please helppp!!! My virgo is going weird! :(

i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Perhaps the several VIRGO MAN DISAPPEARING, VIRGO-HOUDINI, DOUG HENNING IS A VRIGO, NOW YOU SEE HIM, NOW YOU VIR-DONT.... threads sprinkled throughout the VIRGO pages.
You may find an answer sooner than you think.

Good luck and the whole thing.

thank u really 🙂 it's just so puzzling may b he decided i don't fit i just want any words i just wanna know what did he mean when he said he's feeling silence and emptiness ... he got me crazy over him and i love so hardly.

Posted by mimino26
thank u really 🙂 it's just so puzzling may b he decided i don't fit i just want any words i just wanna know what did he mean when he said he's feeling silence and emptiness ... he got me crazy over him and i love so hardly.

You got yourself crazy with your vision of the relationship. I mean, if you havent even met yet and all that.
But seriously, im no help, check out the threads.

Im sorry you are going thru this ....could it be that he has a personal problem? You guys didn't get to meet correct? So maybe he just needs a little time to get his thoughts together...I'm sure you are hurting and this really sux..But I don't think there is much you can do right now. Virgo men don't usually say what's bothering them unless they trust you and consider you completely a part of him..So whatever his problem is, Im sure you will know soon enough. Its not like a Virgo to just leave you hanging like that since they have a great heart and don't like to play with peoples feelings.

Good luck and stay calm😉

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Perhaps the several VIRGO MAN DISAPPEARING, VIRGO-HOUDINI, DOUG HENNING IS A VRIGO, NOW YOU SEE HIM, NOW YOU VIR-DONT.... threads sprinkled throughout the VIRGO pages.
You may find an answer sooner than you think.

Good luck and the whole thing.

We do disappear as we need our own personal time. We can ignore this urge to be separated but we will start feeling trapped in that relationship, speaking from experience.
Doug Henning is a taurus, so take that! 🙂

SV can you explain to me what you meant when you said:

*We can ignore this urge to be separated but we will start feeling trapped in that relationship, speaking from experience.*
Feel trapped in what relationship? Are you referring to the kind of relationship mentioned by the OP

i am calm really but everytime i see him online my heart just gets out of my chest, i want him to take his time and i understood that he needs time when he didn't disappear from my life and he appears online because as u said taurusbadgirl he wouldn't hurt me he's so kind and sensitive but shall i stop connecting with him and stop opening the chat box with him ?

Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Whaaaaaaaaa——?

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Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Whaaaaaaaaa——?

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@realtalk...lmao.....

Mimi if you feelings are tru for this guy you need to let him know that you are worried about him...don't pressure him about the relationship, just tell him that whenever he is ready you would like to chat with him. He will know what you mean.
Maybe things got too real for him and he needs to think about things...a relationship in real life is nothing like the one on line...It becomes real. Not that what you have is not real..Im sure it's very real..But it will be taking it to the next step, and maybe he is ot ready for that.

I do wish you the best. Please keep us updated.

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Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Whaaaaaaaaa——?

@realtalk...lmao.....

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What's up girlie!!! 🙂

thank u taurusbadgirl a lot 🙂 what u said is tremendously helpful . i can't thank u enough for ur words 🙂🙂u r so generous .sure i will🙂

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Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Whaaaaaaaaa——?

@realtalk...lmao.....

What's up girlie!!! 🙂

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Hi Real!! miss ya!!!

No problem Mimi, I do wish you the best...take it easy and don't lose hope...Just remember what got you to where you guys are at now.
Sorry about the typos..my keys get stuck🙂

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Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Whaaaaaaaaa——?

@realtalk...lmao.....

What's up girlie!!! 🙂

Hi Real!! miss ya!!!

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Awwwwww!!! You too...Did you get my last email?

Im not sure..I responded to one...Ill check...email me again when you can.

Posted by TaurusBadGirl
SV can you explain to me what you meant when you said:

*We can ignore this urge to be separated but we will start feeling trapped in that relationship, speaking from experience.*
Feel trapped in what relationship? Are you referring to the kind of relationship mentioned by the OP

I meant that if we are not allowed our own time to do our virgo things, we will feel imprisoned as we always need to be available.
She should let him come to her, we want to chase. Girls who've had crushed on me have chased me and it hasn't worked out. Let him know that you want to be with him and then give him space to make the move.

