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Have your inner circle changed this year? I want to know do cut people out of your life that doesn't value you and instead value what you have to offer them?

Not a Virgo but i'm answering this.. 😛

my inner circle has changed, because I made choices to make changes in my life. I had a few that I needed to remove as those relationships had gone past their expiration date. Sounds harsh to say it that way, but its the best way to explain it. I do not have many in that inner circle, so it's important to make sure those who are part of it, are deserving of it.

I'd give more specifics but I am pretty private about private things and don't think I need to elaborate.

Virgo rising here yes I've cut people out. Users liars manipulators folks who aren't good for my overall being and growth..miss them but not the treatment received..so desiding was easy

Posted by justagirl
Not a Virgo but i'm answering this.. 😛

my inner circle has changed, because I made choices to make changes in my life. I had a few that I needed to remove as those relationships had gone past their expiration date. Sounds harsh to say it that way, but its the best way to explain it. I do not have many in that inner circle, so it's important to make sure those who are part of it, are deserving of it.

I'd give more specifics but I am pretty private about private things and don't think I need to elaborate.

It is open floor any sign can answer. I see what you mean somethings are way past the expiration date and we let them continue on. I have placed a value on my time and myself to help. You don't give back what you receive I don't want much to do nothing with you at all. I make sure your deserving and my inner circle is heavy gated, not many people in that circle I can relate.

You like sticking out your tongue don't you 😛. Lol

Posted by lovedone
Virgo rising here yes I've cut people out. Users liars manipulators folks who aren't good for my overall being and growth..miss them but not the treatment received..so desiding was easy

I feel the same way, not getting treated with respect you deserve is not acceptable. I help you grow, you can't help me show or achieve growth the relationship is one sided in my eyes. I only help who appreciate it. Do I miss them yes, but they was only taking what I had to offer. Which I found that my help was more welcomed than my presence

Posted by VirgoChyld

Posted by justagirl
Not a Virgo but i'm answering this.. 😛

my inner circle has changed, because I made choices to make changes in my life. I had a few that I needed to remove as those relationships had gone past their expiration date. Sounds harsh to say it that way, but its the best way to explain it. I do not have many in that inner circle, so it's important to make sure those who are part of it, are deserving of it.

I'd give more specifics but I am pretty private about private things and don't think I need to elaborate.

It is open floor any sign can answer. I see what you mean somethings are way past the expiration date and we let them continue on. I have placed a value on my time and myself to help. You don't give back what you receive I don't want much to do nothing with you at all. I make sure your deserving and my inner circle is heavy gated, not many people in that circle I can relate.

You like sticking out your tongue don't you 😛. Lol

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Yes, so what if I do? 😄

Posted by justagirl

Posted by VirgoChyld

Posted by justagirl
Not a Virgo but i'm answering this.. 😛

my inner circle has changed, because I made choices to make changes in my life. I had a few that I needed to remove as those relationships had gone past their expiration date. Sounds harsh to say it that way, but its the best way to explain it. I do not have many in that inner circle, so it's important to make sure those who are part of it, are deserving of it.

I'd give more specifics but I am pretty private about private things and don't think I need to elaborate.

It is open floor any sign can answer. I see what you mean somethings are way past the expiration date and we let them continue on. I have placed a value on my time and myself to help. You don't give back what you receive I don't want much to do nothing with you at all. I make sure your deserving and my inner circle is heavy gated, not many people in that circle I can relate.

You like sticking out your tongue don't you 😛. Lol

Yes, so what if I do? 😄

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Hmm..... I will get back to you bout this subject

I have but not because they don't value me..it's because I didn't value them anymore after events transpired that rendered my trust in them useless.

It happened with two people so far. One last year, one this year. I have a system going on lol

Posted by Damnata
I have but not because they don't value me..it's because I didn't value them anymore after events transpired that rendered my trust in them useless.

It happened with two people so far. One last year, one this year. I have a system going on lol

That is a very good system, lol. I see your like me notice the people your align yourself with is different. The faces changed within 3 yrs in my group. Some of the people who are not here were by unforeseen circumstances not by only my doing.

What made your value Change about them Damnata?

What made your trust in them useless?

To start with, nothing in this life is unconditional. We all place values in friendship, love etc.

The only thing I ask for in my friends is to be themselves and be honest with me. I state this off the bat. I don't care how different they are..if we mesh well together, we will be friends.

My perception changes when some made it crystal clear they weren't being themselves but were pulling the wool over my eyes..morphing their personality to fit mine. I see that instantly and I don't stand for it. If I ask a question..I expect an honest answer...I don't care about people coddling my feelings.

