@xoxo
18 YearsAquarius
My patience is wearing thin....
How Astrology Explains Taurus and Aquarius Relationship Challenges
Taurus values stability and may need more time to feel ready for cohabitation, while Aquarius seeks independence and quick progress. Understanding each other's zodiac traits can help improve communication and patience. Recognizing these differences allows couples to build a stronger relationship based on mutual respect and timing.
I don't understand what the hold up is. I mean, I understand taurus's like to take there sweet time but my patience is really wearing thin. I find is hard to believe he honestly thinks I'm "the one" if he'd rather be away from me then move in with me. I want him to want to and he says he wants to want to too but that he can't with me constantly bringing it up. I feel like im being strung along because once whatever "qualification" he has at the time is met.....he's still not ready. When I first moved in with my parents he said it would only be for a couple months and then we could find a place. I'm so over packing a bag every single week and living out of a suitcase half the time. I feel uprooted all the time. We had a serious talk and are both absolutely exhausted and frustrated with one another. We are giving each other time to think. I am considering breaking up with my taurus. The rejection I feel over this issue causes me to feel resentful which doesn't make for a healthy relationship. Also, I feel like I want a guy that is excited about moving in with me. He's 35 for christ sake! I wonder if maybe he is a commitment phobe? He's never been married. I've been feeling like I have been adapting to his wants and life style for a long time but that he's unable to do the same for me.
One thing I continue to have is hope though. A part of me believes if I would just shut up about the subject and go with the flow, things would fall into place. For whatever reason though, I haven't been able to let it go. I feel like we both want things how we want them and expect the other to conform and like we both want to be in control.
I'm not quite sure where to go from here.......my heart hurts :/ I get so excited about us finally moving in together and then he tells me he's still not ready 😢
Is this normal taurus behavior? Am I being a doormat? Am i concentrating on the negative? help please!
OMG! I have JUST finished having this talk with my Taurus too, about 20 minutes ago!
He said he wasn't ready for a number of reasons:
He doesn't have enough money - but is currently seeking another job and going on interviews.
He has to think of his kids - but will bring it up and discuss it with them with me present over the next few days.
I had a very open discussion with him and git the MAIN reason: fear of abandonment. He fears i will leave him.
However, after a good three hour talk where we have been open and honest he now says that he does want to live together, was always thinking about it but lacked the guts to do it because change scares him. Time will tell whether he gets his shit together or not.
Anyway, that's my Taurus, let's talk about yours...
I understand your frustration. I do. I really do. You hear him say he's into you, you spend all your time together etc and still you can't get the commitment you need. Ask yourself WHY you need it so much. (For me it is because I need to be in one life style or the other - me alone at home or me with him and his two children, I simply can't cope with both anymore).
Then ask him "Hey, what are you scared of? Be open with me" - and then keep your mouth shut when he finally tells you. If he says he's not scared then tell him you don't believe him.
If you feel he's not going to change his mind then you may well have to make the decision that goes "i am committed, but he isn't committing to me. Therefore I offer nothing else" - and walk away.
Many people will cling for dear life to the life they have for fear of the unknown. He may well be this kind of person. One thing you can't do is convince him. No amount of selling the idea or convincing him will make him change his mind.
Try telling him this if all else fails "I've had a think about it and I've changed my mind about living together, i don't want to". And watch him run around asking you to move in.
Can i ask please, why you giving up your job was so important?
interesting...
an aqua that wants commitment and security
a taurus that doesn't?
hmm...maybe it's not "moving in" that he needs to view you as worthy of commitment/security. career wise, what does he do?
@NZaqua: I need the commitment for the same reason you do. I have been wanting us to join our lives for a long time now. I feel like since I haven't been working or in school due to not having my license I have been able to conform to his schedule and have been staying with him for about 3 nights a week. Now that i will be in school during the day while he works nights, we will never be able to see each other. I'm not down for a relationship like that. If my life is going to be here it's going to be here, with me making it on my own.
