Posted by TaurusBull1977He says that I'm too good for him. He says that he has some things that he needs to work on him self. He doesn't come out and say what it is but he says that it isn't another person and he is in a really sh!tty place in life. I told him that we can take one day at a time. I'm not in a rush and I enjoy us getting to know each other. three days ago he made this joke and crazy scenario (which he was trying to see if I entertain any other guy within the six months of this relationship and I told him no.) and he didn't like the answer I gave....then he closed off. He later said that he should disappear for a few days. I told him okay and hopefully he will find what he needs. he always push me away. I have been patient but now Im starting to think that maybe I should read between the lines and just let everything go. I don't want someone who is sitting on the fence of wanting to hold on to me but wanting to escape as well.
I hope everything works out for you.
Sorry to hear about your dilemma.
Question,
Why is he in and out?
Has he explained this to you?
Posted by busyeyes88hey busy!!! lol I love your fire placements hahah but I am. Its getting to become a bit too much.
Tell your Cancer that your life is not a "revolving" door.. He either stays in your life amidst any normal relationship issues or he leaves FOR GOOD...!!!
Put your foot down!!
Posted by facerollThis match has taken me for surprise bc im not a huge fan of the cancer men but I love his Taurus moon. I will have to agree that he has been a good match so far. If he would stop being doubtful with himself everything else would be great! We compliment each other so well but he let his overthinking destroy that.
taurus and cancer can be very on again off again when young and not totally mature. i've definitely been through that more than once with one. if you're gonna date a crab, as a bull, you need to be extremely patient and understanding because they'll do things that you will not believe they will do and will sometimes be shocked at certain things.
i've sworn never again after every time it ends with one. but i always end up back involved with one.
they're by far our best match though so i think it's worth really giving it your all.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Yea true. I totally understand but I need him to communicate that sometimes. I totally agree that a lot of his ways are more Taurus like at times. I feel like he is the watery version of me. I guess I'll just have patience and see what will happen next. Although this is slowly killing my VIA. She's hard to tame. Lol
His behavior appears more "Taurus-like" and less "Cancer-like."
I would say this was more attributed to his Moon.
If my money is funny, so is my reluctance to go forward with any potential relationship.
Call it a mixture of insecurity, pride, and determination.
My immediate goal and focus is money.
Too proud to accept help.
Too private to let anyone in...or to be seen as weak.
Besides, I have always wanted to be the best person I could be for my partner.
I'm the 'rock..
His Taurus Moon is a good thing.
At least he isn't expecting you to coddle him and take care of him.
Posted by AgentP911Wow. this is exactly what is happening. It's pretty fucked up. I become butt hurt in feelings thinking what did I do so wrong for being honest and loving.
To me, your cancer man sounds emotionally manipulative. I say this because I was in a relationship with one many years ago and he did the same as what your one is doing. He would constantly be in/out which was confusing. He would also pick fights over nothing. I later found out he would do this because he wanted me to constantly reassure him that I wanted him. So he would 'leave' hoping I'd beg him to stay. The fights were picked because he liked the making up bit. Too many times I would cry over nothing and feel insecure just so he could feel secure! When I confronted him about why he did this he said 'clever girl' and he felt some kind of achievement. I left his whiny arse.
I have similar examples from other Cancerian males such as relatives, friends etc.
I won't date a Cancerian Sun again! Mind you, I'm currently dating a Scorp with Cancer Moon and Mars so I'm keeping my eye out for any emotional manipulation!
Posted by HighTideI totally understand the ups and downs. I am a believer that ppl need alone time and etc. I just becoming burn out with him saying im very important to him and he caring about me but then push me away and thinks okay. what would be ur advice from a male view?
As a Cancer I really like this sign. I feel like Taurus women get me better than Aries by far.
I can understand your frustration though, we have alot of up and downs moments people dont want to deal with all the time.
We usually have to resort to friends with benefits because of this as sometimes it might be better if your with a Cancer but live in the house next door lol
Posted by busyeyes88pretty pic busy!Posted by AgentP911How's it going??!
To me, your cancer man sounds emotionally manipulative. I say this because I was in a relationship with one many years ago and he did the same as what your one is doing. He would constantly be in/out which was confusing. He would also pick fights over nothing. I later found out he would do this because he wanted me to constantly reassure him that I wanted him. So he would 'leave' hoping I'd beg him to stay. The fights were picked because he liked the making up bit. Too many times I would cry over nothing and feel insecure just so he could feel secure! When I confronted him about why he did this he said 'clever girl' and he felt some kind of achievement. I left his whiny arse.
