waaaaaa why is he ignoring me now—!?!

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius

Then in the past week he is suddenly really cold towards me. We work together and when other people are there he basically ignores me or makes fun of me like a child. He pokes fun at everything I do all the time and makes jokes at my expense. Every group conversation is basically him making a joke about me. This guys is in his mid thirties, so I don't know why he is acting immature. It's making me upset, cause I like him.

This is what I do to girls I like.

I never made a move on him - was still planning it and now I feel like the whole situation is unravelling. He will now only respond to emails and texts in flirty way if I instigate it.

That's a good sign.

I don't know what happened to make him withdraw suddenly just as we were really kind of liking each other. Booo... waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.......

Help please!!!!!!!!!

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He's recalibrating. Just give his CPU some time to cool down and his RAM some space to free up.
Computation will resume shortly thereafter.

"Please press the enter key to continue"

🙂

forget about Vs... !!!

(best advice by the way...)

his humor doesn't sound humorous though...yuck!

anyhoo...good luck.

Posted by scorpio_chic

I think what she meant is that he only gets flirtacious when she initiates being flirtatious.
That's a good sign?

It most certainly is.
I can easily offend people with my straightforwardness, so I always have to gauge myself.

If he is worried about rubbing her the wrong way, so much so that she is pushed away beyond hope, of course he would watch his flirtatious interactions carefully, so as to not give the wrong impression.

He sounds disinterested and quite vulgar towards you, how will you ever now if he's interested if he's so insulting all the time and ignoring you. I'm not saying the guys here are wrong but IMO he's definitely showing signs of emotional immaturity and do you really want to date an ass backwards guy anyway? Aren't there any available men around that aren't acting like sniveling idiots? Sounds like he's using pick up artist game, just being a complete douchebag asshole to play with your insecurities so you will be completely focused on him, even chasing him argh, seems to be working, I myself steer clear of men like that, they usually are insecure losers....good luck

Is there anybody that doesn't use PUA tactics, so much bullshit to wave through these days....gosh I miss the 80's LOL

This sounds awfully familiar...

Posted by tiki33
Is there anybody that doesn't use PUA tactics, so much bullshit to wave through these days....gosh I miss the 80's LOL

the 80's? i'm in a time warp between modern day and the 1950s 😛 what happened to married out of HS and shotguns? bring back the shotguns...even if they're sawed off! too many babies being born out of wedlock.

i love that i am independent and strong but i know that makes it difficult to deal with men who are still looking at their mother/gma's generation which may indeed be strong but definitely more passive than women in my age range. if only i could bake bread, wear an apron and say "yes dear" all at the same time.

but back on topic, i don't like the way he's behaving at work. if he were smart, he'd be clear with you and you two would conduct your relationship in a way that if it doesn't work out, no one's the wiser. but he's making a big production about it and i personally don't like feeling exposed in that way. my family has yet to even meet any of them i've dated. they get to meet him when he's ready to marry me. until then, why do they, my friends, my coworkers need to know who i'm hunchin?

LOL@hunchin oh that word brings back memories tubby!

Posted by scorpio_chic

ughhhhhh that is the biggest turn off when they get that way. I lose interest so quickly the minute they turn disrespectful or insulting. We're not in elementary anymore, these grown men need to act like GROWN MEN.

If you want a boring man, go date a Capricorn.

LOL...

ask girls if they think Cappie boy is boring... 😄

cappie men are not boring....they damn sexy though

Posted by scorpio_chic

I'm in love with a capricorn and he is anything BUT boring.

*Initiate Bias*

There is nothing remotely cute or exciting about playing kid games like insulting a girl because you like her.

Way to start horribly wrong.

Virgos do not have the intention of "insulting" people with our wit. It's done for fun, not to damage.

I'm a no nonsense type of girl I don't like that kid shit. No time in my day for it.

Wrong
You're a Scorpio who can't take a joke directed at her.

A man who wants a WOMAN should approach a woman as her equal.

And making jokes implies a lack of equilibrium?

A man.. not a boy. If a man wants a lil girl, by all means.. play that game and you'll get what you put out for. A little girl.

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Hahaha, it isn't a game!
It's just our wit!

if he's being a jerk, it's because you waited too long and now he's turning it around so that if you do like him you'll chase him...though i doubt he's doing it on purpose. it's just what they do. or instead of chasing him, you can get snarky right back and see how long it takes him to play nice again.

