The Taurus man pulled away after he said he like me... Should I be proactive??

I am 23 years old Aquarius female. I met this 35 years old bull on a dating application. He asked me if I want to meet up and I accepted, coz he flirt in such a classy way with poems and compliments. I didn’t expect a lot other than a friendship in the beginning. Until I finally saw this person. He’s charming, gentle, intelligent, moderate and have a whole experience of life story to tell about, which is everything I’m dreaming about. I gradually grew a crush on him with in 2 hrs. However, my Aquarius nature told me to stay indifferent towards the one I like.

When we went on a second date he asked if I’m looking for a bf. He said he like me and want to see things through my eyes, coz I have a technical education and working background just as he did. He said what makes me wonder is you also do a lot of art. (I’m a armature painter and love to read…) He said you even do gym with heavy loads which is rare in other girls. I was so surprised at that moment to be honest. So I didn’t respond. I didn’t know which should be the correct answer. But I’m sure I looked happy at that moment. I could see when he said those stuff it was uneasy.

He texted me to thank me for company after I got on the cab but I didn’t reply immediately for I drank over my limitation that night. I don’t want my message to look stupid, dirty and drunk. But I replied him the first thing next morning and said it was a great night.

Things went sour from that morning. He used to text me during the lunch break or evening and he used to quote philosophy terms and poem (sounds peculiar though he’s got a phd degree in media and his thesis is about the relationship of philosophy and modern media and I'm a philosophy fan) . No messages were sent from him the next few days.

I reached out to him 4 day after we last meet and contact him every couple of days to say hi. However, he stopped flirting with me at all!! Our conversation seems limited only to body building which is our mutual interest. He's excited and hot on this topic but not keen on replying my messages on topics other than this. He said he love to talk about his passion and he have a boring life style which is to play loads of computer games, eat loads and work out loads. I feel like he is pushing me away or pulling himself away. Sometimes he is enthusiastic sometime he don't reply messages.

Though I'm so confused, I didn'd want to back down. I choose a good timing (I thought) to propose give him a Christmas gift. 'It's not something special. I just want to wish you a Merry X'mas. ' I texted him.

We met again on 21st Dec after work. I gave him the gift and he proposed to take me to dinner. Another thing to add, in the past three meet-ups with him he always took me to fancy and classy places and not allowed me to pay which I feel uncomfortable with, but he seems to enjoy. That time we were entierly sober so I asked about the last time he said he like me but I hesitated and said maybe w

I hesitated and said maybe we shouldn't. He intentionally led the conversation to his childhood and said how stuborn he was and this is what he is born with. He talked about his family change that parent divorced and set up new familys. Then he said to me you fascinates me but it takes time to know someone.

I said to him give me a text on Christmas when you open the gift and fix the thing. He said he will.

I stoped contacting him for the next few days and waited. He kept his words and send me nice pictures of my present a caddle shaped lamp. He said he really likes it in the purple light in his living room. I even send a song to him.

He's going on a trip to Thailand this week and will be back in two week. I was out of the town during Xmas. So add up together we will not meet again in about 1 month. I really need to know:
1. Is he mean it by saying he like me? Or just a joke...
2. Should I keep texting him in every couple of days or just let him go?

We havn't sexed or kissed yet.We just hugged for once as a gesture of cordial.

Do what you feel comfortble with but I have a feeling something's not right. A Taurus man, if he really was into you, would be more physical than this guy, even and especially in the beginning of a relationship.

That's weird for me too. I don't know what he is thinking about. That drives me nut.

@OP- HAVE you asked him about does he want kids or have them already? Ask him as soon as possible.

@OP- Based on his boring life style does that mesh well with you? Or is it just infatuation?

Taurus and Aquarius are usually good friends but some things that both parties do to each other will require lots of compromise, communication, and sacrifice.

Usually Aquarius and Taurus see eye to eye with physical attraction and mentally exhausting truly difficult after the sex.

And could be talking to his ex or have another woman
So ask him that too.. ask him does he want to get married again?

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I agree with busyeyes88 I'm a Taurus female too. We r slow we like to take our time and get to know you first. But if we like to get to know you it means we r interested otherwise we wouldn't bother. So that's a good thing that he is still texting and sharing pics. I would say don't be too needy but also don't be too detached.try to be yourself ofcourse.
We like long term relationships and wouldn't waste our time with silly time wasting meaningless relationships so maybe he's still getting to know u. Give it time and also allow yourself to get to know him.
One thing is I used to be with an aqua for 5 years and we didn't get along at all in our final years. Simply because he was a liar and played games on me plus he was too controlling. Even after we broke up he annoyed me non stop and now I really hate him. So I wouldn't encourage Aqua Taurus relationship but again I wouldn't follow horoscopes all time. Just try and see how it goes. Not all cases are the same .

I like how he didn't do any physical contact with u. He is a gentle man respecting the privacy of your body. Not all Taurus people are touchy. I don't get physical at all for religious and personal reasons.