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SV can you explain to me what you meant when you said:

*We can ignore this urge to be separated but we will start feeling trapped in that relationship, speaking from experience.*
Feel trapped in what relationship? Are you referring to the kind of relationship mentioned by the OP

I meant that if we are not allowed our own time to do our virgo things, we will feel imprisoned as we always need to be available.
She should let him come to her, we want to chase. Girls who've had crushed on me have chased me and it hasn't worked out. Let him know that you want to be with him and then give him space to make the move.

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Ok yes I so agree with you on that...thats why i told her to let him know she is there for him and just give him time....I think Virgo men are so amazing!!!!

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Its not like a Virgo to just leave you hanging like that since they have a great heart and don't like to play with peoples feelings.

lol



This is what happens when a person becomes so blind that they become ignorant to the truth.

to P-angel , from experience i believe in that with all my senses . though i am a cancer and cancerians tend to be super suspicious about the other in a relationship but this time and after he passed all my unbelievably hard tests he succeeded with a super excellent.

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SV can you explain to me what you meant when you said:

*We can ignore this urge to be separated but we will start feeling trapped in that relationship, speaking from experience.*
Feel trapped in what relationship? Are you referring to the kind of relationship mentioned by the OP

I meant that if we are not allowed our own time to do our virgo things, we will feel imprisoned as we always need to be available.
She should let him come to her, we want to chase. Girls who've had crushed on me have chased me and it hasn't worked out. Let him know that you want to be with him and then give him space to make the move.

Ok yes I so agree with you on that...thats why i told her to let him know she is there for him and just give him time....I think Virgo men are so amazing!!!!

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i like to be chased very much but we already went through that!! now we r pouring the love we waited so long to share and for a cancerian that love shall be going all the time. the weird thing is that he wanted us to meet but i know that happened because he wanted to assess the situation and i get insecure now but i'm confident realistic not clingy i am just afraid of being hurt and that's what i can never stop myself from doing. in fact that made me think that i shall not worry about being hurt coz i still have sweet feelings to my ex s and not angry at any one who broke up with me . i shall not b i am a whole always and forever. that's how all girls think!

I don't care if he's a virgo or a zebra or a monkey..if he REALLY loved you, he would not ignore you OR disappear like that. Period.

Chances are, what he's telling you he may be telling another or a new 'love' came about. That is the reality for someone you really don't know well yet and have never met.

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I don't care if he's a virgo or a zebra or a monkey..if he REALLY loved you, he would not ignore you OR disappear like that. Period.

Well...that is not always true. I have been known to "disappear" myself. It's not because I don't love the person, it's because I need my space. Also if it's getting really intense & I'm really starting to fall for the person, I back off a little to re-evaluate the situation. Just because someone is distant, it doesn't always = not interested.

Ok yes I so agree with you on that...thats why i told her to let him know she is there for him and just give him time....I think Virgo men are so amazing!!!!

Your guy is lucky.
I had a relationship with a taurus girl and she was great to me. It broke down as we had different tastes and our connection wasn't strong enough.
For any virgo guys with taurus girls out there who are happy: you've pretty much struck gold and she is most definitely a keeper. Taurus girls really love unconditionally, from my experience aquarius or leo girls definitely don't.

Posted by mimino26
i really need help with that,i am a cancer and he's a virgo man, i met him online by mistake and we talked and we were so into each other, then we slowly grew close friends then he showered me his love and everything he shared with me, he was telling me how much he loves me and crazy about me that he made me fall in love deeply and in a crazy way then one day while we were chatting he told me suddenly let's meet seriously let's meet in real life and i appreciated this step a lot then i told him shan't we take it slowly he told me anytime want dear we do it i'm just telling u i want it. after that few things happened and we were the same until i sent him one day after valentine a text telling him let's meet and that's the last thing i ever could say to him because he didn't answer he didn't text me he was online and not talking i talked once and he didn't reply then went offline next day i said hi he answered and i said i just wanted to say hi he told me it's ok dear i'm just like not in the mood and that he's feeling silence and emptiness then we don't talk again he's online to me but no talking , it's been like this now for about a week i'm confused i miss him incredibly and just dun know what to do i am sad without him and dun know what's happening

Jeez, what is going on with people nowadays and these Digital Relationships that they think are real!