Also, I've tried the- "I changed my mind about us living together" thing before and I've never seen someone so relieved and happy. So that didn't work :/
I'm ready to bounce. I tried calling yesterday but he hasn't called me back. I don't want to settle for less anymore. And my job was at a gentleman's club. I don't like talking about it, it was a low point in my life, and I felt I had no other option. My boyfriend couldn't deal with it (understandably) yet he still stayed with me. Maybe because at the time I was emotionally unavailable. Maybe he seeks out women who are emotionally unavailable because he is. I'm happy that your talk with you guy went well and he is considering all the positives that will come from it. Hopefully he makes it sooner then later so you won't have to feel the way that I have.
@caligula: It's weird, right? Him and I are both going against the nature of our signs lol. He is a career bartender. Works at a nice hotel that is union based and makes pretty decent money. He hasn't tried anything else although he says he wants to. Maybe that's just another red flag.
Welp, it's done. We broke up.
He wasn't the one who initiated the breakup, it was me. He didn't try to talk me out of it either. He says that I'm being selfish and spoiled......that's funny to me. I've put my wants aside for 9 months plus quit my job for him and I'm the selfish one? Krazy how manipulating men can be. Thankfully, im done getting mind effed! I've been manipulated into believing im the bad guy on way too many occasions.
It will be interesting to see where we go from here......he may think im bluffing because the idea of us breaking up is not a new one....but i always give in because i love him. In doing so, im not loving myself though. It's time to be strong and stop settling.
It's so weird how taurus are known for their desire to commit......most tauruses ive known seem to be commitment phobic! Or maybe they are just with the wrong person :/
Posted by caligula
interesting...an aqua that wants commitment and security
a taurus that doesn't?
hmm...maybe it's not "moving in" that he needs to view you as worthy of commitment/security. career wise, what does he do?
yeah i noticed this strange thing too
i think she needs to get some truth out of the taurus, get everything out in the open and transparent - know the situation
Well, she already did. She was more than honest but unfortunately don't see things eye to eye. Give and take. Two way street. She exerted all her efforts already but the other does not cooperate. Doesn't share extra effort to make things work. Both of them are in control of their "own self" and not the "relationship" itself.
you caught me, i didnt read everyone's posts haha
then what's the difficulty in the decision? maybe we can work on it together
ugh, is it normal to go through moments of regretting a break up that you initiated? I hope I did the right thing. I considered this man the love of my life 😢 It's too bad he couldn't give me what I need. I've never been so heartbroken 😢
I believe we never reached compromise in our relationship. Maybe we didn't look at it as a whole or try to see what could have be done to keep both partners happy :/
you should be honest with him and mention this to him. i think you've assumed something because of the regret you feel
with all cards on the table now, you can decide logically what is fair and correct
All cards are on the table.....I've talked myself out of breaking up many times because I try and be patient and think he will come around, but each time I become more and more disappointed. He knows exactly how i feel and i know exactly how he does :/ we're just unable to give the other what they need.
use the point that you're wishing that the other is someone else, someone with a different romantic goal and needs
you trying to fit a square like him into a circle bf that you want
he's fitting a circle like you into a square gf that he wants
this can be your vehicle for resolve
How can this be resolved? How can circles and squares both get what they want without one giving into the others needs?
Posted by xoxo
How can this be resolved? How can circles and squares both get what they want without one giving into the others needs?
sorry when i mean resolve, it means to separate reality from fantasy
circle and square dont fit, which is why ending the relationship is correct. you feel regret that you didnt find a circle to fit in but got a square
you made emotional bonds with a square instead of a circle
think maybe you could have spent the time finding a circle to make emotional bonds with just like he could have spent time to find a square to make emotional bonds with
if you care about each other, you can care that each other should find the right shape to fit with
if you give me time, i can say it more concisely, got too much in my head right now
No, that makes perfect sense. Thanks for the analogy. Do squares ever turn into circles......say after a couple weeks/months without their circle? Or are they squares for life?
