bubbleteas
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if a Taurus man said he will comeback, will he really comeback??
Taurus men are creatures of habit. They tend to go back to old habits. That is until they get a new habit
Hi Bubbleteas,
Don't hold onto the expectations that he will come back, you could be waiting a long time and for what?
Take him at his word and move on. If he really wanted to be with you, he would. But to break up with you due to his work load sounds ridiculous..doesn't sound like a man in love who wants you in his life or wants to make you a priority in his life.
I've found from previous experience, when you break up it's best to stay that way because the constant push and pull will be dehabilitating to your emotional well being.
Good luck hon. xx
Don't hold onto the expectations that he will come back, you could be waiting a long time and for what?
Take him at his word and move on. If he really wanted to be with you, he would. But to break up with you due to his work load sounds ridiculous..doesn't sound like a man in love who wants you in his life or wants to make you a priority in his life.
I've found from previous experience, when you break up it's best to stay that way because the constant push and pull will be dehabilitating to your emotional well being.
Good luck hon. xx
1. If you wait for him, what are you losing?
2. If you leave what are you gaining?
3. If let's say it take a person to get his shit together 3 years max would you wait?
4. Yes the oh so famous words of if it's meant to be it will, surely I believe that is accurate...surely you can be supportive, friends, continue communication alive at this point is cruical.
5. Be honest, loyal and have your own goals to accomplish as well..
2. If you leave what are you gaining?
3. If let's say it take a person to get his shit together 3 years max would you wait?
4. Yes the oh so famous words of if it's meant to be it will, surely I believe that is accurate...surely you can be supportive, friends, continue communication alive at this point is cruical.
5. Be honest, loyal and have your own goals to accomplish as well..
The way he is wording it as he needs you to wait for him is a manipulation tactic. He's putting you on the back burner. He's essentially breaking up with you temporarily so he can fuck new pussy knowing that you'll be waiting on him and his vague promises.
Read between the lines.
Read between the lines.
@Op-I will not be with someone if I don't have my own shit together financially and stable. If I am at that point where I have two of those down packed and I am okay where I am at, then I will take a relationship seriously. But I have to have my own done and accomplished.
If later I can find someone to match what I need which is security, stability and wants to add to one another income to help each other out the better.
So if a person says they are not ready we're not together, up for grabs. When in a long distance relationship that's more stress for myself, and a burden.
So is it okay to move on to someone who is open and ready for what you need in life currently or future.
If later I can find someone to match what I need which is security, stability and wants to add to one another income to help each other out the better.
So if a person says they are not ready we're not together, up for grabs. When in a long distance relationship that's more stress for myself, and a burden.
So is it okay to move on to someone who is open and ready for what you need in life currently or future.
Posted by bubbleteasIf he REALLY cared, a job wouldn't matter.
My Taurus man broke up with me last night because his new job's been taking over all of his time.
I asked him, if break up really is necessary and he said yes because he felt bad for neglecting me too many times (his job requires him to travel to rural area a lot).
Anyway he also told me once he's settled and finally secured, he will comeback to me.. and said there will be a way, if we're really meant to be.
I asked my Taurus Friend about it and she said it's just empty words because it's so unlike Taurus to come back to something from the past (or ex) past is past, she said.
So, I don't know maybe other Taureans here have different thoughts? I'm not one to easily give up on someone I really care about so him basically telling me to wait, makes me want to actually wait. Just making sure, this isn't false hope. Help me.
"...he felt bad for neglecting me too many times..."
Seems like a convenient excuse...
Once he's settled, he'll survey his new environment - if there is nobody better, he'll come scurrying back to the backburner (that's you) "If it's meant to be..." Taureans are cowards. Strong emotions make us run away or explode with x1000000 times the intensity of the emotions in front of us. He is trying to be sweet so he doesn't have to see you cry because that scares him. Your friend is right, and she knows his energy being a Taurus herself. To me at least, his words sound empty. If I were to put myself in his shoes, he's probably eager to leave and genuinely cares for you, and therefore doesn't want to hurt you; so he's giving you empty words. That way, his memory of you is as someone who is upset, but full of hope and happiness. Like I said, male Taureans are cowards: he is terrified of seeing you heartbroken, so he'd rather give you false hope and run away; that way, you'll end up a million times more upset, but he won't have to see it - pure cowardice. He's also being lazy: he hopes that you'll forget him and find someone else, but selfishly. he knows that if he can't find another girl, he always has you on the backburner. Cowardly, lazy and selfish ---- geez! All of the Taurus stereotypes are coming out here.
