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TM
sorry , that last answer to AQUA 2 was for the other topic
TM
Well Miss Heather,
You were certainly clear about making your point! I don't see how too many could confuse your signals! They are quite blarring and if I was the DRUNK reading them they would have been quite humiliating as well!!!!!!
Geez, you probably ruined the guy for sure! (whether drunk or not, people do still get it!) I can see how it might bother you because you are young and attractive and can get only the best interested in you, but maybe try and be a little more tolerant and understanding, you never know that DRUNK may have been a very sincere person! Take it as a compliment and don't get so freaked out!
CU later
Be safe out there!
S.
You were certainly clear about making your point! I don't see how too many could confuse your signals! They are quite blarring and if I was the DRUNK reading them they would have been quite humiliating as well!!!!!!
Geez, you probably ruined the guy for sure! (whether drunk or not, people do still get it!) I can see how it might bother you because you are young and attractive and can get only the best interested in you, but maybe try and be a little more tolerant and understanding, you never know that DRUNK may have been a very sincere person! Take it as a compliment and don't get so freaked out!
CU later
Be safe out there!
S.
Hi Taurus Male,
I do understand what your saying about taking your love elsewhere. And I think I'm about "Up to here", as you say - -with my Taurus Male as well. And at the moment it's a "chore" for me lately. I just don't see his interest (at the moment) in keeping our friendship going -- or more happening between us; even though we live miles apart, and being we are familiar with each other. Unless he's keeping his interest/feelings for me a secret right now because of his personal problems. Perhaps he's afraid to tell me he needs time to himself and run around a bit, thinking I will bolt if I hear that; which I won't because I understand that every break up in one's life is a process; even if that means sowing thier oats so to speak, to get over their previous relationship.
But I wonder if he does enjoy receiving my emails. And no I don't ask for a response; But how much effort shall I keep putting into this with no response? That's the question here. So I'm not sure what kind of a "nice warning" would be nice. And his is one Aries woman that when she puts out any signals to someone, you can bet it will be a serious -- and genuine one. I cannot -- and will not play the signal game to see if "I've still got it".
Well I'm not so sure of my situation anymore, but I do hope everything works out for you Taurus Male because I believe you deserve a true love for the wonderful person that you are. You shouldn't have to climb a mountain for that. But I hope there are better days ahead. I'm just too frustrated to see it right now.
AF(Sidekick)
I do understand what your saying about taking your love elsewhere. And I think I'm about "Up to here", as you say - -with my Taurus Male as well. And at the moment it's a "chore" for me lately. I just don't see his interest (at the moment) in keeping our friendship going -- or more happening between us; even though we live miles apart, and being we are familiar with each other. Unless he's keeping his interest/feelings for me a secret right now because of his personal problems. Perhaps he's afraid to tell me he needs time to himself and run around a bit, thinking I will bolt if I hear that; which I won't because I understand that every break up in one's life is a process; even if that means sowing thier oats so to speak, to get over their previous relationship.
But I wonder if he does enjoy receiving my emails. And no I don't ask for a response; But how much effort shall I keep putting into this with no response? That's the question here. So I'm not sure what kind of a "nice warning" would be nice. And his is one Aries woman that when she puts out any signals to someone, you can bet it will be a serious -- and genuine one. I cannot -- and will not play the signal game to see if "I've still got it".
Well I'm not so sure of my situation anymore, but I do hope everything works out for you Taurus Male because I believe you deserve a true love for the wonderful person that you are. You shouldn't have to climb a mountain for that. But I hope there are better days ahead. I'm just too frustrated to see it right now.
AF(Sidekick)
TM:
I'm sorry to hear about that,,,i guess a lot of people now(don't know why, thou) going through somekind of turbulence.Recently i started analize my signals and thinking maybe he misreading me, maybe i don't show what & how comletly—I don't know....
For me right know the question is how much is enough? Anyway i wish you good luck !!!! The only question : "Is she make you guessing about her feelings in paticular or just about other things?" And one more thing ,,,,if she make effort to keep in touch with you,,at the moments when you 'feel fed up" ---could mean that she is intrested but, fightng with herself,,,had just a few the same moments when we start our relationship.....
Take care,,,
(maybe if you share more,,,o.k maybe it is not so bad—/Anyway usually, what you feel is right- Is right!)
Aqua 2
I'm sorry to hear about that,,,i guess a lot of people now(don't know why, thou) going through somekind of turbulence.Recently i started analize my signals and thinking maybe he misreading me, maybe i don't show what & how comletly—I don't know....
For me right know the question is how much is enough? Anyway i wish you good luck !!!! The only question : "Is she make you guessing about her feelings in paticular or just about other things?" And one more thing ,,,,if she make effort to keep in touch with you,,at the moments when you 'feel fed up" ---could mean that she is intrested but, fightng with herself,,,had just a few the same moments when we start our relationship.....
Take care,,,
(maybe if you share more,,,o.k maybe it is not so bad—/Anyway usually, what you feel is right- Is right!)
Aqua 2
Aries Female;
I know what you mean,,,,
Right know we are going through the same phase,,,,barely speaking, barely responding on e-mails it is like separation,,,,,,but i decided not to respond to him when he wanted to come and spent some time --- as a result he showed up almost 20 min earlier,,,and we agreed that he is going to call first( i wanted to say that i'm busy, when he'll call).And bum, door opens, here he is.I don't remember if ever such a long silence happened before in between phone calls, conversations, e-mails and partly i understand that he maybe to busy, to upset, overloaded , but for now i'm feeling streesed out. The funny thing the more i strat pressing right now and demand answer on my e-mails, to call more often and etc the more he started to resist it(i guess i made a mistake,,,,) Anyway i gave up on that,,i'm trying to take my own sweet time----no worries i have my own life , my stuff that i got to take care about.
I understand maybe our situation are a little bit different, but listen what is inside of your heart,,,pull away anger on his ressistance, his maybe to silly manhood ,like: he got to take care of this, but by himself.And when you pull all doubts and everything---you'll see how strong it is?,,,,does it cost(need) to bring it up now?,can you be patient a little bit more?,,,,it is hard but,,,,if you do and if this feeling is true and he is true---you'll be rewarded for your patience.
If not,,,slowly try to switch, to move on, because you got to think about how complete and satisfied you are.
Maybe i'm wrong...but that what i'm trying to do right now, but i feel that he don't even think that i can turn around and leave,,cause he is sure that i'm the one who stick like a glue to his side and accepting him for who he is.And that who he is- .
I hope that will help,,,
And it is all up to you,,,,
Take care,,,good luck.
Keep your head up!
Chao
Aqua 2
I know what you mean,,,,
Right know we are going through the same phase,,,,barely speaking, barely responding on e-mails it is like separation,,,,,,but i decided not to respond to him when he wanted to come and spent some time --- as a result he showed up almost 20 min earlier,,,and we agreed that he is going to call first( i wanted to say that i'm busy, when he'll call).And bum, door opens, here he is.I don't remember if ever such a long silence happened before in between phone calls, conversations, e-mails and partly i understand that he maybe to busy, to upset, overloaded , but for now i'm feeling streesed out. The funny thing the more i strat pressing right now and demand answer on my e-mails, to call more often and etc the more he started to resist it(i guess i made a mistake,,,,) Anyway i gave up on that,,i'm trying to take my own sweet time----no worries i have my own life , my stuff that i got to take care about.
I understand maybe our situation are a little bit different, but listen what is inside of your heart,,,pull away anger on his ressistance, his maybe to silly manhood ,like: he got to take care of this, but by himself.And when you pull all doubts and everything---you'll see how strong it is?,,,,does it cost(need) to bring it up now?,can you be patient a little bit more?,,,,it is hard but,,,,if you do and if this feeling is true and he is true---you'll be rewarded for your patience.
If not,,,slowly try to switch, to move on, because you got to think about how complete and satisfied you are.
Maybe i'm wrong...but that what i'm trying to do right now, but i feel that he don't even think that i can turn around and leave,,cause he is sure that i'm the one who stick like a glue to his side and accepting him for who he is.And that who he is- .
I hope that will help,,,
And it is all up to you,,,,
Take care,,,good luck.
Keep your head up!
