Taurus I'm involved with talks to his ex every day

I'm in a fairly new situation with a Taurus we were very long distance now it's less long distance still a few hours apart but not the other end of the globe. We are not committed as it is new just growing what we have he is also not divorced yet and I won't date a man properly who is not divorced. We have known each other for a long time but not properly like now but not strangers as such.

He was seeing someone for 2 years and was going to live to be with her in another country but decided he couldn't do the move when he got there, due to his kids from his marriage in his country as they are all very close and he went back home and left that situation right as we re-met. He said it was over but my gut says I'm not sure on. I know he has been back once 5 months ago that is all though and before we got together again when I moved (I didn't move for him).

The thing is I know they talk nearly most days due to WhatsApp (as I have said before on here months ago) and it can be up to an hour or so at a time sometimes more than once a day. They were friends for 2 decades before they got together so the strong base of a friendship is there. He works nights so the time zone works for talking. Usually I wouldn't even check up on it but my gut was strange on it and I needed to know where I stand and the truth to not be blindsided as I have always been in the past by men.

The thing is it makes me uneasy to know this to be able to feel for him what I want to. He says he loves me deeply and when I'm with him maybe once a month at this stage I have no doubts in that it truly is incredible. talk is talk of course. We talk a bit every week but not on the frequency they do which makes me feel strange - however we do not have the same basis of friendship and time invested like they would have.

I know with Taurus when they are done they are done so I know he's not done as such - but I know the routine is there in place and has been for years obviously when they were together. He said she was very obsessed with him and always in love with him for years and years but I know he reaches out to her a lot also. So I think he still loves her it's more the fact he can't do the move he isn't with her. I know Taurus always loves someone when they love them unless they do something bad. BUT I can't be in love with someone who "I think" is in love with someone else 😢

I can't say anything as I can't tell him I have been monitoring his WhatsApp movements (he told me who she is and about it all so he hasn't hidden anything about it and her number was easily accessible to me) so I know it as fact.

It Makes me uneasy however for him to say how he loves me then spends hours talking to another woman the next day more than he would me (I can't stay awake all night especially but we don't text for hours and hours like they do anyway) He said it was lust not love in the end but I think he said that just As the way you do as we know a Taurus would not move country for lust. Naturally she has a nice house is cushy set up is financially well off and would have been an easy transition for him.

I can't know for sure the basis of their interaction is romantic but I'm not him, a man or a Taurus. But I know how he is and he is always very busy but the time spent talking means something I know. He is a very romantic man and it would upset me dearly to know he may be saying/feeling the same things he says to me to another woman

Any advice on how to proceed ? I know I have to say something due to how I feel maybe like "my gut says this situation isn't done, can I be sure?" sort of thing. Something was put on Facebook on an occasion which would allow me the dialogue it really was quite a full on post showing how obsessed with him she is/was.

Thank you in advance

I think until he is divorced and not seeing other women, take everything he says with a grain of salt.

I think I read he has been with his wife for 30 years? Plus with kids it makes it hard. Plus this other woman was another side piece and he was trying to start something with you at the same time with 3 of his women in different time zones.

It goes back to fundamental principles. ignore the words, what do his actions say?

This guy has a lot going on right now and it's all happening at once. I'd give yourselves a lot of space right now. You've known of each other for a long time. Another year to wait while he gets his life sorted will show you where the land lays. Meanwhile, if you're looking for a relationship then date others to keep your options open. This guy has a lot of baggage. Don't pass up on a guy who has less baggage and who is available right now.

If you continue to pursue things with this guy I feel you're going to get hung up on what you think you see and all the potential things about him thus avoiding the reality... which is... he's probably not ready to give you 100% of himself and can only offer 20% . Why would you settle for this?