If you really care for him, my heart goes out to you. If you are desperate to keep him, I'd advise you to approach him calmly. Remember that he is afraid of big, negative emotional displays. In his own mind, he is a cool dude, a little detached and a chick magnet - but he appears like a little boy in the real world, and he can't handle strong emotions. People say that Taurus is logical, but they're not: they ARE NOT air signs, so don't treat him as such. Taurus doesn't want logic or an airy mentality, they want to keep it light, by which I mean no strong emotions.
I'd present the case clearly without any emotional baggage: I love you and I want to be with you. Is a job really more important than love? Would long-distance communication every now and then really tax you that much? Why do you need to come back to me if you already have me? Is it that you want to be with other women to see if I'm the best option for you (that's not acceptable, you are not goods to be dropped and picked up at his convenience.)?
In the case that he's being very selfish. Why should you have to wait, wondering whether he really wants you or is just running away? First of all, I'd ask you to REALLY think whether he is worth the effort. If you decide, "Yes, I really care about him and want him in my life", then you have to fight for him. But when I say that, I don't mean a strong emotional display that will scare him or making yourself an object to him. He shouldn't have the power to call the shots.
Another question for you: if he says that his work situation means you will be second best (and he's being honest) are you willing to stay with a man who must devote more attention to work than his girl? If the answer is yes, then tell him that you don't mind the fact that work is going to take up all of his time, and you'll be around to see him when he has time. He'll love this, being a Taurean, as they love freedom. Just beware that if he wants to leave you, he'll think that this gives him the freedom to phase you out and cheat behind your back until he's confident that he can cut you off without an emotional display.
My 0.02 $ : talk to him and gauge the situation. I'm here for advice (I'm a Taurus Sun, Taurus Moon, Taurus Mercury, Taurus Descendant and Taurus South Node) if you have any updates.
*Hugs* and best of luck.
In the case that he's being very selfish. Why should you have to wait, wondering whether he really wants you or is just running away? First of all, I'd ask you to REALLY think whether he is worth the effort. If you decide, "Yes, I really care about him and want him in my life", then you have to fight for him. But when I say that, I don't mean a strong emotional display that will scare him or making yourself an object to him. He shouldn't have the power to call the shots.
Another question for you: if he says that his work situation means you will be second best (and he's being honest) are you willing to stay with a man who must devote more attention to work than his girl? If the answer is yes, then tell him that you don't mind the fact that work is going to take up all of his time, and you'll be around to see him when he has time. He'll love this, being a Taurean, as they love freedom. Just beware that if he wants to leave you, he'll think that this gives him the freedom to phase you out and cheat behind your back until he's confident that he can cut you off without an emotional display.
My 0.02 $ : talk to him and gauge the situation. I'm here for advice (I'm a Taurus Sun, Taurus Moon, Taurus Mercury, Taurus Descendant and Taurus South Node) if you have any updates.
*Hugs* and best of luck.
Wait for no man. Keep it moving. Rest has been said here. Anyone telling her to wait for this guy based on a few sentences in her post is wrong. He's already been neglecting her so he's already not interested. Why would you wait for that...
This isn't fair to you though is it? It sounds like he's just keeping you on a string, keeping HIS options open while cutting yours off. When a man loves a woman he finds a way to include her in his no matter what, especially a Taurus man. If you don't want a onesided relationship, let him go and move on.
don't wait. if he is a man of his word he will come back and if you are still single at that point you can see if you can still pick things up where they left off. if you are not, or if he doesn't you haven't lost anything.
but sometimes you can't go back to how things were and if he is willing to risk losing you, then he doesn't mind if it happens.
but sometimes you can't go back to how things were and if he is willing to risk losing you, then he doesn't mind if it happens.
wait...didn't you post this in the libra forum a few days ago?
Posted by bubbleteas
I heard this two are difficult match but I reaaally into this guy. It's pretty long story but it's weird yet amusing lol.
We first met each in elementary school, classmates for ages so we're pretty close friends. Then he moved overseas for a year then moved back here in junior high and somehow we're classmates again then he moved away again for one and half year and moved back in here during senior year and oddly enough we're classmate again.