I have similar examples from other Cancerian males such as relatives, friends etc.
I won't date a Cancerian Sun again! Mind you, I'm currently dating a Scorp with Cancer Moon and Mars so I'm keeping my eye out for any emotional manipulation!click to expand
Posted by Ilovemyaquahis placements are
Hey OP! What are his other placements?I'm going through a similar phase but with an aqua guy.He does on and off every time! Recently he was on his 'off' phase.Totally went MIA on me,my mail goes unanswered.Then I get a call yesterday,I miss it.I call him back an hour later,he didn't answer.It's been over 24 hrs and no call back.Why call when you have to ignore in the first place?! I don't know,this is very annoying.I understand his need of space,I need it too and am detached myself but he's two steps ahead and his distancing every now and then is a bit too much for me.Also,whenever he breaks up,he'll tell me two weeks later that he likes me alot when I tell him I like him.Idk,he drives me crazy with the contradictions and since he knows I'll adjust,I guess it gives him the liberty to do it all the more.
Posted by HoneybunniieYeah, it wasn't great. I was 17 to 19. He was 20 to 22. Lasted about 18 months. It was exhausting. I didn't realise relationships weren't meant to be as that was. He did nice stuff too such as he'd walk the 7 ish miles to see me (lack of money for a cab/no direct public transport) and probably other stuff so it was not all bad BUT ultimately the whole emotional cesspit was too much. One of the last things he did was to put minging aftershave on knowing I hated it (Issey Miyake for men... Yuk!!) as it gave me a bad headache then he kept asking me for a cuddle. When I didn't give it he said 'but Adele at the bakery really likes it' or some shit like that so I told him to fuck off and get a cuddle from her! It just wasn't for me and since then I've noticed a pattern with Cancerian men and emotional manipulation. I can smell that shit a mile off! I've no real advice for you though. I'd just say if it's not making you/him happy and it can't be fixed or compromised on then where do you go from there?Posted by AgentP911Wow. this is exactly what is happening. It's pretty fucked up. I become butt hurt in feelings thinking what did I do so wrong for being honest and loving.
To me, your cancer man sounds emotionally manipulative. I say this because I was in a relationship with one many years ago and he did the same as what your one is doing. He would constantly be in/out which was confusing. He would also pick fights over nothing. I later found out he would do this because he wanted me to constantly reassure him that I wanted him. So he would 'leave' hoping I'd beg him to stay. The fights were picked because he liked the making up bit. Too many times I would cry over nothing and feel insecure just so he could feel secure! When I confronted him about why he did this he said 'clever girl' and he felt some kind of achievement. I left his whiny arse.
I have similar examples from other Cancerian males such as relatives, friends etc.
I won't date a Cancerian Sun again! Mind you, I'm currently dating a Scorp with Cancer Moon and Mars so I'm keeping my eye out for any emotional manipulation!click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88Well... There were three:Posted by AgentP911How's it going??!
To me, your cancer man sounds emotionally manipulative. I say this because I was in a relationship with one many years ago and he did the same as what your one is doing. He would constantly be in/out which was confusing. He would also pick fights over nothing. I later found out he would do this because he wanted me to constantly reassure him that I wanted him. So he would 'leave' hoping I'd beg him to stay. The fights were picked because he liked the making up bit. Too many times I would cry over nothing and feel insecure just so he could feel secure! When I confronted him about why he did this he said 'clever girl' and he felt some kind of achievement. I left his whiny arse.
I have similar examples from other Cancerian males such as relatives, friends etc.
I won't date a Cancerian Sun again! Mind you, I'm currently dating a Scorp with Cancer Moon and Mars so I'm keeping my eye out for any emotional manipulation!click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvIts hard for people to understand this, we just need alone time and it looks like we are doing something bad by not wanting people around us at certain times.Posted by HighTideI know of a cancer female who loves bed two doors down her cappie husband. They have set days to spend together. Cancers must need lots of space
As a Cancer I really like this sign. I feel like Taurus women get me better than Aries by far.
I can understand your frustration though, we have alot of up and downs moments people dont want to deal with all the time.
