Taurus Men Gluttons For Punishment??

I'm in a relationship with a Taurus and have been for a year and a half and I'm totally confused as to his behavior. It seems he likes routine in most things, but once he gets use to the predictability of our relationship he gets bored. He doesn't change and he never disappears but I sense in his vibes he's complacent. I??ve talked to other dxp members and they said the same thing. Are Taurus men ones that usually don't know what they want?? I asked my boyfriend why he seems so aloof in our relationship and he said he has a habit of getting complacent. This irked me totally because I don't understand the purpose of chasing after a woman only to get in a stable relationship and then act like you??re bored. When we discuss marriage, he seems totally baffled as to how people get married and are with the same person for 30+ years, like the idea of being with the same women is a very strange concept.

The kicker is when I sense he's getting lazy, being the Cancer that I am, I go in my shell and start to ignore his calls and get very nonchalant with him. Then of course, he starts to act humble and look pitiful, which irks me even more. Are Taurus men gluttons for punishment? Do they really want you to treat them bad in order to get the best out of them. I??ve read they are attracted to Fire signs, yet they usually wont marry one due to the unpredictability of them, yet they??re attracted to them?? I have a friend that is divorcing her Taurus husband after 18 years, when he finally realized she was done after years of his cheating, he started going out of his way more than he ever had in the whole time they dated and were married, he even broke down crying. Can some of you provide some insight??

Hmmm I don't think this is just a Taurus thing, I think it's a man thing. Men are chasers/hunters & when they get comfy in a relationship...when the chase is over...boredom sets in. Ever wonder why the guys you want nothing to do with won't leave you the hell alone? Ever wonder why when you go in your shell he comes back to you? You just ignited his interest by acting aloof, he gets to chase you & "win" you again.Very annoying to we women because we seek stability & it seems that men are the opposite. I've been reading this book, why men love bitches LOL & it's all very true. Something that I've known for a long time but lost sight of a year ago when I completely lost my fucking mind. 🙂

Jiyo, I have that book too and was like "Wow" when I read it the first time. Guess I need to revisit it. Also theres a book Women Men Leave,Women Men Love, it's similar to the book you mentioned. It is very frustrating because the whole point of being committed is for stability. Tonight I ignored my Taurus and he called 4 times in 3 hours, when I finally called back he was as nice as pie, saying he thought something happened to me because usually I'm home at 7:30 and he called and texted and I didnt answer. It's draining to have to go thru this, just to get them to act correct. But a woman must do, what a woman must do...lol

DaBull,

You are so right! Maybe I'm messed up but the beginning of the relationship is so stressful for me??_I am always analyzing, wondering if the person is sincere or has a hidden agenda. Once all that is out of the way I can relax and be more at ease because I know they truly like me. What one of my friends told me is men like to chase their girlfriends, when you start wife behavior before you are their wife they get comfortable and basically lose interest. It's so draining..

Yeah my Taurus is too. When I'm upset and ignore him, he??ll ring my phone off the hook. But it's only then do I get some urgency or emotion. He's been hurt before so in the beginning I understood but we've been together a year and half and being lazy is not acceptable.

My Taurus is very routine thru out his day. He eats, workouts, goes home, irons clothes and gets ready for work to leave by 2pm. It's down to the minute, if something upsets his routine it's like the sky is falling. I'm not as routine when it comes to those things, yet he says before he met me, he didn't make plans for the weekend he usually just waited to see what happens. The first 2 months he was hand holding and affectionate in public by month 3, it was a complete change. When I asked what happened his only reason was —things change?? he still called, still came over but his attitude towards me changed. When I asked again he said he's not one to do the same thing over and over and he gets bored quick. I was disgusted because most men I know tell other men —never start something you can't continue with a woman?? It's all just too much work, being routine on most things but things like plans or your relationship is whatever happens. The crabby Cancer is going in her shell??_lol

I just think people shouldn't put on fronts, it wastes time and really??_ why front for someone you??re just getting to know, because you don't know if you will like them, even if they like you..

Starfish — that will be the end result..

Exactly, but since men are so visual and are attracted to what they see. They??re pursuit is all about trying to get the woman and some times it's not all about sex, they just want to see if they can get the women to like them. So put on fronts they will. Oh well water under the bridge with my Taurus.