Chao
Aqua 2
Dearest Sidekick:
Man, that silent treatment you are getting is for the birds, I think. Sure does sound strange to me. Maybe you have got him so use to your "doing all the work" that he thinks he does not have to worry about it, or something strange like that.....The only thing I can relate to is that if he is freshly out of a commitment, he is not in the mood for another right now. (I felt that way when I got my divorce, years ago).
But not responding at all is not "cool". I say just "clam" up and he will notice something has changed, and I do believe that if there is anything there, he will contact you soon enough....if not...get you someone who can treat you with more respect. I don't care how busy someone is, there is always time to respond to messages given.....Hell, my day today was from morn till late night, but I still make time to respond to people, out of mere courtesy, if nothing else. (Of course, my affection for you ladies always inspires me to make at least a little time for you). So why can't these guys that get alot of first hand affection from you space out at least a little response time!? I don't get it. If he is pushing you away for some reason, then he should not be "shocked" if he ends up loosing you....and you know that one never really knows what he\she has until it is gone....but if he is not even making an effort to respond, then I say you are not loosing that much. (Fellow Taurus or not). I would at least let you know that space is what is needed.
You are just worth more than that.
Taurus Male
(Who does not take kindly to anyone who abuses my sidekick)
Man, that silent treatment you are getting is for the birds, I think. Sure does sound strange to me. Maybe you have got him so use to your "doing all the work" that he thinks he does not have to worry about it, or something strange like that.....The only thing I can relate to is that if he is freshly out of a commitment, he is not in the mood for another right now. (I felt that way when I got my divorce, years ago).
But not responding at all is not "cool". I say just "clam" up and he will notice something has changed, and I do believe that if there is anything there, he will contact you soon enough....if not...get you someone who can treat you with more respect. I don't care how busy someone is, there is always time to respond to messages given.....Hell, my day today was from morn till late night, but I still make time to respond to people, out of mere courtesy, if nothing else. (Of course, my affection for you ladies always inspires me to make at least a little time for you). So why can't these guys that get alot of first hand affection from you space out at least a little response time!? I don't get it. If he is pushing you away for some reason, then he should not be "shocked" if he ends up loosing you....and you know that one never really knows what he\she has until it is gone....but if he is not even making an effort to respond, then I say you are not loosing that much. (Fellow Taurus or not). I would at least let you know that space is what is needed.
You are just worth more than that.
Taurus Male
(Who does not take kindly to anyone who abuses my sidekick)
AQUA 2:
Sure is hard to try to explain how Frustration can sure cloud up sunny feelings about someone. She always keeps me guessing about her feelings, because they seem to change at the drop of a hat. I can contact her, and she gives me this "cold fish" response, and then later, she calls or comes by all warm and fuzzy. Then, I won't hear from her, and then here she shows up again. She is busy with a son and daughter, and 2 ex husbands, and many friends, but that does not mean that I have to constantly deal will such a up and down, hot and cold, roller coaster of a time with her. I don't ask for someone to give me all of their time and attention, but I do want to share special times that are reasonably loving and caring, without all of the horse dung.....if you know what I am getting at. I used to always look forward to seeing her, now I wonder if I should see her with a rose or a shield in my hand....Don't like all of the guesswork. IT is funny, when you have affection for someone, how far you will allow them to stretch your limits, but I do have my limits....but as strange as it may seem, she will always have a special place in my heart....isn't love strange sometimes?
She can be the best of the best, and the worst of the worst. But I really don't have anyone to blame but myself for getting into it in the first place.
You bet, I think she is fighting with herself, but while she is beating the crap out of herself, I am the one who is supposed to be officiating, and frankly, I don't want the job.....
I am sure this sort of thing inspired the writer of the song "Love Stinks".
That is why I am constantly wondering why such a wonderful thing such as love can be distorted sometimes, by "humanizationisms" ( I just made that word up just for you)
Life goes on..
Now, AQUA 2, doesn't that inspire you to write a poem, HMMMMMMMM?
With Love
Taurus Male
(Who knows what love is)
Sure is hard to try to explain how Frustration can sure cloud up sunny feelings about someone. She always keeps me guessing about her feelings, because they seem to change at the drop of a hat. I can contact her, and she gives me this "cold fish" response, and then later, she calls or comes by all warm and fuzzy. Then, I won't hear from her, and then here she shows up again. She is busy with a son and daughter, and 2 ex husbands, and many friends, but that does not mean that I have to constantly deal will such a up and down, hot and cold, roller coaster of a time with her. I don't ask for someone to give me all of their time and attention, but I do want to share special times that are reasonably loving and caring, without all of the horse dung.....if you know what I am getting at. I used to always look forward to seeing her, now I wonder if I should see her with a rose or a shield in my hand....Don't like all of the guesswork. IT is funny, when you have affection for someone, how far you will allow them to stretch your limits, but I do have my limits....but as strange as it may seem, she will always have a special place in my heart....isn't love strange sometimes?
She can be the best of the best, and the worst of the worst. But I really don't have anyone to blame but myself for getting into it in the first place.
You bet, I think she is fighting with herself, but while she is beating the crap out of herself, I am the one who is supposed to be officiating, and frankly, I don't want the job.....
I am sure this sort of thing inspired the writer of the song "Love Stinks".
That is why I am constantly wondering why such a wonderful thing such as love can be distorted sometimes, by "humanizationisms" ( I just made that word up just for you)
Life goes on..
Now, AQUA 2, doesn't that inspire you to write a poem, HMMMMMMMM?
With Love
Taurus Male
(Who knows what love is)
"The weather here is HOT, but I like it that way. And as far as that AQUA I am dealing with, I am "Up to here" with her hot and cold flighty act, so I am beatin a path to another."
TM?
TM,
I would never threaten someone with something like that, unless you mean it!!! I personally hate threats and to be pushed when I am already being pulled in a thousand different directions, and she (your woman) sounds a lot like me right now!!! You are, I'm sure, much stronger then she is from listening to your posts but you have had time to rest and she sounds like she can't get her breath and is about ready to hit the wall!
Running hot and cold??! She also may not be as INTENSE as you are, but she doesn't sound superficial either or I bet you would have never been attracted to her, right? Can you work on a happy middle ground— I will say this and I am handing you a rose no need to get your shield out of the closet?
DON'T EVER ASK SOMEONE TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU YOURSELF AREN'T WILLING TO DO!!!
TM, you sound a little impatient. I was in a similar situation, and things have gotten a lot better, but now I am shocked to find out that I am not doing things right, again!!! So I will share my side of the story and you can get a females perspective on the matter. Hope I don't bore you too much. Hang with me. I saw this guy, and he was like no other man I had ever seen before!!! This guy caught my eye big time and I thought THE MAN!!! I just couldn't believe I had found this huge chunk of gold!! How lucky was I! He was the most charming, intelligent (over the top smart), gifted, charismatic, handsome, funny, generous, and sweet guy I have ever had the pleasure to meet! But, he was terribly shy. A watched him from a distance for along time before I asked him out (I did ask him BTW) but before I did that I was just hanging around joking and being a friend like all the othersLOL I have a sarcastic mouth sometimes and I must of said something that hurt his feelings, and I am sorry for that, but then he would just disappear on me for along time and I would practically have to put and ad in the newspaper begging for him to come back!!! Finally, I said I have got to get this guy alone with me and let him know how I feel, so I asked him to meet me for a date and we did! I was so happy! I was like a little kid at Christmas just to be near him. After a few dates he got kind of rude with me, so I told him I was uncomfortable with his action. He cussed me out and would not have anything to do with me!! I thought maybe he was just having a bad time with women and I will give it another try and be gentle and understanding with him. No, the more I tried to work things out the more inflexible he became. Finally after being rejected more times than I care to admit by him, I let him go and I told him I would still be his friend if he wanted to act like a real person and be one too. He never got back with me. I still e-mailed him and left the door open for a long time. All this time I was very hurt by his cruel words! I didn't understand why he was acting this way! Later I did though.
I'll try and wind this up now; we did hook-up again under unusual circumstances and became better friends than I would have thought. The more I get to know him; the more I like him! Now I have love for him and want to get closer; and now he decides to take a break? I think of him all day long, every day. If he doesn't want me, then I will have to move on again but I never really thought he was very serious and just wanted to play some more games with me. I don't know. Even if this is true, I won't go from this to the NEXT ONE, apparently you guys can but as a woman this is not how it is. There is a reason we hold back longer. I wish I could think like you guys but I never have been able to do it. I have been without love for along time not because it wasn't around but I kne
TM?
