insight on an issue in my virgo relationship

OK a quick review of what im going through with my virgo man. Let me know what you think:

Ok so its been 3 weeks since I've saw him (which was for 5 days straight)
What he's been saying: He's working he's busy, Had to deal with a bunch of issues (dental surgery, paying court fees, getting enrolled into school) which i totally understand.

WHAT I DONT LIKE AT ALL! If you tell your woman you are reaching on a certain day then dont (no call,text, just an apology the next day or days ahead) I feel completely stoody up this is like an ongoing thing where he says he's coming one day i prepare dinner or get ready etc, then no show. Now i just dont even take his words at face value. Like this is some crazy bullshit.

My view: This man keeps going in and out of my life,(see him for a 3-5 days, dont see him for a few weeks) stood me up on numerous occasions, BUT (im foolish i know) I fall for the words: "im coming home" "im sorry ive been working" Only to have me text him im sick of this crap, have a nice life to him finalllly calling instead of his usual texts (i hate the invention of texts btw, pick up the damn phone!)saying he doesnt want me to think money is everything to him he's sorry he will come tmrw. (NEVER DID) texted me all day though telling me what he was doing.

This man is making me feel so drained, i really did want him in my life we have had great times great connection. We love eachother but he really needs to understand balance in his life. (time for work, your woman,, family, school, friends etc)


or maybe i'm just stupid?? any insight anyone? What am i missing here, does he not want to be with me anymore just to coward to say it and is slowly trying to fade out.

Posted by ariesbabie

We love eachother but he really needs to understand balance in his life. (time for work, your woman,, family, school, friends etc)


or maybe i'm just stupid?? any insight anyone? What am i missing here, does he not want to be with me anymore just to coward to say it and is slowly trying to fade out.

So, you think that because you got tossed aside that it means he needs to understand balance?

You started that first sentenc in the quote off by saying, "We love eachother but" .. there is no but, there is no loving each other. You mean YOU love HIM. If he kicks you to the curb then he .... DOES NOT LOVE YOU ... but, yes, there is a but, you even wrote it ... BUT, he doesn't love you.

What are you missing?

Your brain

Your first post was on 11/23/2010, and you said that the relationship started 6 months prior, and you said that he had disappeared on you for a week, without ever communicating to you where he was.



Clue: Virgo men don't do that, when in love.



Now, get over yourself and acknowledge that clue because if he isn't treating you like his queen, then he doesn't love you.

you guys are right. almost a year wasted of my life. Thanks. I seem to have gotten more attached to this one then any other in my life. He was stupidly possesive and controlling then tossed me aside to "work" but expected me to be there waiting like a good little girl. We had a great beggining to the relationship moved in together for a bit, he has major trust issues.

Sun Virgo 14.05 Ascendant Sagittarius 20.30
Moon Gemini 5.43 II Capricorn 21.05
Mercury Leo 29.54 III Aquarius 24.01
Venus Leo 11.27 IV Pisces 27.40
Mars Leo 27.55 V Aries 28.39
Jupiter Aquarius 8.16 R VI Taurus 25.47
Saturn Scorpio 22.56 VII Gemini 20.30
Uranus Sagittarius 14.03 VIII Cancer 21.05
Neptune Capricorn 0.52 R IX Leo 24.01
Pluto Scorpio 2.48 Midheaven Virgo 27.40
Lilith Taurus 10.44 XI Libra 28.39
Asc node Taurus 10.35 XII Scorpio 25.47

this is his chart, any insight into his personality?
I really dont understand him, he texts me a number of times of everyday
but when it comes to actually coming through with coming when he does he just stands me up lately

Posted by ariesbabie
.... any insight into his personality? I really dont understand him...

dear, i think you should begin with understanding yourself. what is it about you/your personality that accepts this sort of behavior for so long? you recognize him to be inconsiderate and untrusting among many other things, and you recognize that these things are not good things, yes? then, you do understand him; you just don't understand why he would do these things to you and you are having difficulty admitting to yourself that he doesn't love you, and why you would stay with someone like this. you seem so sweet - leave this sucker in your dust, be good to yourself, and when love does find you, he will treat you far better! as far as his chart....most likely it's his sag ascendant, but could also be his gemini moon or uranus in sag. xoj

69: how does cancer being in his eighth affect his personality?

Let it be- He was never like this before, the past few months though it has just been broken promises. Him blaming it on work etc Seems like he has gotten completly comfortable with me always being there. We "texted" it yesterday (oh how i hate the invention) about how im probably moving from where im at to go to school. He seemed to think that that meant he was "out" as he put it. (he has this in his mind when a woman goes to college she is gonna leave him, thanks to ex) I explained to him, that i wasnt her and thats not what i intend to do but i had enough of his shit. He now wants to talk about it and was flipping out when i said i didnt want to deal with him anymore. I'm "suppose" to see him tmrw. I guess we shall talk if he decides to finally come, if not im DONE. I've really had enough of this, I know i deserve better and i have my own future to worry about, I'm going back to school. He seems content with the life he is living, wheras i strive for more. But thanks to my venus in aries I always think i can help these fools.

This is absolutely ridiculous (excuse my spelling) I seem to be having a ghost relationship and suppose to be faithfull in it because he is "apparently".
For a man who has his venus in leo, low sex drive! This is crazy. Frgt being faithfull! Apparently he doesn't need sex, its not everything to him (thanks to his 2 years incarcerated in the past) work work work.

