@SweetestFatale
19 Years1,000+ Posts
Can Ya'll Help Me Pleeeease
Oh the classic case of the emotionally unavailable man. They give you juuuust enough to keep you on the hook, but run like a bat outta hell when you try to reciprocate. Hes not wounded or afraid to fall in love; its a tactic. Its called The Push Pulley Game.
There is always the SMALL chance that he is shy or afraid to fall, but thats rarely the case. Does any of this seem familiar? The Status Quo
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What Dreamer said...
If that's not what you want in a relationship then maybe you should consider dating someone who can take it as well as give it.
Spot freakin OONNN Dreamer. Thank You SOOO MUCH!! lol I was close to tellin him to go fuck himself, but I think I'll just fade to black and avoid the drama seeker status quo lol. Very informative.
Aw, you're welcome! 🙂 I had an Aqua and a Taurus try to pull the same thing on me last year. I didn't even know they had names for behavior like this! But apparently its a common phenomenon. SMH
I was hesistant to really seek input Dreamer, but Im so glad I did. I feel so empowered knowing there is a name and actual checklist for this crap. It will save me mucho tiempo in the future.
Click the link VirgoDe, if your situation fits the criteria, you'll know what to do.
Thank you 25th, cute pic by the way.
I've tried telling you, and you act like a bitch about it.
So, now you get what you gave me .. nothing, eventhough I know the fucking answer.
Oh well, next time you'll think before you open your fucking mouth about shit you don't know.
because virgo's need to be needed. they are the givers.
example..one night I am massaging my virgo man while watching a movie.(something I usually do). This particular night he said, "Ohh, u must want something." I said, "No. I do it because you like it and it relaxes you. Haven't you ever had someone in your life do something just for you ?" His answer..."No". And i said, "It shows."
Mine has had to learn I simply love him and do things for him out of love. Not because i want something.
do you know what turned my virgo completely on and into me with total trust beyond our past friendship? It was when I told him, "I have never asked anything of you in 12 years, but you, now. And no matter what you do, there is nothing that would end our friendship, even if a relationship didn't work. Ever. i don't know why that is, it just IS."
This man has not left my side from that day. Complete and unconditional love is what this man has needed all his life. And i am able to give that to him.
Be careful giving out that unconditional love...As long as a man isn't a dark heart'd toxic type it could work, if he's toxic it won't work least not in the way some women hope it will but it will get a woman walked all over and taken advantage of.
do you know what turned my virgo completely on and into me with total trust beyond our past friendship? It was when I told him, "I have never asked anything of you in 12 years, but you, now. And no matter what you do, there is nothing that would end our friendship, even if a relationship didn't work. Ever. i don't know why that is, it just IS."
This man has not left my side from that day. Complete and unconditional love is what this man has needed all his life. And i am able to give that to him.
This part made me smile spontaneously..because I understand perfectly what you mean, I have the same connection with my cappy ex, still to this day we cant get away from each other.
Im glad that it worked for you capbaby. Im glad that you were able to give your man what he needed in order to get what you needed. I still believe in love and that I will find mine. Your situation seems to be different from mine in that he was willing to accept from you what he was trying to give you. My intuition tells me this guy isn't ready to go there and I will gladly concede that the woman he decides is worth it will be someone other than me lol.
Posted by SweetestFatale
Im glad that it worked for you capbaby. Im glad that you were able to give your man what he needed in order to get what you needed. I still believe in love and that I will find mine. Your situation seems to be different from mine in that he was willing to accept from you what he was trying to give you. My intuition tells me this guy isn't ready to go there and I will gladly concede that the woman he decides is worth it will be someone other than me lol.
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Posted by capbaby
because virgo's need to be needed. they are the givers.
This is totally true. The rest of the posters have no clue, the Mr. Unavailable comment makes no sense.
For virgos, it's a princess-servant type relationships - when we are in love, we like to serve the princess and she being the princess, doesn't need to do anything in return. If we request something, then it's quite different.
Posted by tiki33
Be careful giving out that unconditional love...As long as a man isn't a dark heart'd toxic type it could work, if he's toxic it won't work least not in the way some women hope it will but it will get a woman walked all over and taken advantage of.
Tiki you are so right..When he is not dark hearted and you give yourself unconditionally, Its the most amazing feeling!😉 I wouldn't have it any other way..Good Point🙂
@OP, sometimes Virgo will run just because he is afraid to expose himself too much and get hurt, But once he knows you are genuine and not out to stump on his heart, he will give his love and take whatever you have to offer..Dont walk away, This journey with Virgo will bo one experience that you dont want to miss😉
Good Luck!
Posted by capbaby
because virgo's need to be needed. they are the givers.example..one night I am massaging my virgo man while watching a movie.(something I usually do). This particular night he said, "Ohh, u must want something." I said, "No. I do it because you like it and it relaxes you. Haven't you ever had someone in your life do something just for you ?" His answer..."No". And i said, "It shows."
Mine has had to learn I simply love him and do things for him out of love. Not because i want something.
do you know what turned my virgo completely on and into me with total trust beyond our past friendship? It was when I told him, "I have never asked anything of you in 12 years, but you, now. And no matter what you do, there is nothing that would end our friendship, even if a relationship didn't work. Ever. i don't know why that is, it just IS."
This man has not left my side from that day. Complete and unconditional love is what this man has needed all his life. And i am able to give that to him.
Wow capbaby this is so funny because this is the exact conversation my Virgo and I were having just last night. He was telling me how all he wanted from me was to love him unconditionally...They are givers and all they want is to make you happy..
They think about themselves last and when you give true uncondional love and he knows you are not fake, That Virgo will be your's forever!
These men are remarkable, He is my first Virgo and I must say he will be the only one because Im never letting go.
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I just have to seriously vent/whine/let it out...about this Virgo guy.....he gives what he gives...but runs when I offer the same....WHAT GIVES!!!!? He gives care, concern, encouragement, intimacy, fun, even passion. But I cant figure out for the life of me why he seems to be pushing me away when I offer him the same and if by chance I sneak it in, he retreats. I cant even really figure out a way to be mad at him because I don't really know what to be mad at him for...Im just confused. I think anyone would be.