Posted by xoxo
No, that makes perfect sense. Thanks for the analogy. Do squares ever turn into circles......say after a couple weeks/months without their circle? Or are they squares for life?
its best if i say you are trying to change him into someone else that is not him to love you like you want to be loved
also he is trying to change you into someone that is not you to love him like he wants to be loved
is this real love?
love means what you want to do for the other - no personal gain
it may have started off that way but the original assessment of each other was premature and you bonded without completely knowing each other
basically you need to go back a step and realise - error error error - this should not have happened, this should not have happened
its like you go to hug your mummy in a shopping centre and realise that she's not your mummy, just looks like her from behind haha
@Jangnara: thank you for the positive words. I did indeed quit my job but i will be getting unemployment while im in school. I'd be able to pay half of rent. His actions have always lead me to believe he would take a bullet for me.....despite our differences, i still believe that. I know there are plenty of men out there that would love to plan a future w me. I can't help but to think that he maybe was one of these men.....maybe he wanted to be the one to make the big decisions? Maybe all my talk about the future and moving in caused him to not want it because it wasn't his plan? Who knows!
I made the decision, I need to accept it. Do i wish he'd come to his senses, beg for me back, with an apartment to show me?.....yes. A girl can hope 😉 (No, I am not delusional, I know this is highly unlikely.)
p.s. i must have said, "we want different things" a million times to my guy. He would get soooooo annoyed and say, "we don't want different things, we want the same things! You just want them right now and I want to make sure we have all our ducks in a row first."
food for thought.
One of the many things that kept me hanging on. Like you said though, look at a mans actions- not his words.
You broke up? Oh no 😢
You did the right thing though - you did. You wanted one thing, he wanted another. If you can't get what you want and you aren't happy with the compromise then it's got to end. There comes a point whereby you feel you've done the ground work for a more committed level and although people don't always reach that point at the same time, that's something neither of you have control over.
You have needs and plans - his don't fit, but you are entitled to look after your own needs and do what you have to in order to get to the places you want to be in life.
Stay strong and remember that no matter how much you miss him, he's a part of a jigsaw puzzle in life that has a missing piece or two. There will be other pieces that will fit and you'll be able to move forward in life with what you want to do.
Hugs xx
ahhhhh! part of me feels like it was a huge mistake 😢 Both of us consider the other to not have faith in the relationship.... man oh man. All the times I've thought about breaking up, I didn't think I'd actually do it. Maybe I didn't take enough time to think about it fully. I guess it doesn't matter....it's done now.
Is it silly to think he will be back and ready? He's a very prideful man.....what if I never hear from him again 😢
the thought of him with another woman makes me want to vomit.
because you want him to love you the way you want to be loved right?
do we love for ourself or for others?
I think it may be more of a need then a want at this point, unfortunately.
do we love for ourself or for others?......Not sure exactly what you mean. I have love for myself and love for others
"Is it silly to think he will be back and ready? He's a very prideful man.....what if I never hear from him again"
So you broke up with him as manipulation.
He's not ready for what you are ready for...so you're trying to force his hand.
Trying to push us in to ANYTHING we don't want to do,will only cause us to dig in our heels,and drop our butt on the ground,not to be moved.you are not nearly powerful enough to drag a bull.
It always amazes me that people say they love someone...as long as that other person feels and acts just like they do.why is it,just because YOU are ready to live together,HE has to be? he's a unique individual,not a growth on your ass,right?
If you really love him,why not just enjoy having him in your life right now...and let him decide when he is comfortable with such a major life change?
Just a thought.
Why does everyone encourage manipulation? *SMH*
She broke up with him because he won't live with her.she says it's over....then in the same breath says....
""Is it silly to think he will be back and ready? He's a very prideful man.....what if I never hear from him again"
Heeeeellllloooooo?
digging in our heels is our nature,we can't change that.
manipulation is intentional behavior.
"We got into a huge fight, a fight I still feel guilty over because things were said and done that were damaging to our relationship. I hadn't dealt with my feelings of rejection over him not being ready and we were both extremely intoxicated."