We usually have to resort to friends with benefits because of this as sometimes it might be better if your with a Cancer but live in the house next door lolclick to expand
Posted by AgentP911A younger Cancer Man will do stuff like that. When we get older we are usually able to lay off and play it cool. Cancers are the children of the zodiac when it comes to romance. We have to fail miserably with people to understand what kind of person we need to be with.;Posted by HoneybunniieYeah, it wasn't great. I was 17 to 19. He was 20 to 22. Lasted about 18 months. It was exhausting. I didn't realise relationships weren't meant to be as that was. He did nice stuff too such as he'd walk the 7 ish miles to see me (lack of money for a cab/no direct public transport) and probably other stuff so it was not all bad BUT ultimately the whole emotional cesspit was too much. One of the last things he did was to put minging aftershave on knowing I hated it (Issey Miyake for men... Yuk!!) as it gave me a bad headache then he kept asking me for a cuddle. When I didn't give it he said 'but Adele at the bakery really likes it' or some shit like that so I told him to fuck off and get a cuddle from her! It just wasn't for me and since then I've noticed a pattern with Cancerian men and emotional manipulation. I can smell that shit a mile off! I've no real advice for you though. I'd just say if it's not making you/him happy and it can't be fixed or compromised on then where do you go from there?Posted by AgentP911Wow. this is exactly what is happening. It's pretty fucked up. I become butt hurt in feelings thinking what did I do so wrong for being honest and loving.
To me, your cancer man sounds emotionally manipulative. I say this because I was in a relationship with one many years ago and he did the same as what your one is doing. He would constantly be in/out which was confusing. He would also pick fights over nothing. I later found out he would do this because he wanted me to constantly reassure him that I wanted him. So he would 'leave' hoping I'd beg him to stay. The fights were picked because he liked the making up bit. Too many times I would cry over nothing and feel insecure just so he could feel secure! When I confronted him about why he did this he said 'clever girl' and he felt some kind of achievement. I left his whiny arse.
I have similar examples from other Cancerian males such as relatives, friends etc.
I won't date a Cancerian Sun again! Mind you, I'm currently dating a Scorp with Cancer Moon and Mars so I'm keeping my eye out for any emotional manipulation!click to expand
Posted by HighTidePosted by ImpulsvIts hard for people to understand this, we just need alone time and it looks like we are doing something bad by not wanting people around us at certain times.Posted by HighTideI know of a cancer female who loves bed two doors down her cappie husband. They have set days to spend together. Cancers must need lots of space
As a Cancer I really like this sign. I feel like Taurus women get me better than Aries by far.
I can understand your frustration though, we have alot of up and downs moments people dont want to deal with all the time.
We usually have to resort to friends with benefits because of this as sometimes it might be better if your with a Cancer but live in the house next door lol
If you just accept this we are usually great about trying to make it up to do you for being understanding.
I like it that way because I dont like my moods to be held against me and I like knowing im in full control of my emotions around people and there are times I know im not. If I dont have the energy to do something I dont want someone forcing me acting like I am a bad person if i dont do so and so. I dont like planning things in advance like going to weddings as I am not sure how my mental status will be on that day. Some are offended I would skip live events because of it and I have done it many times in the past. Most of the time I wasnt needed there anyway.;click to expand
Posted by Librawoman77lol I hear ya. I lack water in my chart so I am attract to a lot of ppl who has a chart heavy with water. I'm a patient person. I think my aqua moon tries to see all views and try to be understanding so it works against me and esp my libra mars. My venus is in aries so I'm impulsive and rash most of the time in love.
I deeply despised dating a cancerian! He expected me to pursue him, and I found him way too feminine! His moodiness was unbearable, and I am not into girlie, emotional men. What on earth does your Libra n Venus see in that wimp? He needs some space, ain't that bout nothing! You love his Taurus moon? Girl, I can't believe your Aquarius moon is tolerating this bum! Look at how attractive you are?
Cancers require an enormous amount of emotional nurturing like they want to feel that you feel them. the crab the crustacean doesn't have any vocal chords...so they will not communicate their needs...which means You will be left playing Sherlock homes with a grown-ass man.
Girl, I have no patience with Cancers - never let them know that u care- it makes their moody, rude, obnoxious, girlie, emotional disposition worst.
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