TM,
I would never threaten someone with something like that, unless you mean it!!! I personally hate threats and to be pushed when I am already being pulled in a thousand different directions, and she (your woman) sounds a lot like me right now!!! You are, I'm sure, much stronger then she is from listening to your posts but you have had time to rest and she sounds like she can't get her breath and is about ready to hit the wall!
Running hot and cold??! She also may not be as INTENSE as you are, but she doesn't sound superficial either or I bet you would have never been attracted to her, right? Can you work on a happy middle ground— I will say this and I am handing you a rose no need to get your shield out of the closet?
DON'T EVER ASK SOMEONE TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU YOURSELF AREN'T WILLING TO DO!!!
TM, you sound a little impatient. I was in a similar situation, and things have gotten a lot better, but now I am shocked to find out that I am not doing things right, again!!! So I will share my side of the story and you can get a females perspective on the matter. Hope I don't bore you too much. Hang with me. I saw this guy, and he was like no other man I had ever seen before!!! This guy caught my eye big time and I thought THE MAN!!! I just couldn't believe I had found this huge chunk of gold!! How lucky was I! He was the most charming, intelligent (over the top smart), gifted, charismatic, handsome, funny, generous, and sweet guy I have ever had the pleasure to meet! But, he was terribly shy. A watched him from a distance for along time before I asked him out (I did ask him BTW) but before I did that I was just hanging around joking and being a friend like all the othersLOL I have a sarcastic mouth sometimes and I must of said something that hurt his feelings, and I am sorry for that, but then he would just disappear on me for along time and I would practically have to put and ad in the newspaper begging for him to come back!!! Finally, I said I have got to get this guy alone with me and let him know how I feel, so I asked him to meet me for a date and we did! I was so happy! I was like a little kid at Christmas just to be near him. After a few dates he got kind of rude with me, so I told him I was uncomfortable with his action. He cussed me out and would not have anything to do with me!! I thought maybe he was just having a bad time with women and I will give it another try and be gentle and understanding with him. No, the more I tried to work things out the more inflexible he became. Finally after being rejected more times than I care to admit by him, I let him go and I told him I would still be his friend if he wanted to act like a real person and be one too. He never got back with me. I still e-mailed him and left the door open for a long time. All this time I was very hurt by his cruel words! I didn't understand why he was acting this way! Later I did though.
I'll try and wind this up now; we did hook-up again under unusual circumstances and became better friends than I would have thought. The more I get to know him; the more I like him! Now I have love for him and want to get closer; and now he decides to take a break? I think of him all day long, every day. If he doesn't want me, then I will have to move on again but I never really thought he was very serious and just wanted to play some more games with me. I don't know. Even if this is true, I won't go from this to the NEXT ONE, apparently you guys can but as a woman this is not how it is. There is a reason we hold back longer. I wish I could think like you guys but I never have been able to do it. I have been without love for along time not because it wasn't around but I kne
PS: I am not talking about curbing HIS creativity; I am only talking about ME being able to compete with his. It isn't going to happen. So, if he expects me to then he is going be disappointed, and I don't want to do it!
CU
Love
WB
CU
Love
WB
Hi Taurus Male,
Thanks for your comments. And you did hit at least one nail on the head; he has gotten use to "me" doing all the work. And if I'm right about his past situation, he was hurt -- and was left by that person, so his heart hasen't healed yet. Obviously anyone coming into his life right now, may feel the bitterness. But those are just my thoughts. He may be a bit skeptical right now; testing me, wondering if I'll stick around so to speak. And as for me: I think his thoughts will be "she isn't there for me", if I don't continue to write, even though we haven't been in contact; this could be why I still write.
And he was never one to respond to my emails, unless I asked him for his advice on some things. But I think it's time that he be more considerate and respond on his own when I write in general -- not just when I seek advice.
But my fear of writing to "warn him nicely"-- even delicately -- has become a tough decision. Because when someone is in that frame of mind, going through personal issues, an email of warning can be taken out of context so to speak. It has happened to us before when he was having a bad day, so I don't wish to go there again. I just have to find the right words to say, so I do not loose out either. It's so difficult. Thanks again.
Thanks Taurus Male
AF(Sidekick)
Thanks for your comments. And you did hit at least one nail on the head; he has gotten use to "me" doing all the work. And if I'm right about his past situation, he was hurt -- and was left by that person, so his heart hasen't healed yet. Obviously anyone coming into his life right now, may feel the bitterness. But those are just my thoughts. He may be a bit skeptical right now; testing me, wondering if I'll stick around so to speak. And as for me: I think his thoughts will be "she isn't there for me", if I don't continue to write, even though we haven't been in contact; this could be why I still write.
And he was never one to respond to my emails, unless I asked him for his advice on some things. But I think it's time that he be more considerate and respond on his own when I write in general -- not just when I seek advice.
But my fear of writing to "warn him nicely"-- even delicately -- has become a tough decision. Because when someone is in that frame of mind, going through personal issues, an email of warning can be taken out of context so to speak. It has happened to us before when he was having a bad day, so I don't wish to go there again. I just have to find the right words to say, so I do not loose out either. It's so difficult. Thanks again.
Thanks Taurus Male
AF(Sidekick)
Forgot to add: there's a saying "you snooze, you loose". That may happen to my Taurus Male friend here.
AF(Sidekick) 🙂
AF(Sidekick) 🙂
Hey everyone. Hope your holiday weekend was wonderful.
I agree with you sidekick "you snooze you lose". The saying is perfect regarding "you don't know what you have until it's gone". What's wrong with these men and then they wonder why or what happened!? I believe that they're too absorbed with their own hang-ups, issues, situations that they don't realize how precious someone can touch and enhance their lives for the better. That way they wouldn't have to be so stressed I guess. When you have a loving and caring partner, you can handle any crisis, move any mountain because you'll know that that person is there for you unconditionally.
I really feel your pain because as you know I'm in a similar situation, but sidekick I hope that you are not pondering too much over him and this issue. Go out once in a while, meet new people or hang out with your friends because when you restrict yourself emotionally you can really start experiencing physical symptoms of pain (you know the heart ache thing). If it's meant to be, he'll be back because a Taurus love is strong when true.
Money Lady
I agree with you sidekick "you snooze you lose". The saying is perfect regarding "you don't know what you have until it's gone". What's wrong with these men and then they wonder why or what happened!? I believe that they're too absorbed with their own hang-ups, issues, situations that they don't realize how precious someone can touch and enhance their lives for the better. That way they wouldn't have to be so stressed I guess. When you have a loving and caring partner, you can handle any crisis, move any mountain because you'll know that that person is there for you unconditionally.
I really feel your pain because as you know I'm in a similar situation, but sidekick I hope that you are not pondering too much over him and this issue. Go out once in a while, meet new people or hang out with your friends because when you restrict yourself emotionally you can really start experiencing physical symptoms of pain (you know the heart ache thing). If it's meant to be, he'll be back because a Taurus love is strong when true.
Money Lady
TM you're a big boy, and " been around the block" so to speak. You really can't tell when a woman just wants to "get something" from you or has a "genuine interest"? I find that hard to believe intellecutal such as yourself. You're keen I can tell or are you just appeasing me again LOL
I can't speak for you on innocent and genuine signals, only you will know when your in the company of a BS artist who "wants something" or a genuine soul who wants to connect with you and only YOU.
Money Lady
I can't speak for you on innocent and genuine signals, only you will know when your in the company of a BS artist who "wants something" or a genuine soul who wants to connect with you and only YOU.
Money Lady
Taurean babies, AQx2, ML, Sidekick, and TM,
Need some help here!!!
You are the gentle lovers of the zodiac, with big huge hearts like Scorpio, who I love equally as much!
I'm falling in love with a Taurus rising man who means everything to me!!! I think the world of him and I want him to know it. I want him to be secure in knowing how much he means to me!!! What can I do to make him realize just what he is to me and how much I love him— Nothing would be over the top. If it would make him happy, content, and secure, I want him to have it! He deserves it so much!
Can anyone make some suggestions?
Thanks,
WB
Need some help here!!!
You are the gentle lovers of the zodiac, with big huge hearts like Scorpio, who I love equally as much!