DaBull, you are so right about being pulled out of their routine. My T was kind of chubby he said he's been like that since right after high school. He found out he had to take meds for his blood pressure but if he lost weight he could stop. I use to workout heavily on and off since my late teens. When he started he wasnt seeing results quickly, I started telling him what to eat and when, how long to do cardio etc.. Now he's a total gym head to the point were he goes 5 days a week and works out for 2 hours.

They don't realize how routine they are, I get 4-5 calls a day each roughly the same time, on his way to the gym, when he leaves the gym, on his way to work, and a few more calls when he's at work. But when it comes to the weekends, his whole personality changes, he's more light hearted, making jokes and acting crazy. Monday morning the seriousness starts all over again..

Yes I always commented him and tell him I'm proud of his hard work. As for the security that is where he's not so typically, prior to dating me he said he was always the kind to buy what he wanted without worrying about price. As he got to know me and realize how conservative (aka cheap) I am about spending and more importantly saving for a rainy day, I see he is slowly changing his ways and outlook on saving. I think he always wanted nice things for the future and money saved but was not a die hard about planning for it.

I know most Taurus are really serious minded people, however it's almost like my Taurus is robotic in his routine and emotionless. But on the weekends it's bring on the drinking and partying but only with close friends. That's where we??re different he's very shy and isnt comfortable in a new environement or around new people. I'm very shy (almost to where I get anxious) but around new people I force myself to be social able, he said he loves that about me, he can go to an event or get together go hang out with the guys and leave me to mingle with the ladies without having to constantly check on me. It's just very strange, doesn't seem balanced at all, it's from one extreme to the other, either very placid or a wild man always up for something different on the weekends. But I'm a Cancer so I guess with my moods I cant say I'm balanced much either, however my moods changes internally thru out the day, hour or minute.

We lived together for about a year and yes I was always there when he got home, had his food cooked and left in the refrigerator for either his dinner or to take to work for lunch. One of the other members brought to my attention and I??ve witnessed it myself is??_with Taurus men, they love routine and stability but they get bored with someone who is always available. After a few months of us living together I saw my Taurus lose interest, because there was no more excitement. I think with the men they are attracted to their opposites because the need to control is always there with them, but they get frustrated when it doesn't work out smoothly but they??ll chase even more. Since Cancer and Taurus are suppose to be one of the best combos, it works and its easy but after awhile they get bored. Now if that's not a catch 22.

Yes I understand and I was in no way sitting home every weekend, some nights I left him to have a girls night. Once thing that always baffled me is when I told him I had plans say on Thursday for Saturday he??d turn around and make plans like he couldn't stay home alone. He said he's always been like this, that he gets bored easily..

OMG, yesss. I tell him I do all the work all the time. He will try once in awhile. I think he just gets tired of being with the same woman, as bad as that sounds. He told me when we first met there were women he was seeing but as soon as they started mentioning he come around more often, he backed off. I think he is the type that always wishes he could have a couple of different women, but doesn't have the stomach or swagger to go thru with it. Since Taurus men don't like drama or confrontation, this scenario doesn't work well.

His roommate dates a new woman every couple of months, when he told him about me when we first met his roommate told him not to mess me up. When I mentioned this to one of my guy friends he told me my Taurus and his roommate envy each other, they wish they had the others lives, men get tired of dating someone different because learning someone new every so often gets old. I honestly think men of a certain age that quickly change women are more insecure and afraid of getting close then always wanting variety.

DaBull, no he never seemed jealous when I went out. It is more like he gets bored when he's home alone and hates being lonely. When he had his own apartment, he??d call and we??d talk briefly but after awhile we wouldn't have much to say, he??d just hold the phone while he watched tv, or was on the computer. I would always think why are we even on the phone while he does this. I thought it was because he liked me so much but I think now it was all about him and his needs.

My friend said her ex husband was just like that, he??d be prepared to stay home until she told him she had plans, they he??d hop up and start getting dressed. I think he just has issues with being alone, that is also why I think he calls me and his friends so much, he gets lonely and needs to talk to someone.

He is very selfish, and I'm very giving or was very giving. We havent talked in two days.. Its the beginning of the end.

