How jealous...

...are you? I was thinking about it the other day, as my Cappy friend never, ever gets jealous. And I seem to get jealous over the slightest thing and she's constantly telling me to get over it.

I know it's only natural that everyone gets jealous at some point in their relationships, but for Taureans, it seems to be a major sticking point at times. So what are your jealousy triggers? How have your partners reacted to seeing you jealous or are you very good at hiding it?

Me personally, triggers include; my partner talking about how attractive someone else is, them liking a certain thing about someone that I can never have/be, I have even been jealous of someone fancying someone off tv (which was ridiculous, but he did go on and on about her), talking about exes (not ex-gf's, but specfically people they have slept with. Why there's that definition I don't know).

Some partners have liked it (Pisces) but others seem to be really offended by it, especially when I was younger and I didn't have the intelligence to hide it like I do now. At times, I show it, but only as a way of establishing boundaries if needs be, which is thankfully rare. Otherwise, partners are shocked when I tell them I have such a strong jealous streak. So I can hide it, but inside I'm going mental. And then it plays on my mind over and over, which isn't healthy!

Oh, another major trigger is again stupidly specific; flirting with other women, but..only if they are not naturally flirty people. I had one guy who told me straight away that he was a massive flirt and I was never overly jealous but I've had other guys who are not even flirty with me, their own gf, yet have flirted with other people and I went mad. Strange.

Yeah DB, as I got more hurt from showing my jealousy I learned how to not show it.

And I know exactly what you mean about being pretty cool in the beginning until I've fallen for them, then suddenly it's jealousy central!! But on the flipside, as soon as I'm losing interest in someone I stop feeling any jealousy. My exes have never picked up on this though.

This is the one trait of being a Taurus that I hate the most though, it has destroyed past relationships for me and made me look like a loon. It can be so hard to control. And another problem I have with it is that it blinkers my view of someone, so I can end up convinced that someone is cheating or will cheat, because my jealousy is so strong. At it's worst, it controls most of my thoughts and makes me twist the most innocent of behviours into something horrible. It can be so destructive. I sometimes wish that instead of having to control it, I could get rid of it's intensity. I'm such a rational, laidback person in general that it bothers me that I can sometimes be so controlled by such a negative emotion.

"Another thing I noticed is that when I'm getting into a relationship I do not get jealous over little things in the early stage, but those same little things I was cool with in the beginning will start to makes me jealous after I fall for the guy!

I'm not typically a jealous person about much of anything; however, that statement above rings true with me...though I hate to admit it! 😉

When I am not seriously into someone, I don't give two hoots what they do, but if I fall for them I do let little insecurities come through that I really shouldn't. I'm a highly skeptical person anyway,so if I let someone into my realm and they start doing things to make me feel insecure, I get very upset. I think for me, it's because I've given them something that I don't share with a lot of people and then when they betray that, it makes me angry - but angry at myself for being naive to even trust them in the first place, which makes me question my judgment!

"which makes me question my judgment!"

Exactly!!! I get that too. Once the jealousy has reared it's head, I don't know whether the thoughts and feelings I'm having are correct and that my partner is a s**thead or if it's just me making these things up. It makes me very uncomfortable. It's like, once a person has done something to make me question them, I can forgive them, but I'll never forget it. God, I must be one spiteful b***h to go out with ha ha!!!

One specific time comes to mind. I thought my ex might have cheated on me (he hadn't at all!) and I was raging on the phone to my Cappy friend about how I was worried most about him making me look like a idiot by cheating on me. She basically told me that it'd be him who'd look the idiot and to not stress about it. I try to think of that whenever I start feeling the jealousy rising about that specific thing.

Funnily enough though, while I can get jealous, I'm not possessive in the slightest, I have never had any issues with my partners going out on their own with friends and stuff.

TOTALLY! Once I lose that loving feeling it would be damn near an impossibility to get it back.

Posted by copperhead
...are you? I was thinking about it the other day, as my Cappy friend never, ever gets jealous. And I seem to get jealous over the slightest thing and she's constantly telling me to get over it.

I know it's only natural that everyone gets jealous at some point in their relationships, but for Taureans, it seems to be a major sticking point at times. So what are your jealousy triggers? How have your partners reacted to seeing you jealous or are you very good at hiding it?

Me personally, triggers include; my partner talking about how attractive someone else is, them liking a certain thing about someone that I can never have/be, I have even been jealous of someone fancying someone off tv (which was ridiculous, but he did go on and on about her), talking about exes (not ex-gf's, but specfically people they have slept with. Why there's that definition I don't know).

