cheating virgo's

I've been with a virgo for a year now and he has a very wrong past. The last girl he was with a serious relationship with, he cheatd on her 4 times. He says that is in the past and he changed . He say he loves me. Can I trust him?

NO. It is comparable to an alcoholic. He will ultimately cheat again to support his own ego or self esteem. Liars suck.

dated a virgo man for almost 1 year. I was madly in love with this guy - he cheated and told me (in so many words). I don't think he will ever change. It was very hard for me in the beginning but realized that this was his issue not mine, so I moved on.

Hey 198. I always believe in giving a person a chance until they prove me wrong. Do you think he may be cheating on you or is there that fear that he would cheat because he's done it before? If you feel strongly for this guy, you're going to have to allow yourself to trust him. In the affairs of the heart, there is always a chance that you could get hurt, but you have to be willing to take that chance. My thing is, my man is going to do what he wants to do regardless of what I want him to do, rather it be right or wrong. I don't hound my man or get in his business. I give him enough rope to hang himself with and if he messes up, he's gone. Of course feelings don't go away overnight, but time heals. Besides, if he messed up he wasn't too concerned with my feelings in the first place which makes him easier to get over. Go with what you feel. You don't want to look back and be the one saying, what if..........
Angel

The sad thing is - is that I cut him off completely. He wanted his cake and eat it too. I think the guilt just got too much for him - and he practically shooed me away - being very callous and cold - but still claiming that he was IN love with me. I couldn't take it anymore - No cake and eat it here! He did hang himself for being "honest" after all the damage was done...what do you think?

NO!! He will cheat on YOU. He's saying that he is a serial cheater. That's what he's really telling you.

That's what I thought. I am so proud of myself for being strong and courageous thru all this. It's been incredibly tough - but my cancer intuition hasn't failed me yet, and I always thought he was cheating but could never catch him - and I don't accuse people unless I have proof. What a jerk! Thanks for the insight! cheater.

I do love this man. He swears up and down that he has changed and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I'm scared either way. Do you think I will ever beable to trust him?

What does your heart tell you? Use your intuition. Feel out if he has the capability to change.

....or if he really wants to change?

You've given him your heart, just don't give him your hard earned money aswell, unless you are convinced he won't use it on other women. This is a perspective that can often help!

Yeah be careful.

keep a flash light wit you at all times, so you can cetch him in the middle of the night in the livingk room wit anotehr girl.

12, 237, are you from the ghetto or something? (Based on your spelling)

I'm a taurus and have been in a relationship for 6 years with a virgo. He has cheated many times and lies a lot. He always claims that he will change, don't necessarily believe this when they tell you that. Every person is different, but...I have know several virgos throughout my life, and I love them, they are loving people, but I don't know if they can actually be trusted, but again, everyone is different. I personally am sick of it and in the process of getting out of the relationship.

I have an honest question for all you Virgo gals out there. This post talks about how virgo guys are cheating dogs. Does the same apply to the genuine virgo female

Addendum to above: Im not tryin to be funny or point fingers or equate Virgo men to women. Im serious...
Since a male cannot be a true virgo by definition I just really need to know how the true virgo (female)views monagomy. Star if youre out there give me a shout.........

I'm a true Virgo..... Speaking for myself, I would never cheat on someone I truely loved. However, if I was with someone and fell out of love and didn't have the nerve to end the relationship because I wasn't sure I really wanted to, I would flirt!!! Then feel guilty, and then break it off.

Thank you, that makes sense.

The word virgin, according to Webster's dictonary, is a person who has never had sexual intercourse. There is nothing specific about gender. A man, therefore, can be considered a virgin just like a woman!

Scorpio woman here.

The above is absolutely correct. Virginity does not discriminate between the sexes! : )

I *love* Virgos, I've never met one that I believe was dishonest with me. However, that is only my experience. I do find them to be a *bit* secretive, but less so than their fellow earth signs and FAR less than Scorpios (thank God, or Virgo + Scorpio would just be one long, silent stare across a crowded room...and then maybe some sex, ha ha).

