aftershine
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Taurus and their harems.....why?
My harem currently holds 8 menz. However I'm not so sure about number 6 anymore. He's handsome, tall, but kinda balding and has bad teeth. I will consider trading for a handsome fella, but he has to have nice teeth and hair. Can be somewhat shorter tho. Anyone?
after: the reasons why a taurus would have a harem? What is the point?!?! Like you are a loyal person to the core then why bother with other girls when you look for "the one"?
>>>Its just a group of female friends. It doesn't *necessarily* have a sexual connotation. Sometimes the members of the harem will be admirers, maybe even desiring a relationship. I am not sure what is so wrong about keeping friends like this, as long as you aren't consciously leading them on.
after: What if you end up finding "the one" but she doesnt take you seriously and walks away with your heart because of your harem? Doesnt that thought frighten you in any way? :/
>>>If she's "the one", and she's jealous, you talk about it, and decide accordingly. I've had to cut alot of ties for new relationships. Doesn't everyone? You are just not going to have the time to keep up with all of your older friends as much as you did. Bulls tend to have a more singular focus.
after: I get that its to pass the time and playful nothing serious but why bother with all the girls when you clearly want one and one only....would you (taureans) like it if your object of affection had a harem of their own?
>>>I find that most women do. Its probably healthy. And if its a problem - e.g. the relationships are inappropriate - then I address it.
>>>Its just a group of female friends. It doesn't *necessarily* have a sexual connotation. Sometimes the members of the harem will be admirers, maybe even desiring a relationship. I am not sure what is so wrong about keeping friends like this, as long as you aren't consciously leading them on.
after: What if you end up finding "the one" but she doesnt take you seriously and walks away with your heart because of your harem? Doesnt that thought frighten you in any way? :/
>>>If she's "the one", and she's jealous, you talk about it, and decide accordingly. I've had to cut alot of ties for new relationships. Doesn't everyone? You are just not going to have the time to keep up with all of your older friends as much as you did. Bulls tend to have a more singular focus.
after: I get that its to pass the time and playful nothing serious but why bother with all the girls when you clearly want one and one only....would you (taureans) like it if your object of affection had a harem of their own?
>>>I find that most women do. Its probably healthy. And if its a problem - e.g. the relationships are inappropriate - then I address it.
Posted by Theatrum
My harem currently holds 8 menz. However I'm not so sure about number 6 anymore. He's handsome, tall, but kinda balding and has bad teeth. I will consider trading for a handsome fella, but he has to have nice teeth and hair. Can be somewhat shorter tho. Anyone?
HAHHHAHAHAH! If they are in the harem, they usually don't *quite* make the cut, huh?
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Theatrum
My harem currently holds 8 menz. However I'm not so sure about number 6 anymore. He's handsome, tall, but kinda balding and has bad teeth. I will consider trading for a handsome fella, but he has to have nice teeth and hair. Can be somewhat shorter tho. Anyone?
HAHHHAHAHAH! If they are in the harem, they usually don't *quite* make the cut, huh?click to expand
True dat! Those who do make the cut are beyond harem material ;P
Posted by sandynadsPosted by Theatrum
My harem currently holds 8 menz. However I'm not so sure about number 6 anymore. He's handsome, tall, but kinda balding and has bad teeth. I will consider trading for a handsome fella, but he has to have nice teeth and hair. Can be somewhat shorter tho. Anyone?
wtf dood wtf?
dis da libra buying you pool tables and cowboy vests?click to expand
nono, that was the Taurus!
Characteristics of " THE ONE " then ? Do you just KNOW or you slowly watch their every moves and decide later..once you decide do you just sit there patiently of that target to come to you...if not then " bad luck" or do you per sue for once.
@ Tauruslovescorpio i remember you once said
" i often choose the one who try to hardest " ..
Me - I don't have many harems. I hate leading men on. There are however male friends and secret admires that i enjoy having around..
I don't do well with having too many guy friends... I can't seem to be able to focus on multiple men at once.. i need to practice on some of these skills though. I come across at too loyal once i think you are worthy of my love and affection .. then its all or nothing.. not sure about all the other female bulls.
.it must be a male taurus thing... :p
@ Tauruslovescorpio i remember you once said
" i often choose the one who try to hardest " ..
Me - I don't have many harems. I hate leading men on. There are however male friends and secret admires that i enjoy having around..
I don't do well with having too many guy friends... I can't seem to be able to focus on multiple men at once.. i need to practice on some of these skills though. I come across at too loyal once i think you are worthy of my love and affection .. then its all or nothing.. not sure about all the other female bulls.
.it must be a male taurus thing... :p
SunTauVenGem, you don't have many harems? I thought one was enough lol! Gotta step up my game!
There are however male friends and secret admires that i enjoy having around.. - definition of a harem 😛
There are however male friends and secret admires that i enjoy having around.. - definition of a harem 😛
Posted by sandynads
I KNOW THE CHICK THAT FIXES MY COMPUTERZ IS IN MY HAREM, MIGHT BANG. I KEEP SEING HER BUTT AND PANTIES WHEN SHE BENDS OVER. NOICE!
