What's up with taurus males?? (Page 2)

Posted by David13

Posted by Iamawinelover

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
So basically Taurus men are passive by nature and prefer to be led to the pasture. But you see as a woman this ish is very confusing. I mean you do all that chasing to catch her. Then you wait for her to seal the deal—

Apparently that is the way that they operate. Yet I find it funny that when a woman doesn't want to wait it out then she is not being considerate of his feelings yet have her waiting in limbo while keeping her guessing with no communication isn't qualified for him not to have considerations for her feelings. Hmmmmmm......

You might not like this... but him not seemingly 'taking her feelings into consideration' is due to his belief that there are no feelings to consider... she has not made herself understood in the language he understands... remaining oblivious. No REALLY... HE doesn't GET IT !

There is no need to consider HIS feelings at all... as they have not yet been awakened... a woman is just another woman on the 'just an acquantance' list until she makes herself out to be otherwise. One can only reach a Taurus man through his senses... otherwise her message will not be understood.

To spell it out... Taurus does not consider himself as the other half in a couple until he has slept with her. His endurance for another to complicate matters before this has happened is next to null.

In THIS case... two months is too long. If she wants to get to know him as she has said... just 'talking' will never suffice. Many a Taurus have had platonic relationships that became nothing more... due only to the message being understood too late. HE has moved in for the kill twice now (see OP)... now he receives message from her once per week... as she waits for HIM to ask to see her. He WILL act... but NOT until she becomes more than just another sms 'buddy'. SHE must first become TANGIBLE.

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LOL, Ok. Point taken! Yes I agree that Taurus people have their own language.

Posted by David13

Posted by Iamawinelover

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
So basically Taurus men are passive by nature and prefer to be led to the pasture. But you see as a woman this ish is very confusing. I mean you do all that chasing to catch her. Then you wait for her to seal the deal—

Apparently that is the way that they operate. Yet I find it funny that when a woman doesn't want to wait it out then she is not being considerate of his feelings yet have her waiting in limbo while keeping her guessing with no communication isn't qualified for him not to have considerations for her feelings. Hmmmmmm......

You might not like this... but him not seemingly 'taking her feelings into consideration' is due to his belief that there are no feelings to consider... she has not made herself understood in the language he understands... remaining oblivious. No REALLY... HE doesn't GET IT !

There is no need to consider HIS feelings at all... as they have not yet been awakened... a woman is just another woman on the 'just an acquantance' list until she makes herself out to be otherwise. One can only reach a Taurus man through his senses... otherwise her message will not be understood.

To spell it out... Taurus does not consider himself as the other half in a couple until he has slept with her. His endurance for another to complicate matters before this has happened is next to null.

In THIS case... two months is too long. If she wants to get to know him as she has said... just 'talking' will never suffice. Many a Taurus have had platonic relationships that became nothing more... due only to the message being understood too late. HE has moved in for the kill twice now (see OP)... now he receives message from her once per week... as she waits for HIM to ask to see her. He WILL act... but NOT until she becomes more than just another sms 'buddy'. SHE must first become TANGIBLE.

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The five senses?

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Posted by David13
"I just give as good as I get."

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No no NO !!! HE has enough patience for the BOTH of YOU... this I assure you ! I am sorry to tell you this, but YOU must be the aggressor ! You met him two months ago... you see him every two weeks... you exchange messages every week... THE END. What IS THIS ?!!

Yes... you are overthinking EVERYTHING ! Two months of being 'patient'... how is that working out for YOU ? To 'give as good as you get' won't cut it... it is only going to keep you right where you are now. Taurus/Scorpio relationships have their perks... that is of course if it ever gets started. SOMEONE is going to have to START IT... and that SOMEONE is going to have to be YOU ! Start by looking at him the way that he told you NOT to look at him (TWO MONTHS AGO)! THAT was when you ALMOST had him ! Lay one on him the next time you see him... just to see what he does ! REALLY... it doesn't take much.

The time for thinking about it all again and again is over. STOP with this counter-productive 'thinking' and just act out on your own impulses ! Make this happen !!!

This gives such insight. It's amazing. Thank you David. So he's being patient to see if she makes a move but figures that she lost interest since she didn't. She can still save it but needs to act now.

Bulls don't really chase do they.. . Well maybe not at first. Idk maybe after they know that you are into them.

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Nope my man chase me at first.He is MAy 7 Taurus
In my situation, He pursue me and got possessive of me , He deleted ALL of my ex photos on my mobile. But still, he is a taurus so it doesnt guarantee that to move forward. Yes he is in love but He is much into his plan for the future. As a cancer its not enough I need reassurance very badly., I don't get his pride. hayyyyyyyyyyysssssssssssss

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Posted by David13
"I just give as good as I get."

