Lack of respect? Trying to get me pissed off?

testing me? All 3?

Mr Virgo has texted me the last 3 days with nothing but 'hey boo'. Im not real keen on folks calling me their boo if Im not, so I responded back with.."hey C". I even asked if he were trying to tell/ask me something and no response.

Yesterday I asked that he stop if he couldnt have a conversation. What does he turn around and do? Yup! Texted me with that again and then again about 4 hrs later. What does he do a few hrs ago? Text me with the same thing again. I have not responded since I asked that he stop.

Why do I feel like I brought this on myself?

I want to know...what do you truly think of him? What is your motive for being with him?

Posted by Amandus
I want to know...what do you truly think of him? What is your motive for being with him?

I like him. Aside from what Ive previously written regarding him and I, we have a fabulous time together. My motive is wanting to get to know him better because I feel he's a great guy. See where things go. Sometimes I feel like hes wanting me to make all the first moves. I do know he has issues with women.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Maybe hes mentally challenged

Naw, I dont think its that :-)

What kind of issues?

As a rule Virgo men are rather cautious regardless of the other planets', moon, and rising influences. So yea you probably have to extend out your "hand" before you can even see him lift his own.







I also want to say that it seems like he's trying something and it doesn't feel quite right. And I think you know this too.

Posted by Amandus
What kind of issues?

As a rule Virgo men are rather cautious regardless of the other planets', moon, and rising influences. So yea you probably have to extend out your "hand" before you can even see him lift his own.
I also want to say that it seems like he's trying something and it doesn't feel quite right. And I think you know this too.

Youd have to go read my last thread. *sigh*

Since he's started this, part of me feels like hes trying to get back at me. So I think I will just let it go and not communicate with him anymore. Sooner or later he'll stop. I was going to type (which I have) that maybe he's doing it to see if I will walk away from him but thats been part of my problem dealing with people. Trying to rationalize how they may be acting because of something Ive done/didnt do or because they have their own issues their dealing with.

And he does it again a few mins ago. It takes a lot to get a Libra mad and when you do, its not a pretty sight. Continue to ignore or cuss him out nisty? Nasty but in a nice way.

Posted by MsLovelyLibra

...Trying to rationalize how they may be acting because of something Ive done/didnt do or because they have their own issues their dealing with.

What issues with women do you think he has? Was he hurt?

I've already read your thread.

Many others have already given you the answer you needed but it seemed like their answers weren't what you were looking for. Maybe you were looking for angles.



Anyway, here are a few ideas that you may not have thought of to help you rationalize more:

1)Perhaps him repeatedly calling you "boo" is his own sort of subtle way of asking, "What is it that you want?"
And now that you're ignoring him your answer is, "Not you".

2)Perhaps you didn't make it clear from the beginning that you simply want his company, to get to really know him, and let the road unfold for the both of you. Your wants are not at all clear to him.

3)Perhaps when you guys were foreplaying he thought you felt deeply for him and thinks you wanted to get closer physically which was then proven wrong when you stopped and said that you could only do it when you're in love. He took it as rejection. Maybe thats why you started arguing.

Posted by Amandus

Posted by MsLovelyLibra

...Trying to rationalize how they may be acting because of something Ive done/didnt do or because they have their own issues their dealing with.

What issues with women do you think he has? Was he hurt?

I've already read your thread.

Many others have already given you the answer you needed but it seemed like their answers weren't what you were looking for. Maybe you were looking for angles.



Anyway, here are a few ideas that you may not have thought of to help you rationalize more:

1)Perhaps him repeatedly calling you "boo" is his own sort of subtle way of asking, "What is it that you want?"
And now that you're ignoring him your answer is, "Not you".

2)Perhaps you didn't make it clear from the beginning that you simply want his company, to get to really know him, and let the road unfold for the both of you. Your wants are not at all clear to him.

3)Perhaps when you guys were foreplaying he thought you felt deeply for him and thinks you wanted to get closer physically which was then proven wrong when you stopped and said that you could only do it when you're in love. He took it as rejection. Maybe thats why you started arguing.

