IM NOT CALLING im virgo rising btw lol

well after all the advise and posts i made a decision that i also need to time to reflect on me and virgo boys encounters, i don't want to really talk to him right now im still trying to analyze our last date lol....i just found out that im a virgo rising which may explain my retreating as well....it's not too hard for me to withdraw and not call him in fact its easier that way exept for the part that he's definitely on my mind....wondering if he's thinkn about me....the fact that i was in a 5 year relationship where we lived together has really made me think about the fact that i have nothing but time to enjoy seeing someone i like every so often and not every day...it all leads to same place so why not enjoy the butterflies and wondering and getting excited when i see the phone ring! whats the hurry i tell myself........its just the security im missing

libra lis....I'm not a very good virgo; I tend to make moves rather than hair splitting results, and analyzing data. sorry I'd prefer to just see what happens. I trust my judgements, and intellect; I hate complication, so I just prefer to simplify things rather than dragging things out. Btw, I don't retreat, I blow somewhere else; life is a series of events, and meetings; a little food for thought here, but virgo isn't just known to be 'pure and shy'; it means a 'free, and unbound woman left at her own discrection' it's never as if we retreat we are usually just facinated by different facets of life, and romance is just one thing we try. I like to think I'm just flying freely untill something special stops me in my tracks.

Hey Libralis,

I'm a Virgo Guy too and might have some insight for you. Now, I'm guessing that all signs are slightly different at various ages. So if the guy you like is around 25 years old, then I'll let you know what I like.

First off, I don't like chasing girls without knowing in someway that they're definitely into me.

Two, I don't like playing hard to get for too long either. Granted I play the game longer than a guy from another sign, but I too eventually get fed up and leave.

Three, when I make the decision to leave then I'm usually looking for another girl out there. I've learned from the past that it doesn't pay to stay hung up on just one girl. If she's not going to reciprocate her interest in me then I'm just going to move on.

Four, just be honest with us. There is nothing more we value most than honesty. But be careful with honesty. If he's like me, then too much honesty might scare us away. Ease into it with the honesty. Give us gradual amounts until we become used to it. After doing so, then let us know how you truly feel.

Five, as long as you have a good heart or great soul then he'll most likely chase after you too (but not in the normal sense cause, after all, you're dealing with a Virgo male).


Well I hope this info helps a bit. Who knows, maybe my Virgo theories are different than the rest.


Good luck to you.

VirgoMan (LOL, it sounds like a superhero.....I have to change the screename maybe).

lol. That sounds a lot more like it, VM. A LOT more like it. So what is the "good heart" or "great soul" that you speak of?

I told the virguy that I know that I look to the positive in everything and I do not limit myself to doubt. I love to help people in need, I'm humanitarian after all. Which is opposite of how he thinks. ..just wondering if he thinks it's a weakness or not..

cause I can't help helping others! X_X

"VirgoMan (LOL, it sounds like a superhero.....I have to change the screename maybe)."

LOL..I can just imagine your cape flowing in the wind to reveal Mr Incredible or something underneath..HAHAH...

Hey Reiniba-Chan,

I don't know to be honest. I guess I've noticed that I usually fall for the girl that is pure-hearted or has a unique and genuine soul. Basically, she has to help me become the better version of myself (or help me move into a higher level from where I presently am). Of course I would do the same for her (or try to).

As for your Virgo Guy, I don't think that he thinks of it as a weakness. Believe it or not, I'm going to go on a wild limb and say that he loves you for that quality. But one thing about us Virgos......we try to never show our emotion or how we are feeling at any moment in time. At the very least, we don't volunteer this information to people willingly.

Just ask him and see what he says about it. But helping others is a great thing. Keep it up, you'll change lives without realizing it.


Hi Missmorals,

LOL. Yeah, I was thinking about how funny that sounded after I posted the message. I guess it's too late to change the name. Who knows, I might be able to post messages and fight crime together.

Two birds with one stone.


