Confused crush on Virgo woman

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Capricone58
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Hello there, first of all i am a 18 year old capricorn that has a huge crush on a 18 year old Virgo. Its the first time i ever fell in love with such a lovely cute being, but sadly i think she sees me as only a friend. She recently broke up with her pisces man who she had been with since 3 years, this guy is also my friend but like,i just know him and we sometimes hangout. He's very controlling over her and he recently cheated on her then cried like a 9 year old when she did not want to return. He sucked her from toe to head to forgive him, she did but, she's not loyal anymore, like flirtatious with everyone etc etc. Anyway, heading to the main topic, i took her number from some random girl who had her number and messaged her Hi. she responded only a few words and i explained her who i was and if she did have time for me to talk together but she said just a few words and didnt even reply anymore. Then just 2 weeks later, she was instantly sitting next to me, that scared me off and i had a little panic, moving away from her that day. I guess that broke her heart and she moved away from me, and then i have a Leo friend, who she always seems to be "more interested" in. Recently,1 month ago they were messaging and the leo instantly stopped because his girlfriend found out and she then acted heart broken, rejecting to talk to him, telling hes a ****** and should go die. Then a week later or so i was walking with her and she said that "This guy really has no honor, i hope he burns in hell". Though this leo is my closest buddy and she knows that aswell, but she still told me that. Also whilst being next to me she scolds at him, but the other moment she tries eye contacting and locks on him, laughs at his jokes and asks him random questions. I may admit i am jealous, but this is because i have never had such deep feelings before. I am not controlling either, i just wish to be the man that is being chosen at the end of the day. However,she also keeps eye contacting me, a week ago she sat next to me during lesson break and then randomly spoke to other people, each time i tried intimating a conversation she only said a few words and kept shutting me up. After another conversation she was having i randomly stood up and left to my other buddies sitting to the right and sat there, because i just cant take that. She seemed heartbroken once again and left. But the other day we had intense eye contact, she kept looking at me, yesterday she locked on me aswell and so did i, sometimes initiating a conversation but today, she made a few jokes, we laughed and then she continued studying and so did i but, after an exam we had she just randomly asked my leo buddy if he did question 12 correct, with a flirtatious and smiling face, this surely put another sword in my heart. Could someone for the love of god help me out? I wrote her a love letter of how perfect she is but i am unsure if she likes me and i do not wish to cut my communication with her. I love this woman
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Capricone58
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9 Years

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Posted by VirgoSquirrel
Don't give her the love letter. Ignore her for a while. If she knows that you like her and suddenly ignore her she will start wondering why and will try getting close to you. Yet i think you are wasting your time. The girl seems lost and insecure, she is going to break your heart, especially if she is still involved with the pisces.
I just dont know. She keeps approaching me, praising me that i am a hard worker and cracks some jokes with me then goes into psyhical contact with some other men but its just really random whoever that is. And i examined her, she keeps most of the attention at me most of the time. I just also found out some weird stuff going on in the class, theres another scorpio women who i declined in time, is the cousin of this pisces guy and she seems like a parasite scouting for this man, telling everything thats been going on in the class. This pisces guy is nuts LOL. My leo buddy told me the ongoing situation and that i should get out of the "radar". Although the involvement with the pisces is just totally being forced, she told me like 3 days ago she wants to get rid of him and i guess she wants to cheat on him and let him get a taste of his own medicine? I honestly dont care whatever happens between me and this pisces guy, since he betrayed me and my leo buddy in time
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Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfants
I feel you, man.
It's a bad feeling when you like or adore someone, who might seem to be more interested in somebody else, especially if it's one of your best buds.

If I were you, I wouldn't give her the love letter you wrote.
It might feel that it's the right thing to do now, but in the end it will do more harm than good and it might even scare her away.

How long do you know her? How often do you talk to her or hang out together?

I have the feeling that you two don't know each other that well, correct me if I'm wrong.
Try to hang out more together, if possible. Become closer to her without becoming too clingy.