Never argue intoxicated, fight naked. Never ends in an argument.
"The problem? I brought us moving in together (again) and he says I am pressuring him and he's not ready. It makes me so sad that we have all these circumstances between us that could easily be fixed and we would get to be together more then a couple times a week. I feel like my boyfriend is perfectly content with how things are but I am not. He tells me I'm the one he wants to end up with- that I'm the love of his life."
You left once over an argument, why wouldn't you do so again? Of course he's not ready. Ready for what? Another heartbreak? THINK WOMAN. And a commitment-phobe does not date for +1 year and tell a woman they're the love of his life. He runs like his ass is on fire with the merest whisper of 'future'.
"I feel like we both want things how we want them and expect the other to conform and like we both want to be in control."
Ermmmmmmm, yeh. Aqua & Tau; Fixed signs. Tough beans on both parts, need to find common ground.
Result? Neither of you wanting to bend even a little bit, both of you hurting over silliness ultimately. Find somewhere neutral and have a long talk. If you're in it, you're in it. All the way. And testing someones mettle ( I'd be pissed right off if my man questioned me over how I felt/time spent plodding..I AM HERE, AM I NOT? You can see me before you, proof enough. ) because you personally feel a clock ticking is not the right way to go about something. This is a test of wills. You folded. And if you continue to push and test in this manner you will find that what worked before, doesn't work so well a second time, a third. And eventually, he won't be there to test at all. Best of luck to you Aqua.
Posted by JangNara
Don't beat yourself up because of your decision. You had valid reasons why you needed to break up with him.There are many possibilities that can happen - maybe he has a plan B for both of you, maybe he has someone else, maybe he just want to be alone, etc. Do you think you know him well after this happened? Is he the same guy you fell inlove with? Do you know what he does behind closer doors or when you're not together? There are so many things to consider and if you really wanted to move in with him you should have thought about these things if moving in with him is really a big deal to you.
What has been done cannot be undone. Do not cry over spilled milk. If he comes back then its meant to be. But are you sure you want to take him back? Are you really ready to be with this man and let him change your life drastically?
Its a brand new day. Mourn for the loss of him but be sure not to lose yourself. There are plenty of men out there who can be way better than this guy. Its not worth it.
Jangnara, just wanted to let you know that what you wrote was quite beautiful. Sound advice and very, very well said.
So you broke up with him as manipulation.
He's not ready for what you are ready for...so you're trying to force his hand.
Trying to push us in to ANYTHING we don't want to do,will only cause us to dig in our heels,and drop our butt on the ground,not to be moved.you are not nearly powerful enough to drag a bull.
It always amazes me that people say they love someone...as long as that other person feels and acts just like they do.why is it,just because YOU are ready to live together,HE has to be? he's a unique individual,not a growth on your ass,right?
If you really love him,why not just enjoy having him in your life right now...and let him decide when he is comfortable with such a major life change?
Just a thought.
Why does everyone encourage manipulation? *SMH*
I didn't break up with him as manipulation. I broke up with him because if I didn't we were going to keep fighting because my resentment towards him for not wanting to progress with me was increasing month by month. Our fights were escalating and things were just all around unhealthy. I never wanted to push him or put pressure on him.....I genuinely wanted him to want what I wanted just like he wanted me to want what he wanted. I guess it comes down to a classic case or wanting different things and being on different time lines. If seeing my man once a week was something I could do without resenting him or feeling upset and lonely I would do it. God knows I tried. Yes, I questioned if he would come back to me. Is that so abnormal? I'm still in love with the guy regardless. I want us to both be able to find what were looking for and I do not him getting into something hes not ready for. I'm obviously ready for something more serious. We can't give eachother what the other needs; it's a very sad situation. I'm sure he needs a girl who can go with the flow and not put too much pressure on him to move forward. I, on the other hand, need a guy who puts me in his plans for the future. We both need things we are not getting...........It only took me 9 months and lots of disappointment to figure it out :/
Maybe we are both just too stubborn for the other. If a compromise could be reached, I'd be all over it. But everytime a compromise is reached....when the date we both decided on rolls around, he is still not ready. Therefore its not a compromise.....it's him having the relationship exactly as he's comfortable with and me continuing to not have it how I want.
