Just don't get it! VIRGO MEN>> PLEASE HELP!!!!

I have met a 55 year old, divorced 2 times, Virgo male. He is very financially secure.. and very family oriented. We have gone out a couple of times.. and both of us have had a great time. (I did and he said he did (?)) He travels a lot.. and he told me that up front. 4-6 vacations a year.. and spends most of the winter months in Florida.. we live in Tennessee.

I told him in the beginning that I wanted to take things slowly.. that both of us have been hurt quite badly before and we should just see where this is going.. well.... It's stuck!

Constant emails... phone calls.. and we stay in touch. Always "trying" to work out a time that is convenient for the both of us to get together again. I think I may want more than just a friend relationship with him.. How should I approach this... or should I even consider it.. would he be offened? feel complimented? or what?

I am a Leo and as you know ....we are not the least bit shy... so it is getting harder and harder to keep my mouth shut about wanting to at least have a passionate kiss...if not maybe more... Just never have run upon someone like this. He is so respectful, a true gentleman, and always is very complimentary and kind. I just want more... Come on Virgo men.. tell me how to get him out of "first gear and idling" yep.. those were his exact words.... then he asked me if I was "comfortable"

What's a gal to do?

"What's a gal to do?"


Look somewhere else if you want a man who's going to swoop you off your feet in a heated, passionate embrace .. a VirGuy isn't going to do that.

Besides, according to you, quote, "I told him in the beginning that I wanted to take things slowly.. that both of us have been hurt quite badly before and we should just see where this is going" .. which means you took the lead and set the tone as to how and when and in what matter you wish for this relationship to progress .. he obeyed obiantly, which is common and fair play for the Virgo .. they are uniform and mechanical and would actually prefer for the other to take the lead.

Well, you're the Leo who set the tempo, as being true to your nature .. don't chicken out now .. you want the lead, take it.

You want a kiss? Take it.

How does he react when you flirt with him?

That could tell you a lot about his attraction towards you...don't try shameless comments right away (if ever) just small little random things that could make him smile...and then see how he reacts to that first.

The fact that he is still in touch with you is good news...he is probably unsure of some things or guarding himself a bit.

Vll

"I predict you'll get his motor running way faster than first gear!"


lol .. careful not to throw him into overdrive, though .. especially if he's going home without you.

"HOW if you are much shorter than him?"

Then just lay a wet one on his nice chest .. that should get you a chuckle and then he'll bend down for a real one 🙂

lol I've gotta disagree; I'm a Virguy, of a different day and age, (personally I think this makes all the difference in a post like this the era factor) I've got to say this isn't my experience, and I'm a Virgo myself; if left to his own devices a Virguy isn't one to necessarily look for someone to be with; we just aren't the lonely type; we don't 'hunger' for people, and when we get a little 'peckish' we decide to look for somebody for a 'lack of a better thing to do'. I refuse to go along with something if it dosen't suit me; You can rock with me if you want, but I'm not making any expectations.

I'm 18 years old, and don't expect me to open up right away either; I'm no a fool! lol I gotta say it; what type of person expects someone to just be 'open' in today's day and age?! you've gotta watch you back, and you heart if you don't want to get eaten alive!; I'll watch your actions first to see, if you're as real as you say you are....When I feel like I can trust you, I'll make an advance, but don't expect to 'force' or 'lead' me somewhere I don't have plans on going. I'll let you know when I want to do something. I'm pretty direct and I've got my dignity, and honor intact and as a man, I'm not going to be 'lead' anywhere unless it's the bedroom out of 'mutual desire'.

I need a freak-type girl; nothing else will do; Classy, but Sexually extroverted; I'm deeply sexual, and If I can't express it in the bedroom, I'll find 'someone' else to do. Scorpios are usually my type in the coupling department because they're dignified, and are masters at self control like their Virgoan counter-part; someone who just slobs me down is just a game to play with becuase they're just 'giving it away' turn it into a chase!