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No no NO !!! HE has enough patience for the BOTH of YOU... this I assure you ! I am sorry to tell you this, but YOU must be the aggressor ! You met him two months ago... you see him every two weeks... you exchange messages every week... THE END. What IS THIS ?!!

Yes... you are overthinking EVERYTHING ! Two months of being 'patient'... how is that working out for YOU ? To 'give as good as you get' won't cut it... it is only going to keep you right where you are now. Taurus/Scorpio relationships have their perks... that is of course if it ever gets started. SOMEONE is going to have to START IT... and that SOMEONE is going to have to be YOU ! Start by looking at him the way that he told you NOT to look at him (TWO MONTHS AGO)! THAT was when you ALMOST had him ! Lay one on him the next time you see him... just to see what he does ! REALLY... it doesn't take much.

The time for thinking about it all again and again is over. STOP with this counter-productive 'thinking' and just act out on your own impulses ! Make this happen !!!

This gives such insight. It's amazing. Thank you David. So he's being patient to see if she makes a move but figures that she lost interest since she didn't. She can still save it but needs to act now.

Bulls don't really chase do they.. . Well maybe not at first. Idk maybe after they know that you are into them.

Nope my man chase me at first.He is MAy 7 Taurus
In my situation, He pursue me and got possessive of me , He deleted ALL of my ex photos on my mobile. But still, he is a taurus so it doesnt guarantee that to move forward. Yes he is in love but He is much into his plan for the future. As a cancer its not enough I need reassurance very badly., I don't get his pride. hayyyyyyyyyyysssssssssssss

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The 'force' is strong with THIS one. I'm sorry crabberries 😢 ... but I think that YOU need to let THIS one GO. YOU can do better than THIS.

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Posted by celticlioness


I have to agree with this, I knew my Taurus was interested for a long time so when the time arrived when it was appropriate that we could date(circumstances prevented it before then) I sent him a pretty clear message - that was all he needed and he charged in to take what he wanted. Despite his Aries Venus, Sag Mars and Leo Moon he still waited until he was pushed (ordered? 🙂). Once they are given the signal to go after what they want no bull is slow. If they don't want well nothing will move and unmovable force.

This is very true.
Well stated.
The slow moving Bull will tread carefully...once given a green light...they will move an unmovable force.

I see many threads created by passive aggressive individuals.

They're extremely unaware of how they're coming off.

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I can attest to this.

Posted by David13
You might not like this... but him not seemingly 'taking her feelings into consideration' is due to his belief that there are no feelings to consider... she has not made herself understood in the language he understands... remaining oblivious. No REALLY... HE doesn't GET IT !

There is no need to consider HIS feelings at all... as they have not yet been awakened... a woman is just another woman on the 'just an acquantance' list until she makes herself out to be otherwise. One can only reach a Taurus man through his senses... otherwise her message will not be understood.

To spell it out... Taurus does not consider himself as the other half in a couple until he has slept with her. His endurance for another to complicate matters before this has happened is next to null.

In THIS case... two months is too long. If she wants to get to know him as she has said... just 'talking' will never suffice. Many a Taurus have had platonic relationships that became nothing more... due only to the message being understood too late. HE has moved in for the kill twice now (see OP)... now he receives message from her once per week... as she waits for HIM to ask to see her. He WILL act... but NOT until she becomes more than just another sms 'buddy'. SHE must first become TANGIBLE.

yeah...probably should have added that we slept together the day he came over for dinner. That changes things, no? and by the way, it was really intimate, when i woke up he was watching me sleep, and he stuck around until the afternoon (of the day after).

he's abroad for the weekend but yesterday i texted him and told him he better find some time for me next week, otherwise i'll annoy him until he does --- to which he replied, that he'll see what he can do, but as a lot going on at work.

what are your thoughts on that?

Posted by scorpioglitter

Posted by David13
You might not like this... but him not seemingly 'taking her feelings into consideration' is due to his belief that there are no feelings to consider... she has not made herself understood in the language he understands... remaining oblivious. No REALLY... HE doesn't GET IT !

There is no need to consider HIS feelings at all... as they have not yet been awakened... a woman is just another woman on the 'just an acquantance' list until she makes herself out to be otherwise. One can only reach a Taurus man through his senses... otherwise her message will not be understood.

To spell it out... Taurus does not consider himself as the other half in a couple until he has slept with her. His endurance for another to complicate matters before this has happened is next to null.

