confused libran girl with virgo man please help!

Hi i have recently got myself involved with a virgo guy who i met in a club. I started liking him and he made me feel very special and ever since then we both said we wouldn't go out to a club again. Started ringing me texting me etc. everything went well, however I was getting the impression that he didn't like me as much as valentines day came up and he ignored it and as a libran i did not mention it either. I was getting the hint that he may have had another girl on the side but I was unsure. Anyways, he said he would come to see me on the weekend and so i left that day free, but in the last minute he went out with his freinds and came back very late, and kept saying that he would still see me. I was thinking he was out clubbing but did not tell me. I was rather upset as he kept me waiting and thought I could have gone out myself that day but didn't. Recently, because I am at uni i went home to see my family and told him i was going to because he rang, but did not know when i was going to come back. I came back early and decided that he did not want to know me as he did not respond to texts, I went clubbing and funnily enough saw him there too! he smiled at me and i gavee a look like 'wwhat u doing here' i danced with a guy nothing too close just casually with my girlfriends, and the whole time at the club he kept brushing past me expecting ME to go up to HIM and say 'hey' which i did not do... i received a text later that night saying 'i was a lier and my true colours came out' i was shocked and thought i'll text back saying how he was in the wrong, he also rang and said that i was in the wrong and kept making me feel like crap, i did not take it and swtiched the phone off and he texted saying 'im going to delete your number' and because i did not respond texted again saying 'dont you want to sort this out' i texted back saying im busy and rang but he had to go, i am not sure as what to do now shall i delete his number and move on? or does this virgo man really have feelings for me? i am very confused

ps. im 20

You both went against your word.... and instead of trying to deal with the situation, then and there, you kept quiet, just like on Valentine's.

He's not serious about you and you are conveniently serious about him. Sounds like ya'll are just wasting each other's time.

Agreed with both 25th and Caj. You're just young. Use it as a learning experience and a stepping stone. The chance of meeting your significant other in a bar or club is SLIM TO F(_)CKING NONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nothing to be confused over. You had a flirtation and attached far too soon. I'd understand this better if you'd dated for a time or other. You've not. Get on with things.

Posted by 69virgo

Posted by venusianbull
Nothing to be confused over. You had a flirtation and attached far too soon. I'd understand this better if you'd dated for a time or other. You've not. Get on with things.

You trying too show that cat ain't ya..😛

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LOL Cat..off to the right. Calico. Get a good long eye full. 😛

LOL *cuffing back of head* You don't need binoculars. She's right THERE to the right.

he's a douchebag. Personally, I'd tell him our agreement had been voided when I realized he wasn't as into me as I'd beieved when I made the agreement. And since he obviously arrived first, he has no room to talk.

as a fellow libra, I can tell you we are mirrors, especially when people fuck up. They'll accuse us of whatever they know we must be thinking of them. Don't let it shake you.

I'd write him off.

You said: "he made me feel very special and ever since then we both said we wouldn't go out to a club again. Started ringing me texting me etc. everything went well"

I think that two people who make a promise not to go out clubbing, and ring & text each other regularly and make each other feel special .. qualifies as a relationship. Therefore, I believe that he should have made an attempt at Valentine's Day .. even if it was just a card.

And I disagree with what everyone says about meeting someone in a club. Nice people like to dance and party, just like bad people. Whores have to return library books. So, it isn't logical to assume that just because a person is in a bar, that they are worthless.

ARe you worthless? You sound pretty mature to me, you were in a club .... in their theory, this means you are worthless if he found you in a club.

Bullshit ... don't believe the ignorants !!!!


You said: "he said he would come to see me on the weekend and so i left that day free, but in the last minute he went out with his freinds and came back very late, and kept saying that he would still see me."

What is happening here is that he is trying to keep you on a string, he's trying to keep you from having a life, while in his double-standards, he is having a life.

For the fact of the matter is ... if you are a liar for being in a club, then he is an equal liar for being in the club.


You are very mature and wise ... for you realize that your best option when he tries to come at you with criticism and guilt-trips, is to not give him the pleasure of satisfying himself .. because you refuse to take it because you have more dignity than that.


Great job !!!! You are more mature than 95% of the people in here who have years, and years of experience under their belts.

Posted by libran123

i am not sure as what to do now shall i delete his number and move on? or does this virgo man really have feelings for me? i am very confused

ps. im 20

You being 20 years old really thrills me because it goes to prove that age doesn't constitute maturity. At his many attempts to threaten you with removing himself from your presence as if this is suppose to be a travesty that you cannot bare ... instead, you honor yourself with not allowing yourself to fall victim.