I think there is a marked difference between secrets and lies. Though, I *would* say that, since I'm a scorp. I think also that when you're talking about a water sign female with an earth sign male, and ESPECIALLY a Virgo male, the water female is going to automatically be more concerned with the secrets of their partner and what he's hiding because the earth signs are uncomfortable with emotions and expression of them.

The water signs are very enthralled with finding out other ppeople's secrets, not to mention the fact that we are so easily hurt, and when we get hurt it hits us really deeply, that we are super sensitive to vibes--suspicious ones, shady ones, good ones and bad ones...it doesn't matter.

So I think it will always be a bit of a challenging relationship, water + earth; one that can be confusing because of the difficulty with communication between the two.

phoenix_rising

like duhhh guys I know a virgin can be either sex, in fact I used to be one myself..... Imagine that!!!! Im talking about the definition/depiction of the virgo throughout astrology as the maid of the harvest and all that. Now back to my original question..............

Foolati,

I wasn't trying to be condescending...

phoenix_rising

Fool-atti

No, I wasn't thinking you were a virgin more like a 12 year old, duuuhhh!!!!

Virgo represents the virgin in astrology and the harvest madien, as a matter of fact, they are one in the same. DUH!

Everyone I am a virgo girl and I am a very faithful person when I am in a relationship with someone. I am in love with a libra and he tells me he is in love with me. He actually brings out this side of me that makes me feel good things that I never done, places I've never been. We have so much in common. Sometimes I feel like he thinks that I'm doing all the taking and he's doing all the givivng., but right now I am in collge full time and I work part-time. When I am able I will treat him exactly like he treats me, moey wise. I already give him lots of love. He showed me how to love, when I use to not be able to express my feelings.

I miss spelled some things:
Like I am in college full time &
I will treat him exactly how he treats me, money wise.

I am married to a wonderful Virgo male. He is wonderful and have a lot of virgo friends. I am a Capricorn.

Virgo females I know are extremely honest. They are loyal. I do know if they are not just with you they will most likely be up front about it.Most likely mate would have others also if its like that.

Heres my secrets of what I know of virgo males::
I think the males are completely faithful if they truly care and love you. They dont cheat unless you open the door for it by cheating on them or not giving up some action. But they probably wouldnt even cheat then.They are more worried about pleasing you or making you happy.They just dont have the time to be cheating. They will try to be what you want in a man totally. They arent worried about any other women ,just you.They have plenty to offer. Intelligence and hardworking is what I really notice. They mostly like younger women than themselves for some reason.They like educational television shows like animal planet shows or robot wars,junkyard wars where they build things on the show. They love motorcycles and will make sure you as mate have dependable car that is regularly matienced. Alot of them love the blues for music.They are very attentive. They notice details and remember. They really get into porn, particularly oral porn.They can tend to be tight with their money when it comes to certain things.They love to take care of you like a father would.Their love letters are the best. They put everything into them.You should always read greeting cards completely,because they put alot of effort into picking them out at the store by reading each to find the perfect card just to suit you.
To keep them around, show your appreciation to them,give them lots of attention,and sex,and help them with their self esteems. Virgo males are the most caring,smartest,modest,hardworking,dependable men you could ever meet. Consider yourself lucky.

ooo..I'd love to agree on all accounts, but I dated a virgo man, and he did he did NOT possess all these traits. Instead, I witnessed immaturity, self-centered, unable to share emotions, picky, sneaky, unfaithfulness, and was always the victim. Traits (in my book) very difficult to deal with.

Like I said,maybe you opened the door for it.

meaning what?

..but I have to add - I still loved him with all my heart!

Meaning that , I do not know all the details of your relationship. Possibly you gave him the idea you werent completely faithful, that maybe the relationship was over far before the end but just hanging on,maybe he thought it wasnt as serious as you,maybe he needed more than you could give or maybe giving you a reason to leave him. Those could be some reasons.

I never game him any reason that I was unfaithful - I wasn't. I think his own insecurities prohibited him, and scared him to some degree. We were just different points in our life, that's all! I know we care deeply for each other. We are friends, which is good. I think that's where we should be, to get the real benefit from each other. I hold no hard feelings, life goes on.
He's in a different place romantically than I. Maybe someone else will make him truly happy that way.