I'm falling in love with a Taurus rising man who means everything to me!!! I think the world of him and I want him to know it. I want him to be secure in knowing how much he means to me!!! What can I do to make him realize just what he is to me and how much I love him— Nothing would be over the top. If it would make him happy, content, and secure, I want him to have it! He deserves it so much!
Can anyone make some suggestions?
Thanks,
WB
WB:
Hello i'm with my Aqua personality had a kinda smooth sailing with my "lubochka" , just now(maybe i'm just overhelmed or feel neglected )we hit some bumps....but i knew that he completly trusted me only year after...and with trust , he slowly start opening to me( he is very reserved due, to some family "dramas" , defenetly not easily trusting material)..but i guess i was patient,loving, caring and always there for him. He didn'tt expected me to stick around for so long,,And yes, he was resistant, stubborn , sometimes not easily to deal, but i had strength to glide it all out or maybe it doesn;t matter how hard to handle he could be,because of hoe i feel----i showed that i care.And only recently about six month ago, ,he's been sick and i was checking on him every day, i pushed him to go to doctor( he hates doctors) ,got him pills and everything els;babysitted him: he said that for all time i'm the only person who never upset him, always make him happy , comfartable and been cared( he is very silent type,,,sometimes secretive)-----and that all after almost 2 years plus...
So i guess that what it takes-----love them, care for them, be there---i think for them action speak louder than words,but if you also got words that even better...they like compliments, slow nice conversation,good backrub,nose kissed,hair and head scratched, nice dinner plus sweet nice words whispered.....lol
Maybe i'm mistaken , but i oftenly compare him to a big,soft, cuddly teddybear: because if you know them inside , despite there behaviour,,,they are big teddys, with big warm hearts9but that all is tet_a_tet,,,because on public they are tough cookies) .And also,they don't like to be rushed and hurried ,like to take there own sweet time...
Good luck,,,
Aqua 2
Hello i'm with my Aqua personality had a kinda smooth sailing with my "lubochka" , just now(maybe i'm just overhelmed or feel neglected )we hit some bumps....but i knew that he completly trusted me only year after...and with trust , he slowly start opening to me( he is very reserved due, to some family "dramas" , defenetly not easily trusting material)..but i guess i was patient,loving, caring and always there for him. He didn'tt expected me to stick around for so long,,And yes, he was resistant, stubborn , sometimes not easily to deal, but i had strength to glide it all out or maybe it doesn;t matter how hard to handle he could be,because of hoe i feel----i showed that i care.And only recently about six month ago, ,he's been sick and i was checking on him every day, i pushed him to go to doctor( he hates doctors) ,got him pills and everything els;babysitted him: he said that for all time i'm the only person who never upset him, always make him happy , comfartable and been cared( he is very silent type,,,sometimes secretive)-----and that all after almost 2 years plus...
So i guess that what it takes-----love them, care for them, be there---i think for them action speak louder than words,but if you also got words that even better...they like compliments, slow nice conversation,good backrub,nose kissed,hair and head scratched, nice dinner plus sweet nice words whispered.....lol
Maybe i'm mistaken , but i oftenly compare him to a big,soft, cuddly teddybear: because if you know them inside , despite there behaviour,,,they are big teddys, with big warm hearts9but that all is tet_a_tet,,,because on public they are tough cookies) .And also,they don't like to be rushed and hurried ,like to take there own sweet time...
Good luck,,,
Aqua 2
Aqua,
You're so right. I remember somebody like your 'sweetpea', and they can be hard on the outside but very soft and gushy when you get inside, it just takes the right person, and you were the one!! But I am wondering something; how did you know what to do? How did you know what would make him listen to YOU?
One other thing and then I have a project for class that I have to e-mail by midnight or I get a no score and I only get 12 assignments to adverage my grade. I am working on my second degree and I have the benefit either attending traditional classes, night(no-way don't go out at dark!), on-line, and Teleclass. I can do all my work from the house in my spare time and I send all the work by attaching files to e-mail! Very easy!
Enough about me; What I wanted to know is what makes you feel loved and happy!, what makes you feel good? I know you care for others you show it, but you need someone to give you love too! You need it too and more! I just wanted to know what you like because I was putting together a surprise for my very own 'Lubochka' today. I went shopping and got all kinds of massage oils,candles, music and some other stuff that is personal. This will be for when I finally get to be with him. He is away right now but maybe around the Fall, God I hope so!
Ok, nice to talk to you Sweetie and I will cu later!
WB
You're so right. I remember somebody like your 'sweetpea', and they can be hard on the outside but very soft and gushy when you get inside, it just takes the right person, and you were the one!! But I am wondering something; how did you know what to do? How did you know what would make him listen to YOU?
One other thing and then I have a project for class that I have to e-mail by midnight or I get a no score and I only get 12 assignments to adverage my grade. I am working on my second degree and I have the benefit either attending traditional classes, night(no-way don't go out at dark!), on-line, and Teleclass. I can do all my work from the house in my spare time and I send all the work by attaching files to e-mail! Very easy!
Enough about me; What I wanted to know is what makes you feel loved and happy!, what makes you feel good? I know you care for others you show it, but you need someone to give you love too! You need it too and more! I just wanted to know what you like because I was putting together a surprise for my very own 'Lubochka' today. I went shopping and got all kinds of massage oils,candles, music and some other stuff that is personal. This will be for when I finally get to be with him. He is away right now but maybe around the Fall, God I hope so!
Ok, nice to talk to you Sweetie and I will cu later!
WB
Hi.WB
how often do you talk, and how far does he live? How often you see each other?
How i knew what to do? maybe because i love him maybe because i figured out that he very uptight and phisical expression means a lot to him,,,,maybe cause i love massages and i finished classes on that,,,i like to spoil myself.Maybe when i met him we broke up after 3 month cause i was too aloof and scared to acnowledge to myself how i feel about him, maybe because he calms me done,,,i'm kinda emotional too and he is so peacefull, quiet , intimate---that make me feel good.
Also he was the first,,if you know what i mean and he initiated things like showers toghther and breakfasts< cause doesn't matter how he tryied to hide it it showes that he likes to care,than i moved showers to a bubble bathes for both and just for him....we both love candles,,,,it is like he actes very romantic and intimate at first and when i left(he didn't mind) i missed all that, so than almost a year after i called him(i missed him+ finnaly gatherd my strength) and he sound happy,,,,from than i'm there where i am.
What makes me happy,,,as in my poems,,HE:everything i like him for what he is,,his smile the way he treats me(till recently, but peace is almost restored in my soul), i like his advices(he got more life expirience or maybe was 'cheated' by people a lot)----but i have taurus rising, still sometimes i feel like clumsy bear in a fiel of love.
A t first i was woundering how patient he is with me because despite some similar things we still different and sometimes i still could be aloof and maybe harsh,,,,but i guess we compensate ......
I'M GLAD THAT YOU GETTING YOUR SECON DEGREE,GOOD LUCK....
and hear from you soon...
Aqua 2
how often do you talk, and how far does he live? How often you see each other?
How i knew what to do? maybe because i love him maybe because i figured out that he very uptight and phisical expression means a lot to him,,,,maybe cause i love massages and i finished classes on that,,,i like to spoil myself.Maybe when i met him we broke up after 3 month cause i was too aloof and scared to acnowledge to myself how i feel about him, maybe because he calms me done,,,i'm kinda emotional too and he is so peacefull, quiet , intimate---that make me feel good.
Also he was the first,,if you know what i mean and he initiated things like showers toghther and breakfasts< cause doesn't matter how he tryied to hide it it showes that he likes to care,than i moved showers to a bubble bathes for both and just for him....we both love candles,,,,it is like he actes very romantic and intimate at first and when i left(he didn't mind) i missed all that, so than almost a year after i called him(i missed him+ finnaly gatherd my strength) and he sound happy,,,,from than i'm there where i am.
What makes me happy,,,as in my poems,,HE:everything i like him for what he is,,his smile the way he treats me(till recently, but peace is almost restored in my soul), i like his advices(he got more life expirience or maybe was 'cheated' by people a lot)----but i have taurus rising, still sometimes i feel like clumsy bear in a fiel of love.
A t first i was woundering how patient he is with me because despite some similar things we still different and sometimes i still could be aloof and maybe harsh,,,,but i guess we compensate ......
