Started seeing a Virgo Woman

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Hello All

I am new to these site. I am just looking for some clarity from a few Virgo women.

I have been seeing this Virgo woman that I work with for about 8 months. When I first started and seen her I instantly had to know who she was. I found out she was married but getting divorced. We began sitting with each other and chatting during breaks in work. Then we both friend requested each other on social media. We have became very close. One day she messages to go have a drink and after the evening was done we kidsed. Which was electric might I say. A few weeks passed and we became intimate. Which was electric also! Several months as we were getting off a call with each other we both were thinking the same thing"saying I Love You". She actually got it out before I did but I was feeling the same vibe. We both felt/feel like we are meant to be together. Fast forward a few weeks and she started acting funny. Really distance and non communicative saying needed space which I gave her. In that time my Scorpio frustration kicked in and posted on FB about thinking I found my soulmate, but maybe not search continues. She got upset , which I apologize for because truthfully I just want to be with her. Around that time she lost her father and I was there for her supportively. We got back together and probably 3 weeks later she was back on the need space kick. The Scorpio in me said fine I am done with the games. I would respond to text or calls for several days. She then video called me which I didn't but she was very upset by the way she was handling things with us. Again I caved and got back with her which last led about 3 weeks again. Now we are going on 2 weeks of her not responding to text but reading them. She hasn't deleted me on FB and she'll heart some of things I post. I guess what I am trying to ask is should I keep trying, and is she still interested. I don't want to give up on her because I do feel this connection with her that I haven't felt for someone in a long time. I just don't no how to read this whole situation. Thanks for reading and any advice that comes from it.

CB
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her dad just died and we don't know what's going on in her marriage 🤷🤷

but personally even before marriage, i was always super sloooooow to reply. no reason, just how i am but i've noticed other female virgos have been like that with me too.

you could be asking: "hey what you doin?" and i'd reply maybe after about 2 days or if you're more pushy then prob quicker. this why i only get with pushy types.

in fact, mainly i was lured into a relationship this last time coz this man refuses to leave my apartment đź—żđź—ż
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Walk away, Scorp. She needs to get her shit together before she can begin to be a good partner to you. I think this push-pull is just going to go on repeat until she resolves (and dissolves) the marriage. And your head is going to get fucked in the process. It sounds like the timing is just off. I think if it's meant to be, you guys could pick it back up again once she's had time to process her current situation.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.
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Posted by Saturn_Returns
Dude, such 'indecisiveness' is never a good thing.

Once is understandable but, after that, the chances of being played or dating a potential loony are high.

Has she divorced yet? Has she any children?

While Scorpios can be masochists, the last thing you need is for her to push you onto the dark, vengeful path that Scorpios are renowned for.


Definitely not trying to go there
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Posted by LuckyLibra7
OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.


She actually just messaged today that if I can't speak to her in person not to message her but yet she wants her space.
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Posted by virgoOPPP
her dad just died and we don't know what's going on in her marriage 🤷🤷

but personally even before marriage, i was always super sloooooow to reply. no reason, just how i am but i've noticed other female virgos have been like that with me too.

you could be asking: "hey what you doin?" and i'd reply maybe after about 2 days or if you're more pushy then prob quicker. this why i only get with pushy types.

in fact, mainly i was lured into a relationship this last time coz this man refuses to leave my apartment đź—żđź—ż


I definitely not going to the extreme of not leaving a house. I surely will not be pushy because she seems to withdraw more. She gets angry if I don't try and angry if I do try. This has been one of my most bizarre relationships. Yet, I absolutely Love this woman which is even hard for me to say. Cause us Scorpios are more secretive than the CIA when it comes to our feelings.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.



She actually just messaged today that if I can't speak to her in person not to message her but yet she wants her space.
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Damn I forgot y’all work together. That makes it a bit more awkward.

Don’t avoid her at work, be cordial, but at the same time not pushy or inquiring about where you stand basically.

She’s basically trying to call you out for messaging her and then you’re silent when you see her. If she approaches you, I’d be like “I was giving you space.. If you miss me, just say that.”

Keep it light and flirt. She’s wishy washy right now. No blaming her as it won’t go well.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.



She actually just messaged today that if I can't speak to her in person not to message her but yet she wants her space.





Damn I forgot y’all work together. That makes it a bit more awkward.

Don’t avoid her at work, be cordial, but at the same time not pushy or inquiring about where you stand basically.

She’s basically trying to call you out for messaging her and then you’re silent when you see her. If she approaches you, I’d be like “I was giving you space.. If you miss me, just say that.”

Keep it light and flirt. She’s wishy washy right now. No blaming her as it won’t go well.
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I am trying to follow her rules but it seems like the rules change all the time which is getting frustrating. I'm going to take your advice though the meeting a female friend that graduated a few years after me for drinks tonight
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.





She actually just messaged today that if I can't speak to her in person not to message her but yet she wants her space.






Damn I forgot y’all work together. That makes it a bit more awkward.



Don’t avoid her at work, be cordial, but at the same time not pushy or inquiring about where you stand basically.