In THIS case... two months is too long. If she wants to get to know him as she has said... just 'talking' will never suffice. Many a Taurus have had platonic relationships that became nothing more... due only to the message being understood too late. HE has moved in for the kill twice now (see OP)... now he receives message from her once per week... as she waits for HIM to ask to see her. He WILL act... but NOT until she becomes more than just another sms 'buddy'. SHE must first become TANGIBLE.

yeah...probably should have added that we slept together the day he came over for dinner. That changes things, no? and by the way, it was really intimate, when i woke up he was watching me sleep, and he stuck around until the afternoon (of the day after).

he's abroad for the weekend but yesterday i texted him and told him he better find some time for me next week, otherwise i'll annoy him until he does --- to which he replied, that he'll see what he can do, but as a lot going on at work.

what are your thoughts on that?

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OH.

YOU and you Scorpios with your not mentioning the crucial. *SMH* I SHOULD have known BETTER than to believe that you would have NOT left something out ! I cannot give you my thoughts on this until I see ALL of your cards laid flat out on the table... and YES... the ones you are hiding too !!!

So... TELL ME SCORPIO-GLITTER...

WHEN did this happen EXACTLY ?
HOW long ago ?
ABOUT what time did it start... and about how many hours after he came to your place ?
HOW did it happen ?
Did HE start it, or did YOU ?
WHAT did you talk about at dinner ?
HOW did you feel all that night ? Comfortable ? On edge ?
WAS HE, YOU, or the BOTH of YOU drinking ? HOW much would you say ?
HOW did he leave you the next day ?

HIM watching you sleep the next day is a GOOD thing. His answer to you yesterday... "[I]'ll see what [I] can do, but [have] a lot going on at work." is CRAP... but DON'T call him out on it... now is not the time. But the fact is: If he wanted to see you... nothing... and I mean NOTHING would stop him.

This leads me to believe that something has gone wrong since your escapade. Now answer me these...

WHAT do you think this could be ?
WHAT has REALLY been said since then via sms and/or in person ?
In reflection... is there anything that you think you should not have said, or should not have done ?
Is there any substance to your communications since then ?
Has he ever invited you to HIS place ?

Well... that is all the questions that I can think of for the moment. 😉 I don't think this is finished... but I still think that you are going to have to be the one to pursue for the time being... even if it is only covertly. It can be a little like Cow-Tipping... most of the time cows just stand there... they tend to move away when you approach them... but... you CAN knock his ass down when he doesn't see you coming !

Don't expect him to 'find some time for you' when he returns... you gently left the ball in his court again and he doesn't know what to do with it. Should he throw it back ? Should he just watch it roll around ? No... next time you need to bounce that ball right off of his thick head !!! If that doesn't work... use a bowling ball ! If THAT doesn't work... use a wrecking ball ! Belive it or not... THAT wrecking ball WILL actually bounce ! 😉

WHEN and HOW did this happen EXACTLY ?

ok...so this happened 2 weeks ago (one week after he asked me to go to the cinema with him and his friends)
i asked our mutual friend if he slept arount, and she said not at all...
i asked if he wanted to come over for dinner and he seemed pretty pleased about it...
he came over, was just as nervous as i was (if not more, but after we started chatting and the nervousness went away) we had a couple of wine glasses at dinner (i had some music on, some flowers and candles on the table) we talked about music concerts, he talked about his childhood and his family and how good the dessert was...he said we had to do that again in his place, he would cook...
after the meal i asked him if he wanted to go out or watch a movie...movie it is.
during he made himself very comfortable and put his arm around me...i moved in closer and layed my head on his shoulder, he kissed me, etc...
in the morning i woke up with him gazing at me, he was very affectionate, we had breakfast and went back to bed.
later he said he had some work to prepare and had to go, but before he left showed me a picture of his sister in laws puppy (that he had mentioned the night before), asked me if we would see each other on the next weekend (i said yes) and gave me a hot kiss before he left.


WHAT do you think this could be ?
WHAT has REALLY been said since then via sms and/or in person ?

i want to get to know him better, and want him in my life.
our texting is very light...asking how the weekend was...sharing some music..
the week after dinner i asked him if he had plans for the next weekend, and he said he was going to football with a friend (but i know that if he wanted to see me he would) and i regret replying that i would miss him.
this week he asks me how my weekend was and says he's going abroad (which i already knew cause he had told me about it a month ago)

and the rest you know...

YOUR night sounds perfect ! Not too much alcohol... cozy... inviting. This is all much clearer now. When does he get back exactly ?

I agree that you shouldn't have said you would miss him... it is too early. It is okay to feel your feelings... but don't express them verbally... as you will probably be inclined to do. The same goes for saying that you want to get to know him better... and be in your life... again too early... something that doesn't need to be defined after only one 'session'. Just wait and see where it goes. You CAN rush him... but without seeming to rush him.