I'M GLAD THAT YOU GETTING YOUR SECON DEGREE,GOOD LUCK....
and hear from you soon...
Aqua 2
fiel= field
Aqua 2
Aqua 2
"A t first i was woundering how patient he is with me because despite some similar things we still different and sometimes i still could be aloof and maybe harsh,,,,but i guess we compensate ......"
AQ2,
In my opinion the way to achieve a higher love is to be and except who you are without trying to change it in anyway! I can tell you that the reason I love my 'sweet pea' is because he is just exactly what he is with warts and all and he isn't afraid to show it! I wouldn't want to change one thing about him!!! Oh, yes he is aloof and critical and can be harsh and needs his own space, but I love all those things about him! I love the entire package not just some of it!
You are a wonderful person don't ever change who you are!
Love,
WB
AQ2,
In my opinion the way to achieve a higher love is to be and except who you are without trying to change it in anyway! I can tell you that the reason I love my 'sweet pea' is because he is just exactly what he is with warts and all and he isn't afraid to show it! I wouldn't want to change one thing about him!!! Oh, yes he is aloof and critical and can be harsh and needs his own space, but I love all those things about him! I love the entire package not just some of it!
You are a wonderful person don't ever change who you are!
Love,
WB
Accept!
ml:
yes, i am a big boy now, been around the block. sincerity is allusive, though, as you may well guess. not many straight forward, shoot from the hip type of ladies out there, especially when one prefers them. but, those "games" that people play keep on happening.
wb...
you just show what kindof stuff your made of and someone will sure appreciate
that, to be sure...
sidekick...just try not to guess what he is thinking....he just has got to let you know, aint no way around that.
silence is not golden, in this case.
aqua 2....
what can i say, but you are a star of the board...
what can one say about aqua 2?
she's as fresh as mornin dew.
love and caring is her call to fame
and to this board we are glad
she came....
taurus male
(4 birds with one stone...only from texas) love yall
yes, i am a big boy now, been around the block. sincerity is allusive, though, as you may well guess. not many straight forward, shoot from the hip type of ladies out there, especially when one prefers them. but, those "games" that people play keep on happening.
wb...
you just show what kindof stuff your made of and someone will sure appreciate
that, to be sure...
sidekick...just try not to guess what he is thinking....he just has got to let you know, aint no way around that.
silence is not golden, in this case.
aqua 2....
what can i say, but you are a star of the board...
what can one say about aqua 2?
she's as fresh as mornin dew.
love and caring is her call to fame
and to this board we are glad
she came....
taurus male
(4 birds with one stone...only from texas) love yall
thank you tm.
if i was down in texas, i would love to give that aquarian lady friend of yours a run for her money!
i think you are one terrific dude!
sincerely,
wonderbox
if i was down in texas, i would love to give that aquarian lady friend of yours a run for her money!
i think you are one terrific dude!
sincerely,
wonderbox
hey! aq2,
"hi.wb
how often do you talk, and how far does he live? how often you see each other?"
i think this is the problem! there was never anything even there. it ws all in my mind. i think it was nothing but a game, and there is no reality to it at all. like i am living a fake love and this is really got me down in the dumps. i can't even trust myself anymore!!! how could i let myself get so confused and sucked into a obvious fake situation! makes me wonder where has my common sense gone?! love or the feelings of love can make me do some crazy things. but this has been by far the most blinded i have ever been before! it is very scary. i have serious doubts about my self. to be such a jerk and believe in nothing but a fairytale. i just wanted to believe that this guy was for real but he was trying to get to know me in his own way and on his own terms! can you be both an intelligent person and a complete moron too— i have nothing! all i was going on was a few very brief connections and a dream of a fairytale romance! what was i thinking— how did i get so damn lost— i feel sick to my stomach!!! i am in tears as i right this! i'll be ok though. i will handle it.
"hi.wb
how often do you talk, and how far does he live? how often you see each other?"
i think this is the problem! there was never anything even there. it ws all in my mind. i think it was nothing but a game, and there is no reality to it at all. like i am living a fake love and this is really got me down in the dumps. i can't even trust myself anymore!!! how could i let myself get so confused and sucked into a obvious fake situation! makes me wonder where has my common sense gone?! love or the feelings of love can make me do some crazy things. but this has been by far the most blinded i have ever been before! it is very scary. i have serious doubts about my self. to be such a jerk and believe in nothing but a fairytale. i just wanted to believe that this guy was for real but he was trying to get to know me in his own way and on his own terms! can you be both an intelligent person and a complete moron too— i have nothing! all i was going on was a few very brief connections and a dream of a fairytale romance! what was i thinking— how did i get so damn lost— i feel sick to my stomach!!! i am in tears as i right this! i'll be ok though. i will handle it.
from me aq2,
wb or i should say idiot!
wb or i should say idiot!
wb:
hello honey , where are you?
talk to me,,,,,,i read and all what i understand u've been coarsing yourself and been putiing so much blame on yourself just for feel alive, love, feel?
honey, bunny, loney tooney write back to me!!!!!what happend in words? explanations, and don't talk bad about yourself.....
i'm waiting ,,,,,,,
aqua 2
sometimes we hear what we want to hear, or see what we want to see-----not reality
hello honey , where are you?
talk to me,,,,,,i read and all what i understand u've been coarsing yourself and been putiing so much blame on yourself just for feel alive, love, feel?
honey, bunny, loney tooney write back to me!!!!!what happend in words? explanations, and don't talk bad about yourself.....
i'm waiting ,,,,,,,
aqua 2
sometimes we hear what we want to hear, or see what we want to see-----not reality
ml:
one day i was alone and bored
so i got a walk in inter-world
i got on an "d-expose"
they had a taurus massageboard
and i thought: "that could be fun
to intercome, e-mail" and
here i come....
i met some great pals over there
tm, ml,wb, aries sidekick,aries 2
the blondy heather .....
and if you say to me
hey: "they not really pals
they inter-pals!"
you'll hear that -i don't really care
cause ,the dice is rolled
and time has past
and they proved that they will last!
opinions,questions and disscusions
"life" converstaions and mood "enchantment"
so, now my life is an "expose"
a fare share of
fun ,enjoyment, shoulder to cry on and support.
(listen did i hit all the stones at once?)
tm:
it was kind of fast action,,,,poem is not really getting toghether but tm thanx a lot!!!!!!you mada my day,,,and that is not a first time,,,,!!!!
if i wasn"t in love alredy, i wolud fall over my hills for you. 100%
one day i was alone and bored
so i got a walk in inter-world
i got on an "d-expose"
they had a taurus massageboard
and i thought: "that could be fun
to intercome, e-mail" and
here i come....
i met some great pals over there
tm, ml,wb, aries sidekick,aries 2
the blondy heather .....
and if you say to me
hey: "they not really pals
they inter-pals!"
you'll hear that -i don't really care
cause ,the dice is rolled
and time has past
and they proved that they will last!
opinions,questions and disscusions
"life" converstaions and mood "enchantment"
so, now my life is an "expose"
a fare share of
fun ,enjoyment, shoulder to cry on and support.