In high school, we got really close people actually thought we're dating but I thought of him as my best friend then so it went nowhere.
We graduated high school and he moved overseas (Singapore) forever this time. We still talked to each other for first couple months (this time I kinda finally realized I like him a lot and wannabe with him) but he started ignored me because of some trouble our friends caused and it's neither me or his fault but this one's pretty big so we couldn't do anything about it.
Anyway, that was in 2011. Fast forward to mid 2015, I met him in airport when I was going to singapore. Turned out we're on the same flight! He originally seated at the very front but he moved to the middle and exchanged his seat with someone next to me. We didn't talk much just catching up a bit.
Since that meeting, although he hasn't actually chat me or anything, he started to liked many of my Facebook posts and so I did the same. Early of 2016 though, I found out I got in to this university in Singapore, out of countries I applied. Must be fate lol. But seriously, everything was all came as coincidence with me and him.
I'm leaving in July btw.
I haven't told him yet. I mean I really want him to know just so maybe we can reconnected a bit. How do I let him know without weirded him out though? Also, what can I really do to actually have a relationship with him?? I don't mind taking things slow so long it's going THERE.
Any thoughts? Help this helpless pisces.
Thank you all for the great feedbacks.
After reading all of the replies I made up my mind, I talked to him again one last time he said let us both focus on our career first. He said he'll stay around and won't just disappear. I told him not to give me false hope and that he's right about we both should focus on our jobs for now. Let's just go on our separate ways and I will not wait because if we really are meant to be, we will see each other.. be it months or even years and we'll see where it goes when it happens.
After reading all of the replies I made up my mind, I talked to him again one last time he said let us both focus on our career first. He said he'll stay around and won't just disappear. I told him not to give me false hope and that he's right about we both should focus on our jobs for now. Let's just go on our separate ways and I will not wait because if we really are meant to be, we will see each other.. be it months or even years and we'll see where it goes when it happens.
Posted by jeaneI borrowed my friend's account... she recommended me to post my problem here. Sorry for the confusion.
wait...didn't you post this in the libra forum a few days ago?
Posted by bubbleteas
I heard this two are difficult match but I reaaally into this guy. It's pretty long story but it's weird yet amusing lol.
We first met each in elementary school, classmates for ages so we're pretty close friends. Then he moved overseas for a year then moved back here in junior high and somehow we're classmates again then he moved away again for one and half year and moved back in here during senior year and oddly enough we're classmate again.
In high school, we got really close people actually thought we're dating but I thought of him as my best friend then so it went nowhere.
We graduated high school and he moved overseas (Singapore) forever this time. We still talked to each other for first couple months (this time I kinda finally realized I like him a lot and wannabe with him) but he started ignored me because of some trouble our friends caused and it's neither me or his fault but this one's pretty big so we couldn't do anything about it.
Anyway, that was in 2011. Fast forward to mid 2015, I met him in airport when I was going to singapore. Turned out we're on the same flight! He originally seated at the very front but he moved to the middle and exchanged his seat with someone next to me. We didn't talk much just catching up a bit.
Since that meeting, although he hasn't actually chat me or anything, he started to liked many of my Facebook posts and so I did the same. Early of 2016 though, I found out I got in to this university in Singapore, out of countries I applied. Must be fate lol. But seriously, everything was all came as coincidence with me and him.
I'm leaving in July btw.
I haven't told him yet. I mean I really want him to know just so maybe we can reconnected a bit. How do I let him know without weirded him out though? Also, what can I really do to actually have a relationship with him?? I don't mind taking things slow so long it's going THERE.
Any thoughts? Help this helpless pisces.click to expand
Lord have mercy....
Posted by DMVthis ^^ very true
Taurus men are creatures of habit. They tend to go back to old habits. That is until they get a new habit
Posted by whatthecrabI don't know but I heard Taurus is crazy about their job. It's his first serious job and he loves it very much.
He probably won't come back. You might lack stabillity in your life. I cant think of any other reason why he'd distance himself from you while he's building up his career. Unless he is a sex worker or something of that kind.
Then again, he might be over me already. Thus, made career as an excuse
I have to agree with Busy. This isn't about sun signs either -you want someone who will put you first, not last. This guy is showing he isn't the one -if he was serious about you, he'd find a way to make it work. Time to move on and find someone who will truly make you happy.