He's not "Your Virgo", You haven't even met him, this is not a relationship - you haven't touched him, smelt him, looked in his eyes, watched how he smiles, eats, laughs, farts. He hasn't done any of these things either so can possibly have any real feelings for you. You have chatted to him online and built up a fantasy relationship. He has not disappeared on you - he wasn't there in the first place in real life. It's irrelevant what he says or how he acts (not responding to your messages). You can't miss him as you don't know him, you miss the interaction and the fantasy you have built up with him. If you were in a relationship in reality and posted the disappearing virgo question then you shuold take on board some of the responses you got but not too much. Any virgo I know, who is in an equal and fulfilling relationship with a person they love does not disappear on them - like all other signs people need their own space even in a relationship. Virgo's do not disappear as a characteristic of the

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not a characteristic of their sunsign, they disappear as a reflecion of a relationship they do not want to be in.

He told you he loves you having not met you? - Huge Flaming Red Flag - flush him. Do not give him space, time or anything else. At the same time look into yourself and see what kind of self-esteem, self-love, self-respect lessons you need to work on to prevent yourself from "falling" for a virtual stranger.

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Its not like a Virgo to just leave you hanging like that since they have a great heart and don't like to play with peoples feelings.

lol



This is what happens when a person becomes so blind that they become ignorant to the truth.

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What's so fucking funny??

oh dear .. seraph .. ?

promising starts are never a guarantee ... time is the bitch here..

Mr. Jekyll is my spokes person at times .. it's HIS say...

sometimes I wish I could step on a few virgos.. as cute as they are... they are not always a win .. be ready to deal with low self-esteem, plenty finger-pointing and criticism... nevermind... snobby up-nose.. right up.. until they get you down.

So either defend yourself or sink. Best solution is to attack before he gets ANY idea of anything..

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Ok yes I so agree with you on that...thats why i told her to let him know she is there for him and just give him time....I think Virgo men are so amazing!!!!

Your guy is lucky.
I had a relationship with a taurus girl and she was great to me. It broke down as we had different tastes and our connection wasn't strong enough.
For any virgo guys with taurus girls out there who are happy: you've pretty much struck gold and she is most definitely a keeper. Taurus girls really love unconditionally, from my experience aquarius or leo girls definitely don't.

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Thank you SV, yes we both know how lucky we are for having each other...Im so sorry things did not work out between you and your taurus,
I do love him more than anything in this world and i must say that there is no better love than the uconditional love....We have an amazing connection since day one.😉

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I don't care if he's a virgo or a zebra or a monkey..if he REALLY loved you, he would not ignore you OR disappear like that. Period.

Well...that is not always true. I have been known to "disappear" myself. It's not because I don't love the person, it's because I need my space. Also if it's getting really intense & I'm really starting to fall for the person, I back off a little to re-evaluate the situation. Just because someone is distant, it doesn't always = not interested.

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Really?... if any man ignores or distances from me without a word for a length of time then they can keep walking. No one deserves that type of crappy/disrepectful treatment. As a Cap, i like space too and will say so. Not leave my virgo man in the dark and he is the same way with me.

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Jeez, what is going on with people nowadays and these Digital Relationships that they think are real!

We live in the digital age so it makes sense that the relationships are digital too. So many successful marriages have started online. If you are honest and take it seriously, it can work well. Online meetings are great as you can get to know people you normally never would. In the end you meet for confirmation.

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I don't care if he's a virgo or a zebra or a monkey..if he REALLY loved you, he would not ignore you OR disappear like that. Period.

Well...that is not always true. I have been known to "disappear" myself. It's not because I don't love the person, it's because I need my space. Also if it's getting really intense & I'm really starting to fall for the person, I back off a little to re-evaluate the situation. Just because someone is distant, it doesn't always = not interested.

Really?... if any man ignores or distances from me without a word for a length of time then they can keep walking. No one deserves that type of crappy/disrepectful treatment. As a Cap, i like space too and will say so. Not leave my virgo man in the dark and he is the same way with me.

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Yup...REALLY. Do you...

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Online relationships are pure fantasy. I don't care how 'real' they seem. Real life is messy and until you are both confronted--in the real word- with each other's messy all you have is a fantasy that is probably reinforced with a little dirty Iming or texting. Think about this. You are being held together by a virtual net that has absolutely no physical structure. How secure do you think that is?