Let me know if you're ever in need of any other Virgo advice (from a guy's point of view that is).

so even though that astrology stuff says that the Aquarius will have to change his or her morals in order to be with the virg, I don't necessarily have to change my beliefs then?

cause it'll be literally a cold day in hell before I, an aqua, does something like that..>_>

LOL, I'll agree there are some points that the Astrology stuff gets right but it's NOT always right.

Just be yourself. First and foremost, if you like who you are and what you stand for then the people who are genuine, or really matter, will like you too. If you start changing your core just because you want someone to like you, then nothing will ever feel right and you'll never find that happiness you're looking for.

Now if you're changing yourself to become a better version of you, then that's a right kind of change.


Does this make sense?

Virgoman: "Let me know if you're ever in need of any other Virgo advice (from a guy's point of view that is)."

LOL..noted..

makes perfect perfect sense. you are awesome VM. Where were you the first day I flipping posted on this board!! 🙂 Finally a virg explains!!! you're a breath of fresh air!!

Halleluja!! *huggles VM*

I totally feel like myself right now!!! haha!

this is so COOL!!

okay, maybe I'm a little too happy..o.o

Virgoman , I could use some more info on virgo men because being a virgo woman I thought my relationship with my virgo guy would be easy because we have similar traits but I have fpound out that the male virgo does have difficult time expressing his emotions. I don't have difficult time at all. We are both dedicated to our jobs,laugh alot when we are together,loyal to family,etc. He has always confided in me about work,his family and has often told me that he has opened up to me more then he has to any other person. Two weeks ago he thought I might be attracted to someone else and he came over late one evening and for the first time he actually showed his romantic emotions. He told me he did not want to loose me,and I told him that i wanted to have someone who would love me and be comitted and he said . "how do you know that isn't me".
I then told him because he tells me he has deep feelings for me but has never told me that he loves me. He then told me that he loved me and when I asked if he was in love with me,he stated he had never been in love with anyone that he knows of.He continued to tell me that he likes to take things slow butI think that 2 years is slow enough for me.He would not leave and continued to tell me how special I was to him and we talked about things getting more serious. He left that morning and only called 2 times and i have not heard from him in a week. I called and left a message and then emailed him but he did not respond. In the email I told him that by him disregarding my call or email was being disrespectful to me and I have never disrespected him and that I would never call or email him again.That was last Saturday,still no answer. Whats Up? Why be so weird?

Virgoman, I forgot to ask what you meant when you said that if you have a good heart and soul more then likely the virgo man will chase you ,too but not in the normal sense.
What do you mean by not in the normal sense? How are they different?

Hey Ladyvirgo,

That's a lot to absorb (information wise). But here is my first impression on the situation.

It sounds like he does care for you. If he didn't, he would have never showed up that night telling you he was afraid of losing you. To be honest, it sounds like the whole situation is throwing him out of his comfort zone. If that were me, I probably would be reacting the same way. Not because I don't care, but because the whole situation changed on me.

In other words, if I was worried that I was gonna lose a girl, and she tells me she wants more emotion persay, then it completely uproots the person I am; my core. It leaves me with a forced decision: keep being who I am or change the way I am to become who she wants me to be. This might be a big decision for him to make. He might have to completely rethink the way he views life (many changes to his overall personality). The only thing I can say is to give him just a little bit of space.

As for how much space, well I unfortunately cannot answer that question for you. The best thing I can say is try to get into contact with him and judge the situation once you've spoken to him. A conversation can say a lot. It can either ease your fears or create brand new ones. Trust your gut and decide from there.

Chances are I can either be correct or completely wrong. That's why it's better to talk to him first before writing him off completely. There could also be a situation that could have happened that you are not completely aware of (that would explain his behavior). Find out by talking to him.

LOL, I feel like I'm writing a book.....but on to the last thing: "not in the normal sense." I'll answer that in a separate message because I'm getting "warning" messages that my message cannot exceed 2,500 characters.

Okay, here's part 2 LOL. What I meant by that satement is that we do not chase girls in the conventional sense. A normal guy might do some grand gestures of love or simply tell her how he truly feels about her. Remember, most Virgos (if they're like me) find it extremely hard to wear their emotions on their sleeves. We chase after a girl but at times it can look like we don't care. We might be extremely happy just spending a boring day together. To her, it might lack emotion or substance. To us, it can be our so-called "cloud 9" but we'll probably never let you know it.