Most of the time my friendships don't end with a conflict..we just drift out of each others lives and it's normal for it to be like that. I'm not in the right/wrong, they aren't either.

I realize I am being a bit vague here lol.

Let me give you a scenario: I had a Pisces girlfriend. One night she comes at my door badly bruised because her boyfriend beat her up badly. We talked about it, she was supposed to move in with me. 3 days later she calls me and tells me she loves him and she will stick by him.

^^^I get her mindset and the fact that this is what she wants to experience. It's not my business. But keeping her in my life would hurt me everytime I'd see her like that. And she would see me being disapproving so she'd hurt also. In this instance it was better we parted ways because our needs in this friendship came to a clash.

See I used to think like that LOR..

But then I stopped and thought..who the fuck am I to dictate what's wrong or right in someone's life? Doing this would be casting judgement.

So now I go with..let us flow and see where it leads us. My friends disappear from my life months at a time as do I ...which makes us share nice stories when we reach back to each other. I love that.

My best friend, an Aries with a Pisces Moon is notorious for dropping off the face of the Earth when a new guy is involved. I used to be pissed off but then it go really funny. The difference is she always reaches to me one way or the other and she's aware of doing it. I'd call her and she would not pick up her phone. So whenever she's MIA, I just send her this email "Soooo, what's his name?"

In your scenario I can see where you found her behavior disloyal. At the same time, you needed to realize that part of her was in her personality make-up so you either roll with the variety of it or you don't.

I just ask for people to have self-awareness. Not pretending I have it in spades but still..we should reach some common ground and abide some standards in a friendship. Just state what you're on about so I know how the dynamic will play. I'm cool with that.

On the other end of the spectrum...my watery creatures - Cancers, Scorps and Pisces.

Pisces always get me when I drift off. The other two would call and push me. Cancers lay the guilt trip like no other.

I make myself clear..this is a part of my character. It isn't meant to disrespect you and you can always rely on me to be that person who gets you out of a crisis at 3 AM.

I just don't have time to discuss trivial relationshit stuff every day. I'm lucky I have a lot of male friends.

^^^Yup, it's THAT understanding that binds Virgo and Pisces together.

By drifting apart but in the knowledge we have each other's back is something really important comes up.

Posted by Damnata
To start with, nothing in this life is unconditional. We all place values in friendship, love etc.

The only thing I ask for in my friends is to be themselves and be honest with me. I state this off the bat. I don't care how different they are..if we mesh well together, we will be friends.

My perception changes when some made it crystal clear they weren't being themselves but were pulling the wool over my eyes..morphing their personality to fit mine. I see that instantly and I don't stand for it. If I ask a question..I expect an honest answer...I don't care about people coddling my feelings.

Most of the time my friendships don't end with a conflict..we just drift out of each others lives and it's normal for it to be like that. I'm not in the right/wrong, they aren't either.

I realize I am being a bit vague here lol.

Let me give you a scenario: I had a Pisces girlfriend. One night she comes at my door badly bruised because her boyfriend beat her up badly. We talked about it, she was supposed to move in with me. 3 days later she calls me and tells me she loves him and she will stick by him.

^^^I get her mindset and the fact that this is what she wants to experience. It's not my business. But keeping her in my life would hurt me everytime I'd see her like that. And she would see me being disapproving so she'd hurt also. In this instance it was better we parted ways because our needs in this friendship came to a clash.

I feel what your saying, you want them to be who they are regardless the circumstances. Just be you, then you see thru there facade. You want the honest truth. Things change between friends, I get that you grow apart. I can relate with the scenario, I have a brother who pulls the martyr card.
I just live and let live.

I Can See You Speak The truth, Whether It Hurts them. I can see why your a respected poster.

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Damnata that must be your Aries moon though.

I had a similar situation with a Pisces girlfriend where her Aries bf kept disrespecting her in public. I'd stand up for her and what would she do? Beg him to forgive her when she didn't even do anything.

It's hard for me to stay friends with people that a) don't respect themselves or b) say they'll do something and then don't, esp when they drag me into that process

But worse of all I hate it when my loyalty is not returned.

I supported her a lot through her abusive relationship, and every time everything would be well she'd disappear from the face of the earth. Usually I don't care for friends doing their own thing but it annoyed me that the only time we would talk or hangout was when something was going on between them. And she'd only talk about him.