If a man really likes you, he pursues seeing you with vim and vigor. Anything less than this is ego masturbation on his end in his online world.

In your small world, perhaps. I've met one of my exes online and we lived together afterwards, it didn't work out but it lasted 2 years. Talking for hours and hours goes much much more being dirty IMing or anything like that. While this form of communication doesn't give us the complete picture, it gives us 80-90% and rest will be either confirmed or denied after meeting. This demands that one partner can relocated easily, even if it is temporary.
There seems to be a generational gap here so I won't go further.
Anyway, haven't you heard that the internet is a "series of tubes", so there is physical structure 🙂

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Posted by celticlioness

Jeez, what is going on with people nowadays and these Digital Relationships that they think are real!

We live in the digital age so it makes sense that the relationships are digital too. So many successful marriages have started online. If you are honest and take it seriously, it can work well. Online meetings are great as you can get to know people you normally never would. In the end you meet for confirmation.

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LOL, relationships are NOT digital, they are tangible and organic, they do not exist inside a commputer - they may start in the digital world which is a reflection of the current times we live in, and that's ok for some, but they cannot "become real" if they stay in the digital world. The OP hasn't even met the man she is so in love with and is currently heart broken over. You cannot meet for confirmation, there is nothing to confirm, i would imagine you meet in order to see if you would like to begin dating the person, not confirm your fantasy online relationship - smh.

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Online relationships are pure fantasy. I don't care how 'real' they seem. Real life is messy and until you are both confronted--in the real word- with each other's messy all you have is a fantasy that is probably reinforced with a little dirty Iming or texting. Think about this. You are being held together by a virtual net that has absolutely no physical structure. How secure do you think that is?

If a man really likes you, he pursues seeing you with vim and vigor. Anything less than this is ego masturbation on his end in his online world.

In your small world, perhaps. I've met one of my exes online and we lived together afterwards, it didn't work out but it lasted 2 years. Talking for hours and hours goes much much more being dirty IMing or anything like that. While this form of communication doesn't give us the complete picture, it gives us 80-90% and rest will be either confirmed or denied after meeting. This demands that one partner can relocated easily, even if it is temporary.
There seems to be a generational gap here so I won't go further.
Anyway, haven't you heard that the internet is a "series of tubes", so there is physical structure 🙂

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The initial meeting online is just that - if you had never taken it out of the computer and into the real world you wouldn't have a had your relationship, relationships are built in the real world. I'd imagine if you met someone online it should take no more than a few messages and calls over a week or so before you arrange to meet the person and date and really get to know them. Thinking that you know someone via talking for weeks on end, accepting professions of love, sharing feelings and never actually meeting in person does not make a relationship.

well it's true what most said ...online relationships are a fantasy what is real is real although it might work in some cases of really not finding anyone to go out with but still real is real
so i sorted my issues and i found that i dun need to know someone online so very wise words CELTICLIONESS and he's an amazing person really virgos are incredibly amazing veryyy careful loving caring honest respectful people there 's no bad word can be told about a virgo once it's well brought together person, u can b sure u've met a diamond and by the way he disappeared because he's in a kind of rebound of a previous relationship so out of his hands.

My ex and I met thru the Internet, not a dating site, it was just a forum for advice..pretty much like this one..we lasted 3 yrs and 1 yr later on my birthday he gave me an engagement ring. We got along great and we pretty much did everything we said we would before we met..when they decided they had too put his mom in hospice we all decided that I would take care of her.. and I did and it was a real pleasure because she was a sweetheart..I had broken it off with him prior to her passing but I knew I could not leave yet..So after the funeral my daughter and I said goodbye.. I broke it off and came back home..So as you can see this was real life drama, it started it off online but it turned out to be as real as you and I. I think when you do the online thing It's a little like what SV said, you get to know the person you normally wouldn't even give the time of day in real life. You get to know the person inside out..by the time you get to the physical you are in love, or maybe it doesn't matter that much what they look like (not to the extreme either)I'm not shallow but the person has to have something attractive or else you better pray they love hard!...oops that did sound kind of shallow huh?

