Taurus man have hard times letting go of the past

My story started in the scorp forum- (Scorpio Taurus dance). I totally cannot continue like that. I am in turmoil, I am tried to move on but he is not helping. He said he wants to get a divorce so we can be together. He said he even Google me right before he got married. He got married for his son. He was raised without a father figure. So He went to the court and got married because he did NOT want to do a big wedding unless it's with —the woman of his life—. And that in his heart he knows that I am the love of his life and that we will be together. (Like what do one say after that, I was speechless, I beyond confused 😢 I can be this guy friend; it's going to mess up his marriage. I told him we are too late for each other and that we will always have special place on our heart that he need to work on being happy/comfortable with his family. It's awful to build happiness on others misery. He said that I should not make the mistake that he made, that being comfortable make you depressed. I don't know what do. He said he is 40% happy and I think that's comfortable enough. I should separate myself from him completely. My best friend said we both living in the past because people do move on 🙂. We can't seem to get closure ??_ 😢 I feel like I am in two relationships. One is long distance??_it just painful: He def need closure, like today when I spoke to him, he told he kept a card that I gave him when I was 15. I told him he was lying. So He sends me a picture of it. I gave him that valentine card with kisses of lipsticks all over it. He read it over the phone; He still kept it oh my god that made my day. I am so hopeless 🙂

DepthScor,

If your topic is not an understatement I don't know what is??_ Don't feel you are alone. My Taurus man is still having issues over his ex cheating and they??ve been broken up 4 yrs. He??ll deny until death that he's bitter and not trusting of women but being a Cancer I see right thru it. I just wish I had went with my first mind when I sensed he had emotional issues and ran like hell, we've been together a year and 4 mths and I feel like he's not into me because he never got over his past..

I don't think it's was cheating. I went away for college (another State). We were not together. I got into another relationship, got pregnant with my daughter. Big betrayal, He somehow cannot get over that, because He had plans for us .I was still his possession he said. I did not see it like that, that's the main reason why I don't have long distance relationship. Now he is married to Pisces girl and I have advised him to try to move on. He claimed he cannot turst any other girl ? 🙂 oh according to him I made it so bad for the others 😢

Who is more compatible for a Taurus man? Scorpio or Pisces woman?

allluv72

that's excatly what the taurus guy said , I messed him bad. He is blaming me for his marriage.😢. It's been 5years how could that be?

Depth, I think a Cancer is the best for a Taurus, providing they haven't been hurt or have emotional issues. But out of the two you gave me I??d have to say a Pisces. I think the water signs give the earth signs something that they need. Also I think since the Taurus can be kind of unemotional (at least on the surface) the water signs help them with that.

My Taurus man was cheated on by his ex (they??ve been broken up 4 yrs) , and he's still showing signs that he's not over it or her. Which is devastating, he moved in temporarily about 5 mths into our relationship (though it's been almost a year now), we still weren't officially committed but we were together all the time. One day I went into the history on my computer only to see he was logging into a few dating sites, I was crushed as he chased me so bad in the beginning, calling me 3-5 times a day, almost to the point I felt smothered. We met online, so his actions were even more hurtful, though he claims I am the only person he's met online. When I mentioned it to him, I clearly caught him off guard, I told him even though we weren't official I felt we were in a relationship, he agreed we were and apologized, said it meant nothing. Looking back I feel he only said we were together because he was staying with me and knew he??d have to leave and I would have walked away. From that day the trust was compromised, but I stayed thinking he's just doing it to make himself feel more secure because he doesn't trust. We've now been together a year and a half and I feel like I??ve wasted time with a man that never really intended to be with me even with all this he still calls 3-4 times a day. But what I don't understand is he??ll go on and on about how most women cheat. He??ll make jokes about me spending time with my other boyfriend when he's not around, I just don't get it, we??re about to part for good now that he's moving but I'm still disgusted, hurt and on my way to being bitter..