So... YOU must see him when he returns... make him find the time for you. Traveling can make one tired... so you don't want to approach him with anything when he is tired. I suggest you don't acknowledge his return... give him THAT day and the day after without any messages. AT THAT point, he should be all rested up... and the following day, if he has not sent a message by mid-afternoon... you can safely throw THAT ball at his head.

You could say something like : 'I am thinking that TONIGHT is the night you should invite me for dinner as you promised... I am very hungry.' OR 'You know... if you weren't so rude, you would invite me to sleep over at your house.' OR 'What are we having for dinner tonight ?' OR... one of MY personal favorites... 'Do you want to see me today ?' Say nothing more that day... unless of course he responds. You see... he will have to have a REAL reason if he is unable... and at the same time, YOU will be in his head as he ponders about the 'when'... perhaps even returning with a date that this is to happen.

WHEN you get into his house... make sure to 'accidentally' leave an article of clothing with your scent on it... use your imagination here. Right now... YOU are the only one stuck with the memories of 2 weeks ago... which isn't fair... make some memories at HIS place now. Getting invited to his place for 'whatever' is YOUR priority. He IS into you... REMIND HIM WELL of the 'WHY' !!!

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So... YOU must see him when he returns... make him find the time for you. Traveling can make one tired... so you don't want to approach him with anything when he is tired. I suggest you don't acknowledge his return... give him THAT day and the day after without any messages. AT THAT point, he should be all rested up... and the following day, if he has not sent a message by mid-afternoon... you can safely throw THAT ball at his head.

You could say something like : 'I am thinking that TONIGHT is the night you should invite me for dinner as you promised... I am very hungry.' OR 'You know... if you weren't so rude, you would invite me to sleep over at your house.' OR 'What are we having for dinner tonight ?' OR... one of MY personal favorites... 'Do you want to see me today ?' Say nothing more that day... unless of course he responds. You see... he will have to have a REAL reason if he is unable... and at the same time, YOU will be in his head as he ponders about the 'when'... perhaps even returning with a date that this is to happen.

WHEN you get into his house... make sure to 'accidentally' leave an article of clothing with your scent on it... use your imagination here. Right now... YOU are the only one stuck with the memories of 2 weeks ago... which isn't fair... make some memories at HIS place now. Getting invited to his place for 'whatever' is YOUR priority. He IS into you... REMIND HIM WELL of the 'WHY' !!!

I will do that and tell you how it goes 😉

Can you explain to me why he would keep contact with me, but always be unavailable? makes no sense...

...and by explain, i mean your opinion...i know you dont have a crystal ball 🙂

Quite simply... he doesn't want you to go away.

I don't know the reasons behind his unavailability... maybe he is actually busy. OR maybe... you just scared him a little bit with the 'I miss you - I want you in my life - I want to get to know you' thing. I think you are far ahead emotionally... he needs to catch up... so don't use words that imply fondness. Physical demonstrations, however, are always welcome. He will crack.

Posted by David13
Quite simply... he doesn't want you to go away.

I don't know the reasons behind his unavailability... maybe he is actually busy. OR maybe... you just scared him a little bit with the 'I miss you - I want you in my life - I want to get to know you' thing. I think you are far ahead emotionally... he needs to catch up... so don't use words that imply fondness. Physical demonstrations, however, are always welcome. He will crack.

he doesnt know that part...the i'll miss you was bad enough 😉

...and thanks for the insight David...it helped a lot 🙂

Posted by scorpioglitter
...and thanks for the insight David...it helped a lot 🙂

You're welcome... I hope it helps. WE will all know by the end of THIS week, right ? RIGHT ?!!
😉

Posted by David13

You're welcome... I hope it helps. WE will all know by the end of THIS week, right ? RIGHT ?!!
😉

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definitely! i'll keep you posted 😉

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HA! You better believe it! I hope you didn't either. I'm dealiing with one now and I hope someone tells you the straight up truth and not sugar coat what you could possibly have to deal with. Not all of them are the same but there are many women who are having similar experiences. Get ready & take notes. LOL.

i could use some "just move on already?!" not that i'm not telling myself that already 😉
but please...straight up truth is what i want and need. *pulls out the notebook*

LOL they are slow movers. You can't push them into doing anything whatsoever. They move at their own pace. You really, really, really (did I say really?) have to be patient. It's no joke. Keep yourself busy. They require space and when that times comes, let him have it. Let him come back to you. I remember reading somewhere that said it seems like you're a widower when dealing with a male Taurus. HA! If that's not the truth, I don't know what is. 🙂

But the problem is even when you show patience this here now gone again keeps on repeating. So you talk and talk and then nothing for months. Then again talk and talk then again next few months nothing. When does this rinse repeat stop?