I've been trying to let my emotions out a bit more. Notice I didn't say a lot because I don't think I can ever get to that point. But I'm trying to be a little more verbal because I realize the people that matter need to hear it sometimes (so I'm trying to change myself for the better.....but it didn't happen overnight; it took me a long time to get to this point). Anyway, I'm getting off subject. One thing is for sure, we may not throw rose petals on the bed, or sing under a window for you, but what we do is we walk miles for you because we love you. If you needed us to run to the store in the middle of the night (say 2 a.m.) because you weren't feeling good, we would do it. If the girl meant nothing to us, then we probably wouldn't do it or offer it. But if we cared for her, we most likely do it with pleasure.

That's where we typically differ from other guys. Has he ever done things like this for you? Most likely he's done things that not many people would have done for you (not trying to say this to be mean, but I'm just trying to point something out ::Maybe, if there is something to point out:🙂. If he has, then it's those actions that speak volumes of how he truly feels about you (even though he can't verbally say it).

Talk to him. Go from there. Hopefully I helped in some small way. But if not, then you still have to talk to him. Check it out with your own eyes and ears then make your decision.

I have no idea where that smiley face came from. In that sentence, I made a point, then another point in paranthesis, and then another point in colons. The face just appeared. That says I write to much (AKA talk). Gotta work on that too.

HE STILL HASNT CALLED ..... it's been like 2 weeks i feel like a huge retard...

Hey libra lis,

Even though two weeks passed still try to call him. If you really like him, then call. I know when it comes to relationships it's a power struggle thing, but you two are not there yet. So who cares if you call first. Call him to say hi and see how he's doing (like a friend).

Or you can let it go and keep wondering "what if?" I'm not trying to make you feel bad but I'm just trying to lay a little "realism." If you two are meant to be together, then your phone call will be the catalyst to make that "magic" happen. If you're not meant to be together then the phone call won't do anything at all (and if that happens, big deal.....there are plenty of fish in the sea).

Don't take offense to my abruptness but it is what it is. Unless you're in high school, then there is no reason to treat these things like high schoolers.


Hope this helps.

i'm just wondering, how old are you virgoman? anyway, it doesn't really matter...

yeah, all the cliques - don't know if i spelled that right, time heals all wounds, there are other fish in the sea... etc., etc., really do ring true but then it's like i don't f'in care...

i'm just being contrary right now, but will say same thing everyone else says, these virgo men are all the same -- it's freaky!!!!

you know i would totally call him except i ERASED HIS NUMBER!!! lol...im friends w/a guy he knows and we talkd...i thought maybe i wasnt physically his type but then his friend told me his ex wasnt exactly eye candy ( made me feel a lil better)but then i wondered waaaaaaat is the problem then? we were so compatible when we were together....its just i felt soooo embarrased about the txt.....i erased his number just to make sure i didnt break down and call...im thinkn that was a bad idea..if i really want to get his numbr i can but im TOOOO HUMILIATED....im just waiting till he's comfortable enuff to call me....if by valentines day i don't hear from him im just going to forget about him....but he's constantly on my mind...i wonder if im on his or if i was just a piece of ass....i hear virgos keep a piece of ass a piece of ass and never go beyond that.....—

LL - i don't think you were just a p of a, i think he's just a typical virgo guy... you are funny -- in a good way -- you remind me of me - and how i felt the next day.... he would be totally honest with me tho... he would say -- i hate all the messages/communication... and then i would apologize and he would accept it.... but i, in my need for a response from him since it was long distance, would want more communication.... i always thought a txt or two was a good thing.... to the virgo it was too much communication!!! who knew?!

anyway, it's weird isn't it.... normally you would walk away or just blow off someone who treats you this way, and say, i'm better, deserve better, WHAT exactly is it that makes you/me all of us stay and want them back.... i for one, hate myself for being weak and contacting him when he says don't.... but i don't think he really means it..... i think he is just scared or afraid of where it will lead if we continue....