Bunny,

Virgo female here.

Thanks for your insight of Virgos. Wow! I hope I can find a Capricorn guy who appreciates all my traits.

What you said about Virgos is so unbelievably right. I believe that you are able to see the traits because you are an earth sign as well. Virgos are extremely faithful to someone they truly love. I went out with ex-boyfriend for 6 years. It became distant love for the last three years. I swear to God I never looked at other guys during these six years. He later had a serious affair. I cut off the relationship completely and spent almost 3 years to mend a broken heart. (Oh! This might not be relevant to the topic. But if you ever see a Virgo crying so many times for lost love during midnights, you people wouldn't blame us harshly any more. Virgos do have hearts and deep feelings.)

When Virgos are immature, they don't know how to handle their emotions/feelings. Their honesty is mistaken as unfaithfulness. They hang out with the opposite sex like brothers and sisters. They will tell you who they like and who they go out with. But trust me, it is just the talking. Virgos are discriminating. A clear line is drawn between a friend and a boyfriend. They will let you know about your status ? it is relationship or fun. . If a Virgo let you cross the line and go up to another level, you will enjoy the treatment you deserve. You will be all his/her world.

Strange to say, when I date one guy, all my attention is on him. My mind just automatically shuts down to others. It is extremely hard for me to go out with two guys at the same time. About unfaithful Virgos, I do believe some exist. Immaturity or hurt might be the reason. However, if you don't open the door to us by being unfaithful, we don't betray. If you do, we still don't betray, we simply cut the relationship off.

I know we have some bad qualities like being critical and demanding. However, a good Virgo's heart is like a diamond -- simple, clear and ever lasting. Hope you people have a chance to know such a good Virgo.

I read your response virgo women not once, but twice. I am a cancer man, and the two signs have much in common when it comes to peace, loyalty, committment, comfort and peace. I NEVER cheated on my boyfriend, nor did I ever think about it. At one point in the relationship, I did suggest"taking a break" which lasted 3 days for I felt he needed space. We had a wonderful talk, got back together, and then he broke up with me with "I met someone else"........UGH!!!!!!!!!!! knife thru heart!
He has some wonderful qualities, and we had alot in common - very, very, kindered spirits. Now I know he is single again, and dating, as I am. We talk on occasion and the bond is still there. I don't know how to take it fro here. Friends?

Cancer woman,

I noticed that Virgo/Cancer relationship is not really fair to Cancers. Virgos have the ability to know cancers inside out and will be in control of the relationship. However, Virgos have qualities that Cancers cherish. Cancers will do a lot of things to please or even spoil Virgos. (sigh)....Sorry to be very honest here, Virgos will please Cancers as well but it is more like a reflection -- to be nice to people who are nice to us. Since knowing Cancers inside out, Virgos instinctly know how and when to provide things Cancers need the most such as care, security calmness and so on. The bond is naturally there. To Cancer, it is enough. To Virgos, it is ?probably? not.

I have been studying astrology for years and carefully observing each sign and the interaction among them. I came to a conclusion that like signs tend to be a good combination. I am not saying unlike signs cannot build a successful relationship. Water sign are deep and emotional. You people feel secure with earth signs. However, the emotional levels are different. A beautiful relationship is build if both parties are willing to understand each other and meet at the half way. If the one you love is not willing to do so, then you have to let go. There's someone better waiting for you somewhere.

Give yourself a chance to find your true soulmate. Give your Virgo a chance to find his.