wow just read some post's xoxo ... seems like the signs are reversed ... its definitely hard to see what your going thru, im an Aquarius as well & im extremely picky, some people just cant understand our signs , we love our independence & freedom but once we are stuck in some 1 we love , we put our most ultimate satisfaction in & thats when people dont understand about us, then we get treated like dirt .... I've been liking a taurus as well & im starting to see that they are defenitly not like us, very very stubborn, hard to decide on what to do, and when they want something they stick there minds to it ... but u cant help there sweetness , down to earth side & communication they give to us which is what we desire alot in our life .... just a key .. good luck with it !
Update: Reality is setting in. We are really over. I will miss us terribly. Hope we can both find what we are looking for.....Maybe he needs a more independent girl, one who doesn't need as much attention as me. Sent a couple messages back and forth; both of us want the other to be happy. Feels like a mutual decision that we are not right for each other. Reality sucks.....I really thought we would make it. I tried to ignore my needs but it didn't make for a very full filling relationship. I told him, I didn't want him getting into anything he wasn't ready for. He must agree he wasn't ready. Maybe he realized somewhere along the line that im not "the one" but I was in love and convenient. Maybe he figured he would milk it for as long as I would stand for it, knowing that when I couldn't handle things not progressing I would break up with him?
Who knows.
"im an Aquarius as well & im extremely picky, some people just cant understand our signs , we love our independence & freedom but once we are stuck in some 1 we love , we put our most ultimate satisfaction in & thats when people dont understand about us, then we get treated like dirt."
Exactly. I'm extremely picky. And he is the only man I've ever been in love with. I was 100% sure he was the guy for me.....I wanted him so badly to feel this same way about me, but his hesitation towards us moving forward together proves to me he must have had some doubts.
I never put financial demands on him. I would have been perfectly content in a tiny 1 bedroom cheap apartment. Part of me thinks maybe he dated someone 11 years younger because he figured I wouldn't have high expectations of commitment. Maybe he's perfectly content having a girlfriend but not having a partnership. You are right.....Someday I will know. Maybe it will end up being a blessing in disguise. Who knows? Maybe if i had chilled out and let things "fall into place" they would have. Lord knows I tried to do that.....to shut up and enjoy the ride. Something in my gut kept screaming "danger" though. I think my taurus has lived his whole life in "someday". Someday I'll buy a house. Someday I'll have a wife and children. Someday I'll own my own restaurant. Thats the problem with someday......before you know it, you wake up at the age of 35 alone and counting on a someday that never happens because you have to put work and effort into getting what you want out of life. Someday never comes :/
sad. 😢 I'm sad for him. and for me too. I asked him once, "don't you want to be young enough that you able to play with your children?" I wasn't trying to be mean.....I genuinely wanted to know. He said yes but his actions say no. Unless the real truth is that he just didn't want to have children with me.
His brother is 28. His girlfriend and him broke up a couple months ago. Why? Because they had been together 6 years and she still didn't have a ring on her finger. He said, if she would just chill out about it it would happen. She tried. But she was ready and wanted a life together and wanted children. It's krazy how they both have the same "chill out" personality.......Commitment phobic? Or did they both pick women who were high strung and couldn't go with the flow? hmmm. One thing I know.....What you resist, persists. The more he resisted the more I persisted. Same with his brothers girlfriend. Doesn't make for a healthy balance in a relationship.
Posted by xoxo
I think my taurus has lived his whole life in "someday". Someday I'll buy a house. Someday I'll have a wife and children. Someday I'll own my own restaurant. Thats the problem with someday......before you know it, you wake up at the age of 35 alone and counting on a someday that never happens because you have to put work and effort into getting what you want out of life. Someday never comes :/
i totally agree with you , Aquarius's, when they want things done we get them done, we have the knowledge and power from somewhere .... if we can't get them done we analyze the reasons why we couldn't get them done and work around them .. hell we might even go insane analyzing the smallest details .. but we will work it out ... , we can't sit there and wait for the time to flow ... we don't think about some day ... we have things planned years before ... we look beyond the future ... Taurus's live in the present .... no offense to you taurus people out there nobody is perfect ! ...
