How do you reject someone who is attracted to you?

In a kind & merciful way. And hoping not to complicate our relationship but remain as friends? He is my new colleague & we have met just a month ago. I have always maintained platonic behaviours towards him but it seems like he is starting to become really restless towards me. He has a live-in girlfriend & last Friday he told me he is considering a break-up with his girlfriend because the relationship is frustrating for him. Earlier about 2 weeks ago, I had actually told him that I see him as my little brother, that he reminds me of my actual younger brother, & he in turn also said that he sees me as his older sister. He is 6 years younger than me. He, of course, has not said anything about liking me but I could sense from all the subtle behaviours that he is attracted to me. I hate to let this young boy thinks he could have any chance with me if he breaks up with his girlfriend.

How exactly to use this 'friendzone' tactic?

I have verbally told him I see him as my younger brother & actually many times when he asked me about my ideal boyfriend, I boldly told him I'm looking for someone rich & able to spoil me (knowing he is not) 🙂

I have to remain friendly & supportive with my colleague because we work in the same small team.

What's both of your signs or birthdate?

And it seems you'll just have to keep reminding him subtly and have no "lunch dates" if he finally comes out and says he likes you more than friends...then it will be time to be blunt that it will never happen and please stop. Since subtle won't work at that point.

First things first- ask yourself. If this person ignored me, how would it feel? I used to reject every lad i met that didnt wow me. Until i met this one virgo guy who i rejected several times & then all of a sudden hed see me and he would just walk past me wout even saying hi. Now theres days when i just cant get him out of my head. Ik that well eventually get together (my intuition tells me) , but the process is killing me lmfao

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Posted by notafollower
First things first- ask yourself. If this person ignored me, how would it feel? I used to reject every lad i met that didnt wow me. Until i met this one virgo guy who i rejected several times & then all of a sudden hed see me and he would just walk past me wout even saying hi. Now theres days when i just cant get him out of my head. Ik that well eventually get together (my intuition tells me) , but the process is killing me lmfao

you're nuts.

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& proud ! Lmao

I have been vague all this while but I guess I am becoming anxious now that he is telling me he plans to break up with his girlfriend.

A few days before this, he has even the audacity to openly show anger at me & even another colleague could see he was throwing tantrum. He sought my attention & when he didn't get it as expected, he became moody.

I am trying to keep a friendly & platonic relationship with a male colleague who seems to be attracted to me beyond what I could offer.

We are both Taurus suns. I noted he has Venus in Gemini which is my Mars, & probably I had been very stimulatingly reacting to him. And he has Mars in Cancer, which I am slowly observing from his tantrum throwing behaviours.

notafollower, I know very well the consequence & I have decided I could not offer this colleague what he is expecting. I believe to treat him fairly & not for my selfish reason of feeding my ego & if he chooses to ignore me in the future, I will have to live with it.

It is easy to avoid & ignore other guys & let them be, but it is a little trickier with this colleague because we are close by circumstance because we would have to see each other every day & work closely with each other. I could not just ignore this colleague like how I could with other guys & not take their emotions into account.

I think you are overthinking. Just keep being neutral. Now About him breaking up with his gf, that is his problem and choices. I feel like you don't have to approach him with a "rejection" statement because he hasn't necessarily approach you with that conversation yet. When he does then just turn him down and continue with life.

Okie... I foresee having to go through many moody phases from him...

I will try my best not to think of myself being accountable although it feels horrible.

I try not to overthink... Haha! I just happened to notice he changed his WhatsApp photo to a picture of his hot packs when I had just changed mine yesterday to a chic photo of myself. But okay... I will just pretend like nothing is related to me.

Hm just do your own thing, not worth it for you. It takes time, effort, and patience, that one is a no no... Is it really a good site to be on what's app?

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How exactly to use this 'friendzone' tactic?

I have verbally told him I see him as my younger brother & actually many times when he asked me about my ideal boyfriend, I boldly told him I'm looking for someone rich & able to spoil me (knowing he is not) 🙂

Lmfao

IMO best way to friendzone is talk about someone else you like. Can't make it more clearer than that,even if they are a celebrity.