Posted by JiyoSmiling
H I've been reading this book, why men love bitches LOL & it's all very true. Something that I've known for a long time but lost sight of a year ago when I completely lost my fucking mind. 🙂

I just got done reading this book. How well does Taurus react to the tactics written about in this book—? Has anyone tried them—

I guess getting bored is a man thing not the taurus thing.
There are different ways to look at it.
One is if relationship is all about romance,love,passion and sex den surely it will get boring soon.But if its more den this and two ppl are like minded and have similar interests den it keeps the fire alive.And if two ppl have different interests den we might actually bore each other by our ways.
Second is when guy and girl fall in love they start with big bang.Guys start with big bang too.But its universal fact more a girl falls in love more her feelings/sensitivies and hence more the expectations.From guys point of view it is like "The more I love this girl more difficult it gets to keep her happy and more suffocating it gets.Why not to go to level 0 where I put least efforts and still she was happy".From guys point of view it poses a threat to their freedom of being a guy.You see we still have characteristics from caveman times.Women would work in house,talk to other ladies,raise children,do make up.It might have changed now but our basics are still same.Men would protect women,children,go on hunting,defend their territory from other tribes,sports.Men change their basic nature but only with time.Women dont need to because they still talk to other girls (very easy these days with technology),do make up,occasionally catch up with friends.Guys interest is broad and he is at his best when he is given that freedom of doing these things.But since girls get tremedous feelings and expect them to be around all the time that is wen he starts freaking out,escaping.And thats what we call "Guys change".

Posted by taurusguy
I guess getting bored is a man thing not the taurus thing.
There are different ways to look at it.
One is if relationship is all about romance,love,passion and sex den surely it will get boring soon.But if its more den this and two ppl are like minded and have similar interests den it keeps the fire alive.And if two ppl have different interests den we might actually bore each other by our ways.
Second is when guy and girl fall in love they start with big bang.Guys start with big bang too.But its universal fact more a girl falls in love more her feelings/sensitivies and hence more the expectations.From guys point of view it is like "The more I love this girl more difficult it gets to keep her happy and more suffocating it gets.Why not to go to level 0 where I put least efforts and still she was happy".From guys point of view it poses a threat to their freedom of being a guy.You see we still have characteristics from caveman times.Women would work in house,talk to other ladies,raise children,do make up.It might have changed now but our basics are still same.Men would protect women,children,go on hunting,defend their territory from other tribes,sports.Men change their basic nature but only with time.Women dont need to because they still talk to other girls (very easy these days with technology),do make up,occasionally catch up with friends.Guys interest is broad and he is at his best when he is given that freedom of doing these things.But since girls get tremedous feelings and expect them to be around all the time that is wen he starts freaking out,escaping.And thats what we call "Guys change".

aka, when a man gets comfortable. Shame on them!

I have asked my Taurua man that....Seems like when I am a bitch I get a better response. LOL

I'd be interested in knowing what his other placements are- Moon, Venus, Mars? He sounds like me with my Gemini venus.lol However, I usually do something to spice things up and keep the boredom at bay. Having a Taurus sun, gemini venus is very confusing. I crave stability and complacency, but once I get- I start feeling restless.

Wow wow wow loveeeee this topic. I'm not with a taurus but in the pass I was dating 1,also I had taurus male friends and homegirls. First of all the slowing down part is a man thing I'm going thru this now wit my scorp. But this very known for taurus,cause they do this often and fast into relationships. I am amaze how u all able to read them so well. I have a coworker we was tight we would talk about so much stuff like movies, car,playing games,our relationship,our sign, mental talk and how we feel about the world. Be honest sometimes he stuck to me a lot and it was no room for me to think. I still didn't mine because the cancer me like to be needed. As soon when the conversation became a pattern he easy away. He stop talking to me became distant with convo.he started saying how so busy he was . But I realize when I'm having fun with someone else or treat him as if he was the last thing on my mine his back around wanting to do friend stuff. I test this out with him and just taurus friend or pass taurus I dated and they always done this. I think they like new things about people and like to feel like they going after something .when its a fact that they are the ones who gets boring by there patterns they use.I won't never forget when first met him and I found out he was a taurus I said to him taurus is cool but they get funny acting and disapear then back around again. He didn't say nothing that allow me to no that he is aware of his behavior.also I felt use in the pass with taurus on a friend and relationship. Taurus people also like to be around people who they can learn from,half of the time when they done learning they disapear,or have a lack of interest