Heartless Gemini Male

okay I have an issue with this gemini male...i am of course an aries woman and me and him have been friends for about 2 years....appeared to be a cool guy and very respectable...well I made the mistake of having sex with him...gosh it was great but he totally changed after that....i thought we connected but he of course disconnected...so the more I tried to pursue him the worst he treated me..i mean really smart remarks...he states I was whinning to much to him and it turned him off....And the things I would say was hey baby, or miss you, or want you...he considered that whinning.....anyway this saturday he totally told me not to call him, not to email him, or come to his house. So you know that was all it took...but then he text me two to three times the next day saying oh I miss you and can you come by—?? I mean really stupid games... I mean when he told me not to call him anymore I really put closure to it...why is this guy playing games like this...which I did ask him...You know he said? Oh disregard those texts that it came from his phone but it wasnt him.....can anyone give me their perspective on this—

what i can see from what you have posted that he is not truly interested in you for a long term relationship - perhaps only a "booty call" now and then.

Let's look at what transpired in this relationship - see if what you did worked, if so...keep doing it - if not, make mental notes to change your behaviour for the next lesson/experience/relationship.

* "the more I tried to pursue him the worst he treated me." ----> men do NOT like to be pursued, they want to do the pursuing - it is in their nature. the fun and excitement was taken from him so....he shared his HONEST thoughts with you.

with my above statement i will say that there are men who do like to be pursued but....this is usually ONLY for a booty call - an ego trip for them - and once they get what they wanted it is vanishing time till their male hormones begin to stir.

* "anyway this saturday he totally told me not to call him, not to email him, or come to his house." ------> he let you know where you stand with him. respect his wishes and move on. no begging here, no asking what happened because if he said these words to you, you really do not want to go any further with him as it will only become a game - push/pull. a man who truly cares about a woman will NOT ever utter those words. do not accept his calls, texts - if he does try to contact you and you choose to respond, you will not have entered into his "game world" (which you have already recognized - smart arien woman you are 😉) keep your dignity and scramble outta there Lady!

so...this is my perspective my fellow arien lady.

My other honest perspective regarding this issue is that this is about YOU and not him hon. When you come into your womanly power this type of experience will be null and void in your world. Be grateful for this experience dward and begin to focus on you - you will be so glad that you did 😉

Next!

the thing about guys - they want a relationship with no pressure, a relationship that is fun, no one coming after them

corrections -

if he does try to contact you and you choose to respond, you will not have entered into his "game world"

needs to read: if he does try to contact you and you choose to respond, you WILL have entered into his "game world"

and that sentence on the bottom? ET must have slipped that one in 😉

thanks freebird for your feedback...ive been totally crushed behind this hold ordeal....but ive already made up my mind that i am done with this.....its just makes me feel better to talk about it....cant really talk to someone i know because I am soooo embarassed....never had that kind of rejection before.

you are very welcome dward. I understand wanting to vent - good for the soul 😉 hey, do not beat yourself up about this and rejection? ah...no biggie - change your thought about it - if you keep thinking that you have been "rejected" than you are putting yourself in the role of being a victim which you clearly are not!

all this was, was an experience that you needed to have. focus on how smart YOU are to have gotten left that situation, brave enough to move on. focus on your great qualities and keep focusing on them.

no such thing as "rejection" unless YOU choose for there to be 😉

you go girl!

Another correction - i am typing on alien keys today hee hee

focus on how smart YOU are that you were able to have left that situation.

hope that makes better sense.....

::scoots off to locate alien spray::

freebird...what is the deal with men these days? Why is relationships all about games,games, and more games? I just want to love someone honestly and respectfully...not have them chase me or play hard to get to prove something...its becoming very emotionally exhausting...and now feel like my self esteem is slowly being eaten away.

hmmmm...

"what is the deal with men these days?" ----> perhaps you may be focusing too much on them? focus on you and your needs.

"Why is relationships all about games,games, and more games?" -----> because there are lessons to be learned by you. begin looking and thinking of relationships as an opportunity to explore - learning more about what you like and do not like - we live in a world of contrast. Relationships, jobs, circumstances show up so that we can know what we like and this is what we need to be focusing on - what we desire.

"I just want to love someone honestly and respectfully..." ----> this must begin with you first. Learn to love yourself honestly and respectfully - this needs to come from the inside and then you will begin to attract what you are.

"its becoming very emotionally exhausting" ----> pay attention to YOUR feelings, they are telling you something. get off that path and onto one where you are experiencing feelings of joy. (this will be you creating these joyful moments by doing what you like)

"and now feel like my self esteem is slowly being eaten away." ----> yes, this will happen when one begins to look outside for ways to be acknowledged, loved, happy ect. back to getting in touch with you is what is truly important for your self esteem.

be kind and gentle with yourself - this experience of life is a gift to you for you. You are a treasure and now, you need to find that treasure within.

freebird you should be a psychic girl...thanks for being so honest...and guiding me into self worth..I think i'll go and work out tonight and release some of this negative energy. God Bless you!

you are so right emerald...but check this out he text me again saying hi....this whole thing is so stupid.....i text him these exact words "you ask me not to call you or text you or email you...so can you show me the same f**king courtesy and lose my number"