(listen did i hit all the stones at once?)
tm:
it was kind of fast action,,,,poem is not really getting toghether but tm thanx a lot!!!!!!you mada my day,,,and that is not a first time,,,,!!!!
if i wasn"t in love alredy, i wolud fall over my hills for you. 100%
aq2,
there is no story! it is all in my head! i don't know why it happened but i am concerned for myself and my well being, to say the least! i think i need some help—? how can someone fall in love with an presence, a few words and a couple of messagages that may or may not have may not have been intended for me—! i use to never doubt myself. one thing i was always sure of was my instincts. oh, i could read anyone! i felt power. this is what has always kept me safe from danger, and i am afraid now. i have let my guard down and i am vuneralbe. do you understand? i don't now if that makes any sense to you, but what i mean is... i could see things and feel things without being told what it was, intuition! i feel that this situation is starting to make me second guess myself. not really but it is making me expect more than what i i can get or the other person is willing to give. that to is not something i am use to. i usually get what i go after! i am feeling needy to find away to get to them, and it is causing me some concern. i am restless and want some movement. i just want to know where i stand! and to be apart of a real person and not just some entitiy! just want something to hold on to!!! they(sweet pea)has every right to know me and what they are getting invoved with, but i feel like they have should know me by now and if they don't, they never will! anymore of this will just be torment.
aq, i don't know? maybe i should just forget about it! get on with my life and pay attention to what is hear right now and not pretend anymore. what i have built in my soul will be hard to recreate. i am not sure why this happened. i have thought about what brought me here. this time last year i also had to let go of some things that were dead. i started to bury it and never got to finish it. so, this is where i am now.
aq2, i will be fine. no need to worry about me! best of everything to you and your lubochka and i'll cu when i cu, ok!
wb
there is no story! it is all in my head! i don't know why it happened but i am concerned for myself and my well being, to say the least! i think i need some help—? how can someone fall in love with an presence, a few words and a couple of messagages that may or may not have may not have been intended for me—! i use to never doubt myself. one thing i was always sure of was my instincts. oh, i could read anyone! i felt power. this is what has always kept me safe from danger, and i am afraid now. i have let my guard down and i am vuneralbe. do you understand? i don't now if that makes any sense to you, but what i mean is... i could see things and feel things without being told what it was, intuition! i feel that this situation is starting to make me second guess myself. not really but it is making me expect more than what i i can get or the other person is willing to give. that to is not something i am use to. i usually get what i go after! i am feeling needy to find away to get to them, and it is causing me some concern. i am restless and want some movement. i just want to know where i stand! and to be apart of a real person and not just some entitiy! just want something to hold on to!!! they(sweet pea)has every right to know me and what they are getting invoved with, but i feel like they have should know me by now and if they don't, they never will! anymore of this will just be torment.
aq, i don't know? maybe i should just forget about it! get on with my life and pay attention to what is hear right now and not pretend anymore. what i have built in my soul will be hard to recreate. i am not sure why this happened. i have thought about what brought me here. this time last year i also had to let go of some things that were dead. i started to bury it and never got to finish it. so, this is where i am now.
aq2, i will be fine. no need to worry about me! best of everything to you and your lubochka and i'll cu when i cu, ok!
wb
...and you are so amazing! nice poem. you made gave me a huge smile! thanks!
wb
wb
wb:
you never know,sometimes it takes awfully long to figure out what it is,,,and yes i do know that feeling when virtual seems real and real virtual till when you can't separate them.
the question is>.. is what you have now scares u because you don't see future, there is no future or you think there is no future,,,it takes awfull long to really got to know somebody,,,and i have a friend he loves his gf till death, he is the "perfect" bf i had ever met,,,,,lol, but still he got a problem accepting formally that there relationship moved more farther than just getting to know each other.
listen, are you affraid of falling in love? or you clearly see that this person just brief connectin, exchange and no big deal? or maybe you think that it is meaningless to him?
i know just that i don 't like that you feel that way and i wish i could say or do smth to help you to see or figure out or just smooth it the best i can and maybe you wouldn't think that it is so bad...,be so tough on yourself.
i hope to see you back soon....
feeling stupid ,lost and concerned
aqua 2
you never know,sometimes it takes awfully long to figure out what it is,,,and yes i do know that feeling when virtual seems real and real virtual till when you can't separate them.
the question is>.. is what you have now scares u because you don't see future, there is no future or you think there is no future,,,it takes awfull long to really got to know somebody,,,and i have a friend he loves his gf till death, he is the "perfect" bf i had ever met,,,,,lol, but still he got a problem accepting formally that there relationship moved more farther than just getting to know each other.
listen, are you affraid of falling in love? or you clearly see that this person just brief connectin, exchange and no big deal? or maybe you think that it is meaningless to him?
i know just that i don 't like that you feel that way and i wish i could say or do smth to help you to see or figure out or just smooth it the best i can and maybe you wouldn't think that it is so bad...,be so tough on yourself.
i hope to see you back soon....
feeling stupid ,lost and concerned
aqua 2
ladies:
all of you deserve a lot of love. you know what love is, and you can sure show it. i can feel it because this board is just "reeking" with it. love is like a dove searching for clear and untroubled skies, and i think when it flies through storms, it becomes fearful, and that leads to all sorts of distressing things. have faith in your love, and know that whoever tries to rain on it cannot keep it from the bright sky it deserves.
just fly above it.
taurus male
(y'all really bring out the "mushy" in me sometimes)
all of you deserve a lot of love. you know what love is, and you can sure show it. i can feel it because this board is just "reeking" with it. love is like a dove searching for clear and untroubled skies, and i think when it flies through storms, it becomes fearful, and that leads to all sorts of distressing things. have faith in your love, and know that whoever tries to rain on it cannot keep it from the bright sky it deserves.
just fly above it.
taurus male
(y'all really bring out the "mushy" in me sometimes)
(re: tm)"heather:
thanks for clearing up the gas thing.(?)
(you are cute)
who says you can not teach an older dog anything...i knew you could, and quite well...(wish i was 20 again, i would sure go after your signals, to be sure)
but one thing still bothers us males.
how can one tell the difference between innocent flirting signals and serious
flirting signals. you know what i mean?
many women like to flirt, just to see if they still got it, while others are "on the prowl" for something heavier. some just turn on the charms to "get something", while others try to show a genuine interest. but, to us, it all seems like the same game. so, how do you think we are to know which is which?
believe me, i have been around long enough to have experience many, but never knew which was which until it was
"too late" sort to speak. it is easy enough to put a "fake" to the test by just calling their bluff, but sometimes it may scare one off who is really sincere, ya know what i mean?
and this "playing hard to get" business
really becomes a chore sometimes...like we are supposed to climb some kindof moutain to win her love....sheeeeesh, what is that all about?
i don't think we are so much blind to the eye contact, and the subtle touching and stuff, but it is the motivation that throws us off.
how are we to "sense" those true motives?
this is getting deep, now, i think...
taurus male"
first of all, i can assure you that my signals would be traveling in a beeline toward a certain someone named "taurus male"...and age aint nothing but a number. (hehe) ; )
secondly, i completely undertand where you're coming from. i will admit it, women can be very confusing. i especially know what you mean about possibly scaring off the genuine ones by assuming they're bluffing. understand this: never, never assume anything. i know that doesn't offer much comfort, but if (as i pointed out by referencing my own experience with a guy assuming i was flirting when i wasn't) you mistake friendliness for flirting, you may be seen as too aggressive, while if you mistake flirting for friendliness, you may miss an opportunity with a worthwhile woman. you have to trust your intuition. if she stares a little longer than your average friendly stranger making eye contact would, it is probably safe to assume you either have something stuck in your teeth, or she is sending you an "approach me please" signal. especially if she looks away shyly when you make stare back, but then looks at you again. any smiling (however subtle) combined with this pattern of behavior just cements it even more that she is admiring you.
if she looks at you expressionless, even if for a long time, she may just be off in la-la land (or being just plain rude, have you ever noticed there are some people who seem to stare for absolutely no reason other than bad manners? lol). in this case i would not approach her. i always sort of feel like flirting should be a two-way street, with both people making an equal effort at sending relatively clear signals. so in this case, even though behind her expressionlessness she may be checking you out, she's being weird about it and too reserved, and therefore she isn't worth the effort of making an approach from your end. in my opinion.
if she runs hot and cold, that's just a pure lack of communication on her part that is unacceptable (glad you're freeing yourself of your aquarius conquest because poor communication skills can spell only disaster down the road.) my theory on people who run hot and cold, is that who cares whythey do it, if they can't communicate with you about their feelings and such then it's not someone you want to get tangled up with (figuratively speaking). life is too short to try to figure out the reasoning behind everyone's odd head trips. that is just how i look at it.
thanks for clearing up the gas thing.(?)