I would move on too - good for you!
yep, sooner or later.
Dear taureans, I need more help.
So this guy, I mean my Taurus ex.. liked my fb posts and chat me out of the blue earlier. I asked him "what is it?" He said he missed me (we broke up yesterday) and I said okay then he got all too sensitive asking me why do I become so rude to him and asked if I have stopped loving him all at once. He became very touchy feely and suddenly talking about how he still wanted to do all those things we planned on doing (like building an animal shelter) and so on. Also, asking me stuffs and caring at me.
I don't know what's going on in his head but this is really confusing. He's one who wanted a break up so what the hell is this now?
Any thoughts?
Oh anyway,
In case anyone wondering since he acted like a little child, he's 25 and I'm 24.
So this guy, I mean my Taurus ex.. liked my fb posts and chat me out of the blue earlier. I asked him "what is it?" He said he missed me (we broke up yesterday) and I said okay then he got all too sensitive asking me why do I become so rude to him and asked if I have stopped loving him all at once. He became very touchy feely and suddenly talking about how he still wanted to do all those things we planned on doing (like building an animal shelter) and so on. Also, asking me stuffs and caring at me.
I don't know what's going on in his head but this is really confusing. He's one who wanted a break up so what the hell is this now?
Any thoughts?
Oh anyway,
In case anyone wondering since he acted like a little child, he's 25 and I'm 24.
a Taurus will never look back for the ex
please move on , find a right man and be happy
don't waste years of your life waiting for someone who doesn't want u
i know what im talking about , i waited for my Cancer ex for 5 years and what did i get ?
i regreted every single day
when i decided to move on, it was the best decision in my life
my heart is with u
i really wish that u think logically and not emotionally
please move on , find a right man and be happy
don't waste years of your life waiting for someone who doesn't want u
i know what im talking about , i waited for my Cancer ex for 5 years and what did i get ?
i regreted every single day
when i decided to move on, it was the best decision in my life
my heart is with u
i really wish that u think logically and not emotionally
that is very hurtful - so tell him that - mom used to put it this way:
"shit or get off the pot" ...
"shit or get off the pot" ...
@busyeyes88 that is very low of him to do to me. I was almost fell for it and tell him to keep in touch, even going to actually wait for him. I won't now. Thank you for telling me that.
Be Amtrak train. Trains dont fuckin wait for ppl. They stay on schedule. Run over anything in their path.
Trains keep it moving
Trains keep it moving
hahaha.
He will come back. He is a Taurus. Trust Me. BUT BUT BUT He sounds *don't like to commit* - Just move on. Enjoy life.
and if he comes back tell him you are taken. That is what I did. He then emailed me how I made him sad, depressed and sleepless nights.
well, I asked him. He told me he is not coming back. He just deserved what he expected. hahaha
He will come back. He is a Taurus. Trust Me. BUT BUT BUT He sounds *don't like to commit* - Just move on. Enjoy life.
and if he comes back tell him you are taken. That is what I did. He then emailed me how I made him sad, depressed and sleepless nights.
well, I asked him. He told me he is not coming back. He just deserved what he expected. hahaha
@Bubbleteas
Just a few questions....
1. Were you nagging him or were there arguments about the lack of time you two were spending together?
2. How long were the two of you dating?
3. What does he do for a living? You mentioned 'rural areas' and the common interest you shared in animal farms.
4. Do the both of you live together? Or live in separate apartments?
5. Were there any other alternatives considered prior to breaking up?
I don't think he's been selfish. Your feelings were taken into consideration. My thoughts are, why was the breakup the ONLY alternative.
Just a few questions....
1. Were you nagging him or were there arguments about the lack of time you two were spending together?
2. How long were the two of you dating?
3. What does he do for a living? You mentioned 'rural areas' and the common interest you shared in animal farms.
4. Do the both of you live together? Or live in separate apartments?
5. Were there any other alternatives considered prior to breaking up?
I don't think he's been selfish. Your feelings were taken into consideration. My thoughts are, why was the breakup the ONLY alternative.
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So, I don't know maybe other Taureans here have different thoughts? I'm not one to easily give up on someone I really care about so him basically telling me to wait, makes me want to actually wait. Just making sure, this isn't false hope. Help me.