Looking good

OK well its been around a month since I last posted about Virgo and I. We had a few ups and downs about 7 weeks ago but somehow we've managed to get around those bumps and things are looking really good now.

He wants to see me more often now (up to 3 times per week), he's been cooking for me, I got that motorbike ride, and we just have a great time talking and laughing about anything and everything. Its pretty much back to where things were but better. Things are free and easy and Ive learnt a lot about Mr Virgo and myself and its not at all hard work anymore.

Yep, we had some trying times where neither of us handled things well but we've overcome them and the last 3-4 weeks have been really great so Im confident about things now.

I think we've found a balance where we both need our own time to do our own thing but when we do catch up its always a positive and pleasant experience. We're planning on travelling to Europe together later this year which is something to really look forward to.

He keeps offering to do things for me, little things, like hire DVD's I might like to watch, cook for me, pick up a treat from the shop, just little things and OMG my health? if I even sneeze or cough he's right on top of it and ready to medicate me LOL. I appreciate everything he does do and he is most embarassed if I should do anything for him...sheesh!!!

Anyway yeah, I think we have ourselves a pretty good relationship going now and Im happy to take it slow this time and not be that clingy drama queen I was before (yes I admit I was somewhat her LOL). Keeping busy was the key to finding some success and now I actually appreciate the few quiet nights at home alone that I do get....its a long shot from what my life was like 2 months ago. Funny how life can change so quickly 🙂

Good things usually come to those that wait and take they time. Good luck, Chatz. Remember, do your own thing, stay cool and calm, and your Virgo will stick by you.

Yay, I feel great for you guys. : )
Acting like Drama Queen often leads to something disastrous. : )

Hah 🙂

I'm very happy for you Chatz. From what I can tell, you've learned (perhaps the hard way) how loyal we can be to the right person.

yep the very hard way LOL.

Thank you - its been a huge learning curve in so many ways but I think well worth it 🙂

Wow...thats really great news that you have been strong enough to stick by your virgo and have a positive outcome 🙂 How in the world did you do it?...you must be with a mature virgo because my situation is starting to feel like it's come to a screeching halt. It's a good thing that i have other passions in my life and hobbies to keep my feet on the ground to stop this whole thing from entirely consuming me.

"Funny how life can change so quickly" I know what you mean. It's easy to get stuck in the dramatic, clingy behavior. (Exsp if your with someone unhealthy) The second you get out though, it's like your a whole different person. You living again, It's a great feeling. I'm happy for you chatzzy🙂 Bravo

Thanks all 🙂

Scorpchick, thats exactly what you should be doing: Keeping busy and having a life of your own....it really is the only way and yes from what I can see Virgos are so unbelievably slow.

Yes I had many ups and downs with Virgo and of course there's no promise of a happy ever after yet and maybe not ever but things have become clearer and more positive and Im seeing him more often now than I ever have.

Ive had the benefit also of having Virgo friends (both male and female) and the general consensus is if you can take the moods (and they can be very dark and deep) and just get on with your life and be the same person you always are when they come out of it, you're going to be held in high esteem LOL. Trust me, that was the hardest as I took the cave approach he'd dish out as being towards me but he needed that time to just think and be his own person (as we all should). I learnt a lot over the past few months and again, the most important thing to do is to have a full and busy life and yes, lots of good friends, hobbies, interests.

Being clingy, whingey, whiney, jealous? OMG they are not going to be a good thing with a Virgo or any man for that matter...yes I was her and Im not sure how Sagittarius89 got to that but yes Id learnt that behaviour with somebody from the past....it took a LOT to unlearn it.

I think for the most part, things are going well and yeah, just be patient, be yourself, keep yourself amused when he cant/wont give you time and you should see some good results. I just did it all backwards LOL

Thank you for letting me know that chatz 🙂

I often wonder if it is ME who is confusing him...but then i noticed that whenever i am being direct with him (and i mean saying something about him or me)..i can see by the look on his face that he gets scared. The weird thing is is that it was he who pursued the living crap out of me and always said things like "i know you love me" and "i know you want me" which i found just plain odd and then as soon as i offically found out that he did have a crush on me, he pulled away, avoided me at work, yet would still watch me constantly and he became REALLY shy. He would warm up to me again and then reveal a little more (this time thanks to having a few beers under our belt lol) and then he would do the whole avoiding thing all over again. He warmed up again thanks to a friend who told him that i said i was falling for him and that i think about him all the time (seriously it put him on a high all day 🙂) and then something would go wrong and he would be distant again and this distance feels like it is more full on.

I'm just going about my days when he does this...yeah it hurts because it feels like i've done something wrong but i can't exactly force him to admit to something that i'm skeptical about (due to his behaviour)

Also, he is very indirect as in i could be having a conversation with him and sometimes it feels like we are talking on a different level...as in we could be talking about a friend and their situation and the answers we are telling eachother could easily be what we want to say to eachother...it's hard to explain but as i said i'm just getting on with it.

"keep yourself amused when he cant/wont give you time and you should see some good results"