(you are cute)
who says you can not teach an older dog anything...i knew you could, and quite well...(wish i was 20 again, i would sure go after your signals, to be sure)
but one thing still bothers us males.
how can one tell the difference between innocent flirting signals and serious
flirting signals. you know what i mean?
many women like to flirt, just to see if they still got it, while others are "on the prowl" for something heavier. some just turn on the charms to "get something", while others try to show a genuine interest. but, to us, it all seems like the same game. so, how do you think we are to know which is which?
believe me, i have been around long enough to have experience many, but never knew which was which until it was
"too late" sort to speak. it is easy enough to put a "fake" to the test by just calling their bluff, but sometimes it may scare one off who is really sincere, ya know what i mean?
and this "playing hard to get" business
really becomes a chore sometimes...like we are supposed to climb some kindof moutain to win her love....sheeeeesh, what is that all about?
i don't think we are so much blind to the eye contact, and the subtle touching and stuff, but it is the motivation that throws us off.
how are we to "sense" those true motives?
this is getting deep, now, i think...
taurus male"
first of all, i can assure you that my signals would be traveling in a beeline toward a certain someone named "taurus male"...and age aint nothing but a number. (hehe) ; )
secondly, i completely undertand where you're coming from. i will admit it, women can be very confusing. i especially know what you mean about possibly scaring off the genuine ones by assuming they're bluffing. understand this: never, never assume anything. i know that doesn't offer much comfort, but if (as i pointed out by referencing my own experience with a guy assuming i was flirting when i wasn't) you mistake friendliness for flirting, you may be seen as too aggressive, while if you mistake flirting for friendliness, you may miss an opportunity with a worthwhile woman. you have to trust your intuition. if she stares a little longer than your average friendly stranger making eye contact would, it is probably safe to assume you either have something stuck in your teeth, or she is sending you an "approach me please" signal. especially if she looks away shyly when you make stare back, but then looks at you again. any smiling (however subtle) combined with this pattern of behavior just cements it even more that she is admiring you.
if she looks at you expressionless, even if for a long time, she may just be off in la-la land (or being just plain rude, have you ever noticed there are some people who seem to stare for absolutely no reason other than bad manners? lol). in this case i would not approach her. i always sort of feel like flirting should be a two-way street, with both people making an equal effort at sending relatively clear signals. so in this case, even though behind her expressionlessness she may be checking you out, she's being weird about it and too reserved, and therefore she isn't worth the effort of making an approach from your end. in my opinion.
if she runs hot and cold, that's just a pure lack of communication on her part that is unacceptable (glad you're freeing yourself of your aquarius conquest because poor communication skills can spell only disaster down the road.) my theory on people who run hot and cold, is that who cares whythey do it, if they can't communicate with you about their feelings and such then it's not someone you want to get tangled up with (figuratively speaking). life is too short to try to figure out the reasoning behind everyone's odd head trips. that is just how i look at it.
forgot to address this part:
"and this "playing hard to get" business
really becomes a chore sometimes...like we are supposed to climb some kindof moutain to win her love....sheeeeesh, what is that all about?"
yes, i think some people take the playing hard to get thing and make it ridiculous and blow it way out of proportion. there is a difference between being alluringly sexy and slightly distant in a mysterious way, and coming off like a cold fish.
and the best explanation i can offer you about the climbing of mountains and such, is that it all goes back to the "i want a prince charming who will slay dragons and be chivalrous and *work* to win me" thing. i fall into having that same need all too often, but i don't think you should confuse this with playing hard (i.e impossible) to get, because i do think these are 2 seperate phenomena. or at least, i think they should be. lol.
-heather
"and this "playing hard to get" business
really becomes a chore sometimes...like we are supposed to climb some kindof moutain to win her love....sheeeeesh, what is that all about?"
yes, i think some people take the playing hard to get thing and make it ridiculous and blow it way out of proportion. there is a difference between being alluringly sexy and slightly distant in a mysterious way, and coming off like a cold fish.
and the best explanation i can offer you about the climbing of mountains and such, is that it all goes back to the "i want a prince charming who will slay dragons and be chivalrous and *work* to win me" thing. i fall into having that same need all too often, but i don't think you should confuse this with playing hard (i.e impossible) to get, because i do think these are 2 seperate phenomena. or at least, i think they should be. lol.
-heather
" i do know that feeling when virtual seems real and real virtual till when you can't separate them.
the question is>.. is what you have now scares u because you don't see future, there is no future or you think there is no future,,,it takes awfull long to really got to know somebody,,,and i have a friend he loves his gf till death, he is the "perfect" bf i had ever met,,,,,lol, but still he got a problem accepting formally that there relationship moved more farther than just getting to know each other.
listen, are you affraid of falling in love? or you clearly see that this person just brief connectin, exchange and no big deal? or maybe you think that it is meaningless to him?"
aq2,
how long do you think a person should wait for a committment? i am not talking marriage or anything; i just want to know that there are real feelings,not virtual. you always find the right words to say to me that puts it into perspective! anyway, that is all i wanted and maybe to understand why things are the way they are! i like it and it is unusual/conventional, but my mind starts telling me don't go there.
i think i am going to stick with what my instincts tell me. they have never let me down before, only let myself down when i ignored them.
i am going to go back to where i was before all of this doubt set in and just enjoy all my friends and not worry about having to figure everything out! i will check my feelings more often, so i don't start drifting out there in never never land. i am way to suseptible in; i love being in love and all that goes with it. that is why i got so into your poems and the way you express your self is so eloquent, and yes i could probably have been a good actress because i feel things much. i think it is easy to lose yourself like that. your stuff is so good and i look forward to just hearing your comments about lubochka.
ok, and i am not afraid at all of falling in love. i want to badly; i need it. i want to see it on the face of the one i love. i want to know he is happy with me and that i make him feel good! i don't believe i am meaningless, i don't know what that is. it may not be the same in his mind as mine at this point but no one has ever told me that i didn't mean something to them, even if it wasn't always good they still remember me!!!
aq2, what do you think of me? am i over emotional? please tell me the truth.
and why did you say you were lost? we are hear for each other. i know where to find you and you me. you are far from stupid, geez lol and i wouldn't be concerned because you have helped me very much and i am paying attention to you and it learning.
ok, i have to get going so i will talk to you later
love
wb
the question is>.. is what you have now scares u because you don't see future, there is no future or you think there is no future,,,it takes awfull long to really got to know somebody,,,and i have a friend he loves his gf till death, he is the "perfect" bf i had ever met,,,,,lol, but still he got a problem accepting formally that there relationship moved more farther than just getting to know each other.
listen, are you affraid of falling in love? or you clearly see that this person just brief connectin, exchange and no big deal? or maybe you think that it is meaningless to him?"
aq2,
how long do you think a person should wait for a committment? i am not talking marriage or anything; i just want to know that there are real feelings,not virtual. you always find the right words to say to me that puts it into perspective! anyway, that is all i wanted and maybe to understand why things are the way they are! i like it and it is unusual/conventional, but my mind starts telling me don't go there.
i think i am going to stick with what my instincts tell me. they have never let me down before, only let myself down when i ignored them.
i am going to go back to where i was before all of this doubt set in and just enjoy all my friends and not worry about having to figure everything out! i will check my feelings more often, so i don't start drifting out there in never never land. i am way to suseptible in; i love being in love and all that goes with it. that is why i got so into your poems and the way you express your self is so eloquent, and yes i could probably have been a good actress because i feel things much. i think it is easy to lose yourself like that. your stuff is so good and i look forward to just hearing your comments about lubochka.
ok, and i am not afraid at all of falling in love. i want to badly; i need it. i want to see it on the face of the one i love. i want to know he is happy with me and that i make him feel good! i don't believe i am meaningless, i don't know what that is. it may not be the same in his mind as mine at this point but no one has ever told me that i didn't mean something to them, even if it wasn't always good they still remember me!!!
aq2, what do you think of me? am i over emotional? please tell me the truth.
and why did you say you were lost? we are hear for each other. i know where to find you and you me. you are far from stupid, geez lol and i wouldn't be concerned because you have helped me very much and i am paying attention to you and it learning.
ok, i have to get going so i will talk to you later
love
wb
heather:
you are one genuine "jackpot" for any man who is fortunate enough to have your love. i just hope that you are not too burdened by letting all of those other heartbroken males down easy.
i will be sure to doublecheck my teeth, so i won't get any false long stares.
i just don't do the slaying dragons sort of thing anymore, but i do try to at least dish out the "charm". just being a gentleman should be enough, and just being a lady would be all that is required of her. and you know, sometimes that is hard to find these days.
you should have a column called "just ask heather"
taurus male
you are one genuine "jackpot" for any man who is fortunate enough to have your love. i just hope that you are not too burdened by letting all of those other heartbroken males down easy.
i will be sure to doublecheck my teeth, so i won't get any false long stares.