I use sex as the area to 'seal the deal'. I'm usually cool, and detatched, but I seethe, with energy that Virgo-famous 'white heat' that dosen't go out too easily; now if you get me all 'hot and bothered' and say 'oh, I CAN'T do THAT! hehehehehe' well, you'll see a 'good Virgo gone wild!' lol 😛 I tell my women what I want upon the first time meeting them, because if I want to see this take off, I'm going to come off as a little 'controling' but you'll see it's because I take relationships seriously; overall, the Virgo temperment (esepecially in the sex department) is an explosive, or cold one; that's our nature; we're fiery, and icy......some are just not lucky enough to experience that.....I say this with no ego either; it's all certified personal fact.

Took the majority of your advice. He called and asked if I would like to go out for a day on the lake. I had never been to his place before. It was beautiful... 2 acres of lake front property with a view that would take your breath away!. We set on on the water on the pontoon boat.. with a nice bottle of wine. I had not eaten anything all day.. (nerves I guess) anyway.. road around the lake.. the anchored the boat in a little cove that was very peaceful and serene. Guess what... I didn't have to make the first move. I was walking across the boat to get another glass of wine.. and he just stopped! right in front of me and gave me a very deep passionate kiss. This little bit of fun continued for about an hour.. then we went back to his house. When we got there... it was just a lot of kissing...making out and some oral foreplay... but things definitely became UNSTUCK!.... We talked for a while about what the both of us like and have agreed that we both think we could have a really good time together.. but have decided to wait. Went to dinner... had a nice conversation at dinner ...everything from how our opinions are about basic life issues... homosexuality, monogomy... smoking pot.. etc... (yeah. smoking pot. can you believe that... we're both in our 50's!) Anyway thank you for the advice... and I will keep you posted on what "comes up" next! (lol)

Ok... guess it is cold feet..... after reading about how reserved and unshowing a virgo man can be... I am beginning to worry that our little day on the lake was a beginning to the end. Are Virgo men turned off by a sexually aggressive woman or do they like that? He made the first move with a very deep sensual kiss that made me weak in the knees.

He is a rather reserved person (so I thought)... and don't want him to think that I am just easy...but heck... I think he is sexy as hell...and wanted him to know that. So tell me... should I just sit back and wait for him to make the next move or what should my strategy be? If I had my way... that deep reserved man would vanish.. and that sexy fun loving guy would replace him. Also... I was a little leary as to how he felt about oral sex. Apparantly, he likes it... and something funny happened too. While I was there.. I got a call from my CEO... asking some questions about work... while I was on the phone.. it was all I could do to talk... his hands were all over me... massaging my breast.. and other areas as well. Is this the Virgo type man that you have all been talking about that is not very passionate? Still in a state of shock after the way things turned out. I did get an email from him yesterday.. Said that it was all in fun and he had a great time. Opinions please.

Changed my mind .. it's not worth it.

...:he's a long-endurance, Indy 500 competitor, who probably takes lots of Vitamin E..."
very funny makes me smile...yeah my virgo is "VERY" endurance; talk about liking me for almost 9 years. We passed each othe by back then but still keep in touch every once in a while until last month we decided to meet up then wow things just cannot stop afterall. I guess maybe because I didn't sleep with him that 9 and 1/2 years ago that made him missed me for this long lol Well, the "waiting" was worth it. His a very respecful person and very very responsive and caring and family oriented and very focused and faith. It's like he's only have his eyes fixed on me. I guess when a couples are deeply in love every move is justified lol We talk every other day and text each other and write emails...it's funny I feel as if I was dealing with a cancerian guy. Are virgo guys clingy— But at least they are not that hard to understand. At least not mine. I guess once you have his trust and love, he's a very open person. He would share everything with you and do anything for you. And yes, also very passionate in bed too 🙂

Good luck to you and your virguy.