Go get to know more about her and let her know more about you.
Just be yourself, have a good time, crack some jokes, try to have some more substantial conversations once in a while.

Take your time to show your affection towards her. Do it in a subtle way, instead of going overboard (e.g. writing her a love letter).
If she knows that you have a crush on her so soon, it might be a lost cause, as some women also like to have a challenge to get a man, instead of having a 'easy catch'.

It might take months to pursue this 'lovely cute being', maybe even longer, as long as you don't rush things.

Actually in the beginning of the year she was the one chasing after me, it was just me who was confused alot. I gave her that challenge so far, and she knows i am no easy game, I know her since 4 years, and we cant really hang out since this town is really tiny and everyone knows each other. She knows alot of things about me already, and i guess thats why we are at this point(?).
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Capricone58
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Posted by Damnata
She doesn't seem to be into you.

And if you lead with

Posted by Capricone58
with such a lovely cute being
..then describe her general demeanor and then want to give her a love letter? You really have no clue.
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Yep, you seem rather right. A few more things happened today and i decided to distance myself from her and move on. No drama, she's just too weird, i myself am looking for a woman to be with for the rest of my life and this, isnt the woman i wish to wake up with every morning with. Thanks for the help guys,i didnt even feel heartbroken but i dont know how that happened LOL
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Capricone58
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Posted by thesculptor
*sighs


There's a pattern with you Caps.


1.) Romantic interest sighted.

2.) Mentally jots inconsequential description of subject. (e.g. cute, pretty, nice, shiny etc.)

3.) Do not approach immediately.

4.) Formulate lame plan to acquire subject.

5.) Provides a test for the subject unbeknownst to the subject while completely disregarding subject's interest. (Might fail to see this even if blatant). But should the subject pass this grueling exam, then prepare for freaky sex.

6.) Releases the subject due to the subject's failure to pass the exam.

7.) Shrugs as if nothing happened.
I only agree with the first 4 steps, i never done those other 3
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Posted by thesculptor
*sighs


There's a pattern with you Caps.


1.) Romantic interest sighted.

2.) Mentally jots inconsequential description of subject. (e.g. cute, pretty, nice, shiny etc.)

3.) Do not approach immediately.

4.) Formulate lame plan to acquire subject.

5.) Provides a test for the subject unbeknownst to the subject while completely disregarding subject's interest. (Might fail to see this even if blatant). But should the subject pass this grueling exam, then prepare for freaky sex.

6.) Releases the subject due to the subject's failure to pass the exam.

7.) Shrugs as if nothing happened.
For 3, I will add observation. Keeps subject under constant observation and intense eye contact. ¶

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VirgoSquirrel
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Always thought capricorn male/virgo female is a complicated match, and i dated 4 caps. Thing is there is always a communication problem that leads to misundertanding, and its very frustrating because feelings and chemistry are strong. It can work if communication is good i guess, and its a great friendship match imo.
And yes we are definitely weird and awkward, especially when it comes to romance. Its hard not to give up on us tbh, i dont even know How do we get to date people :p
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Capricone58
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Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfants
Hmmm...

First
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Hello there, first of all i am a 18 year old capricorn that has a huge crush on a 18 year old Virgo. Its the first time i ever fell in love with such a lovely cute being, but sadly i think she sees me as only a friend... blah blah blah ...I wrote her a love letter of how perfect she is but i am unsure if she likes me and i do not wish to cut my communication with her. I love this woman
One day later
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Yep, you seem rather right. A few more things happened today and i decided to distance myself from her and move on. No drama, she's just too weird, i myself am looking for a woman to be with for the rest of my life and this, isnt the woman i wish to wake up with every morning with. Thanks for the help guys,i didnt even feel heartbroken but i dont know how that happened LOL
That's a quick change of heart!
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Its been a year this is just too tiring so i decided to move on; i was on a take it or leave it decision and after i read your comments i decided i needed to move on. No need to waste time