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He was hurt terribly by his ex wife and even now there are still issues concerning her. After a bit of digging..it wasnt a good marriage nor was the divorce. Since my major deals with the legal field, I tend to do a lot of research..lol, so I took a look at his stats and comments via FB from a few months before we met and after. He says things like how women gets on his nerves. He posted a video and stated he's rather take the beating then to ever get married again. There was an argument between him and his last relationship which he deleted. Someone asked why it had been. Shortly after his status went from its complicated to single. That was last yr.

Ive been up front with him. I can tell he is very sensitive cause some things I would say, I tend to be a little sassy with my mouth, didnt go over to well with him. Its why I mentioned that I dont think we're compatible relationship wise but as friends, maybe. When he opened up a bit the last time we were together, he seems very close with his mom but when I asked about his dad, his whole demeanor changed. So I dont know. I just dont have the patienc

I just had to comment on the "Boo" thing... ironically, that's what My Virgo called me this this morning - never heard that nickname before. I suppose its supposed to be endearing...

lol Miss Libra


Why ask another question?

You obviously don't like answers?


what's up with that

Posted by 25thDecan
Boo= baby
And if you don't want the closeness be direct about it. Realize that for a MAN, this is a blow to the ego and to his image of you. That line won't be crossed again unless you're putting out and putting up with you afterwards is "worth it".
A word of advice, dear libra,
Take facebook with a grain of salt. Even semi private things thre are public and prone to drama and bantering over very small issues. I have to admit, me and many of these virgos are very VERY different. I am not to be guided or goaded into anything. Furthermore, whether I call you "boo"(I don't use that term, your name is intimate with me) or "honey bunches of my closest oats", once you tell me you don't like it, you won't hear it. And don't ever come back and try to get pet names with me. You put yourself in a category that has nothing to do with by my side. Friend zone. You won't get out of that category. And if/when you do, because most women try to get angry because it was all a "I just wanted you to come stronger"...like some false poetic don juan player, I WILL let you have it. Period. Lmao...sorry but while I understand some of these guys to do "guy" things..many of them also seem to need a backbone.

The rant about myself isn't aimed at you, Libra, just FYI for how a mature male handles being spurned..he walks completely away. No gray area because he may date again and you'd get in the way because you're still around. Off with the head...it makes the future easier.
Now this is aimed at you: did youraise your voice at him? If you did, its just time to let things go. Now you're throwing a small tantrum and he needs to move on. And once you part ways, let go of your fb connection with him. This is a pointless gray area for both of you.

Sidenote....yelling? At me? LOL I ain't the one...I get real evil with women who raise that voice. Lmao I remember this cap chick....don't start a fight and cry later....

I realize that boo = baby. I didnt tell him I didnt like it. In the beginning I was ok with it. It was like him texting me with hey sunshine and me responding back with hey baby. But for him to keep doing it at least 3 -4x's a day? Come on now. I like someone that can have a conversation with me. I dont like trying to read between the lines cause I think it leads to misunderstandings. Im fine being in the 'friend' category because thats what I was wanting from hi

Continued....

Wanting from him. Us getting to know each other and if it went beyond us being friends, ok. I was always upfront about that. I can attest that what they say about most Libras loving love and the sign of partnership, is true. Im very much like that. I needed to make sure I didnt fall into that with him because of how I felt around him, which is why I wanted to take things slowly. If he chooses to never speak to me again, ok. My life wont end in him doing so.

I didnt raise my voice at all. If it gets to the point where the angry side of me as a Libra is let loose, you best believe Im done with you. Wont be a need for you to be done with me. I do know he has trust issues concerning women and thats his problem, not mine. He's not the only person that has ever been hurt. Oh well, moving right along...

Posted by 25thDecan
Oh...also...my phone does that from time to time. If I send a text, it says it didn't send. So resend and it does the same. Then again. Then it sends and then sends the texts hours later in succession. Happens....