You just have no idea how much I admire people who are self aware, and don't lose themselves in emotional chaos 😄


Anyway .. no, he doesn't care for you. A man who respects a woman, treats her with respect .. and he is using you to appease his inflated ego. Your best course of action at this time is to move on and look for a woman who knows how to treat you right.

*** man


I meant .... look for a man who knows how to treat you right.




Well ... woman if you roll that way 😉

That's why I included the word SLIM when describing your chances of meeting your significant other in a bar or club. Yes respectable people that love to dance and mingle go to bars and clubs but think of the average person you find in one. Usually age between 21 and 35 (more between 21-25) with one thing on their mind; hooking up. I'm just saying you're more likely to meet a level-headed person with a good future at let's say, a college.

Book store is a decent start. Man can read, always a plus.

I understand OP3 ... however, I get the feeling from the way people talked to her that they think they have to instruct her on how to find a nice man.

When in reality, she is more mature than the people who talked to her that way in this thread.

Posted by libran123

... i received a text later that night saying 'i was a lier and my true colours came out' i was shocked and thought i'll text back saying how he was in the wrong, he also rang and said that i was in the wrong and kept making me feel like crap, i did not take it and swtiched the phone off and he texted saying 'im going to delete your number' and because i did not respond texted again saying 'dont you want to sort this out' i texted back saying im busy and rang but he had to go,

Those ^^^^^ are attempts at playing her feelings agaisnt her, by threatening to leave her to get reactions from her, and when she wouldn't play, he then proceeded to try and guilt-trip her by insinuating that she didn't care to sort it out. She held herself with confidence and didn't fall prey to his manipulations.

He acted like an immature child .. while she maintained her composure and dignity ... and you all tell her she's immature? and treat her like she is unable to decide what is better for her?




Again, I say .... don't listen to the ignorants !!!!

She may not be immature but I did not see a backbone on her. As soon as she saw him at the club she should've let him have it. And when she didn't, she opened herself up to the relentless texting and "ringing" the guy did. She basically allowed him to emotionally and verbally abuse her because she did not step up for herself when done wrong like every woman should.

See she tried the "ignore him" approach which would've worked, but she was in a club with him dancing on the same dance floor. Hard to ignore someone when they're in the same building yet alone sharing bumps and grinds on a dance floor. So when he saw that he wasn't getting what he wanted, plus the added fact that she wasn't going to give him any lip he knew he could and would walk all over her and try to assert himself. Humans are like dogs, in the fact that we will go only as far as we're told not to go. If no boundaries and limitations are set then we see no problem venturing there.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN

As soon as she saw him at the club she should've let him have it.

And when she didn't, she opened herself up to the relentless texting and "ringing" the guy did. She basically allowed him to emotionally and verbally abuse her because she did not step up for herself when done wrong like every woman should.

What the fuck —??

A person has every right to NOT WANT to start/create a scene in public .. under no circumstances should an adult "let him have it" openly in public like that.


What the fuck is the matter with you? You are false, aren't you? You try to present yourself as mature, and then say somethign like that?


Let me get this straight ..... you are saying that because she chose to take the high road, this means she deserved to get verbally abused?


You're a chucklefuck .. who is false .. don't ever speak to me again, and NEVER PM me again.

If you talk to me again ... you will get what you deserve = ignored.

As you can begin to see Libran123 ... it is in the Virgo nature to be abusive like that, and as far as he is concerned, he will feel that he has a right to abuse you.


You should move on ... and in the future, you should be aware of any male Virgo who takes a fancy to you.


Run ......

I'm giving HER ammo here. I feel it would destroy a Virgo to get bashed in public. We tend to exercise our "push" in the comfort of our own territory and on our own terms. She would've double won if she called him out at the club. 1 because she would've taken the upper hand and shown she's not about to lay down and take it and 2. cuz her point would've been driven home extra because he was a V. She might've even made him cry and heaven forbid, created a change in the guy.

And that's it P? Over one disagreement? I've never brought anything to the table? You are certainly entitled to your opinion but you can't tell me to not "talk" to you. Like you said, until you buy dxp then I'm free to do what I want. But expect no deliberate harassment from me. I will continue to comment where I feel appropriate. And I still don't hate you. You keep trying to get me worked up but I won't do it; to you or anyone else. I forgive you P and hope your Wednesday goes well.

Okay, maybe the club wasn't the right place to make a stand. But screw me for advocating a woman stands up for herself.

why thanks for all of your opinions much appreciated!! I have made my mind up about him and thought to forget about him,he is not worth it and yes he is immature....never a virgo again too much of a pain! x