So, me and the Virgal were talking. Specifically, emotional problems and diagnoses when we were in high school. (we went to the same high school, she was a freshman, I was a senior) I had depression, I think it was called Dysthymic Depression? I think it was temporary or something, anyway, after that it was anxiety. My Virgal said she was diagnosed with depression, anxirty, and Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD seems like a disorder just from the sound alone that might be characterized with crminals or violent types of people so I looked it up. It's not, it seems to be more common with personal relationships. Feelings of abandonment, self inflicted wounds/thought processes, etc. Those aren't all the symptoms of course, but it most definitely stuck in my mind. she had said that it was back when she was a teen when she was diagnosed, and she does display narcissistic tendencies, such as vanity, and arguments seem to be about her even when the situation may not even involve her. I'm starting to see the feelings of abandonment. she was super stressed almost a month ago about things outside our relationship, and she up and decided she was going to live with a married female friend for a month 2-3 states away. She then expected me to be cool with it and maintain a long distance relationship. I contested this decision, while her own emotional stability is important, I didn't feel she was taking mine in account. She ended up going there for 4 days, but returned after 2 and a half cuz she said she missed me. Which was sweet. Earlier arguments before this and for a short time after, where I would become too overwhelmed with my emotions, I would suggest we wait until the flared emotions die down so we can have a civil conversation. this usually works but not always. it usually ends up flaring it up more no matter what i do, i usually maintain myself from flipping out. it's really hard sometimes though. It's gotten to the point where i'll request we take a break. (not a break up) basically I mean, I'll cool down, you cool down, take a few days and we'll re-organize our thoughts and talk again. She usually takes this as me breaking up with her or something. she usually says she feels like she's losing me and gets very emotional. But in hindsight, she never exihibited this type of behavior before we got together. she was always a collected girl, intellectual, a gamer, and a ball buster. She's done a 180. What do you guys think?