No, he was doing it on purpose. I say this because after his last text saying hey boo...I said...U love me (not in the form of a question)and he said hell naw.

And I see that it shows that P-Angel is blocked when Im signed in and not when Im signed out. Stay the hell off my threads. Damn!!

And before its even mention, I know if I meet someone else Im attracted to, Im going to have to set some very strong boundaries when it comes to physical contact.

Posted by MsLovelyLibra
Continued....

Us getting to know each other and if it went beyond us being friends, ok. I was always upfront about that.

Even though you were upfront you still lost control when you allowed your time together to progress into kissing and foreplay. That could make for a pretty clear indication that he is more to you.

Just friends never kiss and foreplay.

Posted by MsLovelyLibra
And I see that it shows that P-Angel is blocked when Im signed in and not when Im signed out. Stay the hell off my threads. Damn!!

Of course ....


So, you are just going to continue with this man, no matter what .. and only worry about applying to the next one.

Drop this man. If you have any feelings for him, at all, you should let him go.

Work on you.

For a long time .. not just 24 hours.

Then try again ... only make sure you apply your principals to yourself, and not just in theory.

Posted by MsLovelyLibra

No, he was doing it on purpose. I say this because after his last text saying hey boo...I said...U love me (not in the form of a question)and he said hell naw.

So you know he just wanted sex?

Why do I feel like I brought this on myself?

yes, you did. ^^^

So you don\'t like baby talk, okay...text messaging your emotions are always confusing. You should tell him in person, so he doesn\'t get mixed signals. As for the hours...the guy was probably busy, so do you make this problem more difficult?

Posted by 25thDecan
Libra, I think this is going to frustrate you more...and him as well. Time to call it quits. Two very different and conflicting messages being sent.

I agree. End of story.

Posted by MsLovelyLibra

Posted by 25thDecan
Oh...also...my phone does that from time to time. If I send a text, it says it didn't send. So resend and it does the same. Then again. Then it sends and then sends the texts hours later in succession. Happens....

No, he was doing it on purpose. I say this because after his last text saying hey boo...I said...U love me (not in the form of a question)and he said hell naw.

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Once again you confuse me, mixed messages, one minute you say do you love me the next is he's a friend...I don't get it....

Why would you ask him if he loves you? He answered hell naw and now your losing control and ending things, his phone just like any other phone can send multiple text messages and/or as my phone does from time to time it doesn't show a sent message so I resend (no big deal) and let's say he's sending the hey boo text on purpose, well he's annoying and immature and/or has a quirky sense of humor at the least.

I just feel you put all your eggs in one man's basket and your expectation levels are way too high too early on, you think your moving slow but your really not, the moment you meet a man that your attracted to subconsciously you attempt to make him your man and realistically he should be doing that, not you.....

I agree with 25th....Time to move on and maybe take some time to evaluate how your going about this whole dating thing.

Posted by tiki33

Posted by MsLovelyLibra

Posted by 25thDecan
Oh...also...my phone does that from time to time. If I send a text, it says it didn't send. So resend and it does the same. Then again. Then it sends and then sends the texts hours later in succession. Happens....

No, he was doing it on purpose. I say this because after his last text saying hey boo...I said...U love me (not in the form of a question)and he said hell naw.

Once again you confuse me, mixed messages, one minute you say do you love me the next is he's a friend...I don't get it....

Why would you ask him if he loves you? He answered hell naw and now your losing control and ending things, his phone just like any other phone can send multiple text messages and/or as my phone does from time to time it doesn't show a sent message so I resend (no big deal) and let's say he's sending the hey boo text on purpose, well he's annoying and immature and/or has a quirky sense of humor at the least.

I just feel you put all your eggs in one man's basket and your expectation levels are way too high too early on, you think your moving slow but your really not, the moment you meet a man that your attracted to subconsciously you attempt to make him your man and realistically he should be doing that, not you.....

I agree with 25th....Time to move on and maybe take some time to evaluate how your going about this whole dating thing.

