Married Taurus man wants Affair with Married Virgo

I am a married virgo and I just recently started talking online to a married taurus male online. We are both looking for happiness outside of our marriage (please do not judge, for I am aware of all the pros and cons and we also might or might not be in "open" marriages).

Taurus and virgo are a good match in the zodiac, but, it is rare for either one of these earth signs go outside their marriage. I would like some information about the taurus married male who is looking for such a relationship outside his marriage. I am a 40 yo married female virgo and this male is 37, successful, and has told me that his marriage has turned sour and are living like room-mates. I know that the taurus man, in general, is loyal and family oriented but for the taurus man to stray, his home life situation must be pretty bleak.

We have been talking online for about a week now and have had 2 phone conversations. He seems to stick to his guns and when he promises to call, he will. If he says he will be online, he is, etc. He is very flirtatious and loves intimate conversations but it seems he is dragging his feet when it comes to getting to the point of meeting in person. I am a typical virgo and DO NOT want to be bossy or seem demanding to the point where I ask him when we are going to meet.
Today he said he had some time but not alot and was wondering if I wanted to meet him somewhere. After I said ok, he said after thinking about it, it would not be right to just meet for a few minutes and he wants to spend some time with me.

P.S. This married taurus male has done this before, but with a single lady. Of course, she left him for a man that could give her commitment. Any/all adivce is appreciated.

I guess I should have known better than to post such a topic on "closed" minded people.

Like I said before, there are such things as "open" and "poly" marriages and relationships where this type of life style is accepted. I guess I will just do my own research and hope for the best in no one is interested.

I dont think it matters the signs....you are seriously looking for something to fill an empty hole and I doubt will find it in a married man who has a habit of serial cheating....and his *room mate* status is BS...they all say that. I also doubt many folks here who has had affairs will tell you it all worked out great.

My advice....? Look into the reasons WHY you are stepping outside your marriage...the solution cannot be found before the problem is identified.

Good luck.

If one doesn't choose to be judged they better stay out of the human pool in general then. Especially a public forum where it's wide open to every opinion under the sun. Just because an opinion or bit of advice isn't what one CHOOSES to hear does not make it good or bad. It simply doesn't line up with what you WANT TO HEAR.

My advice? You don't want it, I'm one of the 'close minded' rabble who thinks if you want to seek outside of a marriage then end it, be single and do as you please.

😉 Truth. Smell it.

DAZEDSCORP: I thank you for your understanding in my position.

TO EVERYONE ELSE:

I exposed my situation openly and really did not have to go into that much detail, but, I did and I thank DAZEDSCORP, again, for realizing that.

I could of came on here and lied completely and said "I have a female virgo FRIEND who is married and is interested in a married taurus male for whom they are both looking for emotional and MAYBE physical stimulation outside their marriage".

I am aware of the taurus characteristics, but, was not sure if the particular relationship status he is currently in (unhappily married) makes a difference in his personality traits. Like why would such a loyal sign look elsewhere for happiness outside his marriage? If the taurus takes his time and really thinks about things then why would he get into a situation like he did with a single woman?

We have been talking online for about a week and no movement on him wanting to meet in person and I do not want to be pushy, etc, etc. The number 1 thing with us is not sex, but communication, shared interests, spending time together in the future, etc. I know, hard to believe but we are in the same situation: Neither one of our spouses have the same interests and me and this taurus male do. The taurus male does not like 'fast' women and is somewhat a tease but then can become posessive and jealous. Do these characteristics stay the same no matter what his relationship status is? Should I treat this situation as him being a typical taurus male (like 2 single people talking online wanting to meet) and his characteristics are the same, no matter what the relationship status is?

Those are some of the questions I have other than the additional ones that were mentioned in my original post.

Oh and as far as our family situation, neither one of us have children envolved. And both myself and the taurus male feel almost the same way about money and a divorce for either of us in not in the making. Again, putting myself out there and being honest.

"he figured that out since he's on a roll with women online and found the easy way to fill the empty holes he's missing in his marriage."

I agree with this, which can also mean that I'd look at this whole situation as a typical trait of his. If he's filling voids elsewhere, then if not with you, someone else. Just as there was someone else before you.

Taurus is said to be a loyal sign, and in a way, his loyalty is displayed because he's still home with his wife and have no intentions of leaving her. I say this about my own sign when the males are said to be loyal. They don't believe in divorce, so that's their version of "loyal" with some of them. It sounds like this guy is the same in a way.

He'll probably entertain you as long as you let him, but I personally think that's all it may be. entertainment.

I was going to offer some wordy advice, but I just thought about it...if youre so gung ho, why are you asking for our advice? If this is what you want go for it, have fun. Live and learn.

lol oh and Im not a cheater never have been, but immature people with no regard for their vows will do what they want to do anyway. The best thing that can come of this is that your respective spouses will find out and maybe then something productive will transpire.

lol he doesnt like fast, possessive, jealous women because those are the types that expose cheaters. He doesnt want someone who will develop feelings and ask for more than just sex. I hope you arent looking for anything other than sex.

The OP will be hard pressed to find anyone here to give advice or to condone cheating, seeing as many of us have been victims of infidelity and it is generally a frowned upon behavior. Lack of children doesnt make it more palatable.


Please be sensible for goodness sakes.