It came to an end from my part when I announced to her I was going to move to a different country and instead of supporting me/being happy for me she got angry and said she couldn't be friends anymore. Then she took it back and said she'd come with me to the airport to say goodbye. I got a last minute call saying she couldn't come because guess what, she was at his place.

I see what your saying, it is hard to respect someone who ask you for advice and do the same thing over and over hoping for a different result. That is what you call crazy. That is bad when you left and she didn't even have the decency to even see you off. She even went far to say she met you at the port and didn't show. That showed how much see valued you guys friendship. I have a problem when people don't return the loyalty, it sets a bad precedent for future behavior.

Posted by CluelessCancer
"I Can See You Speak The truth, Whether It Hurts them. I can see why your a respected poster."


highly doubtful...people wont say it, but she's annoying. i don't think people respect her.

sorry.

I don't think anyone respects you either but you don't see me bringing this up, do you?

Oops.

Why would people care for respect on this site though? What happens, happens.

I'm here to learn about myself and interact with others. There's a lot to be said about the variety of people on this site. I find it fascinating.

Yes, even grumpy cats make good points and I acknowledge them when that happens.

Posted by VirgoChyld

Posted by Damnata
To start with, nothing in this life is unconditional. We all place values in friendship, love etc.

The only thing I ask for in my friends is to be themselves and be honest with me. I state this off the bat. I don't care how different they are..if we mesh well together, we will be friends.

My perception changes when some made it crystal clear they weren't being themselves but were pulling the wool over my eyes..morphing their personality to fit mine. I see that instantly and I don't stand for it. If I ask a question..I expect an honest answer...I don't care about people coddling my feelings.

Most of the time my friendships don't end with a conflict..we just drift out of each others lives and it's normal for it to be like that. I'm not in the right/wrong, they aren't either.

I realize I am being a bit vague here lol.

I feel what your saying, you want them to be who they are regardless the circumstances. Just be you, then you see thru there facade. You want the honest truth. Things change between friends, I get that you grow apart. I can relate with the scenario, I have a brother who pulls the martyr card.
I just live and let live.

I Can See You Speak The truth, Whether It Hurts them. I can see why your a respected poster.

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I want those in my life to b real, give me the good, the bad and the ugly, as that is what you will get from me. Aqua is the sign of friendship and we invest everything into them, sometimes too much. I know for me if I feel that the other is being dishonest or not who they really are, they don't respect that friendship so why keep them in my life. sounds cold to put it this way but it's a blunt and simple way of saying it.

Posted by justagirl

Posted by VirgoChyld

Posted by Damnata
To start with, nothing in this life is unconditional. We all place values in friendship, love etc.

The only thing I ask for in my friends is to be themselves and be honest with me. I state this off the bat. I don't care how different they are..if we mesh well together, we will be friends.

My perception changes when some made it crystal clear they weren't being themselves but were pulling the wool over my eyes..morphing their personality to fit mine. I see that instantly and I don't stand for it. If I ask a question..I expect an honest answer...I don't care about people coddling my feelings.

Most of the time my friendships don't end with a conflict..we just drift out of each others lives and it's normal for it to be like that. I'm not in the right/wrong, they aren't either.

I realize I am being a bit vague here lol.

I feel what your saying, you want them to be who they are regardless the circumstances. Just be you, then you see thru there facade. You want the honest truth. Things change between friends, I get that you grow apart. I can relate with the scenario, I have a brother who pulls the martyr card.
I just live and let live.

I Can See You Speak The truth, Whether It Hurts them. I can see why your a respected poster.

I want those in my life to b real, give me the good, the bad and the ugly, as that is what you will get from me. Aqua is the sign of friendship and we invest everything into them, sometimes too much. I know for me if I feel that the other is being dishonest or not who they really are, they don't respect that friendship so why keep them in my life. sounds cold to put it this way but it's a blunt and simple way of saying it.

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I think they give you what you think you need instead of honesty. Which is most important In a relationship. I feel the same way as giving more than is needed, and that gets you taken for ggranted. Respect goes both ways, I can't deal with half ass friends. I am a Virgo I don't do half way. Just cut them off and go your own way.

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
"I see what your saying, it is hard to respect someone who ask you for advice and do the same thing over and over hoping for a different result. That is what you call crazy. That is bad when you left and she didn't even have the decency to even see you off. She even went far to say she met you at the port and didn't show. That showed how much see valued you guys friendship. I have a problem when people don't return the loyalty, it sets a bad precedent for future behavior."

True, but you know at the end of the day it's been just another life lesson.

Life is a lesson learned the hard way, it just sucks you two cents weren't worth more. I mean when you helped her with the abusive bf.