I think this is like religions and politics, we all have a different views on it...If you go on line you will find many reports on how people do fall in love on line..I hear it everyday people that meet on the Internet and then they get married..I think we all know this is more common than usual now a days....Who are we to say people can't fall in love on line? We don't all love the same..It may be a different kind of love BUT it is love. I'm sure we have all heard the phrase about *just because a person doesn't love like you do it doesn't mean they are not loving you with everything they have* Something like that..I can't remember. The thing is that we don't all love the same..I think the online love requires a lot of patience dedication and devotion....

..As long as you can be honest with the other person and not play with their head and you both know what you want, you should be ok if this is what you want. I do want to add that when I see people involved in an online relationship and they live 1 hr,2 hrs away and they haven't met——? I want to HIT them...really? Why have you not met? See I understand 5 hrs maybe,7 hrs,11 hrs, but 20 min? or 1 hr? common people!!.....To me those are people that have nothing else to do than to play games. I would definitely stay away from people like that.

But don't disregard a way of loving someone just because its not your way...we all love in many different ways..and at the end of the day if that's what makes us happy and closer to the one we love, then we must be doing something right😉

Good Luck to you all😉

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If you go on line you will find many reports on how people do fall in love on line..I hear it everyday people that meet on the Internet and then they get married..I think we all know this is more common than usual now a days....Who are we to say people can't fall in love on line? We don't all love the same..It may be a different kind of love BUT it is love. I'm sure we have all heard the phrase about *just because a person doesn't love like you do it doesn't mean they are not loving you with everything they have* Something like that..I can't remember. The thing is that we don't all love the same..I think the online love requires a lot of patience dedication and devotion....

Because people don't fall in love on-line - they meet the person after the initial introduction is made whatever way that is made - then they fall in love if they connect together. It doesn't actually matter how the first introductions were made - it could be by letter, online, bump into one another on the street, its what happens afterward - to stay online for the duration of the "knowing" cannot lead to love. Most people don't meet online and then meet organically at the altar or in the registry office to say their vows, and if they do well then that's just mad 🙂

I met a guy in a car park, he fixed my tyre and took my number "to make sure i got home ok". That was our first introduction - doesn't matter how we were first introduced though, online, offline is irrelevant. We then texted between each other for a while but we could not have had a relationship if we had stuck to texting and calling, we could not have generated any real feelings for each other. It turns out he lived 5 hours from me and he regularly, weekly, drove the 5 hours to take me out. Distance ended it in the end.

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Online relationships are pure fantasy. I don't care how 'real' they seem. Real life is messy and until you are both confronted--in the real word- with each other's messy all you have is a fantasy that is probably reinforced with a little dirty Iming or texting. Think about this. You are being held together by a virtual net that has absolutely no physical structure. How secure do you think that is?

If a man really likes you, he pursues seeing you with vim and vigor. Anything less than this is ego masturbation on his end in his online world.

In your small world, perhaps. I've met one of my exes online and we lived together afterwards, it didn't work out but it lasted 2 years. Talking for hours and hours goes much much more being dirty IMing or anything like that. While this form of communication doesn't give us the complete picture, it gives us 80-90% and rest will be either confirmed or denied after meeting. This demands that one partner can relocated easily, even if it is temporary.
There seems to be a generational gap here so I won't go further.
Anyway, haven't you heard that the internet is a "series of tubes", so there is physical structure 🙂

If you got 80-90% of the picture online then why didn't it work out? Surely the meeting was then just a formality.

My my you are defensive--what's with all the insults?

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People change, life changes. The exact same thing applies to all relationships. I have never claimed online relationships have a 100% success rate. My insults are due to your ignorant and limited view on a subject I suspect you have little experience with. Some people (not me) actually live in fairly isolated places, online dating is the only way to find like-minded people.

Posted by mimino26
i am calm really but everytime i see him online my heart just gets out of my chest, i want him to take his time and i understood that he needs time when he didn't disappear from my life and he appears online because as u said taurusbadgirl he wouldn't hurt me he's so kind and sensitive but shall i stop connecting with him and stop opening the chat box with him ?

The virgo guy im seeing now is like that also. Now i get floods of messages then he will disappear for 3 days or more. i see him online but he dont message me.i i leave that way, coz after he gets back to his senses he will contact me, and i dont wanna smother him with my attention.i would say, TAKE IT EASY. instead of thinking too much focus on other things like work, activities etc. if his into u he will contact u, dont flood him with ur messages. they dont like that. make him feel your strong n can stand even his not around. goodluck!