+1 LEO
+ 1 SAG
+ 1 STYLIST IDK THE SIGN
4!
None of them are lover potential .. !
My bull (ex) whatever... has tons of female friends. leo moon and venus in aries perhaps? he keeps in touch with every single one of his past lovers/flings...whatever you want to call it. I didn't feel threaten at all though, it was really just friends ..we bull can detect bull crap million miles away ..another bull i came across with also had tons of harems and insisted that i was the only girl that like him..( yeah right)...
I do think that there are women that allow themselves to be their harem ...I do think we are pretty easy to figure out...if we respond to you..consistent with our behaviour ...and being extremely affection...then you are on your way to becoming more than just their harem....but if we ignore you...and only respond once in a while...then you know...that we are too busy responding to other harem of ours or busy doing our OWN thing and you don't mean that much to us ...and will get back to you when its your turn. or when we are bored.....Harsh but true.
Posted by Theatrum
SunTauVenGem, you don't have many harems? I thought one was enough lol! Gotta step up my game!
There are however male friends and secret admires that i enjoy having around.. - definition of a harem 😛
...really? i do know there are men out there who admire me secretly( i'm a dancer) .. also at work i organise parties etc...
I often flirt ....(venus in gemini) ... unconsciously... and they are left disappointed because i never go out with them ...
I RUN from players though..there were about 3 ...all dancing teachers wanting to...you know.. but i just RUN !!! but on the dance floor...is a different story....
Damn...i do have harems !
Aww, don't put too much thought into it. Just try to make the best of the time you spend together. If you keep up the positivity, and there is a harem, maybe eventually you will stand out.
When I worked with my Taurus friend a lot of females liked him. Before we even started talking an older woman that I talked to said "girls be all over that boy right there.." Months later when we became friends I'd be like "she likes you" and he'd go "Nah, not like that." Still til this day when we talk about those that liked him at the job he says "not like that" so he never felt they liked him on "that level." I guess there's a level to everything, and in his eyes they were fun to flirt with. I remember going out to get pizza with him during lunch and one girl asked him to bring back some bread sticks or something. I think he said "okay" lol. In the car I asked was he going to get them for her and he said "h@ll nawl" lol.
Then there was another Taurus there. Women all over him. He just basked in the attention, but he was In a relationship. He liked the attention, but when it was time for his woman to pick him up he pushed everybody to the side. Surprisingly, I don't think he would have cheated on her at all.
When I worked with my Taurus friend a lot of females liked him. Before we even started talking an older woman that I talked to said "girls be all over that boy right there.." Months later when we became friends I'd be like "she likes you" and he'd go "Nah, not like that." Still til this day when we talk about those that liked him at the job he says "not like that" so he never felt they liked him on "that level." I guess there's a level to everything, and in his eyes they were fun to flirt with. I remember going out to get pizza with him during lunch and one girl asked him to bring back some bread sticks or something. I think he said "okay" lol. In the car I asked was he going to get them for her and he said "h@ll nawl" lol.
Then there was another Taurus there. Women all over him. He just basked in the attention, but he was In a relationship. He liked the attention, but when it was time for his woman to pick him up he pushed everybody to the side. Surprisingly, I don't think he would have cheated on her at all.
Posted by librasunleovenus
I got him, he is hooked, and I am proud! Nobody can convince me otherwise! I'm on cloud nine! LOVING IT!!!!
^-^ good for you! im happy for you...taureans are for keeps :3
Posted by librasunleovenusPosted by sandynads
I DON'T DO LIBRAS. 😈
You say that now, lol. I know I can be your great DXP friend...that's my next goal...don't fight it!click to expand
^^ how do you know you got him hooked? i got my hooked too...well while it lasted. He shown i was his number one priority and all the others are non-existence.. only to be left out later as we are long distance and his heart/thoughts arn't with me... !!
All i'm saying is..you never know with a TAURUS ! you don't know for sure you are really his " the one" until he make a CLAIM on you.
What i've learnt with taurus men and men in general is....what you see isn't what you get.. things might be magical and you thought for once..you find that real love..and two people SHARE the same feelings... and before you know it...those moments become a memory ...JUST a memory..
Taurus do have their way of offering PDA and making you feel like you are NO.1 but trust me that isn't always the case . THe only way to know FOR SURE he's made up his mind about you and want to keep you forever and will never brake your heart is when he asks you OUT...to be his girlfriend..
to me that is the only way .....
LESSON LEARNT !!! T-T
Ok, look. We don't do this...
Why do people keep blaming us for stuff like this? What your allowed friends but we aren't? Really? Harem by it's definition is friends.