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I did not ask him if he loved me. When I wrote that, it wasnt in the form of a question. It was...you love me!! after he texted hey boo. And that was the last text he sent me last night. Before I even sent that texted, I asked him to stop, he turned around and did it again. So he was being a smart ass. I honestly feel(intuition)he is purposily trying to push my buttons to get me to go off on him and its not going to happen.

Yeah in the past I did do that(put all my eggs in one basket cause I was still mourning. At the time I NEEDED to be with someone) but I stopped. He wasnt the only guy I was talking to. He wasnt the only guy Id been out on dates with. Before I moved here, I was dating someone and he made the 1st move regarding us having a relationship - it ended because I didnt want to be in a long distance relatio

Continued: relationship. I was very much attracted to him and never did with him what I did with Mr Virgo physically/sexually. The boundaries were there, so I dont know what the hell happened with Mr Virgo. My ex fiance (An aqua and we've kept in contact for the last 20 yrs) and I have been out a lot lately (no physical/sexual contact what-so-ever) and we are sooo compatible but I cant be with him because he's a cop. As a matter of fact, we're going out tonight cause he said he needed to ask me something.

Again, when Mr Virgo and I were together, we had a great time. I enjoyed being with him. I fugged up allowing myself to lose control around him physically/sexually because that has really been the only thing that has led to us "arguing". If I were moving too fast with him, I would have done what Ive done in the past. Him and I are on 2 different wave lengths and Im letting it go.

You don't say love period...SMDH Why in the hell would you say that in any context? Yes you brought this on yourself

Argh...you are way too frustrating and hard headed and your listening/comprehension skills beyond what you believe is right is poor...You will learn, life will teach you. You my girl but damn ):

Posted by tiki33
You don't say love period...SMDH Why in the hell would you say that in any context? Yes you brought this on yourself

Argh...you are way too frustrating and hard headed and your listening/comprehension skills beyond what you believe is right is poor...You will learn, life will teach you. You my girl but damn ):

I explained in the message to you...lol.

LOL I know....I responded...I'ma straighten yah out LMAO!! J/K

Posted by tiki33
LOL I know....I responded...I'ma straighten yah out LMAO!! J/K

I dont mind. I really dont. I know it may seem like Im hard headed and not paying attention. I am. Trial and error. Its not in me to hurt anyone and sometimes I wonder if maybe I need to lay low due to the loss of my husband. It is HARD being with someone for 7 yrs, someone you shared EVERYTHING with and then to have that gone.

More like almost 9 if you count the year and 1/2 we werent married

"hey boo"


What's a 'Boo'? I don't get it.. the only "boo" I know is "Boo!" which is an equivalent of calling out to someone when they're not looking and making them spill their coffee.

Posted by Kali
I agree with the others. Never use the "L" word to a virgo unless you are absolutely certain, not even in a joking way. A few years ago my virgo had made a comment about something, but because I was certain of his love for me as a friend, I commented, "You really do love me" and I was saying it in a teasing way, because of his previous comment. His reply was, "Very much so" and he was very serious. He disappeared for a week after that, wouldn't respond to my messages or anything, but finally came back as though no time had elapsed and as though he had not been gone for that week. However, if I had said that, and hadn't been sure of his love for me as a friend (at that time), I can imagine I would have gotten a discourse on him not loving me, or a very strong denial, and he would have probably walked away and not looked back. I've seen him cut ties with other women who would tease with the "L" word, or would flirt with him and he wasn't interested, or he would straight up tell them that he wasn't interested or that he had no feelings for them in that manner. But Libra, I have to agree with the others, I really think you just need to leave this Virgo alone. You two are at totally different places in your life and in what you want.

I absolutely HATE when people use that word in a joking manner because I take it very seriously. If someone I'm interested in slips up and does, that drops everything back down to zero no matter how much time has passed between us. I suppose my venus in scorp doesn't help matters much either.

You asked that he stop?
That's a form of rejection.

So he decided to irritate you as a kind way of letting you know to calm down or piss off.
Very simple, as home boy 25th put it down.