Does my Taurus date see me as girlfriend?

Some advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated!

I am an Aquarius woman, and have recently been seeing a Taurus guy I met on a dating site. He is really good looking, funny, friendly, and very affectoniate. He has a very hgh sex drive (which I've noticed this is what taurus guys are like after reading about them!) The only negative side I've noticed is that he is quite impatient. We have met up a few times, been for dinner, and I have stayed round his place. He showed interest very early on, hinting about seeing each other for a long while, even inviting me on holiday to visit his parents! He told me he is looking for a relationship but things had to be considered as he is finishing Uni soon and might be moving an hour away. I told him that I wanted to take things slow, as I feel rushing into things wouldn't be good (as much as would love to). We had a conversation about what we like about each other, in which he asked "so you do like me then?" and I said yes.

He texts me quite a lot, and I normally leave it to him to text first. Then one morning I got a message saying "why do I always have to text first!?" so I kinda stopped leaving it to him. When we are together he doesn't stop kissing, cuddling and holding my hand etc. Things have been really great but I have only just started to worry about things since I stayed round his place as we slept together. I have been used in the past, and I am very worried about it happening again. I told him this, in which he said he wont do that to me.

I am finding it very difficult trying to figure out what Taurus guys are like, how they act etc. He has stayed in contact with me (but not as much) since we slept together, but I'm not sure whether he sees me as an actual girlfriend and not someone he is just 'seeing'. I'm scared screwing things up as I would really love to be in a relationship with him. I don't wanna straight up ask him as I have read that Taurus guys require patience.

Do you think I should carry on seeing him and keep things as they are? or ask what his real feelings are for me?

How long have you been dating?

This story sounds very similar to a courtship I had with a Taurus guy. He came on really strong, expressed the desire to settle into a relationship on our first date. I didn't really take him serious, b/c men just talk. We continued to date and within less than a month, he asked me if I wanted to be exclusive and it took me about a week and I said yes.

No less than two weeks into the "relationship" he got too comfortable and he is a PhD student so most of his time was spent on conducting research. Through all of this, he always initiated ALL of our dates. But communication was poor, mostly text.

We stopped talking for after I left his house 3 in the morning bc he was fustrated saying he hates everything. I got the feeling he wanted to be alone so I volunteered to leave. We tslked via text briefly after that, but his language was cold and nasty. Something I don't enable at all. I cut off communication for a month.

I heard from him yesterday. Now he wants to meet and work things out. I still have some feelings for him, but I'm just not interested in rushing back into any commitments. Hes going to have to put in a lot of effort to win me over this time.

Be consistent with him but keep him on his toes. Accomplish this by being active in the courtship, but don't be available for every date he requests, challenge his mind (wout arguing! I know Aquarians love a good fight 🙂) and keep being your independent self.

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How long have you been dating?

This story sounds very similar to a courtship I had with a Taurus guy. He came on really strong, expressed the desire to settle into a relationship on our first date. I didn't really take him serious, b/c men just talk. We continued to date and within less than a month, he asked me if I wanted to be exclusive and it took me about a week and I said yes.

No less than two weeks into the "relationship" he got too comfortable and he is a PhD student so most of his time was spent on conducting research. Through all of this, he always initiated ALL of our dates. But communication was poor, mostly text.

We stopped talking for after I left his house 3 in the morning bc he was fustrated saying he hates everything. I got the feeling he wanted to be alone so I volunteered to leave. We tslked via text briefly after that, but his language was cold and nasty. Something I don't enable at all. I cut off communication for a month.

I heard from him yesterday. Now he wants to meet and work things out. I still have some feelings for him, but I'm just not interested in rushing back into any commitments. Hes going to have to put in a lot of effort to win me over this time.

Be consistent with him but keep him on his toes. Accomplish this by being active in the courtship, but don't be available for every date he requests, challenge his mind (wout arguing! I know Aquarians love a good fight 🙂) and keep being your independent self.

Thank you so much for the reply. We first started talking only two weeks ago, thats why I was a bit taken back at how fast and how strong he came across!

Yes your situation does sound very similar to mine, I very much agree he is going to put some effort to win you back this time! by 'being active' in the courtship, do you mean going out seeing other friends etc? As my friends are mostly guys i noticed he seemed to get a little jealous when I told him I was out for lunch with one of them.

My main fear is saying the wrong thing, putting him off, or him losing interest and talking to other girls. So far his interest has mainly been on me, but im unsure. He has hardly texted me today, and I'm unsure to keep initating a conversation or to just leave him to it, wait for him to contact me?

Hes interested, so your doing everything right. Try not to overthink this. Its good that you have male friends and he knows. A little healthy competition between your suitors is actually more helpful than you may realize. It adds value to you, if he knows others are interested, there must be a reason. Men want someone they have to win over. This can be subtle. Of course, you dont want to give him a reason to be too jealous.


Be active, as in spend time with him, but don't rearrange your schedule to do so as I alluded to earlier.

Don't worry about saying the wrong thing. Our differences in personality is what makes us interesting to each other. Be subtley sassy. Most men secretly enjoy this. I think its OK to text first, just try to make this a habit. He may become to comfortable with it and start backsliding.

Try not to make a habit^^^^

Yeah, the only time I go out with other male friends is for a lunch or for a drink in the evening. I really appreciate your advice, I'm really not good with this dating thing!! I never know when i am texting too much or too less. Maybe I am just over thinking things.

I'm mainly like this cos the last guy I dated lost interest in me after sleeping together and started talking to other girls which really hurt, and I'm just worried about the same thing happening again!