Taurus and his priorities

I posted about a month ago about a good friend of mine (who is also my boyfriends brother) who passed away. Things have been tough on everyone. I've been sliding into a deep depression, and I've kind of isolated myself when I feel it getting bad.

Things between my bf and I have been rocky. He's been doing a lot of things that have just pissed me off lately.

I catch him lying about stupid shit that don't need to be lied about (his whereabouts, he's always with his best friend which I don't mind, but I don't like being lied to), lately he's been ditching me to be with his friends. He'll make plans with me and tell me he's going to text me later, and he won't text me at all, then I'll find out he was at his best friends again. He puts his friends before me. He'll offer all his friends food or drinks, and won't offer me anything. He'll buy his friends a beer, and won't buy me anything. He has no sex drive anymore, I'll give him head and then he just stops me and goes to sleep. I'll tell him I love him and I get no response back.

I feel like he prioritizes everyone but me, and I just don't know what to do. I feel like just breaking it off with him, but it's easier said than done of course, and I truly do want to work things out. I understand that he's grieving still, and of course is going to take a long time to heal, and this might be part of the grieving process for him. I want to talk about it with him, but I don't want him to feel like I'm nagging him because he already has enough shit to deal with. I wanna be his support but it's hard to support someone who treats me this way. I feel like I'm being a spoiled brat, but I can't help the way I feel. I have to watch my friend deal with the loss of her boyfriend. When I think of them I just think to myself, "at least my boyfriend is still here" and "life is too short to break up over things like this" but like I said I can't really help feeling like this. When should I talk to him about it? Should I wait a little and deal with it?

Stop nagging him. Give him space to breathe.

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy

Posted by pinkbird03
Stop nagging him. Give him space to breathe.

Great advice. Don't overdo things for him. He's being pretty disrespectful so back off and let him come to you when he is ready.

Obviously, as you say, with his brother passing away he's going to be in quite a bad place so again some space is going to help. When he's ready to talk he will.

I think there is a line though. If he gets too disrespectful then you should know when to walk away.

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Thank you! I'll definitely back off

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy
^^^ I mean, don't ignore him or anything but he'll definitely sit up and take notice if you stop initiating contact or chasing after him so much. Hope this works out for you.

Oh no definitely won't ignore him, like you said I'm just going to stop initiating so much. Thank you