Why does anyone here automatically think that ANYTHING is going to happen? We haven't even met yet, and, according to INANA04, she quotes "He'll probably entertain you as long as you let him, but I personally think that's all it may be. entertainment"

So, yes, it might be all talk and no action on his part. I have heard of that trait where taurus men show intense curiosity and give you their full attention and then POOF! They disappear and they have you wondering what YOU did wrong. Then they contradict themselves after a while. One of their traits is to be loyal, keep their word and do what they say they will do. This taurus male has done that, for when he says he will call or email, he has. Now it is a waiting game before he starts going back on his word and all of this comes to a halt.

Thats what I am asking. About his behaviors and if it matters wether he is single, married, etc? Does it matter? And yes, I see your point now with using the word LOYALTY within the taurus structure. That does not mean he is monogamous.

Because you are obsessed with him/it enough to come to this site and ask advice. Smoke=fire.

In a nutshell ... HOW would you might feel if YOU were HIS wife .. and found out? Sorry.. I'm close minded on the subject too! Be on you're way if your not happy in your marriage .. just don't pursue someone else's husband. Being single is a different scenario, but when a marriage is involved .... that's Hiroshima! Sorry!

I don't care what your reasons are for your life style choices, it's none of my business and I'll offer no opinion on the matter.

What I will say is that from a Taurus angle I'd say if he hasn't met you yet he's not entirely convinced that he can go through with it, or that he's seeking the thrill rather than the reality of what MAY be available to him. Taurus males appear to me (from my experience of them), to be loyal. However, given that astrology is simply an aspect of a person, not their entire being, you have to consider other factors here too.

Yes, it's okay to ask questions using astrology as a base, but you won't get all the answers you need purely from this angle, and, regardless of where you ask a question of this nature you will meet a negative reaction at some point due to the nature of the situation. On here, asking a Taurus for their view on it all isn't going to be of much help since you're asking some of the most loyal people to voice their thoughts on something which most will be against.

The best advice I can think of is to ask the man involved - since he's already open on quite an intimate level you may find if you pushed him a little more he'd give you the answers you're looking for.

Posted by DazedScorp
She's not asking anyone to condone cheating. She's asking for some insight on how a Taurus man thinks... Hence, why this is on the Taurus forum, and not in the relationship forum asking for relationship advice.

Taurus men hold their own counsel. Their very silence on this board indicates their accord with the feminine of our kinds voice. Believe this. All our voices are ONE on this matter. If you see lack of reply, the answer is clear.

I think what bothers everyone here with your post is that you have failed to mention, on any level, any responsibility for the fact that you (and this taurus) are not being honest with your current partners... it is my belief that mental and emotional straying is equally neglectful towards a relationship than cheating. sleeping & seeing someone else is easy; actually addressing the problems with your partner-- that is honorable. you nor this taurus are doing the right thing-- talking with your spouses.

your unhappiness is something that needs to be discussed between you and your partners. I am not claiming you have intentions of sleeping with this man. I am however, seeing your behavior as disrespectful-- his as well. what kind of man is he, if he cannot have the decency to confront his relationship in open discussion? what kind of woman does that make you? how will you value his actions now, if or when you possibly become intimate with him, on a relationship level? are his behaviors reflecting someone worthy of respect? are yours...? I think you need to discuss your feelings with your partner, and if you two are planning on carrying any further communication, you demand that he speaks with his wife as well. as a general human code of honor, they both deserve that much.

Ok I guess ill be the black sheep.

How about getting a divorce? Both of you. So you think that you and this Taurus man are going to be happy? Pff. You are doing it to the people you are with now what makes anyone think you won't do it to each other when the novelty runs out?

Look you probably weren't fully happy when you both got married anyways. How about just staying single? Why the F do people get married? Seriously. The only people who get this right are gay men (fabulous yes you are) with open relationships. Just live together but don't get married then you can go around loving on who ever the hell you want.

FFS! Seriously now I am on a rant.

Hey look simple as this. DON'T GET FUCKING MARRIED.

Gee....How hard is that? You want to fuck around and fuck everyone and love all up on 200+ people a night? STAY THE FUCK SINGLE.

Okay poster, here is my 2 cents.

I think Taurus men are a lot of talk. I think they will flirt with you and keep you interested until you try to make it real. Then you have to take the game to them and you will see how in to you they are. I met a Taurus online and we spoke like that for 2 years, now we made it real but I had to bring it to him. If I hadn't, who knows if he would ever had taken the plunge. They take it slow, or totally interested in everything about you and enjoy the chase. I would just keep talking to him and seeing what he is all about. It always comes out. A week is too short to know these complex men. So if that is your choice, that is my advice. And above all, be safe.

On the moral issues of what you are doing...I prefer to let people make their own decisions in life.

I hope that gives you some insight.

Sorry, ARE totally interested in everything...

Based on my experience with Taurus men, if they are cheating on their wife they are also cheating on the mistress with a third party too. And tend to be possessive of all the women they are involved with, and will get jealous of the husband of the married woman they are involved with. He did not want the mistress sleeping with her husband.

It's more than just sun signs! A Taurus with a lot of air or fire in their chart is more likely to be
a Grade A Cheater. But why do you care about the psychology behind a supposedly "loyal" Taurus
cheating? What difference does it make? It has nothing to do with his home life. You could be the most
PERFECT(I know you Virgos love that word) woman you can think of and he will cheat on you too. There is a difference between being emotionally loyal
and physically loyal. Even the most loyal Taurus is a flirt. Loyal- yes, but a wandering eye, lustful, flirt nonetheless.
Combine that flirting with a firey/airy venus or mars and boom- you've got yourself your own personal nightmare.
So stop trying to analyze his home life and his actions.
Don't delude yourself into thinking that if you do things better than his wife, that'll he change for you. He won't.
He's a bull, he's exactly who he'll always be. Goodluck Virgo.