Taurus man/Cancer woman

Hi everyone, I am new to the forum but I have been reading some posts here and they are fairly accurate from my experience. I need some advice with a taurus man that I am in love with. Any insight would be helpful.

I met him about 6-7 years ago at a conference through some mutual friends. We hit it off immediately, he was easy to talk to; it was like talking to an old friend. But found out he was engaged at the time, he actually told me and talked about it openly. Of course I was crushed but I didn't tell him. We kept in touch through email and we met up again at another conference several months later. I could tell he was attracted to me from him staring at me but we kept it completely professional and never crossed any lines. We still kept in touch through email, never called each other or met up after that. Then he got married and a few months later, had a baby. I couldn't ignore my feelings for him so I decided to stop all communication with him, I didn't tell him exactly how I felt, just I couldn't do it anymore. I changed my email address, deleted everything and didn't give him any way to contact me. It really took every ounce of strength I had to do it.

I moved to a different state after that and entered a relationship that wound end in a broken engagement 2 years later. I have to admit, occasionally, this person wound enter my mind and I would wonder what he is doing, etc. After my engagement ended, I was distrustful of men and started casually dating around after a year. I moved to California, got a new job. Then one day, this person contacted me through a networking website. I could not believe it. It had been close to five years I think since I last heard from him. He said he wanted to reconnect and that he is now divorced with a daughter.

As happy as I was to hear from him, I was extremely weary since he had broken my heart (without even knowing probably) and it took me a long time to get over it. Also his divorce was only finalized a couple of months before he contacted me and I didn't want to be the rebound. That was 4 months ago. We have been texting each other every couple of days since then. He had reassured me that he is completely over his ex and they share custody of the child. He had been extremely honest with me so far. The trouble is we now live in different states and opposite coasts.

We are both reluctant to do long distance. Being a true cancer, I am afraid of getting hurt and in the beginning, told him that should either of us start a serious relationship, that we should stop talking to each other. He responded by saying we should stay friends and he doesn't understand why we should stop talking to each other. Anyway, pretty soon afterwards, he started making sexual innuendo's, true to taurus nature, I presume? I suggested that we should meet up somehow and I think he felt pressured so he backed off. I was going to suggest going to visit him for his birthday (early May) but thought better of it, in case it was too much for him. Anyway, I did give him a birthday present which he was surprised by. He has been more communicative after his birthday. The frustrating thing is that I don't know when we will see each other and I don't know if he is seeing other people. I have not told him my feelings as I am sure it would be too much too soon especially since he got divorced within the past year. I really think we need to have some face time with each other and date each other but I don't know how to bring it up. And if we do see each other, I'm sure something will happen and I don't want to be FWB with him. I don't need any official titles but I really don't want to be FWB. Any thoughts? Should he come visit me first or should I just go and see him?

He's a Taurus. You really don't want my opinion right now...it's extremely jaded and not too nice.

joyous,

just give a try... and see where it leads but don't give your love right away.

-Joyous......

If this Taurus had just ended a relationship, it may take him some time to warm up to the idea or prospect of entering a new one. Long distance relationships can also be quite challenging. Be sure to ignore his sexual innuendos. You have to protect your heart FIRST! Most Bulls thrive on consistency. Start out how you're going to keep out. I would strongly advise not to enter a premature sexual relationship with a Bull too soon. Fixed signs can be quite stubborn and dogmatic in that sense.

Keeping in contact with him would be a great idea. Bulls are quite selective about who they permit in their inner circle. It has to be an organic, gradual process. No coercion, no false pretenses, no hidden agendas. Trust and loyalty means everything to us. Once you get the stamp of approval from a Bull, you will become a permanent fixture in his life.

Hiding in your shell, processing things, and isolating yourself from a prospective relationship will be a huge disservice to you, especially when you're dealing with a Bull. Loyalty to us comes in form of consistency & reliability. This is how we determine who we allow in realm.

To be honest, the best relationships stem from the best friendships.

Don't attempt to visit him right now, just let it flow naturally, get to know him again and play it by ear.

Good Luck! 😉

Thanks for your replies. I appreciate your responses.

TaurusBull, he has told me before that he trusts me. And he doesn't really talk about his feelings in general. He had told me that he's extremely loyal to his friends probably implying that's what he wants from me. I, too, am a very loyal person but it's not something that I can easily show. He also sometimes act like he's jealous and then back off. Anyway, I am going to Vegas in july so I told him that I'm going to be there. I just left it at that. I am not sure if he will make any effort to come but we'll see.

Keep you posted.