She’s basically trying to call you out for messaging her and then you’re silent when you see her. If she approaches you, I’d be like “I was giving you space.. If you miss me, just say that.”



Keep it light and flirt. She’s wishy washy right now. No blaming her as it won’t go well.





I am trying to follow her rules but it seems like the rules change all the time which is getting frustrating. I'm going to take your advice though the meeting a female friend that graduated a few years after me for drinks tonight
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You're the rock. Don't get caught up in her emotional drama..

Thats good, post you're out and about. Not the woman you're with, but just illustrate life goes on. Virgo will be watching and she needs to know you're not sulking in bed because you're not with her.
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Posted by CBrown1023
Hello All

I am new to these site. I am just looking for some clarity from a few Virgo women.

I have been seeing this Virgo woman that I work with for about 8 months. When I first started and seen her I instantly had to know who she was. I found out she was married but getting divorced. We began sitting with each other and chatting during breaks in work. Then we both friend requested each other on social media. We have became very close. One day she messages to go have a drink and after the evening was done we kidsed. Which was electric might I say. A few weeks passed and we became intimate. Which was electric also! Several months as we were getting off a call with each other we both were thinking the same thing"saying I Love You". She actually got it out before I did but I was feeling the same vibe. We both felt/feel like we are meant to be together. Fast forward a few weeks and she started acting funny. Really distance and non communicative saying needed space which I gave her. In that time my Scorpio frustration kicked in and posted on FB about thinking I found my soulmate, but maybe not search continues. She got upset , which I apologize for because truthfully I just want to be with her. Around that time she lost her father and I was there for her supportively. We got back together and probably 3 weeks later she was back on the need space kick. The Scorpio in me said fine I am done with the games. I would respond to text or calls for several days. She then video called me which I didn't but she was very upset by the way she was handling things with us. Again I caved and got back with her which last led about 3 weeks again. Now we are going on 2 weeks of her not responding to text but reading them. She hasn't deleted me on FB and she'll heart some of things I post. I guess what I am trying to ask is should I keep trying, and is she still interested. I don't want to give up on her because I do feel this connection with her that I haven't felt for someone in a long time. I just don't no how to read this whole situation. Thanks for reading and any advice that comes from it.

CB


Give her space to process and time in her own energy to make heads or tells.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.



Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.



My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.



Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.



There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.



I’m a Virgo and I wouldn’t even consider a person like luckylibra at this stage in my life. And this Virgo sounds like she’s been through it too. Take this persons advice and you will sink the relationship.
1. You’re smothering her in text it sounds like
2. You’re not showing her any attention in person
3. You’re showing actual disinterest on social media
4. Now you’re going on a date with someone else

And she’s playing games? She just lost her father and is going through a divorce. Like honestly find a Pisces because Virgo is just going to think you don’t like her and you’re not the one.
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He’s not sinking anything by doing nothing. She’s conflicted so why would he peacock and beg for her attention after she wants space.

Do you even date women?? You want him to approach her again after she’s backed off twice now?

Virgo reached out because she misses his attention. However, she’s not scheduling any dates or sleeping with him now is she? So OP needs to continue what he’s doing minus the shade on social media. He can be cordial in person, but not asking what her plans are.

You’re delusional. You want him to battle for another man’s wife.

She needs to get herself together first.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.


Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.


My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.


Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.


There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.




I’m a Virgo and I wouldn’t even consider a person like luckylibra at this stage in my life. And this Virgo sounds like she’s been through it too. Take this persons advice and you will sink the relationship.

1. You’re smothering her in text it sounds like

2. You’re not showing her any attention in person

3. You’re showing actual disinterest on social media

4. Now you’re going on a date with someone else

And she’s playing games? She just lost her father and is going through a divorce. Like honestly find a Pisces because Virgo is just going to think you don’t like her and you’re not the one.
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He’s not sinking anything by doing nothing. She’s conflicted so why would he peacock and beg for her attention after she wants space.

Do you even date women?? You want him to approach her again after she’s backed off twice now?

Virgo reached out because she misses his attention. However, she’s not scheduling any dates or sleeping with him now is she? So OP needs to continue what he’s doing minus the shade on social media. He can be cordial in person, but not asking what her plans are.

You’re delusional .


Oh? How many divorced virgo women with kids have you dated? You basically suggested everything that would turn me off, and I’d stop talking to you altogether. Is all I’m saying.
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You don’t have anything information on her chart other than her sun sign so who cares.

What OP has been doing IS NOT working which is why he’s here. Yet you’re suggesting he continue to pursue her and show interest.

What you’re basically suggesting is the equivalent of “bring her flowers on the first date”

Doesn’t work, but sounds good on paper.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.

Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.

My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.

Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.

There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.

I’m a Virgo and I wouldn’t even consider a person like luckylibra at this stage in my life. And this Virgo sounds like she’s been through it too. Take this persons advice and you will sink the relationship.

