when u r interested in someone.....

How often do u like to communicate with them? (eg - calling, texting, email, IM, face-to-face)

There are some people that can go days, even weeks without contact from the SO or person of interest and feel as connected as the last time they had contact...

i like to get at a text/phone call a day.. and can hang out as much as once or twice a week.

I'm in an LDR, so we text or BlackBerry msgr one another almost daily. We talk whenever he calls, cause I don't call him. I'm weird like that. I don't initiate the initial contact. If he calls or text me first, then I'll call or text him back. There are very few/rare exceptions. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to talk to him more, but I know how guys are, so I just try and ebb and flow. If I get annoyed or am feeling neglected I let him know. We see each other once or twice a month; which is a pro and a con. LOL.

I think a text once a day is nice, or else like bluelilac says, I feel ignored. I hate all that stuff about how when you meet someone you should wait 3 days to contact them the first time, I mean WTF??!!! It's so stupid. Absence definitely doesn't make my heart grow fonder, rather it makes me wonder why I'm bothering with a guy who can't even be bothered to send a text message to me.

And I really don't like to be the first to initiate contact, makes me feel like I'm nagging them to talk to me and being desperate. Not sure why I feel like this, bit weird. Not sure if this is a Taurus thing or a woman thing.

Personally, I try not to say anything unless it is important, funny, or of interest. Talking about a bunch of nothing just to pass time gets boring. Conversation/messages with substance is worth the time you spend on it. (and yes, messages or calls 'just to say I'm thinking about you' fall into the category of substance.) I WOULD call every day just to let them know I'm thinking about them... but I know women don't like to be smothered, or feel like their partner is completely dependent on them. I try to set a pace with how often I contact anyone, and I alter it to fit the situation. So if I run out of funny stuff to tell them, conversation loses significance, or I don't think I/they would be interested in what they/I have to say... growing apart from someone won't hurt. I know that sounds kind of selfish, but if we are meant to make it, I will never run out of fun/interesting stuff to say. As for the initial contact... its kind of like getting a business card from someone. If you want them to remember your face and where they met you, you will call the next day (not to talk their ear off immediately, but) just to touch base so they don't confuse you with someone else later.

As for someone being absent... I like how USC put it 'a pro and a con' it makes you miss them, but when you have them with you its that much stronger because of it. Neglect and ignorance, do not fall into my definition of absence. ...not that I'm a taurus (or a female), but I feel you bluelilac.

ROFL if you ladies couldn't tell, I'm just trying to help you understand how us guys can get confused about what women really want.

Hi I am Taurus women when I really really like someone I want to be wit them all the time but as I have gotten older and have been through things I really don't blow up phones maybe a text and to be honest I am in love wit someone right now if he doesn't call me all day yes I am kind of upset but a text is fine and maybe one call a day but I absolutely hate when someone blows up my phone or texts back to back to back

Hi I am Taurus women when I really really like someone I want to be wit them all the time but as I have gotten older and have been through things I really don't blow up phones maybe a text and to be honest I am in love wit someone right now if he doesn't call me all day yes I am kind of upset but a text is fine and maybe one call a day but I absolutely hate when someone blows up my phone or texts back to back to back

I agree with bluelilac...except for the absence part - it doesn't make me forget, it just makes me REALLY angry, and I figure if you cared about me you would WANT to talk to me - not need to be prompted.

People that are just friends I can go weeks or months even without talking to and it's no big deal - but an SO is comeplteley different, like cream said, that is someone I want to talk to and be with ALL the time. Most people can't picture me that way because I am very different with someone I love than I am with the rest of the world.

Okay let's take love outta the equation....

You are talking to this person/dating or just met recently, BUT you are interested in the person.....

Do you care less if their contact is more spaced out or sporadic since you don't have that deep affinity or feeling for them yet?

Or maybe you're just kinky Ferdy!!! LOL just kidding 🙂
If I really like someone it can be irksome when you really want to talk to them, but they (appearingly) aren't as interested in talking to me, then yes it's annoying. But, I guess, for me it could be my ego; similar to what someone said before about wondering WHY that person doesn't want to talk to me as much as I want to talk to them. I never let them know this though! LOL. Too much pride. You know what I always say Ferdy, I HATE games, but unfortunately it's a part of this game 😢

GB, you meant to say "in a person." 😉 lol!
"first of all, y'all are chicks, you don't call, us men do, so like duh!!!

Yeah, but ya'll don't call like your supposed too! I don't want some weirdo stalker, or somebody that doesn't have a life and must constantly call me. But a simple call to say "hey, I'm thinking about you" never hurt nobody. I mean, I'll get little text like that, but not as often as I'd like, but then again, I guess I appreciate it more, cause (hopefully) he's telling me the truth, which I'm sure, cause he's a Leo and tells it like it is. Also, somebody brought up the point that they don't like to call if the don't have anything to say, which I'm like that too, and my Leo is definitely like that. Oh well, I think the real thing a lot of people (primarily women) don't like is that it appears that texting and stuff has taken away from a PHONE call. But, I'm with you GB, I like in person the best 😉.