Can Virgos love two people at the same time?

I'm really heart broken. Virgo was supposed to watch our son so o could start my new job tomorrow. I found out he spent the night at his other baby mama's house. I'm so sad. If he didnt want to be with her the whole time, why did he pretend he loved me. Idk what happened because he hadn't been talking to her and we were on AMAZING terms. Idk I'm so sad!! Is this typical Virgo behavior— This is the text I sent him ::Here we are again 2 weeks shy of when it happened last year the only difference is I'm not staying to keep getting hurt anymore. We just had a long talk and you could have told me then how you were truly feeling. I always tell you how I feel even if it hurts because I respected you as my boyfriend. I still want you to be involved with Noah. Do you still want to be apart of his life?? The way you behaved has me thinking otherwise. That poor baby been done wrong even before he got here. I think that's what makes me love him so much. I'm really bummed you stood us up like that. If there was ever a time when I needed you the most today was that day. Idk if you care but I still really love you and I'm sad things have to be this way but I'm tired of hurting. I was always honest with you. And I think that's what hurts the most is I feel like you lied. Idk but anyways thought I'd leave out on a bang. So here it goes...
BANG lol bye uggo! I loved him so much. I'm so hurt by this. Pls any advice or encouragement would be appreciated



Hurting Gem( yes we have very strong feelings too)

Very upsetting situation but this isn't about Noah's feelings, this is about your feelings, Noah will be fine if he see mama is fine.

If you take him back you're only teaching him he can cheat when it's convenient for him, don't give him another chance to cheat on you. Blow ice cold and figure out a way to keep your job and have someone babysit Noah.

I don't see the point of telling him you love him after he cheated that's like the equivalent of saying I love you no matter what which means he'll come back when it's convenient for him..

He never stopped seeing his other baby mama so you'll either have to be okay with him going between her and you or dump the guy for guy, put his ass on child support and get on with your life. He's taking advantage of the women who are too weak to tell him to kick rocks because you both have children/a child with this man. He'll come back with a lie, oh he's thinking of a way to get out of this one and given that you took him back in the past, he figure you'll take him back again so he's going to take his time getting back to you.

dump the guy for good

So this is common among Virgos. And I told him I love him cus I do. But I have no choice but to leave he did this before already. I've never left anyone before. It's hard because I still really want to be with him but I know he will only keep doing this to me. I thought Virgos were loyal people. I thought when they loved they loved for real. I thought they never go back to exes or if something was wrong they say it. My mind is blown I want answers but it won't change anything. I just got to move on easier said than done.

Maybe you might have better luck with a Gemini or a Sagittarius.

Posted by sillykim123
So this is common among Virgos. And I told him I love him cus I do. But I have no choice but to leave he did this before already. I've never left anyone before. It's hard because I still really want to be with him but I know he will only keep doing this to me. I thought Virgos were loyal people. I thought when they loved they loved for real. I thought they never go back to exes or if something was wrong they say it. My mind is blown I want answers but it won't change anything. I just got to move on easier said than done.

I know you love him but why reward him with love when he's being bad, why give him attention at all, I think a lot of these baby daddies just screw around because they know they can always fix it later thus why he was able to eventually get back in with the other baby mama and I wouldn't be surprised if she either hit his ass with child support and/or threatened to do so which led him to run back to her to make it right which can buy him some time which is most likely what he'll do with you too if he feel you'll take him to court for money he may not have and/or may not want to part with if he does have the money.

I'm not certain if his sign can be blamed for his behavior, it's more about his character, integrity and morals and any sign can lack those qualities. Leaving him is up to you but just know if you don't leave the cheating won't stop, he's set up a pattern with you, cheat and then wiggle his way out of losing anything--mainly you and Noah.

@Tiki I love how you call my son by his name! Yes it's time for me to move on. I was thinking to myself what kind of person would I be to just let him treetrunk me over and over again. Like duh Kim where's your self respect and worth — Like I deserve better and I've always knew I did I just stayed cus I loved him and wanted to see the good. But he's not worth it really I mean that from the bottom of my heart I really do deserve better. O well his loss! I'll be ok thanks so much TiKI. Just giving everyone on here the heads up I'll be on these boards hard trying to get over my pain.

That is just so sad...

Sorry you have to go through this.

For future reference when you date someone else, never ever give anyone the power to make you sad or happy. NEVER. Don't stop yourself from loving someone, it's a beautiful thing, but don't ever love someone more than you love yourself.