XOXO,
Breaking up.. You did the wrong thing honey. The reason he is delaying could be because he cares for you. Perhaps he don't want you to move in to a small house with one bedroom. Aquarius don't need comfort but Taurus especially when married need a comfortable well settled luxurious home. This may look silly but this could be a reason.
And another could be he never considered you as a soul mate. If he had, he would have told you about why he is delaying.
If I did the wrong thing, it wouldn't feel right. "Well what's gonna happen when we move in, are you gonna be happy? Or are you gonna start pressuring for marriage in a couple months?" Wow. Like wow. When he said that it proved everything.......I want to be with a man who WANTS to move in with me, marry me, etc. The fact he felt pressured to do so isint a very good sign. And yes, I tried to shut up about it and chill out FOR HIM. But I wasn't being true to myself. Just like if he were to move in with me just to keep me happy he wouldn't be being true to himself.
Although you may be right about him delaying to buy a house. These are the lines I would give myself in order to hold on to a dissatisfying situation in hopes it would change with time. It became harder and harder to live like that when all I wanted really was to see my boyfriend more then a couple times a week. I wanted to wake up next to him every day. It started to hurt too much knowing that he didn't feel the same way.
Everyones entitled to their own opinion....maybe if you were in my position you would have waited it out and a couple years from now you would have bought a house. Maybe after that he would wait 5 years to ask you to marry him. Maybe you would be okay with that. I would not. This is how i feel: "when you find the one you want to spend your life with you want your life to start as soon as possible."
what else do you women expect? guys that go for young women are in it for the dominance and manipulation. they want to feel superior, dont be so naive
i prefer 0 year age gap, preferably my own element type but at my age i might go to +/- 4yrs because on my culture those animal zodiac have more successful relationships than unsuccessful relationships. there is a +4/0/-4 relationship for success and a +/-6yrs relationship for more unsuccessful relationships
as long as you have this consideration, amethyst2002, i just find it ridiculous or delusional of women that dont want to realise it
if a guy is trying to get with a girl way beyond his range tells that his intentions aren't serious and shows that she is just a shallow manipulative, AMETHYST is completely right i share every word she said
you ZEOBLADE what you are saying is who is easier to manipulate, in your mind meaning "successful relationships" i've dated a girl my age she was an idiot who acted 15 to manipulate her would be as easy as to get you angry, age matters, but intelligence is what plays a bigger role, and come on +/- 4.32 years is successful and +/- 5.42 years is unsuccessful? seriously? firstly if there's a more than 4 year difference its just ridiculous.. and idk why but i feel like you have this range of +/-4 and you are looking for girls who are dumber than you? because if you dont feel intelligent it means the relationship will be unsuccessful? anyway, amythyst you are 100% supported here
Posted by KingOfAries
if a guy is trying to get with a girl way beyond his range tells that his intentions aren't serious and shows that she is just a shallow manipulative, AMETHYST is completely right i share every word she saidyou ZEOBLADE what you are saying is who is easier to manipulate, in your mind meaning "successful relationships" i've dated a girl my age she was an idiot who acted 15 to manipulate her would be as easy as to get you angry, age matters, but intelligence is what plays a bigger role, and come on +/- 4.32 years is successful and +/- 5.42 years is unsuccessful? seriously? firstly if there's a more than 4 year difference its just ridiculous.. and idk why but i feel like you have this range of +/-4 and you are looking for girls who are dumber than you? because if you dont feel intelligent it means the relationship will be unsuccessful? anyway, amythyst you are 100% supported here
haha what would a kid like you know about life experience? thats like a waste of a post, dont be such a fool
haha what would a kid like you know about life experience? thats like a waste of a post, dont be such a fool
well that you cant know, again assuming too much about my age
haha what would a kid like you know about life experience? thats like a waste of a post, dont be such a fool
well that you cant know, again assuming too much about my age
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you wont be able to demonstrate anything mature because your mind is underdeveloped, watch and see
haha what would a kid like you know about life experience? thats like a waste of a post, dont be such a fool
well that you cant know, again assuming too much about my age
you wont be able to demonstrate anything mature because your mind is underdeveloped, watch and see
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out of respect that you are 7 years older, but with disrespect that you are far below my intelligence, i'll just leave you in your own little world and will not argue your opinions
9*!!!
