Please help - is virgo man interested or not?

A couple months ago I started a new job where I met this amazing virgo man. We hit it off very quickly as friends, but as we started working more together it seemed to be getting more flirtatious. He would compliment me and find subtle ways to touch me. He would give me back rubs and we came close to kissing. It was very clear there was a mutual attraction. We've hung out just a few times after work but it's always been me asking. Most recently I would ask and he'd be busy but would say yes we do need to hang out another time. He NEVER asks me though. Now he has been fired from the job and I do not hear much at all from him. Is he no longer interested? Was he ever since he never really pushed to see me outside of work?? Was he just interested in sex? Should I try to keep him in my life? Help Virgos are soooo confusing 😢

Thank you for replying dontgetmewrong! I will definitely take this advice and back off him a bit. We have plans to hang out next week but he already canceled once so not sure if it will happen this next week or not.

The reason you are not hearing from him..is him losing his job.

Is he interested just in sex? Wtf is up with this question? You mentioned no sex in the OP..where does this thought come from? Was there sex?

Look, we hover around people we like. I don't care how many Virgos disagree..very few Virgos make the first move. Those that do..we have to be enticed into making that move. But in general it's the other party. There is a thing about Virgo and inconveniencing people..which is why we don't make a move. It feels like we are forcing ourselves in their lives..we're sensitive people. It ties into insecurity of sorts but not the kind of insecurity that plays games. Just..we need to see clearly that we are welcomed into your life.

There is a possibility he never made a move because you worked in the same place.

Also, how much time do you spend on these outings? Going out with people I'm into..I stay for hours.

Basically everything you said in that OP is me being into someone.

I'm not saying that my opinion is 100% truth cuz I don't know him but I would really take a chance on someone who displays that behavior and kiss him and see what's up from there on.

I have been trying to play cool and not overwhelm him. I'm not being too pushy about hanging out. When he canceled the first time I said ok when would be a good day for you? So we will see if plans stick this next weekend. We plan to go ice skating. If the moment calls for it, would it be too much to try and make a kissing move and express that I am starting to really like him?

I think my main concern is that this feels like the two of us are just going to fade apart. The past couple weeks I've made the effort to reach out. I've asked a few times if he would want to get food and there's always an excuse. We do not even talk anymore even if I text first it takes hours to respond and it'll be very short answers if any at all. I've stopped because it feels like I'm bothering him. I know this is going to sound really stupid but since I am looking for any sign at all if he is interested or if it was just a work flirtation, I have noticed that he never likes statuses or photos of mine on social media however he will from time to time like other girls posts. I know this sounds really silly but like I said just would like some sort of clue as to what's going on in his head.

Thank you YellowSubmarine - you're right I deserve the same treatment I give others. I will give it this last shot Saturday see if he cancels. If so good riddance I suppose. Thank you for the boost and kind advice!

I am a leo - I have asked several times to hang out but there's always an excuse lately 😢 Last Sunday I asked him if he wanted to grab good with me but said he had just ate. I am starting to believe he is not interested because every time I ask him to do something there's an excuse not to.

Thank you everyone! I will give a full update if he does not cancel this Saturday 🙂

Well went ice skating and I am pretty sure he is not interested in me at all 😢

He was very cold - spent most of the time on his phone texting when we grabbed food before skating. I asked how he was and what he had been up to since leaving work. He was very depressed and seemed to want to avoid the subject all together. I tried to cheer him up all night but it seemed to just annoy him almost. At work he was so touchy feely with me but almost seemed uncomfortable when I have him a hug tonight....so confused. So when we got onto the ice (this was the very first time I've been ice skating by the way) he skated with me and without me. I asked him if I could hold on to him so I wouldn't fall. He said no you'll never learn that way. As we were leaving the rink I asked what he wanted to do since the night was still early. He said he had stuff to do and was meeting up with friends later....so it was a really rough night. I feel so dumb but I put myself out there and that's all you can do...still hurts a lot 😢

Posted by Hikergirl90
Well went ice skating and I am pretty sure he is not interested in me at all 😢