Some partners have liked it (Pisces) but others seem to be really offended by it, especially when I was younger and I didn't have the intelligence to hide it like I do now. At times, I show it, but only as a way of establishing boundaries if needs be, which is thankfully rare. Otherwise, partners are shocked when I tell them I have such a strong jealous streak. So I can hide it, but inside I'm going mental. And then it plays on my mind over and over, which isn't healthy!

I agree and I'm a cancerain, that's why i say i could never can do a open relationship because I'm really jealous and possessive meaning i can't picture anyone else having what i have so yeah i agree with you.

"I agree and I'm a cancerain, that's why i say i could never can do a open relationship because I'm really jealous and possessive meaning i can't picture anyone else having what i have so yeah i agree with you."

This is obviously why everyone says Taurus and Cancer get on so well!!! I need to find me a Cancer who can understand my jealousy...

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
p.s they sure do understand jealousy, however I am not sure if they like it...I am just thinking-if taurus and scorpio are the best matches for cancer then does that mean they do appreciate jealousy because taurus and scorps are the most jealous out of all the signs right....hmmm (ponderland)...

I actually like jealousy, the Taurus that i was talking to before was my my close friend and i don't know if it was funny or not but i use be jealous of her and she found that amusing, however she never complained about it.

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
Dream you like it when your girl gets jealous? The taurus friend of yours actually found it amusing lol...I find jealousy adorable its kinda cute! I think all taurus like it upto a certain extent. And I think with scrops it's the more jealous you get the more they like it...so how is it with cancerians dream, how much of it do you like it?

I like all jealousy even they feel like they want to beat my ass 😛 i feel secure knowning that I'm the only they need and no one else...that's the main thing i look for in relationship is "Security" and of course Love.

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
So I guess cancerians can handle the taurus' jealousy cos some of us have it real bad lol. Some of us get so jealous that we don't even appreciate a female friend sweet talkin our man lol man I know I get really jealous like if life is legoland I'd wana pick them sweet talking lego piece and throw them out LOL.

LOL!!!!! I'm the same way!

i am the same way.....the only time i get jealous is when i feel threatened n the relationship.that is when the insecurities come out.as long as my mate make me feel safe,im reserved laid back he could b cheating and i dont even know it but when the suspiscion starts,,its pretty much down hill from there

"i am the same way.....the only time i get jealous is when i feel threatened n the relationship.that is when the insecurities come out.as long as my mate make me feel safe,im reserved laid back he could b cheating and i dont even know it but when the suspiscion starts,,its pretty much down hill from there"

That is me to a "T". I have told men before, "Look, I'm not a babysitter, you are a grown a $ $ man. If you need somebody to watch you to keep you from doing something, then get a babysitter and pay her $ 10.00 an hour, because watchin' your a $ $ is not my job!"

Some laugh and think I'm playing, but the others' (Scorpios in particular), know I am telling it like it is and they don't play with me. I don't go out looking for bad things, but when it's put in my face and/or I find something out - I handle SWIFTLY and move on. The thing I've learned about men is that in handling issues like, infidelity (for example), you have to follow through if you say you are going to do something; otherwise, they don't respect you and will continue the bad behavior. Case in point, if you tell a child that you are going to discipline them if they take candy out of the candy dish; but you find out they are, and you don't discipline them, then guess what? They will continue taking candy. The same goes w/men. If you rail on and on about leaving them if you find out they are cheating/lying, etc, and you find out they are but don't do anything about it...guess what? They will more than 90% do it again, because they know you aren't going to leave and/or do anything about it.

"Sad cuz there were times where being together was natural, just natural."

That's the thing - Earth signs can be so natural being with, but as you said, the jealousy and stubborness really CAN get in the way. I can't speak for all Taurus people, but I am not jealous for jealousy sake. You (the person I'm with) have to give me a reason to feel that way. I'm pretty liberal, because I too have a lot of male friends, so I don't automatically jump to bad conclusions because men have female friends. What I DO take offense to, is if their M.O (modus operandi sp?) changes. Meaning, if you are a person that always has their phone/blackberry, etc glued to your hip and answer every call/msg, etc w/in moments - yet, when I call there is a long, long, long, reply time. That will pique my curiosity. Obviously, everyone can't be accessible 24/7, and I am old enough and reasonable enough to realize that; however, if for a year of dating, you always either a. answer my calls or b. respond in a reasonable time frame, but then change and start not answering and/or not returning calls within a reasonable timeframe, my eyebrows are raised and I am on notice that something may be awry and just not right. That's the problem, Taureans pretty much are creatures of habit, so if something changes unexpectedly, we will roll with the flow, but we are not necessarily going to be happy about it, and if we see something is negative coming out of the changes we are definitely NOT going to be receptive. My caution to any person dating most Taurus folk is that if you are going to change something up, give us some advance notice - I'm not saying you are "asking permission" you are just letting us know that something has changed. We will appreciate the honesty and pretty much not pay any additional attention to it, but, don't blindside us...it can get ugly - quickly! LMAO.