1. You’re smothering her in text it sounds like

2. You’re not showing her any attention in person

3. You’re showing actual disinterest on social media

4. Now you’re going on a date with someone else

And she’s playing games? She just lost her father and is going through a divorce. Like honestly find a Pisces because Virgo is just going to think you don’t like her and you’re not the one.
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^^This is solid. I'd like to add Luckys comment about being "her rock"( emotionally stable himself) is also true for woman especially Virgo archetype. You don't feed instability with more instability.

The "go see other people and post it" comment...that part is shit advice. That's some ego shit and is a death sentence to the relationship.

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Her father died. She's in the process of getting a divorce. And she has kids. She probably enjoys your company but does not have the bandwidth for a new relationship. She doesn't want to tell you that because you will lose interest in her, and she really enjoys your attention and the comfort you bring. But unless her name is JLO, she probably isnt looking to start her next serious relationship right as she is ending her current one. She needs a friend not a new husband.


I second this. I will say that MO for any sane individual is that any remote ambivalence from your love interest equals to disinterest. Mind games and confusion is for toxic and immature chumps. So, unless you have issues and enjoy roller coaster, I’d reserve my attention for someone who is emotionally available to reciprocate rather than just using me for attention/ego boost.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
Sounds like she's got a lot going on. Imma be honest...we like our space, we need time to figure things out...she got caught up...it happens but eventually you have to deal with reality. My best advice is let her do her thing...and you do yours. She's watching tho...so if you want her be mindful on what you're doing. It doesn't take much to turn us off.


She does and I have been supportive of that especially with the lose of her father. I know what it's like having that first traumatic lose in your life. I try to remain unbiased to the divorce because of our relationship. She has asked me questions regarding the divorce because I've been through one, I'll answer that question then move to a different subject.

I try not to be to overbearing with the text messages. Normally those text involve "hey you need anything, you need me to do anything, did you eat" with the occasional "I miss you, I Love You, You're Amazing person and a Awesome Mom" Which all those statements are true.

I just wish there was more communication.
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OP, she's not in the right frame of mind to handle another relationship.
Do not give her an ultimatum nor confront her. Let her be and allow her to emotionally work through her situation. She has to also choose you in order to form a a relationship, it can't be one-sided. Don't dig yourself a hole after she's already asked for space.
My advice is to do nothing. Virgo needs the freedom to come back to you, she's already aware you like her. Find a hobby or something to occupy your time. Even better, date someone else.
Avoid going on her page or watching stories. Keep her as a friend online, but pay no attention to her hearting your statuses. It means nothing.
There is no guarantee she will come back. Keeping it a buck.




She actually just messaged today that if I can't speak to her in person not to message her but yet she wants her space.





Damn I forgot y’all work together. That makes it a bit more awkward.

Don’t avoid her at work, be cordial, but at the same time not pushy or inquiring about where you stand basically.

She’s basically trying to call you out for messaging her and then you’re silent when you see her. If she approaches you, I’d be like “I was giving you space.. If you miss me, just say that.”

Keep it light and flirt. She’s wishy washy right now. No blaming her as it won’t go well.

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I am trying to follow her rules but it seems like the rules change all the time which is getting frustrating. I'm going to take your advice though the meeting a female friend that graduated a few years after me for drinks tonight
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Well this is it then

You are trying to follow "her" rules

She is testing you. Will you man up or be her little bitch boy?

I said "bitchhhhhhhh"

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Posted by CBrown1023
Hello All

I am new to these site. I am just looking for some clarity from a few Virgo women.

I have been seeing this Virgo woman that I work with for about 8 months. When I first started and seen her I instantly had to know who she was. I found out she was married but getting divorced. We began sitting with each other and chatting during breaks in work. Then we both friend requested each other on social media. We have became very close. One day she messages to go have a drink and after the evening was done we kidsed. Which was electric might I say. A few weeks passed and we became intimate. Which was electric also! Several months as we were getting off a call with each other we both were thinking the same thing"saying I Love You". She actually got it out before I did but I was feeling the same vibe. We both felt/feel like we are meant to be together. Fast forward a few weeks and she started acting funny. Really distance and non communicative saying needed space which I gave her. In that time my Scorpio frustration kicked in and posted on FB about thinking I found my soulmate, but maybe not search continues. She got upset , which I apologize for because truthfully I just want to be with her. Around that time she lost her father and I was there for her supportively. We got back together and probably 3 weeks later she was back on the need space kick. The Scorpio in me said fine I am done with the games. I would respond to text or calls for several days. She then video called me which I didn't but she was very upset by the way she was handling things with us. Again I caved and got back with her which last led about 3 weeks again. Now we are going on 2 weeks of her not responding to text but reading them. She hasn't deleted me on FB and she'll heart some of things I post. I guess what I am trying to ask is should I keep trying, and is she still interested. I don't want to give up on her because I do feel this connection with her that I haven't felt for someone in a long time. I just don't no how to read this whole situation. Thanks for reading and any advice that comes from it.

CB


She’s not interested. Most likely she cheated to get back at her husband for something HE did, or she’s pissed at you & not communicating it to you.

I doubt she’s getting a divorce tho. It would be best to leave her alone because she’s not serious about the two of you either way.