ALLLUV72
Do you have any kids with the taurus?
It's so funny reading your post. Very similar to what's with my Taurus. He had a huge fight with wifely because he kept everything about us. I am not entirely over him, but I have accepted the fact that we should move on, that maybe we were not mean to be, maybe another lifetime. She got pregnant, her daddy is a pastor, so they had to get married to live under the same roof so old fashioned. Believe it or not I don't know what's going to happen to them but I don't want it on my conscious. He sound so cold sometimes, I begged him to get counseling before it's too late. I feel for the wife, as Pisces she should feel what's going on... I truly worry about him. I don't want to cut my ties with him yet, because I think he needs help. But I don't think I am helping the situation one bit.

Depth, I dont have any children and that is one of our agreements. I'll be 37 in July and desperately want at least one before its too late. He's got two with his ex and struggling to make ends meet so he said he's not ready, he's open to having one in the future says he swore when he and his ex broke up he'd never have another child out of wedlock it's just too hard financially. I totally understand but I only considered the child situation because I felt our relationship wasnt going any where. If he made me feel like he was sure of our future together I would probably be open to waiting it out at least another year but, he says things like "I dont want to give you a child because theres no guarantee we wont break up" that scares me because after a year he should know.

My thoughts are he's commitment phobic, he didnt marry his ex, yet they lived together and were together 6 years, and had two children. When I asked why he didnt marry her, he said he didnt think she was the one, yet he's all broken up because she cheated. To me it makes no sense, he feels like he wasted 6 years, but I feel if he wasnt gonna marry her she was the one that should feel like she wasted time.

As for your situation, I say ride off into the sunset and dont look back. He's married, whether he was forced or did it on his own. Things do have a way of working themselves out. I believe what goes around comes around, if you back off and focus on you, if things dont work out with he and his wife there may be a good chance you two can try again, but if you continue to be the third wheel if it doesnt work out it'll never work...

I meant to say that is one of our disagreements, having a child...

Yeah you right on the moving away from him. Think at least the phone calls once in a while can't do any harm. I will eventually, I just have to make my mind up about it. I don't call him, he calls me all the time .I am so not going to be the other woman, I love myself too much. Well at least we agreed on that. He will not come to FL and I won't visit NY unless something tragic happen to us (our family). He said I am a fool to make promise that we can't keep.Because like you said Karman is a mother, I want to be as far from his mind as possible and I want him to give all he—s got to his family and make it work. And IF they decide not make it work, I do not want to be the cause of it. Taurus man, they are very stubborn and he is no exception. He refused to go to counseling, denying that he has any kind of problem. . He has that crazy idea to move to Canada and no one can talk him out it. I called his uncle, hopefully he talks some sense into him.
I am not sure what kind of life I throw myself into. I am afraid of situations that might happen and I won't be able to control it. Yes, things may not go well as we wish for but we have to have the courage to turn things around. The most important thing is to meet the right person but not the best person because the best one might not be suitable to you.
last but not least ,when true love will come ; you will know that this is it. Until you won't feel fullfilled with your partner you will be searching for better match.
Dealing with partnership and then children in life isn't easy task, it is nice and delightful if you have right partner besides you. In other case if you haven't found your match and you have kids with them then you might have problems in your life. So it is important to have a loving ,trusting and respectful relationship 🙂.

One point I??d also add, is Bulls like routine, whether it's good or bad. So him breaking his marriage is probably very unsettling even if it's because he is comfortable with his routine.

Thanks Maciavelli, whats ironic is my friend said something similar. He told me, my Taurus isn't still in love with her but he cant get over how it ended (her cheating and basically walking away) and the betrayal hurt him to his soul. He cant move on emotionally because he has to interact with her and occasionally see her because they have kids together.