Dear 209
I've been posting on the "Virgos don't show any emotions" board, but have been reading the others pertaining to Virgos. I am the Capricorn female on the cusp of Aquarius (age 41), in love with a Virgo male (42). I have found my relationship with the Virgo male to be quite a challenge, even a struggle sometimes, and have been trying to understand his behavior regarding alot of situations. It is also fun, caring, and rewarding at other times. I have known him a little over 2 years. I feel connected to him in a way I've never felt with anyone ever before. I will sometimes say what he is thinking, he will say what I'm thinking, we sometimes will finish each other's sentences. We even act like we're married at times ( a friend of mine has noticed this also), even though we're not married and don't even live together. I know he cares about me, but not really sure to what extent. He shows me he cares with his actions, not words, though he has more than once told me not to worry about anything, that everything will be alright, and things will be fine (problems with his ex-wife). My heart doesn't seem to be able to let go of him, no matter what, and I'm not sure I really want to. I've read several things that state he and I are supposed to be as close to a perfect match as is possible. Can I believe or trust any of that? You mentioned that you have studied astrology and know alot about the signs. He is a complicated person, and my relationship with him seems to be very up/down, and confusing for me. I have noticed that he doesn't really want to let go of me either, and doesn't want me to go too very far from him. But it all seems to be on his terms. Oh, I am also very close to his kids, love them as if they were my own, and watch them for him because of his job, or I was (one of the problems with the ex-wife thing). Do you have any suggestions, insight, helpful hints on how maybe I could handle his moods better, and handle the relationship itself better? Sometimes I am an emotional wreck because of how he is (I guess it's just how he is) and really am at a loss sometimes as to what he really does want from me. Thanks.

Capricorn lady

Thanks, as hard as it is, I must let him go. I must!

As one of the few token virgo 'male' voices in this forum I can say that some of the descriptions of the generic virgo male are accurate. However, generalisations aside, I would argue that we are only ever tempted away from a partner for two reasons, which are: If the relationship has lost its affection (general for all signs?); or we are no longer needed - we need to be needed!
My twin brother and I are in total agreement on this one. I have never cheated on a partner (been close though) and the spectre of cheating has only arisen through a need to find and express love (to be needed when I feel I am not).
I believe virgo's are fundamentally honest with themselves and if things are grim in a relationship (they have to be really bad) and there is little prospect of recovery then we will seek out attention elsewhere. What I should stress is that we are very loyal people - we look for long term affairs/relationships - something common to all virgo's I believe. That's because we are intense individuals and throw ourselves in deeply - it would be too taxing to keep up the one night scenario.
In relation to young virgo men, it must be acknowledged, like all of the signs, that we demonstrate our worst traits in the worst possible ways (the excesses of youth) but with luck and patience we mature into reasonable human beings with the prospect of being good partners to those who need us.

As a virgo, i personally hate ppl cheating on me.I dont like to b fooling and i hate lies. But if it's a reasonable lie probably it can be forgiven....

Always aware that virgo does know whether u r telling the truth or not.....
I've got friend who being dishonest often and i do know whenever she tells lies....(some friends nvr seem to realize it)and i'll juz keep silence and protest v some words......i dont like her much but somehow nvr get into arguement v her coz no point to it......

Any of the virgo have this kind of feelings...? How do u often do when knowing secretly that ur friends r lying? Anway just for referencing....
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Cheers all!

Capricorn lady,

Accoring to astrology, we (Virgo+Capricorn) are compatible but I never stayed close with any Capricorn friend. Therefore, I am afraid I don't have much insight for you. As a Virgo, I understand that your Virgo might need space. It is not we distance you on purpose. I feel it hard to focus on things I am working on if I spend too much on emotional stuff. Earthy Virgos are restless in mind, always having something to do. We have been programmed this way.

You, as a Capricorn, are more emotionally intense than Virgos. I do understand your feeling of being excluded from your Virgo's life. Do you want to talk to him about your feelings and find a way to work it out?

I myself find the need-space thing annoying. I long for close contact with people. However, I withdraw when feeling falling for someone or emotionally attached to someone. I guess it perhaps the reason why Virgos are the most unmarried among all the signs. People may say that Virgos are control freaks. I have to say if you ever hear Virgos tell you how much time they need to mend a broken heart.

Virgos' pull-and push and need-space thing confuses friends and lovers. Sometimes they are not aware how they make people feel. But I believe if you communicate with us, we are willing to meet you at the half way unless we don't want to keep the relationship / friendship anymore.