Oh and I love how I was right on the money with my call Scorpio_chic, I called the exact kind of man you are in love with without having foreknowledge, hahaha!

SC we both know cappie men are sexy as all hell, hard ass workers and will go to the death for a woman they love, call me weird all day long because I love me some capricorn men, they are very masculine, the alpha males of the group

there is one to joke and there is another to insult a person and be completely cruel, there's a thin line between love and hate and if a man is hating I'm going to assume he's either gay, crazy or just a douchebag or all of the above.

Posted by tiki33
SC we both know cappie men are sexy as all hell, hard ass workers and will go to the death for a woman they love, call me weird all day long because I love me some capricorn men, they are very masculine, the alpha males of the group

there is one to joke and there is another to insult a person and be completely cruel, there's a thin line between love and hate and if a man is hating I'm going to assume he's either gay, crazy or just a douchebag or all of the above.

tiki what about virgos huh lol.

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

Posted by tiki33
SC we both know cappie men are sexy as all hell, hard ass workers and will go to the death for a woman they love, call me weird all day long because I love me some capricorn men, they are very masculine, the alpha males of the group

there is one to joke and there is another to insult a person and be completely cruel, there's a thin line between love and hate and if a man is hating I'm going to assume he's either gay, crazy or just a douchebag or all of the above.

tiki what about virgos huh lol.

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lol I love certain virgo males wit and sense of humor like you and virgohero and a couple others on the virgo board but some of ya'll get on my nerves and I'm sure the feeling is mutual...jus saying

A joke at another persons expense is funny up until a certain point....

Posted by ianthefish
tiki hates fish...

*smirks*

so not true Ian *grins*

Posted by scorpio_chic
Perfect example;

My gemini friend is with this guy (I hate to admit it, but he is a cap) who has called her a 'bop' (degrading name for females), has told her not to talk to him in public because she 'makes him look bad' (they live together by the way). He has pissed on her furniture, poured beer over her head because she refused to 'kiss it' when he asked her to. Has ruined x amount of cell phones, stolen her laptop or cell phones, cheated on her.. I mean really, I can go on and on but I'll get to what I am saying.

You would think she would have left by now. I mean really, rock bottom is rock bottom.

But instead, she stays and eats up his bullshit ass excuses, and even makes the excuse FOR HIM, that he is simply in love but just doesn't know how to 'deal with his feelings'.

Yes, really. She said that.

She has had men who genuinely loved her and treated her well but she lost interest for whatever reason. But this guy... she's holding onto for dear life, as if there is something left to hold onto. So it proves our theory that some women are really dumb enough to buy into that shit, make excuses for a man's behavior and come crawling right back. And men KNOW that there are women like this

Okay so maybe this situation is a bit extreme and I might be a lil bit off topic. LMAO but so what damnit...

some women thrive off of excitement and drama and a bad boy has no problem dishing it...bunch of immature bullshit but I guess that's how some women get that emotional high she needs to feel alive.

tiki ur a smart lady why isnt there any smart women left like you or they are just hard 2 find nowadays lmao.

Posted by scorpio_chic

Well damnit cajun you know I am sensitive don't be picking on me damnit or you shall feel the wrath. LOL

lol, it's playful "picking" honey.
Once you can get past your inert sense of taking offense, things get WAAAY better.

You're absolutely right, there is nothing wrong with picking fun and joking around.. me & my cap do that on a regular basis. He calls me fathead and I call him stanky face. We have fun..

How cute.

But the post that I was replying to was talking about the men who insult, degrade, disrespect women to have the upper hand in the situation. Because (sadly) some dumb ass women actually CRAWL back to these men and the men know it, so they use that tactic. That's what I was talking about in response to Tiki's post and then you replied to mine, which was not referring to yours about joking or picking on girls.

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Well I don't believe this is Virgo behaviour, I thought that is what you were inferring. My mistake 🙂

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

tiki ur a smart lady why isnt there any smart women left like you or they are just hard 2 find nowadays lmao.

Your making me feel good...stop it LOL

But yeah they are out there I hope d:

Thanks for the sweet compliment

Posted by tiki33

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

tiki ur a smart lady why isnt there any smart women left like you or they are just hard 2 find nowadays lmao.