*rallies dxp for a round of applause for Patricia*

Being a Virguy for this long I'd have to say that, we're reserved/controled when it comes to the things we value most. We hold our beliefs/ideals, our passions, our pains/weakness below the surface, and all the world sees is a cool, logical, dignified and reserved man. We're searching for the woman that will make us boil with passion: a person that will make us experience the highest point of elation, and love. My parents to this day have trouble reading me because I'm not as 'obvious' about things as my Libran Brother. They grill me over every little thing becuase I'm so self-controled and calm; my family and most people I meet are taken aback when they find out that I'm so passionate about things. I think the main reason however why we appear so undemonstrative is out of discovering that the person/people we feel so deeply toward would reject us, and just figuring out how deeply it is we feel, and that nothing could be done to reciprocate those feelings. So in order to deal with the 'potential loss' we conceal our feelings (which by the way are black or white hot or cold) in order to deal with them and keep our cool. I don't like to make scenes but I will show affection if I love you deeply. In the end, isn't that the only love worth entertaining?.

I'm only interested in someone I feel DEEPLY towards. I won't tolerate superficiality in relationships. I want to know that you feel the way I feel in intensity, and that we are 'in-synch' with one another. I'm interested in loving someone, NOT liking them. I see no point in simply 'partnering up' if it's because of lonliness....nope this Virguy need something a little deeper than that. Personally, I know I'm young, but I know that I'm not interested in anything superficial....I want to burn for the person I'm with....that feeling that you have that makes you want to tune out the whole world just so you can have that extra minute with that girl....I want a girl who 'understands' me, and my needs. That includes sex, and intellect, becuase both are important to me.

Are Virgo men turned off by a sexually aggressive woman or do they like that? He made the first move with a very deep sensual kiss that made me weak in the knees.

IM NOT!! BRING IT ON BABE! DON'T ACT LIKE YOU'RE SHY!. lol I don't like sexually inhibited/timid women I need a girl who likes force, and energy, because I want to do it over, and over again. Patrcia listen to me on this, there is NOTHING I REPEAT: NOTHING MORE SEXY THAN A WOMAN WHO IS SEXUALLY AGRESSIVE. It let's me know I can respond to you with 100% and not have to worry about 'sensititvity'. I like a girl who just wants it. It's a way for us to get closer, and I want to know you, and who you are. what better way to know a woman than through a mind-blowing, earth-shaking freak-fest?! lol I mean it despite the humor.

I guess I'm just a 'lustier' type of Virguy....I'm comfortable with it, and I think that's the way it should be, bottom line, it depends upon what his ruling planet is, because, I've found that in no other sign is there more variability than in Virgo. No two are alike, we share traits, but we are all miles apart, in turn, this sujests to me, that mercury is not the only planet gunning for Virgo.

ew, you got a 'mercury Virgo'.....ew...the WORST KIND! lol At least he's gone!

What's a Mercury Virgo?

"The messed up part about my recent ex-virgo is that he has spread a rumor that I don't like sex that much"

That sounds so familiar Sweeheart, lol.

A person can spend all their love making time, if they choose .. but, if doing this, they can't expect the other person to enjoy it.

P-Angel: I'm confused! What did that statement mean? I read it a few times and I just don't get it or I'm it's because I'm blonde. 😉 Not sure which one!

Oh, sorry .. it's the difference between just screwing, or making love.

A person can spend all their time with their partner making love .. this leaves the partner to feel beautiful, in love and enjoying the love making.

A person can spend all their love making time with their partner .. which leaves the partner feeling like a piece of meat, since spending all the love to make time means the action of sex and not love making, it also gives the impression that they don't like sex, since the want to make love, rather then just screw.

It's funny, we were watching a show last night on the History of Sex and I think it was the Chinese, or Indians .. anyway, they were talking about the 4 steps or phases to orally pleasing a female and my husband makes this, "Huh?" noice and scratches his head, then has the audacity to make the claim that I don't like sex.

Fool !!!!!!!

If you spend all your love just making sex time to get a nut, then you will miss what it means to spend your time making love, you will not comprehend how to make love to your woman.

Hope that cleared it up .. sorry for the confusion 🙂