haha what would a kid like you know about life experience? thats like a waste of a post, dont be such a fool
well that you cant know, again assuming too much about my age
you wont be able to demonstrate anything mature because your mind is underdeveloped, watch and see
out of respect that you are 7 years older, but with disrespect that you are far below my intelligence, i'll just leave you in your own little world and will not argue your opinions
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haha intelligence
someone cant do maths hahahaha
intelligence hahahaha
i noticed, but that would be beneficial that he does. but need to consider he's still a kid and doesnt know any better
grow up, both of you, and my personal life is not your business, i don't know any better because i know the best, and the reason why i said 7 instead of 9 was because i confused your age with somebody else age, i guess that made you feel extremely smart as always, im glad you felt full of yourself
Posted by KingOfAries
grow up, both of you, and my personal life is not your business, i don't know any better because i know the best, and the reason why i said 7 instead of 9 was because i confused your age with somebody else age, i guess that made you feel extremely smart as always, im glad you felt full of yourself
there's no thought about me, i can add seven to nineteen just like any first grader, but you cant
and you still cant get the age difference correct haha
go back to primary school kid if you cant do arithmetic then how could you know about age differences and successful relationships. seriously you're a waste of a post
*pointing to the door* Take your discussion outside gentlemen. I'm trying to tidy up and cook here. 😛
lol I'm done wasting time
LOL Good, I'm making pot roast, mashed, gravy and a cinnamon swirl cake. So set back and relax menfolk. I've got this.
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Im in dire need of advice.....I'm either about to make a horrible mistake or do something that should have been done a long time ago.
Background: I am a 24 y/o aquarius female and my boyfriend is a 35 y/o taurus male. We have been together a year and 3 months.
Around 6 months in, I brought up the possibility of us moving in together. We were spending most of our free time together anyways and my taurus was very dissatisfied with my job (long story). I would be unable to quit my job unless we got a place together and split costs. He didn't budge, said he wanted us to be together for a year before making that leap and he wanted to be sure I had moved on from my job. At this point I was 100% he was the one for me......I couldn't see what the hold up was. I wanted to jump right in. I respected his feelings and kept my job. A year in, we have the moving in together talk. My heart dropped 😢 he said he wasn't ready. I had quit the job for him...I stopped thinking selfishly and had begun to think of us as a couple. Things have been hard for me the last year or so, I lost my license but that's a whole other story. We got into a huge fight, a fight I still feel guilty over because things were said and done that were damaging to our relationship. I hadn't dealt with my feelings of rejection over him not being ready and we were both extremely intoxicated. I decided to move home with my parents 35 mins away. Fast forward to present day: I am still living with the rents, starting esthetician school soon and will get my license back in a month. It's been extremely hard being so far away from my boyfriend. I miss him all the time. I'm so excited I get to have my freedom back and get to go to school and have a busy life again soon. I have been getting unemployment which is perfect since I will be in school. My mom mentioned that maybe it's time for me to move out. I can't do that with my income but once again....If my bf and I got a place together, It could be done. Also it would alleviate the distance between us.
The problem? I brought us moving in together (again) and he says I am pressuring him and he's not ready. It makes me so sad that we have all these circumstances between us that could easily be fixed and we would get to be together more then a couple times a week. I feel like my boyfriend is perfectly content with how things are but I am not. He tells me I'm the one he wants to end up with- that I'm the love of his life.