"I can't speak for all Taurus people, but I am not jealous for jealousy sake. You (the person I'm with) have to give me a reason to feel that way. I'm pretty liberal, because I too have a lot of male friends, so I don't automatically jump to bad conclusions because men have female friends. What I DO take offense to, is if their M.O (modus operandi sp?) changes. Meaning, if you are a person that always has their phone/blackberry, etc glued to your hip and answer every call/msg, etc w/in moments - yet, when I call there is a long, long, long, reply time. That will pique my curiosity. Obviously, everyone can't be accessible 24/7, and I am old enough and reasonable enough to realize that; however, if for a year of dating, you always either a. answer my calls or b. respond in a reasonable time frame, but then change and start not answering and/or not returning calls within a reasonable timeframe, my eyebrows are raised and I am on notice that something may be awry and just not right."

This is so true, I am dealing with something similar right now, and the Sag just doesn't understand why I'm questioning him. He is taking forever to reply to texts, whereas before, he replied straight away. He thinks I'm being paranoid and is ultra defensive, when all I did was mention if something was up because he was taking forever to reply. Now THAT right there is reason enough for my guard to come up, and once it's up it's difficult to bring back down. So I imagine I'll be losing interest quite rapidly.

"He is taking forever to reply to texts, whereas before, he replied straight away. He thinks I'm being paranoid and is ultra defensive, when all I did was mention if something was up because he was taking forever to reply. Now THAT right there is reason enough for my guard to come up, and once it's up it's difficult to bring back down. So I imagine I'll be losing interest quite rapidly."

EXACTLY - and you should be cautious. I'm not saying anything is going on; however, you don't want to be blindsided with your head in the sand.

Posted by Ike
I think leo , scorp and taurus are the most jealous . We all have the huge egos and intense passionate feelings going on .

Yeah, you are right IKE, I know I have a HUGE EGO. Most who know me may not realize it that much because I temper my feelings pretty well, but I really do have a ego problem sometimes, and I am VERY passionate. The odd thing is I never thought I had a huge ego until I dated the Leo, and we clashed so much because of it; in the respect that neither one of us wanted to fully give 100% of ourselves. I really believe that our egos (among another HUGE issue) was the true demise of our relationship. I tried to go outside of my comfort level for him, but I never felt he did the same for me. You only have one time (well, maybe two 😉) to make an a $ $ of me - after that, I'm done.

@ Sagigoat - I totally agree that jealousy can be a relationship killer. A healthy amount of jealousy is ok, but most people can't do that.

"years later I'd still be making that extra effort as if we just met but the guy would just get so comfy"

Yes DaBull, this has nothing to do with jealousy, but I agree with you totally that not just guys, but people in general get "comfortable" and don't go that extra mile. Obviously it would be impossible to sustain that same level of passion and involvement that I think most people tend to have at the onset of a relationship, but I think that keeping a "spark" is imperative to sustaining a relationship. Also, I know people like to just tell their partner - EVERYTHING, but I think there is something to be said for someone not knowing everything -it leaves an air of mystery. I was with my ex-fiance for like 7 years, and every year he would be surprised of some things he didn't know about me, and I always kept myself up and didn't lapse into that "I don't have to take care of myself cause I got a man" mentality. I want to look good for ME - nobody else. Them appreciating it is just a bonus 😉 Grrrr, at one of my jobs I had, there were these women who had men married for like a million years and they were yuck. They would say stuff like, "I've been married too long to care anymore. I have him now, so I don't have to impress him." I SOOO, do not believe in that. Some may thing it's shallow, but I just think it's putting your best foot forward and taking care of yourself.

"thing" = "think" LOL

Posted by Ike
I think leo and taurus can work , if the taurus girl has some aries in her chart , because rams make us horny as hell :p Or if the leo has cancer in his chart , and i know you taurus girls get aroused at the mention of anything cancer .

Hmmm, if that is true IKE, then that explains a lot about me! LOL, my Mercury and Venus is in Aries, and my ascendant is Leo.

Cancers are cool w/me, but since I'm not an overly sensitive person, and they can be - it causes some issues. The good thing is if they trust you, you can tell them stuff that they are doing is bothering you or call how it is, they will be pissed, but they get over it. In my experience w/Cancer men.