Tommorow, I shall see what occurs,

re: cancer in eighth house-

Yea he does have a tendency to test me a lot. To see how much i care about him or how long it will take me to become pissed off etc, do you think that's what he is doing?

Lol Felicia i can assure you I do not make threads for sheer entertainment or attention. This is a personal issue I dont like to discuss with my friends or family etc, I got a lot on my mind right now, not only this relationship or lack there of. I came here to look for advice from a third party to get a completly unbiased opinion or confirm what i already know i guess. I dont know. Anyways thanks for the advice everyone, much appreciated.

I believe she was adressing that to me about moving on, i dont know.

LOL aquagirly- how did u put up with it, what was his reasoning
I cant believe this crap, I used to really admire his personality in contrast with my aries personality yet now its just frustrating and completly abnormal in my opinion of what im used to.

yea girl I know I know, im way too frustrated and got too many good things to look forward to in my life. I really thought he was it but whatever, time to move on.

im curious about one more thing, after he dissapeared for the 3 months, what was his reasoning? Nothing?
Mine has been gone for 3 weeks.(not the first time he has doen this) He seems to be trying to test me its retarted. Tmrw is the determining day.

I know right! AND coming from a man who at the beggining of the relationship said he hated mind games and playing little games in general. Seems like their the only one playing any games. They are really insecure men and extremly self absorbed they dont realize how their actions affect others, they need constant attention and reassurance when they around, i guess all that hold them up to till the next time they want to see you. They have majoy trust issues as well there controlling paranoid and possesive to the max... yet dissapear and we're not suppose to think anything. like WTF!?!

Lol just had to vent there. This man is retarted, yet swears he wants a future, just has some trust issues and expects me to be faithfull while hes out doing god knows what.

3 years girl woww ive done 1 and now im going crazy i dont think i can handle anymore unless he goes back to the man i used to know this is retarteddddd!

OMG he did the clothes thing to you too :O
I was a teaching assistant and my top was showing barely! any cleavage. Only to have me come home to him saying who are you trying to attract those teenagers at the school showing off your boobs to them with that fitted top and fitted pants.

It really was just a purple tank top not low at all, black cotton pants and a black long sweater on top.

This man did the same thing, introduced me to the family and everything. I think your right about the drama thing, it all goes back to them being very insecure and constantly needing their ego stroked and reassured we give a shit.

And he cheated on you! Dayum see what i mean they make it seem like they are so trusting and we are the crazy ones and we should unconditionally love them and beleive there words when they really are full of shit. Its an extremlly unhealthy non existant relationship.

If they disseaper like that how can we realisticly think they are not cheating, what if we did the same thing to them, they would flip the fuck out, he already thinks im cheating.(some paranoia eh)

oh he still denies it eh. They are like that, they deny everything. Makes it seem like they are innocent little angels who wouldnt dare do anything. We should really be understanding, they are mental cases. His ex said he cheated on her. He denies ever cheating on anybody except one person on a "break"

Yeup great actors eh. You dont know what side of them is real or not. You just come to the conclusion you dont want to be treated like this anymore. Weird species these virgo's they love a good trajedy. They dont want anything to go smoothly they have to find a problem, pessimistic negative men

well as much as im saying all this crap, and know it probably wont change i told him i'm moving away for school and if he wants to be a part of my life he cant act this way. So i will see how tommorrow goes when he say's he wants to talk but anything short of being treated as good as i treat him is not goign to do.
Final straw. He better show if not then whatever... moving on to bigger and better things

I felt kinds brainwashed. He makes it seem like hes the best shit in the world, I dont have any of my old guy friends in my life anymore thanks to him.

wow are relationships do sound the same, well im glad you got out of it and hopefully found something better?
your a pretty woman dont sell yourself short 🙂

Yea i totally understand im a complete mess. I dont have proof he cheated, Its just me assuming because of his dissapearing. He did hit on my best friend once which he denies but my friend said he did and his friend did too. I wasnt there and it didnt go anywhere so whatever but im surprised in myself for being faithfull to this ghost so im assuming him being a man he probably is having sex with somebody, and yea he's always good for a few days its crazy a continues cycle of stupidness that i keep falling for. I'm just as much of a fool as he is. They are full of SH>T I'd rather not find out if he cheated. I'd rather be ignorant and live in bliss that he didnt and end it tommorow for the other reasons.

Anyways. Im going to head to sleep almost 1am! gotta wake up early tommorow, have a great night girl stay strong 🙂

JesusChrist ... even when women KNOW the man is stripping them of their precious life energy, they STILL continue to give him more of it



:::: shakes head ::::



I truly believe people like to suffer

Posted by Volkswagen
simple.

he gives you a time and date to meet so he can be rid of feelin guilty of not giving you what you want when in reality its not what he wants hence you being stood up.

I tend to agree with this.

The person is trying to blow you off, and it isnt' being noticed. How many times does a person have to do this before it sinks in?

Instead of walking away with your head held high with any kind of dignity .... a gross amount of time is spent in trying to figure out how to get a man who doesn't want you, to want you.

Seriously .. if a person doesnt' want you, then walk the fuck away, dude. He isn't standing you up to make you cry .. he's trying to get you to take some initiative in your own life's happiness and leave.

Maybe he saw this dependency upon him in the first place and was appalled and this is why he's doing exactly what he's suppose to be doing = going to go find the right match with all those fish out in the sea.

You keep contacting him, and badgering him .... that's why he gives you dates to meet up and then never shows.


Leave him the fuck alone and go find a life, for crying out loud.