i just don't do the slaying dragons sort of thing anymore, but i do try to at least dish out the "charm". just being a gentleman should be enough, and just being a lady would be all that is required of her. and you know, sometimes that is hard to find these days.
you should have a column called "just ask heather"
taurus male
wonderbox:
love is a drug sometimes, and when you need it badly it can make you act outside yourself ...you are right about just relying on your instints, and enjoy goods times with your friends, you may be trying too hard. i have found that whenever one tries to "rush" the natural pace of things you just trip yourself up. i been there all too often. and, if you constantly concern yourself with feelings of "does my love feel happy with me", you may just be complicating something, that is just going to happen or its not. i can't please everyone, all we can do is give our best. i am sure your best is damned good, so just go with it.
taurus male
(who has been down that "try too hard" road)
love is a drug sometimes, and when you need it badly it can make you act outside yourself ...you are right about just relying on your instints, and enjoy goods times with your friends, you may be trying too hard. i have found that whenever one tries to "rush" the natural pace of things you just trip yourself up. i been there all too often. and, if you constantly concern yourself with feelings of "does my love feel happy with me", you may just be complicating something, that is just going to happen or its not. i can't please everyone, all we can do is give our best. i am sure your best is damned good, so just go with it.
taurus male
(who has been down that "try too hard" road)
taurus male,
why thank you for the compliments! and with your charm, i'm sure the ladies forget all about those piddly dragons ; )...seriously, it is hard to find true grace and charm these days, and i would take that over the mythical fairy-tale crap any day, as would any sensible woman!
with love for all,
just ask heather (ha ha)
why thank you for the compliments! and with your charm, i'm sure the ladies forget all about those piddly dragons ; )...seriously, it is hard to find true grace and charm these days, and i would take that over the mythical fairy-tale crap any day, as would any sensible woman!
with love for all,
just ask heather (ha ha)
well nothing personal to heather of course, but she is not the only "jackpot" in here mr. taurus male. 🙂
af(sidekick)
af(sidekick)
has anyone else noticed that upper case letters are not accepted in here(?) what happened?
Is It Fixed Now?
Why yes it is. Good.
(my bad)
(my bad)
TM,
"love is a drug sometimes"
Everything is a drug to me!LOL Life is a drug and everything about it. I am just a maniac! I'm re-reading through these posts and I must say I 'tickle' myself sometimes!!! There really has been some wonderful moments with all of you! Maybe AQ is right; maybe theartre is the way to go—! But I love you all, and I thank you for playing with me and putting up with me on a daily basis!!!/no easy chore I know. But we do have some fun! Love,
WB
(who is running the show?)!
"love is a drug sometimes"
Everything is a drug to me!LOL Life is a drug and everything about it. I am just a maniac! I'm re-reading through these posts and I must say I 'tickle' myself sometimes!!! There really has been some wonderful moments with all of you! Maybe AQ is right; maybe theartre is the way to go—! But I love you all, and I thank you for playing with me and putting up with me on a daily basis!!!/no easy chore I know. But we do have some fun! Love,
WB
(who is running the show?)!
Where is my Lubochker—? I do miss you!
WB
right here as always!
got my smile on 🙂
WB
right here as always!
got my smile on 🙂
here is a signal taurus,
come on just give me one little look!
I will leave you alone; just one look, please!!!!!!!!!—?? I'm askin you for it.
Love
come on just give me one little look!
I will leave you alone; just one look, please!!!!!!!!!—?? I'm askin you for it.
Love
you know! HAH
Sidekick:
How could you even think that I did not think the world of you. You are my sidekick, remember? Like Bonnie and Clyde, Tarzan and Jane, so get that straight, will ya? I still say that Taurus Male better stop playing around with you. I will not be convinced that a simple message from him is out of line, or not possible...We are going through some heavy crap, I am, but do you see me clamming up? Noooooooooope.
Many ladies on this board are really special...
I always look forward to what yall will come up with next....
Taurus Male
(surrounded by classy ladies, I'd say)
How could you even think that I did not think the world of you. You are my sidekick, remember? Like Bonnie and Clyde, Tarzan and Jane, so get that straight, will ya? I still say that Taurus Male better stop playing around with you. I will not be convinced that a simple message from him is out of line, or not possible...We are going through some heavy crap, I am, but do you see me clamming up? Noooooooooope.
Many ladies on this board are really special...
I always look forward to what yall will come up with next....
Taurus Male
(surrounded by classy ladies, I'd say)
Taurus Male I'm aware that Taurus' are going through crap. And you mentioned your not clamming up; I'm not sure you meant your personal romantic situation
-- or posting to us on this board; because it's totally different. If you are not clamming up to us here, it's because you have no romantic interest in anyone here. And not every Taurus Male will react in the same manner when going through crap. Also, when two people have an interest in each other, one is bound to clam up at one time or another -- especially if romantic feelings are involved. So whatever my friend is experiencing -- with a breakup, career -- or me, his clamming up is probably a combination.
But I'm tired of wondering about him -- and my situation. Let him snooze -- and loose. He'll have to find out the hard way if he does loose. I'm sure I'll find someone else to love and appreciate me.
Well, have a good weekend. I may not be around much on this board.....who knows. Maybe Aries are going through things as well.
AF(Sidekick)
-- or posting to us on this board; because it's totally different. If you are not clamming up to us here, it's because you have no romantic interest in anyone here. And not every Taurus Male will react in the same manner when going through crap. Also, when two people have an interest in each other, one is bound to clam up at one time or another -- especially if romantic feelings are involved. So whatever my friend is experiencing -- with a breakup, career -- or me, his clamming up is probably a combination.
But I'm tired of wondering about him -- and my situation. Let him snooze -- and loose. He'll have to find out the hard way if he does loose. I'm sure I'll find someone else to love and appreciate me.
Well, have a good weekend. I may not be around much on this board.....who knows. Maybe Aries are going through things as well.
AF(Sidekick)
That's the spirit, Sidekick.
And I do stand corrected.
TM
And I do stand corrected.
TM
Sidekick: Don't go into hiding. we'll miss you so. Remember what I said previously, love yourself first!
I sense you are very depressed over this. I mean I am too somewhat with my taurus situation but don't forget YOUR (this is suppose to be in caps btw, just in case Duncan says otherwise) purpose in life.
I know it's easier said than done to say "to hell with him", but sometimes that's what we must do to recover and get a sense of ourselves back. Time heals all wounds remember that.
Money Lady
I sense you are very depressed over this. I mean I am too somewhat with my taurus situation but don't forget YOUR (this is suppose to be in caps btw, just in case Duncan says otherwise) purpose in life.
I know it's easier said than done to say "to hell with him", but sometimes that's what we must do to recover and get a sense of ourselves back. Time heals all wounds remember that.
Money Lady
Hi ML,
Oh I do love myself. And that's a must before loving someone else. It's not possible to love another without loving yourself first. And we all get depressed -- not to be confused with not loving ourselves though. I'll try not to go into hiding too much. I've just got a lot going on right now. I also sense his heart hasen't healed from his previous breakup and if that's the case, he is definitely not ready for someone like me in his life. He absolutely has to be ok with himself, before coming to me. I'll have to be even more patient. It's funny when we go through these things; almost to teach us lessons in life.
But I have also heard that Taurus' are very slow to heal when it comes to breakups; they seem to last forever; but I hope for his sake he doesn't wait too long. Because when he does realize it, it may just be too late.
Anyhow, I hope everything is well with you. And you are able to work things out with your friend too. Did you have a nice weekend? Meant to ask you if you are in the city too.
Sidekick
Oh I do love myself. And that's a must before loving someone else. It's not possible to love another without loving yourself first. And we all get depressed -- not to be confused with not loving ourselves though. I'll try not to go into hiding too much. I've just got a lot going on right now. I also sense his heart hasen't healed from his previous breakup and if that's the case, he is definitely not ready for someone like me in his life. He absolutely has to be ok with himself, before coming to me. I'll have to be even more patient. It's funny when we go through these things; almost to teach us lessons in life.
But I have also heard that Taurus' are very slow to heal when it comes to breakups; they seem to last forever; but I hope for his sake he doesn't wait too long. Because when he does realize it, it may just be too late.
Anyhow, I hope everything is well with you. And you are able to work things out with your friend too. Did you have a nice weekend? Meant to ask you if you are in the city too.
Sidekick
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