Leo girl in love with Virgo male friend

Hello all!

So here's the facts: I'm a Leo girl. I've known this Virgo man for 18 months, we see each other 4 times a week at the gym plus the occasional night out, as friends. He has a partner of 30 years. He's told me he doesn't love her, he's unhappy in the relationship, he's thought about leaving her but they have a business together. If he left then the business would be over and he would have to give half of everything to her. He says he's not interested in her physically anymore, they have nothing to talk about except business and it's no way to live. But he says he can't see a solution.

So him and me: there is a strong mutual attraction, we have loads of fun, always laughing, lots to talk about, he says I'm lovely in lots of different ways, he thinks I am pretty and intelligent, he says I'm a fascinating, complex (!) character. He used to flirt like mad but I asked him to tone it down a bit as I found it embarrassing! Plus it's unfair on his partner. Now we have become good friends and he treats me with more respect, still gives me the odd compliment. Sometimes we playfight! At Christmas time, we knew we wouldn't see each other for ten days so I leant in to kiss him on the cheek and he stroked my face. It was so tender. Then he held my hand while we were talking. He seemed sad. My friends have seen us together and say he has 'majorly strong feelings' for me. I think he feels the same. I'm not sure. I can't imagine him confessing his feelings. Do you think I should continue to have hope that one day he will decide to be with me? He seems resigned to his situation. He tells me he is easily led though and thinks its up to the woman to make the move (!) I wonder if he wants me to throw myself at him?! I'm not really that type though. Any advice and opinions on the situation would be greatly appreciated! Thank you :-)

(as friends) Leo girl just move on to someone whose going to display his affection for you.

" see each other 4 times a week at the gym plus the occasional night out, as friends. He has a partner of 30 years. He's told me he doesn't love her, he's unhappy in the relationship, he's thought about leaving her but they have a business together."

They all say the same thing, no really, all of them, google it and you'll most likely pull up thousands of women saying something exact or similar. He does love her, business never stopped a man from leaving a woman, he's quite comfortable with her and I'm sure if you had a chance to see her point of view you'd swear they were in love with one another.

"He says he's not interested in her physically anymore, they have nothing to talk about except business and it's no way to live. But he says he can't see a solution."

He sleeps with her EVERY NIGHT, they all do, they make love to their partners and wives, sex is sex and he's getting it in every chance he can.

" there is a strong mutual attraction, we have loads of fun, always laughing, lots to talk about, he says I'm lovely in lots of different ways, he thinks I am pretty and intelligent, he says I'm a fascinating, complex (!) character. "

Unless your self esteem is low who cares what he thinks, I'm sure you can attract a man that is SINGLE/AVAILABLE that will compliment you and share a mutual attraction with you. You have a less evolved Virgo on your hands and he'll ICE you out once he's gotten in between your legs or finally wise up and call his cheating ass out on his poor behavior.

" Do you think I should continue to have hope that one day he will decide to be with me? He seems resigned to his situation. He tells me he is easily led though and thinks its up to the woman to make the move (!) I wonder if he wants me to throw myself at him?! I'm not really that type though. Any advice and opinions on the situation would be greatly appreciated! Thank you :-)"

Don't waste you LIFE on a married man, 30 years, business together, he's married, move on. Unless you have major self esteem problems there is no reason to even think about him, change gyms, change jobs if you work together and move on and I can almost guarantee you he'll find a new target to have majorly feelings for, that's what they do, they hunt naive women with father issues and/or self esteem issues to prey on, this is not his first or last ride with the cheating.

Wowzers! Thank you for these awesome replies. Uker83 I will private message you. This is SO what I needed to hear. Not what I wanted to hear but definitely what I needed. Just re-reading my own msg is enough to make me see how pathetic I'm being. Why have I let it get this bad?! I guess I must have low self esteem. I didn't realise he was such a clich? but I can see it now. I can't thank you enough! It's the end. That's it! Phew.

Eh? Dont understand above comment!

I should add: he is not married to her (not that this makes any difference) and nothing physical has ever happened between us.

Posted by greeneyedleogirl
Eh? Dont understand above comment!

I should add: he is not married to her (not that this makes any difference) and nothing physical has ever happened between us.

30 years of sharing a business together and cohabitating together, they are common law married.

States That Recognize Common Law Marriage. Only a dozen or so states recognize common law marriage:
Alabama
New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
Colorado
Oklahoma
District of Columbia
Rhode Island
Iowa
South Carolina
Kansas
Texas
Montana
Utah

If he lives in either of these states it's considered common law, if he doesn't live in a state that recognize common law marriage then yes he's single but you can't say for sure he's single until you know the common law rule in your state, that's if you live in the United States.

Pathetic is when your behavior is a habit/pattern but if this is one mistake chalk it up to naivete and don't let it happen again.

This forum is brill! Thanks all of u. Just reading these comments has helped me regain that good 'ole Leo pride. ROAR 😉
I love the blunt comments. My friends have been too nice! You guys are honest :-)