and vanishing. That was a week ago today. I know that we would talk/text through the days and weeks. Mostly while at work, but still... this behavior to me is very juvenile.

I'm a believer of if you have something to say.. say it. Maybe it's the Gemini rising in me.. I don't like to beat around the bush. If I have something to say, I say it. You might not like it, but I WILL say it... same with me. I'm a big girl. I can handle it. It might hurt my feelings.. I might cry and sulk for a bit, but I'll get over it and move on with my life either with or without you.

I just can't figure this behavior out. I'm not sure if he's reacting out of fear of his feelings if he were to visit me or just totally lost interest suddenly and wants to work things out with her. Might not EVER find out.


BTW- not sure if this helps.. here's his chart:

Rising :22 Degrees-Leo

Sun: 28 Degrees-Taurus.

Moon: 19 Degrees-Libra.

Mercury:04 Degrees-Taurus.

Venus: 27 Degrees-Gemini.

Mars: 16 Degrees-Leo.

Jupiter: 06 Degrees-Cancer.

Saturn: 24 Degrees-Leo.


Uranus:13 Degrees-Scorpio.


Neptun

(Here's the rest):

Neptune is in 17 Degrees Sagittarius.

Pluto is in 14 Degrees Libra.

N. Node is in 04 Degrees Libra.

Posted by venusianbull

Pride too, that he can't pony up and pay for a visit himself, even kindly meant on your part that might have made him go "eep". If he's really old school, huge 'eep'.

Venus, what did you mean by this? Thanks for clarifying. :-)

I simply meant that it's in a man to want to take everything on his shoulders financially. This is old school man I'm talking about. One born or made, upshot is the same. If they want to do something, they'll do it on their own hook, out of own pocket. Anything else makes them fidgety or feel beholden to someone. And that simply won't do.

@ Dreamer- I have heard it's a Bull Trait.. like SUPER common. Aquas do it for solitude.
What did you say to the Bull or have you spoken to him yet? I am debating saying anything or will my LACK of saying anything Suffice. I don't want to waste my breath on someone who doesn't care.

So, I heard from the Taurus friend today. Sent him a txt today saying "Are you OK at least??" A few hours later I get a txt saying "Man, go ahead! I haven't heard from you in weeks. Not Im not fine, but I'll be okay."
I wrote back " Are you KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW? Ive been texting you for the past week and got NO response. I even wished you a happy Fathers day. NOTHING!" No response. Then I laid it out for him. I said "All of this time and I haven't heard from you at all. I'm over here worried if you are okay. All I want from you is honesty. I've been nothing but 10000% honest with you. After 16 years of being friends, I figured that's the LEAST I can have. If you are going through something, tell me. Im here- Im still your friend. I've still got your back. You keep me at arm's length ant times and then pull me close when you want to. That's not right or fair. I'm trying to be the friend you asked me to be, but you're not letting me. Im not even upset with you. I just want honesty and communication. If that's not feasible, let me know now and I'll close the door for good. I am asking for honesty and you will get the same in return."

NO RESPONSE! SO SICK of this!!! As far as I'm concerned, he can kick rocks, boulders and anything else he can find. THIS is BULL!!!! IMO, it's about respect! I can see that he has very little for me and if that's what he wants, then it's not going to work even as friends.

Venus, I think you are correct. He does seems to be acting as if he were in a relationship with me.

Posted by Freetobe007
My best friend, the person I've been closest to my entire life, is a Taurus and I know her like the back of my hand. She doesn't just disappear if it's someone she really cares about and has an interest in. If she does, it's because she's genuinely busy with life. If she disappears for more than a week with no contact, she's just not interested and trying to be nice about it. Maybe there are some other aspects affecting this behavior?

Hi Free-
He has a baby on the way w/ an ex gf. he sas he loves her, but not in love with her. He's in love with me, so he says. he said he never wanted to be out of my life again.. He told me that im the love of his life. he tells me that i have his heart, not her. they were broken up and then got back together becuase of the pregnancy. he told me that he has never told anyone about his secrets and feelings, but me. that he trusts me whole heartedly.. which is why he told me all of this. He's told me that he loves me several times. The last thing he said was that he's not happy where he is and he doesn't see the relationship he's in lasting long.

I know he works a lot.. but I'm not sure what this is about..

Then he just disappears.