I absolutely agree. I'm going through it now. This is the second time this has happened and all I can say again is that it's on when they are ready. Not to say that it makes ir right but that is how they operate. It has been said that it's their way or the highway. Well, for me I let them "think" that but I am my owm woman and no one can conrol me. So if I am willing to accept him back then so be it, if not it's his loss not mine. I think it stops when and if they finally decide that you are the one. Pay attention to what he does more so than what he says. Actions speak louder than words.

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U got it all figured out IMW

ugh. cut off...continuing.

The way you do it is everything. Use subtle feminine coaxing,logic, straightforwardness, and a bit of touch. Chose your battles wisely. And if all else fails, sing to them...SERIOUSLY! Respect your Taurus and they will do the same, so when you ask for something, they will know it's necessary and for the greater good of the relationship, also be prepared to explain :WHY. They will surely want to know: WHY before they decide to go your way.

Posted by anonymousheart


The way you do it is everything. Use subtle feminine coaxing,logic, straightforwardness, and a bit of touch. Chose your battles wisely. And if all else fails, sing to them...SERIOUSLY! Respect your Taurus and they will do the same, so when you ask for something, they will know it's necessary and for the greater good of the relationship, also be prepared to explain :WHY. They will surely want to know: WHY before they decide to go your way.

i'm not a very good singer...but he sings every time i'm with him 😉
Thank you for your advice. i'll text him today...let's see what sort of response i get...

So, after texting (and a lot of patience on my part...) we are going to the cinema on the weekend.

Any advice? 🙂

The cinema... not my FIRST choice, but it will have to do. How did this correspondence play out ? How did you finally arrive at this meeting ? What time will you be seeing a movie ? What type of film will it be ? Is dinner to be included... before or after ? Will HE be cooking ?

Okay... so... wear whatever fragrance you were wearing on the night he first kissed you or the night you got lucky 😉... Taurus' sense of smell can be rather acute. REALLY... it can make or break the deal.

I can offer you more after you answer the questions I have asked... because this meeting should only come to an end in the morning... nothing less will do. After which... you will not send an sms too soon... allowing him the chance to reminisce a bit. Him contacting you first would be a very good sign ! But you contacting him at a moment he happened to be thinking about you will work just as well.

Get back to me !!!
😉

Posted by David13
The cinema... not my FIRST choice, but it will have to do. How did this correspondence play out ? How did you finally arrive at this meeting ? What time will you be seeing a movie ? What type of film will it be ? Is dinner to be included... before or after ? Will HE be cooking ?

so...i asked him if he wanted to see me and he said he couldnt cause he was doing something with his friends and that he wasnt sure if he'd be around on the weekend...i asked if he was or wasnt...he replied saying he had plans for saturday and sunday -- to which i relpied "ok then" (and was going to leave it at that) but 5 min. later he said "but friday might work" -- so i asked if he wanted to go to the cinema cause i thought it would be casual and i could build on that like after going for a drink at his place.

We are going to the cinema in the evening, we did not discuss dinner. We're going to agree on what time and where today so maybe i'll suggest that after we go to his place for a drink (to give him time to think about it) or should i not make the suggestion and just bring it up after the movie?

oh and i told him to see which movie he'd prefer, he said he'd get back to me but that i had the final decision...ohhhhhh and he has already replied he prefers an action movie, and the time he'll pick me up!

Posted by scorpioglitter
oh and i told him to see which movie he'd prefer, he said he'd get back to me but that i had the final decision...ohhhhhh and he has already replied he prefers an action movie, and the time he'll pick me up!

Ahhh... ulterior motive... I LIKE IT !

An action movie might be fun... don't know how the ambiance will be after that though. Don't get me wrong... I like watching films... but watching them while trying to get to know someone... well... it is just lost time. The only thing you can do is be discreetly touchy-feely... so make it count !

Hmmm... he is coming to pick you up... leaving the action film choice up to you... he's living on the edge now ! 😉 You know... I think the movie might now be optional... but you will have to feel this out. If he seems set on going when he arrives... than by all means go... but have a back up plan. Present some good OR-WE-COULDs. IF you don't get yourself invited to his place, don't worry... he will still have to take you back to YOUR spider's lair... either way, this could end very well for you. If he refuses to get out of car... then just lay one on him while pulling he keys out of the ignition ! I trust that YOU will be able to change his mind !