I don't know if he wants revenge as he is really concerned with his childrens well being and seeking revenge might impact his children in some way. He wonders if when a mans been hurt can he love another woman or if it just takes a long time, he said he prays about it, but he also feels something is wrong with him. I'm the first woman he's gotten close to in 4 years, everyone else he??d casually see and then grow tired of them. I don't treat him bad, I just feel like I'm paying for his ex??s mistake and I'm putting 100% into it.

machiavelli bull
I was not with the man because I move and went to college (AGAIN another state) no Long distance relationship. I did not do anything wrong, WE WERE OVER. I don't call it cheating; he does because he claimed in his heart I was still his (possession). Anyway stuff happen, now he is married with kids, called it EVEN. Back then when it happened he was furious, now he called my daughter his, and although he claimed its Ok we don't trust each other. He blames me for his misery because of what happen he won't get over it. I truly want him to find happiness and have a wonderful life - whether it's with me or not.
Allluv72,
At this point, I will give him space. WE need space, Take myself away from this dilemma. Eventually he will do whatever he thinks he wants. Only time will tell.

Depth, I give him lost of space, we have opposite shifts, when he gets home it's midnight or later, we just say hi and goodnight. When he moves I??ll probably only see him 2-3 days out of the week even if his schedule becomes similar to mine. I'm a loner by nature so I??ve never been comfortable having someone around me every day, his schedule currently gives us a balance.. When we first met he had to be in bed by 7pm to get up about 2am-3am, so we only saw each other on the weekends, I was cool with it. It??ll be a little harder now that I'm use to seeing his belongings at my house, but I know the first week will be the worse after that I??ll be fine.

Taurus man called all the time.It,s been 2 days and I have not answered his calls.well actually I started to text him something because I want to break free from this dilemma. As much as I want to talk to him it hurt not to. Ingnoring his calls is the hardest. His calls have a special ring tone (our song) and every time it ring, my heart beats so fast and I get all happy. But what,s the point if I have to ignore it.I think it's for a good cause in the long run b/c we need to give each other space.He def need to focus and think thru all this.I don't know what to text to him without sounding cold/nasting.He could think all he wants now but one day he will thank me for back up and let stuff take it,s course. He doesn't want to hear it anyway. After for him I will still be the cookiemonster that broke his heart. I am so lost. Excuse any spelling err as I typing from my blackberry from a very boring meeting.How do end it with being

how do I end it without losing it/and still remain sane for the both of us. I love him enough to let him go and he needs to make his decision for himself ,so why wont he just go on and be serious about his life.

First I think you need to start thinking "Me" instead of "Us" changing how you think is the first step. You end it by doing exactly what you are doing, ignoring his calls and texts it'll be hell but it has to be that way in order for YOU to have good karma.

My Taurus and I had a heart to heart yesterday. I told him I was having some anxiety about him moving and I asked if he thought we'd stay together after he left. He acted as I though I had two heads, wondering why I'd ask such a question and replied "yes why would you think we wouldnt?" I came clean and told him I just didnt feel like he wanted to be with me. He told me it wasnt that it's just he has so much on his mind with work, providing for his kids and that I should just ask him what I want to know instead of thinking so much and making my own conclusion. So after we talked I felt better but I still have a piece of me that wonders if he is with me for convenience and because we get along well or if he is really into me. After our discussion he out of the blue asks "how long does a woman expect to date a men before she wants to get married?"

I told him I would wait no more then 3 years, because the first year you are still feeling each other out, by the third year I'd expect to be engaged or already married. Since his ex cheated on him and told him her reason was because he wouldnt marry her, I told him she probably was really hurt that he would'nt commit, he overall thinks she just cheated because she wanted to. I was shocked he asked me this because it came out of no where? Does this mean he's thinking of marriage?? Or does it mean he wants to know how much time he has before I walk out or start to apply pressure??

Oh thank you??_Machiavelli bull. Funny he said the same thing last time I spoke to him. Well that was one of his suggestions, after I turned down his crazy idea of leaving everything behing and move to an another state where no one know us (like I was going to agree on that, well like his wife was going to allow that ). But I am so NOT holding my breath on this ... I am trying not to be hopeful. I Will live my life and whatever happen, will see 🙂 Only time will tell but in the meantime life goes on....