Help?

Ok to start off i'm an Aries female. I went to dinner with a male friend of mine who brought his friend who is a Taurus. From the moment that we were introduced I knew that he thought I was pretty.

Surely enough as the evening progressed he got closer and closer to me. At one point a female started to hit on him and even offered him her hotel room number; but that's when he came back to me; he apologized for leaving my side ( I didn't mind) and asked if he could kiss me.

The mutual friend had to leave early so he and I stayed out later together wherein he paid for everything; and yes kissing was involved; but he was very blunt with me; telling me that he wanted to date me and get to know me; but he felt that I wasn't interested. I neither agreed nor negated that comment. He brought me home like a gentleman and even waited while I changed so we can have breakfast together before I went to work (yes this was about 530am).

In the cab and even at breakfast he kept mentioning that he was confused on why he was still with me; and I would say "you can go if you'd like" and he said "I'll go only if you want me to go."

It all ended with a kiss on the cheek; (a co-worker was near by) and he mentioned he would ask my friend for my number (HE DIDN'T ASK FOR MY NUMBER!!!) My co-worker noticed that he couldn't take his eyes off of me... and asked if he and I were dating.

It's been about 2 days and I haven't heard from him and I'm don't want to ask our mutual friend about it.

I felt like he was very much interested in me; a bit suffocating; but I walked away knowing that he was interested... am I wrong?

OH! and the entire evening he was perfect gentleman; it didn't feel at all like he was just trying to sleep with me; in fact there was a lot of hand holding and cuddling..

sounds like typical aries female behavior....you don't necessarily want him... just want HIM to want YOU..... no offense because I don't know you, but I have known a LOT of aries...and the women in particular [every one of them] has been like this.... they may not be interested in a guy, or even just mildly interested in him, but the important thing is that he must be head over heals for him or she gets upset and goes after him until he's beggin g for her...then walks away perfectly content...until she notices him losing interest again... it's a tug of war, and the aries female [in general] is happy when all the men around her are enamored with her....even if she doesn't want to be with them....

remember that areis is the first sign of the zodiac, the "baby". And their mantra is "me first".

Please listen to merc [greatbull] and if you're not interested in this guy please don't drag his heart through the mud, because we bulls take our hearts VERY seriously......

*he must be head over heels for her

He probably did/does like you, but your somewhat (appearingly) non chalant attitude may have made him take a step back. Your banter "You can go if you'd like" met by his response "I'll go only if you want me to go," was him trying to gauge your level of interest while also seeking some reassurance that YOU wanted him to stay. Just from what you wrote, I'm sure he was confused as to where this was going. He may or may not ask your mutual friend for your number. If you inquire to your mutual friend about him and he finds out, he probably would ask you out again. But as Greatbull said, if you're not interested you shouldn't waste his time.

LOL, why "13" minutes GB?

I gotcha' now GB, I guess 13 min would be enough time for an exit strategy! Agreed Ferdy. My dad is an Aries (we don't get along at all) and one of my best friends ex gf's was an Aries and our personalities clashed BIG time. He begged me to be nice to her 🙂(and I was - begrudgingly) thankfully they aren't together anymore. I always just thought it was just me, but maybe our traits and theirs just don't mesh *shrugs*

#1 thanks everyone for helping me! you guys have clarified a lot.

in all honesty; it wasn't that i wasn't interested. i was.. actually still am; it was all too much for the first night ever meeting him; hearing him say to me that he would try not to hurt me and wants to date me... i was flattered of course; but it was A LOT you know? almost suffocating.

he added me on myspace (i requested with a note asking if he got home okay) and he messaged back he got home in time to get some sleep before having to go to work; but he had fun... i replied back that i was happy he had fun (stupid i know).

the thing is i just want to get to know him; i had a great time on that first night but i can't make up my mind completely after one night! 😢

i read his message as a bit cold towards me; should i just message him my # or is that too forward?

yeah....sounds like an aries.... the tone of your first message was that you weren't interested in him but found the whole situation amusing and were ddisappointed that he didn't ask for your number and chase after you.... but after everyone told you to leave him alone you've changed your story and really are interested in him.... I went back and read it again to see if it looked like maybe I misread your intentions the first time... but no, it still looks very much like you weren't at all interested, just hurt that he backed off....

I don't trust aries women at all...especially around men.... my ex pisces was with one before he and I started dating, they were together for like 6 or seven years, even engaged, and she kept leaving him and coming back when he found a new girlfriend. She tried to do the same when he was with me, then another aries chick came along and knew full well he had a girlfriend and went after him anyway...and then forbid him to even remain friends with me. Then she left him and when he found another girlfriend after her she has kept coming back and cheating with him......it may seem like I'm just bitter towards aries women in general, but this is typical of all the aries women I've ever known. You guys only want something if you don't have it and/or someone else has it....

I suggest you go find a man you're actually interested in and let this one find someone who is interested in him as well.....

i'm sorry that the aries women you have met in your life haven't been the better sort. I can say i've never done that to anyone; when i leave i leave... thanks for re-reading my message again for the benefit of a doubt; but you have to understand; i felt like i had to make a choice right then and THERE...

as much as i'm impulsive as the next aries; i've been very very hurt in my life, (and i have a cancer moon) so i'm just very cautious.

yesss. it does... i'm very cautious

well calypso, I appreciate your ability to be objective. I'm glad you're not that type of aries; and I believe you because you can look through pages of posts here where someone told an aries [female] something they didn't want to hear and they threw a temper tanturm.

Well if you honestly like him then just keep in mind that we are careful about deciding to show we even LIKE someone and if he's already making you feel like you have to make a decision...well that's how we are. Very black and white, there is no in between. He won't like the idea of casually dating...so if that's your idea of getting to know someone...beware.....

We bulls are very possessive and when we decide to make you "ours" we expect you to be OURS.

oooookay. so should i message him my number.. or let him come to me? i dont want to step on his toes anymore..

i'm just a bit scared that he took it as i wasn't interested.. you know?

my advice is be honest. Tell him that you're afraid he took that way and you didn't mean it that way. You really have to spell it out for us "I-L-I-K-E-Y-O-U". Unless you tell us directly how you feel we won't take the hint. We're very direct creatures. Which you have already realized, I'm sure, based on his behavior when you met.