Ok, well. This seems to be going 'well'. But I don't, as a Taurus, approve of most of the advice on here. Let me tell it to you straight. The game your playing... Yeah, the quickest way to get rid of a Taurus...

But it's your choice. And if it burns hellish like the sun afterwards, don't complain on the forums about it. You want to play a game of seduction, he will win and leave you in the state that you presented your self. Now maybe I am wrong about him, but if he is mature enough to think for him self, then what you are thinking of now will surely disgust the hell out of him. But go on, play your game.

I don't know what certain people on here think of Taurus, but this approach would make me turn around and walk away. Self respect is one of the things I value the most, and playing games with ulterior motives shows that you don't have enough of it to be worth my time. I cannot respect someone who doesn't respect her self, and I won't go near a person like that either. If you remember, I told you we feel and see everything. I would scare you with my attention to detail. He will smell BS a mile away and I am telling you now, you are gonna hurt so bad when he finally just turns around and walks away as if nothing happened. Your not aiming for honesty, or truth and we don't have time for that either. It will be 'fun' and then you'll wish the earth swallows you.

Again, I might be wrong... But something tells me otherwise...

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Ok, well. This seems to be going 'well'. But I don't, as a Taurus, approve of most of the advice on here. Let me tell it to you straight. The game your playing... Yeah, the quickest way to get rid of a Taurus...

But it's your choice. And if it burns hellish like the sun afterwards, don't complain on the forums about it. You want to play a game of seduction, he will win and leave you in the state that you presented your self. Now maybe I am wrong about him, but if he is mature enough to think for him self, then what you are thinking of now will surely disgust the hell out of him. But go on, play your game.

I don't know what certain people on here think of Taurus, but this approach would make me turn around and walk away. Self respect is one of the things I value the most, and playing games with ulterior motives shows that you don't have enough of it to be worth my time. I cannot respect someone who doesn't respect her self, and I won't go near a person like that either. If you remember, I told you we feel and see everything. I would scare you with my attention to detail. He will smell BS a mile away and I am telling you now, you are gonna hurt so bad when he finally just turns around and walks away as if nothing happened. Your not aiming for honesty, or truth and we don't have time for that either. It will be 'fun' and then you'll wish the earth swallows you.

Again, I might be wrong... But something tells me otherwise...

I fail to see where she has played any games at all ! Where is the bullshit that you are speaking of ? SOMEONE has to engage here or NOTHING will ever happen ! A 'game' is something you win or lose... a competition. Where is the competition here ? I would call this a 'love tactic'... she seldom sees him... they have only slept together ONCE in their 2 months... and THAT was 3 WEEKS AGO ! What kind of Taurus puts THIS off for 3 WEEKS ?!! "I would like to have sex only once every three weeks" Said NO Taurus EVER !!!

Scorpioglitter oozes self respect. She's not blowing up his phone like a lot of people might in her situation... which speaks loud and clear to me. By the book... she is doing everything right... it is HE that refuses to take the reins and run with it... perhaps the reins just need to be put in his hands... maybe then he will know what to do.

I could post what I think of you and your suggestions here. But that would violate T&C...

Your not well...

@Scorpioglitter:

It is simple, you either gonna be with this guy for the long haul or your gonna stuff up the rest of your life following the above mentioned advice. No self respecting man wants what is proposed here, and no self respecting woman would do this anyway. I have been around long enough to know exactly what is going on. Here's the deal, do this, and you will never get him. Despite what some disturbed members might say or think. You'r gonna do it right or not at all, because I am telling you now, he will put you down on your backside and you will never ever be the same again. You do it right, he will love you and cherish you they way you deserve. You want cheap thrills, don't target him. We HATE this unless your special, a player, or immature, none of which I sense from your guy. You asked long before, whether he was a player, and the answer was— And if you don't see that as the answer to what you have to do, then I bid you good luck cause your gonna need it... Lust is not love...

@ OmagaIII

I'm not sure I understand how I warranted your finding it necessary to ridicule my person. My apologies if I have offended you in some way, or otherwise given you the impression that I was attacking YOU. It was not my intent.

-- David

Posted by OmagaIII
Ok, well. This seems to be going 'well'. But I don't, as a Taurus, approve of most of the advice on here. Let me tell it to you straight. The game your playing... Yeah, the quickest way to get rid of a Taurus...

But it's your choice. And if it burns hellish like the sun afterwards, don't complain on the forums about it. You want to play a game of seduction, he will win and leave you in the state that you presented your self. Now maybe I am wrong about him, but if he is mature enough to think for him self, then what you are thinking of now will surely disgust the hell out of him. But go on, play your game.

