I need advice or some insight on what do or not to do. any help would be good
I been dating this taurus man for a couple months. I may have overreacted to a minor situation. We live about an hour away from each other and have busy lives. the only time we see each other is on the weekends so we kinda have a routine. well this past weekend he didn't want to hang out and he was being vague about why he didn't want to. so I told him how I think that we weren't going to work out how I didn't see us evolving into something more. I also told him that I didn't want to force him into anything he wasn't ready for. but its not fair for me to wait around for him and it isn't fair for him to be tied down when he don't want to be. I told him how I have feelings for him but he hasn't told me how he really feels or what his intentions are. I always have to initiate when we get together. for the most part I am alway texting him first at the start of the day asking how he is doing and so forth just the regular stuff. it lets him know that I'm thinking about him. we been seeing each other for about 5 months I would think by now that we would be something more I still have not met any of his friends. I feel like I do more for him than he does for me I pretty much give him my all I let him know that I'm into him. I'm honest and open about my feelings for him but he gives me nothing in return and I don't know what to do. now since I told him this stuff he says its not cool that I'm acting this way that he understands me. the only other time I acted this way was when I didn't see him physically for a month straight but we did keep in contact by phone or text. I'm thinking I may have made a mistake. I should of went with the flow of things and I think I lost him for good this time. Is it bad that I want to spend time with him? Knowing that we don't get to do it that often.
from a taurus perspective or from anybody who has experience or who has some insight that has dealt with this type of situation with men in general. I am not good at intimacy I don't know if i was doing anything wrong.. please help
How did you say it? What was your deamnor and attitude? You are allowed to say what you mean if you mean what you say? What was your motive? Did it come from a place of anger/hurt cus you didnt see him this weekend?
And lastly...if you give the "this is not working for me" you need to be prepared to say a real goodbye. If you did it cus you were frustrated and want to jar a reaction from him you may have screwed up cus he cant read your manipulation all the time. nor should he.
So, would you rather have him in your life but NOT meeting your needs, or let him go and find a man who will?
I was calm when I told him this. I wasn't rude or snappy if anything I was more hurt. I may have did this to get a reaction but it wasn't what I was expecting. It was me who reacted not him. I do want him in my life but only if he caters to my needs like I am catering to his. so I did mean what I said. Its just that I have deep feelings for him and its hard at the moment to realize that I may not ever hear or see him again. I think I'm more disapointed in myself to have gone this deep when he wasn't giving in return. I just want him to realize that I genually care for him and want to be with him. I ended it becase I know he isn't ready to give me what I want. Its just hard right now because I already miss him 😢 but I can't settle for less than I deserve. I just want him to understand that and he is probably thinking I'm acting like a crazy psycho. In my opinion I don't think I am. He still has not told me what his intentions were for me so I'm still left with wondering does he or does he not want to be with me. 😢
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I been dating this taurus man for a couple months. I may have overreacted to a minor situation. We live about an hour away from each other and have busy lives. the only time we see each other is on the weekends so we kinda have a routine. well this past weekend he didn't want to hang out and he was being vague about why he didn't want to. so I told him how I think that we weren't going to work out how I didn't see us evolving into something more. I also told him that I didn't want to force him into anything he wasn't ready for. but its not fair for me to wait around for him and it isn't fair for him to be tied down when he don't want to be. I told him how I have feelings for him but he hasn't told me how he really feels or what his intentions are. I always have to initiate when we get together. for the most part I am alway texting him first at the start of the day asking how he is doing and so forth just the regular stuff. it lets him know that I'm thinking about him. we been seeing each other for about 5 months I would think by now that we would be something more I still have not met any of his friends. I feel like I do more for him than he does for me I pretty much give him my all I let him know that I'm into him. I'm honest and open about my feelings for him but he gives me nothing in return and I don't know what to do. now since I told him this stuff he says its not cool that I'm acting this way that he understands me. the only other time I acted this way was when I didn't see him physically for a month straight but we did keep in contact by phone or text. I'm thinking I may have made a mistake. I should of went with the flow of things and I think I lost him for good this time. Is it bad that I want to spend time with him? Knowing that we don't get to do it that often.
from a taurus perspective or from anybody who has experience or who has some insight that has dealt with this type of situation with men in general. I am not good at intimacy I don't know if i was doing anything wrong.. please help