He was very cold - spent most of the time on his phone texting when we grabbed food before skating. I asked how he was and what he had been up to since leaving work. He was very depressed and seemed to want to avoid the subject all together. I tried to cheer him up all night but it seemed to just annoy him almost. At work he was so touchy feely with me but almost seemed uncomfortable when I have him a hug tonight....so confused. So when we got onto the ice (this was the very first time I've been ice skating by the way) he skated with me and without me. I asked him if I could hold on to him so I wouldn't fall. He said no you'll never learn that way. As we were leaving the rink I asked what he wanted to do since the night was still early. He said he had stuff to do and was meeting up with friends later....so it was a really rough night. I feel so dumb but I put myself out there and that's all you can do...still hurts a lot 😢

Wow..he sounds like a jack a**..you deserve so much better than him.Why would he go out with you and then treat you that way. I hope you find someone better!!

Will do - thank you everyone for the listening ears

So it has been a few weeks and have not heard anything from virgo guy. I'm probably thinking too much into it but there was this work function I begged him to go to just to keep me company when we went out ice skating. That day he swore he would not go. I told him I felt obligated and couldn't get out of it and just asked if he would go just to keep me from going insane from boredom. He still swore nothing could get him to go. I decided not to go as well at the last minute and never told him (I hadn't spoken a word since the ice skating day). Then I find out from a friend that he went to the party. Just can't help but wonder if he went to see me or just went because he had nothing else to do that day. it's probably just out of pure curiosity but I have also noticed that after the party he was checking out my snapchat stories for a couple days (which he completely stopped before for a while normally never uses the app). Maybe he's wondering what I've been up to or even misses me? Probably just hopeful thinking and over thinking it but it's kind of interesting to me. Been fighting myself everyday not to text or bug him. Hoping that if he wants to talk to me he will. Maybe he thinks I'm mad at him since I went from texting and snap chatting him quite often to nothing at all after the ice skating day. Idk probably just being dumb...so confused just want an answer

Having been in a similar situation to you, albeit considerably worse, I'd just forget about him.

You've put yourself out there. He isn't giving you what you want and there could be many reasons. He might like you but perhaps not enough.

I think it comes down to what you're looking for and what form you're looking for that to take. It doesn't seem a match to me.

Liking the idea of someone is never good. What is it you like about this dude?

It is probably best to move on and I wish I could figure out why I'm having so much trouble letting go. Things might not work and we may not be compatible but I have this overwhelming urge to try and go for it. That I'll regret not trying but it's not going to happen if there's no trying on the other end. We have so many of the same interests and sense of humor is super attractive to me. He is just a genuinely nice person but since he got fired that all changed. I don't know if it's a result of the lay off that has got him in a different mode but I feel like if there is no communication it's just going to fizzle away if it hasn't already. But I can't keep being the one to put forth the effort. I guess time will tell. I wish I could go back and just tell him how I felt when things were good. I didn't want to rush and thought I had all the time in the world because we saw each other all the time at work. Then one day it all changed and I didn't get my chance to just make a move. 😢

Posted by Hikergirl90

... I begged him to go to just to keep me company ...

Maybe you could be more desperate next time. Get down on your knees and beg, maybe he will give you pity attention then, eh?


To answer your question ... it doesn't matter if he's interested, because you're going to act pathetic and chase him anyway, you're going to sit with baited breath waiting for him to throw you a bone anyway ... so what difference does it make if he likes you?

From what you've described, you're not interested in having a dignified partnership built on honor and trust .... you just want to play for attention, and he's the prop you are using to fill the role.

Posted by Hikergirl90
It is probably best to move on and I wish I could figure out why I'm having so much trouble letting go. Things might not work and we may not be compatible but I have this overwhelming urge to try and go for it. That I'll regret not trying but it's not going to happen if there's no trying on the other end. We have so many of the same interests and sense of humor is super attractive to me. He is just a genuinely nice person but since he got fired that all changed. I don't know if it's a result of the lay off that has got him in a different mode but I feel like if there is no communication it's just going to fizzle away if it hasn't already. But I can't keep being the one to put forth the effort. I guess time will tell. I wish I could go back and just tell him how I felt when things were good. I didn't want to rush and thought I had all the time in the world because we saw each other all the time at work. Then one day it all changed and I didn't get my chance to just make a move. 😢

Sounds like your Venus is in Scorp?

Maybe another water sign then such as Cancer. Just seemed like the persistent/attached quality a Scorp would have.