I don't know what certain people on here think of Taurus, but this approach would make me turn around and walk away. Self respect is one of the things I value the most, and playing games with ulterior motives shows that you don't have enough of it to be worth my time. I cannot respect someone who doesn't respect her self, and I won't go near a person like that either. If you remember, I told you we feel and see everything. I would scare you with my attention to detail. He will smell BS a mile away and I am telling you now, you are gonna hurt so bad when he finally just turns around and walks away as if nothing happened. Your not aiming for honesty, or truth and we don't have time for that either. It will be 'fun' and then you'll wish the earth swallows you.

Again, I might be wrong... But something tells me otherwise...

OmagaIII i appreciate your opinion and its a good thing you're not the taurus i'm going out with...i am not looking for a quick thrill and i'm not taking advantage of him in any way. As for self-respect i have plenty, more than most people i think...I am not playing games here, i am not making him do anything, i just want an opportunity to get to know him better. I do respect the taurus in question and i am being myself with him as i've always been. There are no lies involved. I'm going out of my way to be patient but at the same time keep his interest in me, i dont want him to forget about me...what's wrong with that?

Posted by David13

Posted by scorpioglitter
oh and i told him to see which movie he'd prefer, he said he'd get back to me but that i had the final decision...ohhhhhh and he has already replied he prefers an action movie, and the time he'll pick me up!

Ahhh... ulterior motive... I LIKE IT !

An action movie might be fun... don't know how the ambiance will be after that though. Don't get me wrong... I like watching films... but watching them while trying to get to know someone... well... it is just lost time. The only thing you can do is be discreetly touchy-feely... so make it count !

Hmmm... he is coming to pick you up... leaving the action film choice up to you... he's living on the edge now ! 😉 You know... I think the movie might now be optional... but you will have to feel this out. If he seems set on going when he arrives... than by all means go... but have a back up plan. Present some good OR-WE-COULDs. IF you don't get yourself invited to his place, don't worry... he will still have to take you back to YOUR spider's lair... either way, this could end very well for you. If he refuses to get out of car... then just lay one on him while pulling he keys out of the ignition ! I trust that YOU will be able to change his mind !

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...and thanks for that David 🙂

Posted by David13
SO ?!!

so...he picked me up...we went to the cinema...we held hands (i took initiative) after i suggest we go back to his place (since he's tired cause of work) we get to his place have a glass of wine while cuddling and talking...magic happens,i give it a 12 (on a scale of 0-10)... he says he still has to cook for me...i leave before lunch time - he says "see you around" after i say goodbye with a kiss. i "forgot" my ?charpe at his place.

(and i learned he might be moving to a different city in 3 months which could explain why he's keeping me at arms length??)

🙂 Ton ?charpe ? ??a marche bien !

He acknowledged that he still has to cook for you... THAT's a good sign. You know... the three-month thing MAY play a factor. Is said city very far away from where you are ?

Sounds like you had a good time... I'm glad to hear it ! I am happy that it worked out for you !

Posted by David13
🙂 Ton ?charpe ? ??a marche bien !

He acknowledged that he still has to cook for you... THAT's a good sign. You know... the three-month thing MAY play a factor. Is said city very far away from where you are ?

Sounds like you had a good time... I'm glad to hear it ! I am happy that it worked out for you !

well yesterday he got really drunk and confessed he's in love with a girl from work...so i dont think i'll go out with him anymore. i'm glad he told me, now i can move on 🙂

Posted by soultalk
What was your reaction? He must have known you were interested, he should have told this while sober too? I know you can't help how you feel or act, but seriously why are things always complicated? I am curious to see his behavior after your shared intimacy? I read David say before taurus needs to sleep with you to feel any connection? What are your thoughts on this? also maybe David's

I took it well... did not show that i felt bad about it, and he just continued talking about her...i responded naturaly, i appreciated his honesty.
I think he does feel connected with me...but he had feelings for her already before we even met. I'm not sure i can continue to go out with him knowing that he has feelings for someone else...but i dont know how to tell him that --- when he asks me out should i be blunt and say i dont want to? tell the truth should be the best option.. --- but at the same time i dont want him out of my life... i'm soooooo confused.
I'm not going to kid myself and expect him to forget about her...

Well THAT throws a big wrench into the spokes... you never mentioned THAT ! 😢

Him admitting to this... well... if he will tell you THAT... he will tell you anything, hence his integrity is intact. This is actually supposed to be the conversation BEFORE anything gets started... I guess he held out, because he didn't want his emotional baggage to hinder him with YOU.