Why do people keep blaming us for stuff like this? What your allowed friends but we aren't? Really? Harem by it's definition is friends.
why not is the real question 😉
Posted by librasunleovenus
I was raised by a Taurus single dad. This is how my dad was. He was married 4 times, only one being after I was grown and out of the house. First one, my mom, I was an infant when they got divorced, so don't know anything about that one. He never had girlfriends in between wives, but had many women who liked him/wanted him. He never had women hanging around the house. Occasionally he would have someone over, cook for her and drink. I don't really remember any woman ever spending the night...I'm sure he did sex women though, well I know it. He just would make sure me and my sister weren't there, lol. I know women used to try to ask me about him when I was a kid (a young kid, too, dang), how desperate, lol, to try to find out what's up with a man through his children, lmao! He was a real catch I guess, lol, I'm sure he broke a lot of hearts. He would go many years between wives, the second one was when I was about 4 years old. Then divorced when I was in 3rd grade I think. So again single, no serious girlfriends, but many who tried. When he found someone who was respectable, with a good career, independent type, and a good cook, someone who would make a "good wife", those are the one's he would marry. His next wife was when I was in 6th grade. Divorced by 8th grade I think. Once he met the "marrying" type, it didn't take him long to get married. He wasn't slow once he met her, just took him a few years to find her. I think is his Aries venus though, that's what made him move faster than a Taurus venus (like mine). My point is, I wouldn't say my dad had a harem, just lots of female admirers in between wives. I'm pretty sure he never cheated. And these admirers never stayed in his life. They came and went. So, there you have it, the story of one Taurus male I know, who I would say, did not have a harem.
Oh my...what about your mom?....if you dont mind me asking that is. lol 😛
Posted by librasunleovenusPosted by aftershinePosted by librasunleovenus
I was raised by a Taurus single dad. This is how my dad was. He was married 4 times, only one being after I was grown and out of the house. First one, my mom, I was an infant when they got divorced, so don't know anything about that one. He never had girlfriends in between wives, but had many women who liked him/wanted him. He never had women hanging around the house. Occasionally he would have someone over, cook for her and drink. I don't really remember any woman ever spending the night...I'm sure he did sex women though, well I know it. He just would make sure me and my sister weren't there, lol. I know women used to try to ask me about him when I was a kid (a young kid, too, dang), how desperate, lol, to try to find out what's up with a man through his children, lmao! He was a real catch I guess, lol, I'm sure he broke a lot of hearts. He would go many years between wives, the second one was when I was about 4 years old. Then divorced when I was in 3rd grade I think. So again single, no serious girlfriends, but many who tried. When he found someone who was respectable, with a good career, independent type, and a good cook, someone who would make a "good wife", those are the one's he would marry. His next wife was when I was in 6th grade. Divorced by 8th grade I think. Once he met the "marrying" type, it didn't take him long to get married. He wasn't slow once he met her, just took him a few years to find her. I think is his Aries venus though, that's what made him move faster than a Taurus venus (like mine). My point is, I wouldn't say my dad had a harem, just lots of female admirers in between wives. I'm pretty sure he never cheated. And these admirers never stayed in his life. They came and went. So, there you have it, the story of one Taurus male I know, who I would say, did not have a harem.
Oh my...what about your mom?....if you dont mind me asking that is. lol 😛
That is a story for a whole new topic on a way different forum, lol. Like maybe if there were a forum about crazy btches, it could be told there!click to expand
😢 sorry to hear that
Posted by INTJBullIf by harem we're talking about a group of admirers of the opposite sex (or sex we are interested in) I fail to see the issue.
1. Why can't people have opposite sex friends?
2. Why would I want friends of any sex who didn't admire or like me in some capacity?
3. If opposite sex friends are hanging out hoping for a chance or thinking I'm playing hard to get, they'll figure out eventually that I don't lead anyone on & anything more than friendship won't be happening.
If I have a harem it's not because I'm insecure & need a bunch of admirers fawning all over me, it's because I'm not an asshole & I have the ability to be friendly with many people. (I thought this was normal civilized behavior?) I have very few true friends but I'm not just going to be a dick to 90% of the people I meet when there's no reason for it. To be honest, to me it sounds like an insecurity issue on the part of those who complain about "harems" more than it seems like an insecurity issue on the "harem" holder. HUGE turnoff for me is jealousy, telling me who I can & cannot talk to & creating an issue out of my friends & associates.
I agree that it's often insecurity, especially for people who've known or been with their Taurus for a long time. If you can't trust the person you're with and see the respect and boundaries they lay for you and everyone else... why would you be with them?
On the other hand, I can see why this might make someone hesitant or uncertain when they're first getting to know a Taurus. It takes time to gauge a Taurus, to see if a 'harem' is simply a group of friends or something else entirely. Takes time to build that level of trust and security with each other.
This thread is hella old lol but i only asked this question because i don't understand the concept of having a harem or a reserve of women (Plan B's). My venus in aries no comprendo, there is NOTHING wrong with having friends of opposite sex (its 2015 for fuksake) or being courteous, its actually a turn on when a guy has class and knows how to respect women
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What if you end up finding "the one" but she doesnt take you seriously and walks away with your heart because of your harem? Doesnt that thought frighten you in any way? :/
I get that its to pass the time and playful nothing serious but why bother with all the girls when you clearly want one and one only....would you (taureans) like it if your object of affection had a harem of their own?