No sensuality :(

So I travelled to spend a long weekend at my Bull's place for the first time. He was caring, gentleman, funny, charming, generous but.....a bit selfish in bed... it was all about him....Me, being a Pisces, was more than happy to please and I did get high in seeing him getting pleasure however I feel that I didn't get much in return....After reading here about the amazing sensuality of Taurus in bed I had some expectations.....but his loving making was very basic, little foreplay, predictable and unadventurous. I didn't even get enough kisses...and no oral at all. However he was more than happy to let me give him mind-blowing BJs (his words).
He promised to return the favour but didn't even attempted.
When I tried to become more open and erotic and sensual and playful he grounded me down and closed up. He literally got scared and I was just being a little bit less shy.
What confuses me is that this is the second time we spend time together with sex involved. First time I was super shy and getting used to the idea of having a man again (long time alone on purpose to heal from past relationship) but he took charge, and took pride in delivering a range of sexual/sensual experiences including oral on me, shower together and erotic talking. We didn't have much time so I was receptive but a bit slow on my response. This time around we had loads more time but he kind of got complacent for lack of a better word...judging by his performance on the first time we were together I can rightfully say I was expecting equal or more but not less......
On the other hand, he was very vocal in expressing his thoughts and emotions and was proud to tell everybody I am his girlfriend even though we haven't had a serious and open talk about our relationship status yet. We met during holidays and live in different countries and are just beginning to get to know each other.....yes the conection is high and we always have an amazing time together but I need to see and know more before getting super committed (even though I already am committed to him in my heart) as I don't like shallow relationships.
He also let me in to his work life and business plans, fished for opinions and shared his goals and dreams which counts for me to believe he really likes me.
But sorry, 3 days of sex, not receiving enough stimulation and repeating the same position over and over again on the same side of the bed and at the same times could be a deal breaker for me. What a shame. I shall give one last chance.

Please chime in.

What's his Venus cause whatever it is sensuality belongs to Venus..

Oh and sex is just a word. Don't focus just on love making ,passionate sex, its not all about that, there's more lots more. But I am a female so idk about the opposite sex of Taurus.

I tried! But he was like covering a beautiful flowing fountain with rough gritty sand.
He didn't let me flow.

Also mars too.

I will try to get info and check his other placements. He made me very comfortable in bed yet he won't take advantage of my openness.

I have a taurus bf and he is VERY dominant in bed. Like he won't even let me ride him for too long because he doesn't feel like he's in charge lol. But I will say he makes sure I get off each and every time and won't stop until I do...

Posted by evalani290
Allure him,even if he's already your boyfriend. Don't think about the status,build that sexual chemistry before you get intimate. When you're around him do small things like touching him subtly or just kiss him on the neck randomly,then get back to whatever it is that you were doing like nothing happened.
Don't wear strong scents,use a delicate perfume everytime you're with him so he can remember it when he thinks of you,the same one,don't change it.
Undress slowly...and use flawless fabrics,something that he will wanna touch.
Use your voice,the tone you use with him is very important.
Walk like you're telling him that you want him,let him imagine and discover you.

Details that a Taurus man will notice about a woman.

Damn, that was like reading my personal bio. You'd think having a gem sun would speed things up a bit but having heavy earth placements (Mars and Venus in Taurus to name a few) it takes a while to connect. There is this visceral need to have all the senses engaged...especially one's sense of smell..that bit about perfumes is dead on...I swear I associate my strongest relationships with a distinct aroma of some sort.

To really tap into that sensuality the OP desires, a partner has to develop an appreciation for the slow build. Let us earn it though. Instead of undressing for him, have him undress you (be careful though, when in a really bawdy mood those with Taurus placements are likely to tear off a partner's under-garments...albeit in a very slow and controlled manner...we very much enjoy "unwrapping" certain "gifts").

Also while verbal communication is key to letting him know what you want, know that we value non-verbal communication just as much if not more - body language is paramount. When truly invested in a partner we tend to key into them, we instinctively watch for queues as to when a partner is sexually receptive (though we try not to be obvious about it), we try not to make assumptions but if you let him see the need in you he will respond in kind.

As for having him reciprocate "orally" that may involve some sensory misdirection. Remember that bit about our sense of smell, use that to your advantage, tip a little of that perfume just below the belly button...he'll pick up on that scent while he "explores"...and, if he's anything like I am, he'll show his appreciation for the sentiment and "reward" you for it 😉. If he's really into you he'll want you to be completely satisfied...we take great pride in that sort of thing.

Posted by Goldfish
So I travelled to spend a long weekend at my Bull's place for the first time. He was caring, gentleman, funny, charming, generous but.....a bit selfish in bed... it was all about him....

I have experience on this, one thing, you have to be very clear about this from the beginning, talk, don´t be afraid because he will thank you. Taureans are not bright in such subtleties.

You did not expect this from any man, women have to take over the matter, stop them, temper them, drive them, if you don´t they didn´t and is not men-nature, is not easy for them and also they don´t work well as "fortune-teller". It`s entirely your responsibility.

Well I think I wasn't clear in my OP..
Although I was shy during our first sexual experiences, I was still receptive and sensuous, he was the one who mentioned shyness and telling me to trust him and flow. This was one month ago.
This time round, being more emotionally involved and knowing him better, I was able to relax and was willing to show him what I am like in bed. I love foreplay and the build up and I do take my time and explore and he was glad and happy to be at the receiving end however his own actions were basic .....passionate but basic. I always let him take my clothes off but he even mentioned I should come to bed with no clothes at all to speed up the whole thing.
He was dominant and in charge of the penetration so he did it when he wanted to, he could have delayed if he wanted. .....
Oh well, perhaps he is not into me..? I find it hard to believe considering all of the other factors...but who knows?

I think perhaps it's a bit of a stretch to go straight to him not being in to you. People's preferences in the bedroom can differ. Maybe it's just as simple as - he's a selfish lover who likes things to be 'basic'. I would make sure to speak about exactly what you want next time and see if he continues to be selfish or if he puts in some effort. Communication is key to anything. And considering it doesn't seem like you two have slept together enough for him to 'feel' out or 'know' what you like, you really do need to verbalize it. But, there's also a possibility that things won't change and this is just how your sex life will be like with him.