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i've had the same experience where in once i don't give this virgo the same attention as before, that is when he pursues.
i've had the same experience where in once i don't give this virgo the same attention as before, that is when he pursues.
Huh? He's pursuing, LOL, not chasing, but pursuing on some level non the less (ah, pursuing is not exactly the right word, he's into me, let's just put it that way, and the feeling is so mutual). Read my other post. The man is beyond belief in my mind, and in such a good way. He's sweet!
I'm just curious about the statement given that he has said it twice now, especially since he is apparently rather smitten with me...
I'm just curious about the statement given that he has said it twice now, especially since he is apparently rather smitten with me...
and, maybe, just maybe, as the oracles of DXP keep telling me, I just need to do him!!! 😛
If he's pushing for you to go with an ex, it's game over.
He'll just try to keep you on the hook, for giggles.
He'll just try to keep you on the hook, for giggles.
Totally agree with Cajun and Seavixen...Him telling you he's no good for you and encouraging you to go back to your X is a major red he's just not that into you red flag....It's almost the equivalent of him saying leave me alone
You got this guy on a huge pedestal...IMO kick him off, he's human not God or some other super natural deity....He's feeling the pressure but enjoys the attention as well I'm sure
You got this guy on a huge pedestal...IMO kick him off, he's human not God or some other super natural deity....He's feeling the pressure but enjoys the attention as well I'm sure
Posted by ianthefish
she puts all her men on a pedestal tiki..
interesting...if she put a person on a pedestal, he has no choice but to look down at her, not good
If he wasn't otherwise showing interest, that is exactly how I would see it. But, when you say something like that one night then spend the whole day with that person the following day it doesn't make sense. Not to mention the whole meeting him over at the bank JUST so he could give me a hug and kiss bye before he went out of town.
mixed messages equals he's not that into you...saying one thing doing something else...doing something else yet saying one thing opposite of that is typical when a guy minimizes a connection with a woman, one day he's full on the next day he's saying I'm not good for you go back to your X...one day he's saying meet me for a hug and kiss the next he's doing or saying something to push you away...keeping one foot in and one foot out at all times is another way he's maintaining just enough connection but not enough to give you the idea that he's going to be your man....move on already, try and fixate on a guy that is fixating over you...he likes you liking him but that's were it ends...not much giving on his end but plenty of physical attraction so he keeps you around, plus your stroking that ego so he see it's in his best interest to keep you around but keeping you around has nothing to do with liking you on a deep level, a level were he will make you his, it has more to do with how much he's getting out of it...If you put him on a pedestal he will not respect you, he will end up using you, devaluing your worth at some point and moving on...Do not pedestal a man that isn't willing to reciprocate that same kind of energy back to you.
Tiki, I hear what your saying, but at the same time this is a man who wants to see me daily, expects it... he's back in town today and he said I should have come over to and spent the day with him since I knew he was there (although he laughed and said he was sleeping most of it because of the drive) and then "what are we doing tonight?". The man has a life, a very busy life and from what I've read Virgos are not into wasting there time with someone.
Things do NOT make sense!! Let's take this a step further... tonight I bring up the whole sex thing, he laughs and says he's going to practice abstinence and not have sex until he's married. I'm like, "What? You don't want to have sex with me?" He says, "I didn't say that, just not until I'm married again, who knows you might be the one I marry"
Tiki, you're talking mixed messages as not being all that into me... but, by the same token I've got a man using marriage in a sentence pertaining to me. I'm not suggesting he is even thinking along those lines, but still this is not indicative of a man who sees me as some booty call (that he's not getting... nor wants apparently). Note, he didn't want me to even stay the night tonight, I am supposed to call him at 7am so we can figure out what we are doing for the day tomorrow.
My thought was he was testing me w/ regards to my posting as it did come down to me defending myself with regards to having no interest in Mr. Pisces. But, you all may be right, he my just be keeping me around for shits and giggles. But, Virgos don't like to waste their time (he especially), so THAT doesn't seem to make sense either.
Tiki, you're talking mixed messages as not being all that into me... but, by the same token I've got a man using marriage in a sentence pertaining to me. I'm not suggesting he is even thinking along those lines, but still this is not indicative of a man who sees me as some booty call (that he's not getting... nor wants apparently). Note, he didn't want me to even stay the night tonight, I am supposed to call him at 7am so we can figure out what we are doing for the day tomorrow.
My thought was he was testing me w/ regards to my posting as it did come down to me defending myself with regards to having no interest in Mr. Pisces. But, you all may be right, he my just be keeping me around for shits and giggles. But, Virgos don't like to waste their time (he especially), so THAT doesn't seem to make sense either.
Mock my words...He is not testing you..He is "TOYING" with you as cajun would say. In the end you will wish you would have moved on instead of sit there and let him toy with your mind like he's doing but then again you seem to really don't mind it, you actually seem to be having a huge amount of fun, so why not have sex with the guy and have more fun.
Who knows you might be the one I marry...MIXED MESSAGE=Fucking with your head, a man that is serious about marriage would never play with it in that way, an emotional conman and/or a man that isn't all that into you will say shit like that to dangle the carrot and keep a woman on her heels begging and waiting...I been there done that, men that have problems with commitment use that term loosely and the word I love you loosely as well and they say shit like I'm no good for you, go back to your X smh they just say all kinds of bs it's not even funny, he's not wasting his time if your the one "DOING" majority of the praising and ego stroking...He gets something out of it having you around
Who knows you might be the one I marry...MIXED MESSAGE=Fucking with your head, a man that is serious about marriage would never play with it in that way, an emotional conman and/or a man that isn't all that into you will say shit like that to dangle the carrot and keep a woman on her heels begging and waiting...I been there done that, men that have problems with commitment use that term loosely and the word I love you loosely as well and they say shit like I'm no good for you, go back to your X smh they just say all kinds of bs it's not even funny, he's not wasting his time if your the one "DOING" majority of the praising and ego stroking...He gets something out of it having you around
He's passive aggressively pushing and pulling...He seems very experienced, this one will give you a run for your money...he will keep your head spinning in every which way direction...I wish you the best of luck with him
Got any bridges Ian? I'd like to invest.
NICE. I'll take 3. And be sure to lay all the plumbing over the really soupy areas.
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