is this taurus/scorp combo doomed? (lengthy)

**(first of all, i apologize for the length. i tried to condense it three times, but the details that remained felt necessary to include so if you trudge through it and can give me some insight- i will be so appreciative.)

i'm a scorpio female and i've been with my taurus male since September. we are very new, but things have developed emotionally very quickly seeing as we have met online which leaves a lot of room to speak. from what i've read about our compatibility, we are pretty on point as far as the intense passion, mutual stubbornness and possessiveness aspects go. i would like to understand his perspective more before i make my next move.

at first he was very intense and persistent, and i was guarded. he won me over and things were ablaze. we still had wounds from past loves that brought up some issues, but we worked through it or so i thought, and he professed a want to plan a serious future with me. this was not an easy concept for me to grasp, as he still mentions his first love often and in great detail. i confronted my discomfort, and he reassured me he was just trying to share where he's been and the experiences that have made him. i let it go as his passion for me seemed unwavering, but other external factors have affected our relationship and tugged at our jealous streak and as much as we have communicated and compromised - he seemed to grow more and more distant and apathetic. he admitted he was but said it had nothing to do with me, but his coldness became unbearable and i told him i needed a break because i didn't like feeling insecure or crazy. then his passion came back and so did i. we talked things through and things seemed so promising until the very next day when he went to a party and his ex love he'd talk about came.
he came to me for comfort and i gave it to him, then he grew silent. i calmly exclaimed worry and he just ignored it and would share details that only made me more paranoid, and didn't reassure me at all. i was open to him about my emotional needs after meeting his, and he ignored them and this infuriated me. i let it show and he then shared clearly how the evening went which was nothing to be worried about, but he didn't share it in that way while i was worrying and i thought that was selfish and didn't understand why he didn't want to calm me down. instead, he felt annoyed. i felt an openess to show this side after comforting his irrational anger after bumping into an ex a few weeks earlier. he then agreed w

e needed a break, but his idea included us talking everyday. i needed a more distant one and expressed this. he grew sweet to say he would wait because he wants me and nobody else, but now he sends me angry and depressed texts to pull me back in, then become distant again. why is he doing this?

The sad thing is, it's been over 3 years. I guess I tried to understand because they have a kid together, but if it makes me uncomfortable and if he cared, he'd respect that. You guys are right. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else to know I'm not irrational. You're right, the timing may be off. Since I do care for him, now I'm just trying to decide what to tell him or just shut the door and let fate take its course. I suck at no closure and that's where I don't trust myself.

I should mention they do have a kid but another family raises it so they only see each other once a year. That reality hurts him a lot and a lot of his anger is fueled by that, but if you have better in your life why waste time stewing over what you can't control?

I agree and I can understand that mourning. I guess I meant better than the woman who helped cause it. It feels counterproductive to stay so enraged.

Posted by peeptoebetty3592
I agree and I can understand that mourning. I guess I meant better than the woman who helped cause it. It feels counterproductive to stay so enraged.

it seems* I have a kid too so I can only imagine, but with the rage comes reminiscing of good times too. He's just simply not over it and I can't make him be.

I agree with all the comments above. This is just going to bring more unnecessary head aches so cut the tie now as it is early days. This is not the behaviour of a fella who has your best interests at heart. He seems like an immature idiot... And who wants that—

Dont date him girl