Your making me feel good...stop it LOL

But yeah they are out there I hope d:

Thanks for the sweet compliment

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its my venus in libra i cant help ima charmer lmao.

but its the truth virgos are straight forward when it comes 2 facts lmao.

Posted by Sekhmet

To a point. But sometimes you have to school those virguys. They like being called up short once in a while, and sometimes you have to enforce your own sense of propriety, not always let those virgos play yo uout like you don't have an equal say in the inter-relationship 😉

Oh yeesss baby!

The Cajun man wants to be schooled *feisty look*

*rocks back in chair alluringly*

Posted by sortilege85
Tiki all of your advice has truly worked wonders... You should write a book, sug.

I'm glad that there are people like you, ninja, kaldescorp, and several other woman *sorry if i forgot to call your name* on here have reasonable and fair choices and/or decisions for those who are stuck on a situation.

🙂

Thanks sorti, feeling is mutual d:

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

tiki ur a smart lady why isnt there any smart women left like you or they are just hard 2 find nowadays lmao.

Uhhhh, hellooooooooooooo! 😄

Posted by DyTryin

s_c: Who's on top during sex is completely irrelevant to what I am saying you freak!

Says you!

When all the clothes are off, that's when the ultimate truth is revealed... the Scorpio Woman who submits to a Virgo Man's desire has already acknowledged the actual power in the relationship, n'est pas??

But... she can do this, because she knows that Virgo cares nothing for power; so in reality, she's lost nothing, but has gained an allie for life.

Not a bad exchange, in my opinion.

LOL...seriously, I like the sound of that,"ally for life". Somehow with these two ( virgo and cap ) don't have to put up too many walls. Always know where the chink in the armor is anyway...

Back to the topic, will really turn me off if he's laughing AT me, not WITH me...but if he's only being playful, that can be a show of affection too, especially if he's shy, which most Virgos are. That still shows you have his attention but making jokes wouldn't get him far. If he's too shy to tell you he likes you, why wait? Tell him you like him if you do. If that scares him away, lol, at least it'll get your questions answered.

Posted by scorpio_chic

I think I agree. I've never had a problem with Virgos, I actually attract a lot of them for some odd reason. My first love was a virgo but he shagged my friend. So yeah...

Was/is your friend a Libra, Pisces or Gemini?

Hypnotic that is deep man but very true, I have heard many women that decided to part ways with bad boy types complain how unexciting it is to be with a emotionally healthy man, they are so used to the up and down, in and out, push and pull relationships that finally when a great guy comes along they feel bored, and because she's bored it feels all wrong to her and I always encourage them to stick with it, to slowly get back into the real world were things are not so erratic and hard. It's like learning to walk straight again.

All that emotional abuse, emotional drama and excitement comes with a heavy price...loss of self

Posted by Hypnotic—
he also talked about loyalties..

for example, a woman will date men who aren't "better" than her dad..
this is her way of showing loyalty to him..
otherwise, she'd feel like she's betraying him..

etc.

That's an interesting point and to add to that think about all the women with no fathers or father figures...talk about screwed, most end up choosing bad men because she has no idea what a good man is...sucks

Posted by tiki33

Posted by Hypnotic—
he also talked about loyalties..

for example, a woman will date men who aren't "better" than her dad..
this is her way of showing loyalty to him..
otherwise, she'd feel like she's betraying him..

etc.

That's an interesting point and to add to that think about all the women with no fathers or father figures...talk about screwed, most end up choosing bad men because she has no idea what a good man is...sucks

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This is a very interesting point, thank you for sharing it, it brought to mind something my "stalker" of all people said to me, he said "you dont know what its like to be treated right" I have worked very hard on that, and if I dont know what it is like, then how would I recognize "wrong" ? any input?

PGA I like you, I don't say that to just anybody....I am going to condense it or I will talk and talk.

Your feelings, when something makes you feel sad, makes you feel humiliated, makes you feel less than you don't ignore it, you don't shoo shoo it and dismiss it, you acknowledge every single hurt be it to the person that hurt you or to yourself and you pay attention to when your not hurting as well, so your body and your mind can connect with the reality of your feelings and can say warning this man is toxic and your fight or flight senses will kick in and help you help yourself if that means leaving the man or just distancing yourself and speaking your truth but if you don't know how to deal with wrong in your life people will walk all over you, especially bad men or men that don't have the best intentions for you.