Awww thanks so much everyone!!! he blew my phone up today . He left messages and songs on my voicemail. He sent a ton of texts and was crying on one the voicemails. My sister said don't buy into it. What I dont understand is how he keeps flipping the script. It's like he's trying to find something I've done tp justify his actions. I'm so sad angry hurt numb. I feel like I have no heart. Man I loved him so much. What step am I in in the grieving process—

Cry your heart out, then go out do something for yourself, cry, do something, cry, do something, cry, do something... repeat process until your entire time is occupied with doing things for yourself and your eyes forget how to shed a tear.

Posted by sillykim123

That poor baby been done wrong even before he got here.

Interesting .... clarification on what this means

Posted by sillykim123

Here we are again 2 weeks shy of when it happened last year ....

when it happened last year?


Are you insinuating that he's been a cheater, and you knew it?


Did you know, when you let him cum in you without protection that he had a baby by another lady?


Did you actually believe that because it was YOU he was seeing, that that would be enough to make him change into being the person you wanted him to be?

I just get the impression from what you have said so far that you've known all along that he wasn't a decent person, but, you picked him anyway to provide you with respect (unrealistically) .. and now you're crying about the fact that YOU made a bad decision.

Posted by P-Angel

I just get the impression from what you have said so far that you've known all along that he wasn't a decent person, but, you picked him anyway to provide you with respect (unrealistically) .. and now you're crying about the fact that YOU made a bad decision.

But, instead of admitting that ..... you're making it his fault, and that you're a victim of circumstance that wasn't in your control.



Yet, this same thing happened 2 weeks shy of a year ago ... which means, you're played ignorant.



And lastly .. the only reason for you to send him an email like that is to get him back. You told him several times that you love him .. that's not what a person does who wants to quit, walk away ... that's what someone says who is trying to manipulate the person into feeling guilty so that they come back running to you, on your terms

Posted by 25thDecan
Um this isn't virgos...plenty other signs are good for nothing deadbeat sumbeech daddies. Love two people? Hmm...yes of course. Romantically? Lemme explain: have love for an ex..even though I don't want to...to still want her abusive, lying, myopic arse to have a quality life and not experience pains beyond normal....while loving whoever I'm in love with, live with etc. Get me? Unlike the fat headed LOSER your virgo is...I have enough sense and all around NON-LUNACY to enjoy that other person I love who loves me and have ZERO need to see my ex thrive, talk to her, imagine she's dancing or waltzing with matilda, dig? Man oh man what a jerk-arse. Seriously I love kids. If I had a son I can GUARANTEE you that infidelity on MY part would NEVER come up as drama or a wedge between myself and his mother. Eff all else if I'm needed by my child.(I don't have kids though) but seriously. My father did NOT EVER shirk responsibility with me..stayed married to my mother is still married and still adores her. But still...ZERO slack left open. When my mother was tired from routine..he picked up routine. He taught me how to cook(tradition in my family) and his words: if you ever have a child and leave him out idgaf if you're 46 and I'm in my 70's I will PAY somebody to put a foot in your hindparts! And I'm military, it WILL be done, boy!" Sorry for the rant..but man f&*k your ex with a rake...he's wack.

My virgo is still very controlled by his ex-wife(shes a taurus and they've been divorced for 14years).
He cheated on her physically at least once during their marriage and she on him.
He has this..need..inside himself.. to form mental and emotional attachments to women. Only his own demons can fix that and i have told him so.

Does all of his 50 shades of fucked up effect me? Sure it does on some level. But as a Cap, I know his history, we have talked about it, and he knows how i feel about it, what I am able to accept and not, etc etc. I can't change him, only he can do that. What i can do is love him, and accept him, and live one day at a time.

P-Angel you're correct! I knew he wasn't any good from the beginning. When I finally started to clearly see what was going on, I found out I was expecting. My whole pregnancy I cried cus I didn't want him. Nobody wanted him to be here but his dad. Now his dad isn't in the picture. I am really upset about the choice I made. I'm glad I'm taking responsibility for my actions. I really do love him Ms. P-Angel. I know if I stayed he wouldn't change the way he treats me. I also admit I wasn't the prefect gf either. After he admitted to cheating and I accepted him back, I constantly brought up the past wanting to know details. I resented him becuase I knew I made a bad desicion. It caused alot of turmoil in the relationship. I have to admit he's been very patient with me but I know we will never be able to have a healthy relationship. Man o man!

Also @ P-angel I have to respect the way you commented. Thanks for not being so harsh.

We LOVE one person - which is unconditional love
And we're IN LOVE with another person - which is a strong crush [usually temporary]

Makes sense

Posted by starlover
In answer to your original question, in my experience they have enough trouble loving one, so two would prob be a definate no.
Virgo is the sign of the hermit, the loner, they really arent up for strong emotional connections

Are you fucking kidding me? Obviously if we're not up for strong emotional connections, did ya ever consider the fact that we are just NOT INTERESTED?