Feeling insecure with Taurus-Advice please (:

Hello. So...I'm struggling with his more silent nature. I would say I'm more of the initiator. I know he cares about me, but sometimes his stubborness/occasional princess attitude pisses me off. Don't get me wrong, I love this guy. Heart and soul of gold. A REALLY good person. Helps me, is a good friend, comes with me to church...but other times can be pushy, stoic, and entitled. Which seems like quite the opposite. And he only does that moody crap with me haha. It bothers me a bit when I will text him something and the doesn't write back. Just little things. But in reality, he wants to see me atleast every other day, and travels pretty far to see me. When I try to talk with him, I've found he's not great at expressing himself through words, and really his words are confusing me more. He told me I was so sweet, but other times so difficult. But more sweet. I was like thats interesting bc this is how you are to me. I said, Im sorry , I wish I could be simpler for you, but this is me. And I was like, " Can you deal with my moods?" He said I don't know I mean so far so good. He was being honest, but for some reason that made me feel off balance. I wondered, do I have too much at stake? Is he really down for me?

He's supposed to join me today, but will let me know soon because he has to help his mother with some things. Any insight? I'm not even sure if I'm making any sense at all... just feeling 'off'

I feel your pain so much, after recently breaking up with my taurus.

They are very quiet and withdrawn and depending on your sign and personality can drive u nuts?

I was constantly thinking wtf is up with him? And getting nothing back.

A lot of people on here can really help u understand a taurus and many say they always communicate even in there silence, you just have to listen

They need a lot of time and space to think and ponder

i think im the one that needs space. just called him and he's a bit ridiculous in his thinking that the world revolves around him. i'm like well, u said you would let me know what was up at noon..and u didn't so here i am annoyed. (mind you this is for something he invited himself to) he's like yea i forgot sorry...oh, i think i can make it but i'm doing a-z for my family so i will try to get it done and come to the late serivce with you. these aren't excuses he's being true. then he's like, well if you don't have any plans maybe you could come this way and i would get it done faster. he lives like 1.5 hours away on the the train...and he thinks i have 'no plans' and will go sit with him and watch him work on someones computer and do his listings, and then maybe miss my own plans?! WHAT! way inconsiderate. on the pros, he is helping his family, and trying to make it..honestly. but his methods are no appreciated as he has kind of screwed up my mood and day. number one pet peeve is when someone does not do what they say they will. i have learned my lesson. no waiting on him ever. i am making plans and if he can join cool, if not..cool.

Hahaha yes they defiantly think the world revolves around them! And it's there way or no way!

Posted by Mikell
Keep your calm

few words and simple. u must be a taurus haha. i did keep calm, and different things surfaced. hes going through a lot and that put my big fat ego into check and i switching instantly into just wanting to be a good friend/support system.

giiirrrllll, emotional rollercoaster is what you will find yourself on.

My newfound ways in dealing with my Taurus friend.

1. Focus on myself. Ways Id like to improve....visioning who I want to be....Im far from her, especially spiritually, and just doing things that make me feel good. Im VERY into details like you, and its the simple things Ill analyze to death. I feel if you cant get the simple ish right..like ummm, a little consideration please! thank u...then *sigh*.....I just find signs in the details, and that bothers me something horrible.
But, when Im irritated, Im slowly learning to do inner work...its not all his fault...as well as think of projects/hobbies I want to work on. Pampering myself helps too. Funny imo, how he's responding better since my focus is shifting off of him.

2. Also figure Ill keep being nice despite whatever, putting myself out there when I feel the desire, letting him respond however he choose, so if it gets to a point where Im done, then Ill be done with no regrets or looking back. Ive had regrets in the past with our situation....I want none this time around....nor do I want any lingering feelings. This probably seems like a more negative view of the fate of our situation, but its a reality that things could go extremely sour at this point. Theres no real security, sooo...
I figure working on myself and my issues while riding the waves will either prepare me for what we can potentially have, or prepare me for the next guy. Either way win win.

I love my little boo to pieces, but like my ma and sis say..."he gets cuter everytime we see him".....yet Im poppin out grey hairs once a week. Naahh, the stressin is not worth it, especially when there are no guarantees, titles, rings etc.

Stick in there, relax, and get that mind on something else if you can.

Thanks IN. Agree with all of that. Honestly though, he's not an emotional rollercoaster. Usually he's a rock to me. Always happy. He can be withdrawn at times, but mostly pretty consistent. After I found out what was going on with him, it's pretty easy to switch out of my own insecurities into being a good friend to him. It's good bc this time I get to be there for him and be positive to him (as he has done many times for me).


"I love my little boo to pieces, but like my ma and sis say..."he gets cuter everytime we see him".....yet Im poppin out grey hairs once a week. Naahh, the stressin is not worth it, especially when there are no guarantees, titles, rings etc."

Amen to that. This is exactly how I was feeling. At this point we are still a really positive influence in one anothers lives, but there are no guarantees. I'm wanting to leave this state. So..who knows. He was so sad yesterday. But in the middle of the night sent me a sweet little email. To see a drained Taurus is almost as said as seeing a drained Leo. All that beautiful light just disappears. I feel for him. But I also have stuff to do 😉