Suspense/stress

When you plan to do something or know you're going to be doing something that is stressful, what is your response? For instance, preparing for an exam. Or asking someone out on a date. Or quitting smoking. Or presenting in front of a large audience. Or confronting someone. Or a long line for a roller coaster. Or a job interview. Or a big move. Or first day on a job or new school. Or waiting to find out how someone you care about is doing in hospital. How do you cope leading up to it?

I'm curious because my response has changed so much over time. As a little kid, I had panic attacks and nightmares. If there wasn't much warning, I could walk right in. But anything I knew about well in advance, I was prone to bolting. I moved a lot and new schools, I often slipped out of the school and found a tree to hide in. When people started watching me because I had done this a number of times, I typically vomited. It's the suspense. I hate it.

As an adult, I've learned not to over think it. Once a decision has been made, I stop thinking about it. Give myself distance. If I'm anything but detached, I know I wouldn't go through with it. Once the suspense is over, I feel a thousand times better.

How do other Virgo's deal with this sort of thing?

Posted by BlackMamba
Relationship make me anxious. I used to throw up everytime cap ex wanted to talk! I thought he was dumping me.

I dumped him instead

Well... I suppose that's one way to handle anxiety. 😄 I tend to be a little distant coming out the gate early on in a relationship but it's not too bad. Waiting for a date to show up is where I'll get extremely quiet. Suspense + stress = numb distance required. And why do people tend to eat on dates so much? I'm too nervous to eat and then if your date buys you food, you look like an asshole when you barely touch the food. My stomach is doing somersaults, are we sure this is the best time to be eating?