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by Ike
I think leo and taurus can work , if the taurus girl has some aries in her chart , because rams make us horny as hell :p Or if the leo has cancer in his chart , and i know you taurus girls get aroused at the mention of anything cancer .

Hmmm, if that is true IKE, then that explains a lot about me! LOL, my Mercury and Venus is in Aries, and my ascendant is Leo.

Cancers are cool w/me, but since I'm not an overly sensitive person, and they can be - it causes some issues. The good thing is if they trust you, you can tell them stuff that they are doing is bothering you or call how it is, they will be pissed, but they get over it. In my experience w/Cancer men.

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Have you had bad experience with cancerian men?

@theDream - not bad, just that a few can be a bit more needy for my taste. What I will say is though, by and large, they treat women well, because the ones I've dated were "mommas' boys" 🙂 Not saying that's good or bad...just my experience, and I've noticed other posters have indicated that too.

I think by and large Cancers and Taureans have a healthy respect for one another. There is one cancer male who I've known for a long time, and he's been in and out of my life on a romantic level for years. Timing was always bad for us; either I would be with someone, or he would. Kismet aligned us for a short while, but it was not meant to be 😉, not because of any sign issues, just real life circumstances.

" So I can hide it, but inside I'm going mental.
And then it plays on my mind over and over, which isn't healthy!"



ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME!!!!!

lol

Although I may not always hide it well... I'm a snippet short of LOOKING mental LOL

... WHEN I feel jealous. Many times I may not even react to things that should have

bothered me like my partners ex having text him that she wants to go over to his

place and no she doesn't care that he has a gf. Whatev.

But why in HELL did he chuckle at that stupid comment his friends gf said!!

RED ALERT. INTERNAL COMBUSTION COMING ON.

But I'm totally coooool on the outside. I won't even make a cynical comment

to him later on about her because that would be immature *teeth grinding*

Ahhh the bull 😛

the main cap guy in my life can be extremely jealous! he HATES it when there is any touching between me and other males. he's not even my boyfriend!

Posted by Ike
I think leo and taurus can work , if the taurus girl has some aries in her chart , because rams make us horny as hell :p Or if the leo has cancer in his chart , and i know you taurus girls get aroused at the mention of anything cancer .

I have a Leo that's been on me like white on rice for a few months although he's cooled off for the most part. I have been interested in another guy for quite some time now so his timing was off, but I'm not really attracted to him anyway. I told him straight up what the deal was. I think Leo's make great friends personally but they come on a little strong in the romantic department for my taste, that's why I would have to agree with you on the Cancer tidbit - Actually anything water or earth in a Leo's chart would make it more ideal for me. I have an Aries moon and Leo rising, so yes I have an ego lol. It's more of an exterior ego, though. Inside I'm actually pretty insecure. Hate admitting that but it's true.


As for getting jealous? All the Taurus chicks that replied basically took the words right outta my brain. If anything it's more of a possessive thing with me though, not jealousy. Also it's only if I feel threatened or if I feel the guy in question is trying to make me feel possessive/jealous. If it's the former, depending on the seriousness of the relationship, I'd either back off to avoid being hurt or I'll call the guy out, or the girl out. A chick being overly flirtatious in front of me would actually make me more upset than if my guy was doing it. Back off, bitch! lmao. If it's the latter.. brace yourself. You'll have one angry Taurus/Aries chick on your ass, lol. I'll back off completely (Taurus) and if you try and engage me prepare for some fire (Aries) 😢 I'll completely lose all respect and trust would be out the window indeed. It's why I'm wary on dating a Scorp, they feed on jealousy apparentely but for me it's a complete turnoff. If I feel jealous at all (and the guy in question is not doing it on purpose, or atleast to my knowledge) I know that it's MY insecurity. That's my problem, not theirs. So I deal with it myself. Not saying that anyone who openly voices any kind of jealousy is wrong for doing so, it's just how I personally like to deal with it. I think it may be the ego thing. I would feel more of a bust to my ego and sense of self, also it would make me feel somewhat inferior - but that's only

* - but that's only if I really dig the guy. I hate coming off as weak or insecure.

Oh yes, and about creatures of habit, so damn true. It's why I don't respond well at all to hot and cold behavior. Shit or get off the pot!

I honestly find jealousy to be a cute. I'll be straight up and honest with the girl from the get go. I'm naturally a flirt so don't take anything too personally.. So I believe that just as long as you're upfront with the person that will ease some tension in the insecurity dept that holds the jealousy.

I'm the kind of person who doesn't get jealous easily, I'll trust a girl right away even with all her guy friends and 1on1 dates. To me it's all good as long as she doesn't get upset with me when I do the exact same.