Still... you have seen his 'little' problem first-hand... HE will NEVER make a move on this other woman ! Days, weeks, and months will pass him by... and SHE will STILL be just an acquiantance.

So... you think that you are going to move on then ? You have good reason.

Forgive me in advance for saying this... I know it is very bad to say... but action that ranks as a '12' is very hard to come by. He may be leaving in 3 months... are you sure you want it to go to waste ? I know... I know... BAD DAVID ! Here is my hand... feel free to slap it !
😉

Posted by David13
Well THAT throws a big wrench into the spokes... you never mentioned THAT ! 😢

Him admitting to this... well... if he will tell you THAT... he will tell you anything, hence his integrity is intact. This is actually supposed to be the conversation BEFORE anything gets started... I guess he held out, because he didn't want his emotional baggage to hinder him with YOU.

Still... you have seen his 'little' problem first-hand... HE will NEVER make a move on this other woman ! Days, weeks, and months will pass him by... and SHE will STILL be just an acquiantance.

So... you think that you are going to move on then ? You have good reason.

Forgive me in advance for saying this... I know it is very bad to say... but action that ranks as a '12' is very hard to come by. He may be leaving in 3 months... are you sure you want it to go to waste ? I know... I know... BAD DAVID ! Here is my hand... feel free to slap it !
😉

BAD DAVID indeed 🙂
the thing is...he told me that yesterday when we went back to his place...that he has kissed her a couple of times but she has a boyfriend, and that probably makes her much more attractive because he cant have her. But we did sleep togheter.
i went to his place today to get a few things i couldnt find this morning and i think he was a bit embarrased because of yesterdays conversation, we chatted for 5 min. and i left.
quite frankly i dont know what to do...but i will ask him about that dinner he owes me...and i'll see how it goes from there...guess i'm not ready to pull the plug yet.

i guess we've been friends with benefits...but i wonder why he would seem nervous at first when i meet him if he doesnt care that much for me...

Oooooh... they've kissed a couple of times... not sure why he would be keeping a torch lit for THAT one... she's already GOT a BOYFRIEND... which doesn't say too much about HER character. If she suddenly became free, HE would be the LAST person she would hook up with... because that is just the way it works.

So I guess... just do what you are doing... he has some time. He is single in my book... he seems to be willing... and he still owes you dinner ! 😉

well i've had it...ok he's busy and all but responding to a message takes seconds not more than a day! and that after admitting he wants to "get with" his new flatmate -- what an asshole. why does he even confide in me?? i like him being honest and all, but i'm done with this shit...i'll just ignore him from now on...i'll see him again for sure cause we have friends in common, but i'll just have to be polite-ish.

...he can continue obsessing about the girl from work who wants nothing with him, and getting into the pants of random girls (guess i was one of those). enough is enough...

Posted by scorpioglitter
well i've had it...ok he's busy and all but responding to a message takes seconds not more than a day! and that after admitting he wants to "get with" his new flatmate -- what an asshole. why does he even confide in me?? i like him being honest and all, but i'm done with this shit...i'll just ignore him from now on...i'll see him again for sure cause we have friends in common, but i'll just have to be polite-ish.

Sent you a message

Posted by soultalk
If nothing this will help you cut him off and move on. Seriously you don't even need to be polite with him. Not going forward is one thing but disrespecting by getting together with someone else so soon and telling you about it is worse than rejection. Hope at least this has angered you enough to not want to do anything with him.

OH yes!

Posted by OmagaIII
Hahaha, Taurus guy here... 😛

Well, let me tell you this, if the roles where in reverse you would react the same... I know, cause I am dealing with a Scorpio that after 10 months does the exact same thing with me, and I really really care for her and want her

My taurus man would agree with you. He claims I was hot in cold with him in the beginning. Sometimes I'm just trapped with my thoughts

@Eris

So... what should a guy do when you are trapped this way 😛

Posted by OmagaIII
@Eris

So... what should a guy do when you are trapped this way 😛

utilize that taurus patience!

Ok Omaga... I just asked my taurus how he dealt with it and he said he just tried to act like he was okay with it... Carried on with his usual activities. So there you have it. I wonder how many females come on here thinking their affection is clear and the taurus man doesn't feel like its laid out clearly? I thought I made it clear to my man without using words.

Taurus and scorpio... Sigh lol

Hahaha, eish.

Well, it looks like if I am serious I will have to apply patience. Seems that Taurus and Scorpio are always in this dance of opposites. We are so different but still the same. The rest... well, if you don't know the rules don't play the game I guess.

I find it very interesting that a lot of the topics between the Scorpio and Taurus threads are so similar.

Well, let me be off to the green meadows close to my Scorpio's lair hehehe 😛