Last girl I was with was a serious control freak and didn't want me to do anything with any girls w/out her there. I was like damn! Don't you even trust me at all!? She said she did; she just didn't trust my gal pal. Funny thing is I've been friends with my gal pal for over 2 years and I've only known this girl for about 2months so she got the shit end of that stick.

-Smiles

I don't think that anybody should have to give up their friends for someone they are dating/married too. I have a lot of male friends, and every guy I've dated has basically been cool with it, with a few exceptions. Friends and family are just that - men/women you date can come and go like a breeze. I would think low of myself if I chose a guy over my friends. Plus, all my male friends, I respect their relationships with their women. I've met their women, and I don't disrespect them by calling all hours of the night, or putting any kind of pressure on them to hang out, etc if I know it would make their girlfriends/wives upset. They also respect my relationships too, and they are invaluable to talk to in order to weed out the losers. I listen to my male friends now more than ever, because they haven't ONCE been wrong about some jackass; whereas my female friends are always trying to get me to give loser guys second/third chances.

Oh wow girl. I totally understand. I am very jealous and territorial when it comes to the man Im with. I try to hide it for the most part, but if it is something that they need to be yelled at for, I will not hesitate to get mad. For instance, one time i was at a party with my guy and we were just sitting and cuddly next to eachother. This drunk girl comes and sits on top of us and spills my drink all over me. I was so mad and to make it worse, the girl was flirting with my guy and real face to face close to him. (well us since she was ON TOP OF US) i got mad and pushed her away to get up, since i had my drink all over me. I went to go clean up. He didnt follow me or anything, he just kept talking to the girl. They were friends from high school and i knew she always crushed on him, so she kisses him. When i see that, i get so upset. He followed me and said he was sorry, i had him at the palm of my hand. now i know thats extreme but there was other times that he harmlessly flirted, but he would always make sure that i was okay and follow me. So i really think it has to do with the type of guy you are with. You cant be with someone who isnt sensative to youre feelings. Its almost better to have a guy with a jealous streak as well.

Thats kind of what kept us together. We both had an understanding of how mad flirting made us.

IDK if this is bad but i even get mad when my guy takes too long to text me back. I always thought that might be crazy. Does anyone else feel that way?

"IDK if this is bad but i even get mad when my guy takes too long to text me back. I always thought that might be crazy. Does anyone else feel that way?"

I totally understand this! Although it only annoys me when I've specifically asked him a question, like, 'How's your day going?' or 'So what happened with x and y?' when he's just text me and then I don't hear anything for hours. It's just rude. But I also think that I kind of over-react sometimes, I wish more than anything that I had control over the jealousy and that I could be cool with it. Maybe if I keep working on myself I'll get like that.

Posted by USCTaurusGal
TOTALLY! Once I lose that loving feeling it would be damn near an impossibility to get it back.

Im a cancer that LOVES MY TAURUS DEARLY! and he would have the biggest rage over small things and it would hurt. Then I crawl into my shell and he's still upset. Im not even flirtatious, i dont think thats cool. But say a guy cashier at a store does something polite....my Taurus will make a jealous and harsh statement like "oh did he put his number in the bag" or " did he wink at you?" and he will play it off in a joking way.
My Taurus is the only man I want hands down. How do I get him to understand and believe that? And I cant control if other man look/ stare or anything else.. BUT i will not ever allow a man to disrespect MY man!!!!

Posted by BellaBulleautiful

story......
a long time ago in a land far away a taurus and a gemini were out with friends at a bar.there was a lot of drinking and the two were playing pool.the taurus lost and sat in a chair not far from the table when a female approached the studly gemini with her quarter.he racked em up and after a few shots the female really started putting her bits on display,but the taurus kept her cool and kinda laughed it off. then taurus actually heard this bitch say "I'm looking for a big one" at which time the gemini said "well your looking in the wrong place then" and with a horrified look on his face braced for the bull to charge! which she did!
actually,I went to the table her friends were at and simply told them they either needed to get her out of there,or a body bag.they immediately got up,grabbed her and left.
it's all about respect.

That about sums it up right there - R.E.S.P.E.C.T!!
Don't f@#k w/mine and I won't F@#k w/yours! Also, I don't do that "tit for tat" b.s. If you cheat on me and I find out, it's over; I'm not cheating on you to "get back" at you or any of that nonsensical b.s. (well, nonsensical to me). You've defiled the relationship; ergo, you don't respect me - it's OVAH! I was young before too and played games and allowed stupid crap to be done; and took people back. That crap ended a long time ago.